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Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

START HERE !!! — # Step-by step short guide r/Sbreggo So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the…

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…

Share your startup - quarterly post — Share Your Startup - Q4 2023 [**r/startups**](https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/) **wants to hear what you're working on!** Tell us about your startup in a comment within this submission. Follow thi…

Donation-Based: Visualization Meditation Workshop on Repairing Insecure Attachment: Sunday 13th of April — The course will cover basic Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (IPF)/attachment repair. This course is good for people who want to learn about IPF/Attachment Repair. 9am to 1pm this Sunday 13th April on…

Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is? — How has this continued to be a thing, and how did this get approved internally? The Shopify Admin UI is a complete mess. It's genuinely hard to believe this shipped — and worse, that it's still the c…

(Desktop design) managing overall width vs images vs text container width — I am trying to figure out how to combine best practices for the following things and would love some advice on a few questions. This is for desktop devices. **What I am struggling with is:** * Ensur…

My game has 50k downloads but only brings in coffee money — I released a little trivia game on Android about 6 months ago. It’s super simple — just daily quiz questions with leaderboards. Got about 50k downloads now, mostly from Southeast Asia and India. The …

Pouncemonial: 7th Kill - Disciplined Trader — # Here's how I achieved my 7th mission! **Mission**: To become a disciplined trader **What I achieved**: Mastered stop loss and trading discipline **Background**: After my 6th kill, I was eager t…

How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…

What questions can you ask a client who doesn’t know how to define their brand? — Sent over a questionnaire to my sales team to use for onboarding and they all came back and said most of the clients don’t know how to answer the questions related to their design guidelines (contract…

Need an advise for my website — Hi there, I need your help because I’m struggling to get a higher ranking on Google for my website. I’m a Psychologist and Psychotherapist, and I have been working in a small city near Milan, Italy.si…

What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

Should we use Grafana open source in a medium company — I work at a medium-sized company using New Relic for observability. We ingest over 4TB of data monthly, run 20+ services across production and staging, and use MongoDB. While New Relic covers logs, me…

So we have an app.. — My friend and I made an app. We published it a year ago as an experiment, didn’t pursue proper discovery, zero marketing, just left it on the App Store. Now, watching analytics, not much going on, fi…

Upwind's Cloud Security CNAPP. Is it viable? — Can anyone share their real-world experience implementing Upwind's "Runtime-Powered" Cloud Security Platform? The promise of using real-time runtime data (I think they use eBPF sensors?) to focus onl…

Can AI content make your site disappear from Google Discover? — Hello! For the past six months, I've been using AI to help me create blog content, but in a smart way: I write what I want part by part, add context, rewrite some sections, etc. Our rankings remain so…

indexing problem — For some reason a website that Im indexing for a client, only indexed 4 pages out of many, all of these pages have content, they are "discovered to index" and they aren't indexed. ([picture for refere…

Ready to Boost Your Business? Our Pro Team Can Help! — hope you’re doing great! I wanted to reach out and let you know we’re currently helping businesses like yours grow faster with our proven organic and paid advertising strategies. Whether you’re looki…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

{Weekly Discussion} Google seems to be giving the thumbs up to Reddit's AI Scaled Machine Translations — Background - during an earnings call, Reddit said that google said thumbs up to the idea of publishing AI machine translated content - apparently something they've penalized others before. [Gagan Gho…

In job postings on LinkedIn with over 100 applicants, do companies even review all applicants? — Or is this initial filtering mostly done using AI tools in which case my question would be do I write a more genuine cover letter that stands out or something that hits all the buzzwords that the AI w…

Marketing Digest: Google tests new AI mode outside Labs along with more features, ChatGPT introduces shopping features with personalized product recommendations, Google confirms search signals used to train Gemini AI — Hey guys! A new week means a fresh batch of marketing insights. Google’s keeping us on our toes as usual, and AI is busy finding new ways to take over the digital space. Let’s read: **SERP features /…

Hardstuck in Pre-Seed. i will not promote — Hey fellow startupers, I actually wanna hear some advice from you guys. Currently we're in pre-seed, and tbh, last year when we were having money problems I thought once we overcome them, we'd kinda s…

Organic growth and discovery tools - i will not promote — Hey community, I'm a founder of a few products (not posting links as i will not promote). My time for early traction goes in navigating reddit, twitter, articles, etc trying to get organic traction. …

Are you running Exit surveys? — When your wife asks, “Does my bum look big in this?” Do you give the honest answer? Or do you say “no” to keep the peace? The truth might sting. But the people who tell you what you need to hear are …

I created this cool game in react. It's called MystiCrafter — I created this cool game using React. If you know alchemistry or ever heard of the term, then you would love it. It's essential a puzzle game about combining base elements to create new ones. The ga…

How do you make sure nothing falls through the cracks of your business operations? — I work with companies that use a ton of different tools (CRMs, inventory, payments, shipping, etc.). The problem I keep seeing is that things slip through the cracks, and no one realizes until it’s to…

Need some help with SplideJS Carousel -- auto height is not working — I've got a jsfiddle setup for review. [https://jsfiddle.net/agvwheqc/](https://jsfiddle.net/agvwheqc/) I'm really not good with code, but know enough to waste lots and lots of time trying to figure…

How Liquibase Simplifies Schema Management — If you've ever deployed schema changes manually, you know the pain: tracking SQL scripts, guessing what's applied where, and praying nothing breaks in prod. I recently wrote a post on how **Liquibase…

Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …

Digital marketing lead generation and sales tips — If you are part of a marketing agency or a freelance marketer, this is for you. 1. What are the effective channels for lead generation & sales? 2. How are you converting it? 3. What are the commo…

Biggest entrepreneurial Challenge - Lead generation and sales — If you are founder/co-founder/owner of a marketing agency or marketing freelancer, this is for you. 1. What are the effective channels for lead generation & sales? 2. How are you converting it? 3…

SOC maturity tool for small teams — assess detection, IR, and automation readiness — We struggled to get a clear read on how mature our SOC really was — especially with a lean team and cloud-first stack. So we put together a free tool to assess: * Logging & telemetry coverage * Aler…

Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…

Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …

ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…

Indexing issue, could use some insight — On my search result it has 4 icons. It should be 5. Call, Directions, share, save. It does not list my website in that menu option. I’ve discovered it may be an indexing issue. Would appreciate some…

The dismal state of WordCamps in the US — I used to enjoy attending WordCamps for learning, networking, etc. I even helped organize one in Providence, RI years ago. I looked at the [WordCamp Central schedule](https://central.wordcamp.org/sc…

Overtraining and being effective — Wanted to share about a recent breakthrough I had in being effective and getting things done. Like many of you, I believe that being physically fit is a huge part of operating at peak efficiency. Whe…

Shipping chocolate covered strawberries — How can I ship chocolate covered strawberries affordable and not have them ruin?

I DID IT! Put in my notice today, focusing on my agency full time. — I've been working 70+ hour weeks for the last 16 months, working a full-time job as VP of Marketing for a Fortune 500 company while also getting my side hustle marketing agency off the ground. My agen…

I'm trying to manufacture my custom photo album design & I'm struggling — Hi, how in the world do I find a US manufacturer to make my custom 'photo journal' design with special pages for photo inserts, etc? I know a bunch of companies where you can customize the notebook co…

Small business idea for neighborhood store — Hi everyone, I'm based in europe, greece and I’m looking for feedback on starting a small, neighborhood-oriented business that I can run mostly on my own. Here’s what I have: A 110 sq.m. ground-flo…

Pods, Probes & Sidecars: Your First Real Step into Kubernetes Magic — Hey Folks, In our last post, we broke down **Docker Compose vs Kubernetes – Why You’ll Eventually Need K8s**. Now, it’s time to officially dive into Kubernetes, starting with the smallest, yet most po…

Update — Saw her again at the Social Club — not much to report. She came over, sat next to me, and we had a nice chat the whole time. We’re actually planning a spa date since we share the same birthday. Befo…

In an avoidant-anxious friendship, how much space should I be giving before I reach out? — The last 2 posts on the sub are about friendship and that encouraged me to post here as well. This is my friend of 5 years. We’ve gone from talking almost everyday to me being given the silent treat…

Workshop On Sunday, July 20th: Basics of Attachment Repair Meditation: donation based. — This course will cover the basics of Attachment Theory and Attachment Repair Meditations. There will be a strong emphasis on the meditation practice [https://attachmentrepair.com/online-events/2025-…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

Did this a bit back in high school a few years ago, but just sort of fell out of it. This popped up on my front page and I'm gonna give it another try. I just hope lucid dreaming doesn't affect sleep …

He mentioned in the opening of this lecture, I think, that he has a background in the corporate world, providing team-building programs for companies, or vanilla psychology as you call it, so, yeah, I…

Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…

This is a great read, thank you for the effort put into it. As someone who sort of knew they were emotionally neglected but never really understood it was a real thing before I discovered this sub, t…

Wow. Love this discussion. I discovered Joseph Murphy 20 years ago. It changed my entire outlook. I found Neville only five years ago and it was awesome, but now want to come back and reread Murph…

More pseudoscience from you (the first being that gravity is attractive- gravity is a warp in the space time continuum as it responds to mass, and only appears to be attractive to the uneducated). No…

There is no best method. It is a journey of discovery. Look into meditation and getting in touch with the subconscious. It's probably best to get your first book on Astral projection, many good ones o…

We are all completely different and unique individuals, we all discover it according to our level and willingness of consciousness. >why can't i? \^ you can, everyone can, some may just need to work…

I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…

Stunning introduction. I have been fooling around in astral spaces for years having learned as a teenager. I'm thrilled to discover a whole community, nay a library! This is really beautiful

The 2019 DevOps Roadmap link (aka https://roadmap.sh/devops) is no longer useful and should really be removed or majorly updated as it's confusing to newbies. It's actually linked twice in different…

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and going through this. It sucks she wouldn’t give therapy a chance. You can’t control others actions and feelings. I hope you can find meaning and joy in your kids …

Hello all, I am new to this site but I have been lucid dreaming since I was eight years old. I am now almost 66 years old. I had nightmares as a child. I decided that if I had a nightmare I would wak…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

Thank you so much for this! Actually, also 12 years and my husband had an affair 6 months ago and a new one now that I discovered right after a very sad (for me) Thanksgiving. So I get what you’re say…

Omg I relate SO much to what you are saying. When my ex's affair was discovered he was remarkably cruel to me. He wasn't sure he wanted to continue in our marriage and refused to cut things off with h…

I just want to say, I’m am so happy to have found this sub! Oh how I’ve created so much in my life, with LOB (unconsciously) and more so just belief and the movie the secret that started it all. Then …

Wonderful information in the introduction. I would love to get some personal insight from people who are familiar with Astal Projection. I'll keep it as short as possible. I have recently discovered t…

read actually anything by Margo Anand. (SkyDancing tantra) I’m 72 now, and i was always taught that any of this chakra, energy work, out of body experiences, visions, etc etc and etc was just a bunch …

Wow, thank you for asking. 🥰 No, I haven’t found either. I have really tried with the therapist but they are too expensive and not covered by my insurance or are only licensed in states other than mi…

I discovered that both statements work equally, it probably depends on how accustomed we are to the statement I think. Specifically how well we experience the meaning of the words we use. If we can us…

Because they were taking over the sub. If everybody who made a masturbation post had read earlier threads about it and would only post not covered issues we would have only 1% of the posts and nobody …

It’s so funny how you act like you are an expert at this, but your profile tells a complete other story. A quick look at your profile shows someone who constantly asks for reassurance, needs help unde…

This explains how I let things get so out of control with avoidant types as I’m an introvert and quite secure independent and confident but after a year I started feeling like the relationship wasn’t …

Agreed. The best and healthiest relationships to pursue as someone recovering from a disorganized attachment style is a slow burn. Recognizing everything you have in yourself is a tremendous accompl…

I’m a DA—90% of my recovery was through EMDR.

I'm also a recovering FA and I recently realized a few REALLY important things that are actually really simple. Figure out your boundaries and enforce them from a calm place. Our anxiety builds in our…

Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…

>Not saying you’re entirely wrong but that wasn’t the point of the ladder experiment. The point of the ladder experiment was to teach about awareness. > Ah. Conscious awareness. Complete rubbish and…

You are welcome, you do sound healthy. I cover mostly attachment wounds / relational trauma in my IG series if you want to read more about that. I think an attachment therapist might help if you ar…

I’m a dismissive avoidant in recovery Meaning,I have been working on myself since October’23 Read self help books,exercised,journaled, cried, listened to podcasts and been in therapy since January …

Yes, you think it's BS because it validates your fears. And just because something is 'imprecise' doesn't mean it's not useful, or effective. Otherwise we wouldn't have hundreds of studies on variou…

My lil cousin(20F) was having relationship issues- she is an avoidant and he is an anxious. I pointed this pattern out and she said, "My therapist said the same, does having this attachment mean I'll …

Are you asking to empathize with or seeking revenge 😏 As a recovering DA: betrayal of any form. Mind you betrayal can only be felt for the few that walls were let down for. This takes awhile…for me …

Plenty of other excellent advice here. In terms of cloud hosting: A lot of this is going to depend on your team, think about all of the people that will be managing this. What platform does your team…

Bare metal refers to the layer below a hypervisor. Eg directly on a physical server. Useful for situations where you want to dedicate a piece of hardware to a task (usually super high performance data…

Start with Ansible automation on servers to have 1:1 coverage, the you can spawn infra with terraform. Consider k8s

Check this roadmap (and no, it's not that one with thousands of tools that no one ever finished ... it's structured a bit differently): https://devopsroadmap.io There is no 1 source that covers the …

Yep, Redshift observability is one of those things that should be easier, but ends up buried in system tables and tribal knowledge. Some practical tips that might help: 1. Build a lightweight monito…

There are good articles out there on scaling mariadb. Most of them start by understanding the mix of writes and reads. They end by softening the ACID constraints. Either by sharding and routing requ…

What we consider the basic features of an IDP catalog and template are in the end pretty empty promises and do not lead a successful IDP and developer engagement. Surprisingly enough what made the mo…

Hey! We're a 4-people team of ex-Google and Amazon engineers building custom software for startups and businesses. From idea to launch (and beyond), we’ve got you covered - mobile apps, web apps, and…

I had no purpose, no self awareness, no clarity. But I gained them through one thing. I got you. I will help for free. Nine out of ten people are blind to their purpose, and I was too just six month…

Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…

I've been in these scenarios a good few times in a good few ways. And I have some hostile opinions on it as well as some good ones. So scenarios. Indian CTO or VP is hired, and almost immediately, …

Tell your boss you'd like some face time and ask if they'll help with an intro or if you should reach out to them directly. Then you'll have all bases covered and potentially even get some help

I stopped solo founding. I found the limitation is your own skillset, and if you have a down day the whole company is down. Now I look for people with complimentary skillsets and it lets us cover mor…

Hey. Interesting write up, it has some good references and shows some good understanding on modern software security. Though there are some parts I would critique for feedback: >Another layer that …

Commenting for the outside chance that someone has discovered a magic cure-all for the second point. I'd love to know that too.

As a partially recovering, sometimes struggling DA, I get it man. What you have done will speak volumes to her someday should this relationship continue. I wish you the best of luck brother. 🤙