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The Gateway Experience tapes teach you basics (and astral BHP and tools) , I definitely recommend (also Robert Monroe's books). I had my first projection while listening to the tapes (I encountered t…
Tired of my own inability to connect — I try my best, but even my best really isn’t that much connection. Sometimes I wonder if my childhood and young adult experiences permanently destroyed my ability make attachments at all, let alone h…
Getting married soon help me pls — We met in high school and I have spent my entire adult life loving her. I’ve (30m) moved across the country for her (28f) career 4 times, leaving all my friends and family behind. I’ve worked 60-70 ho…
Crazy experience “timeline hopper” — I’ve been lucid dreaming since I was about 12/13, and I’m now 23. I trained myself into it years ago and now I lucid dream every morning which sometimes can be annoying because it affects my sleep. I’…
People who started studying stoicism as teens or young adults, how has your perception changed overtime? — 18 year old this side, I just put down *A Guide to the Good Life* and I am now wondering how much of how I look at the philosophy and life as a whole will change overtime. I feel, one of the biggest…
Geography really matters - my experience in Berlin and Prague — I’m 27M and have been traveling around Berlin and Prague with some friends, and I honestly didn’t expect this but… the girls here are incredibly beautiful. Seriously. Especially in Prague. Even the As…
Are my "corrective emotional experiences" all fake? I've developed a deep attachment to my therapist, but I feel so lost. — I'd love to hear your thoughts or see if anyone has had similar experiences. As my therapy goes deeper, I find myself becoming more and more attached to my therapist. I feel like the baby monkey cling…
Insecurity about my legs (genu varum) vs overall appearance - honest opinions? — Hey everyone, I’ve been dealing with some insecurity about my legs, specifically bowing (around \~8° varus). Do slightly bowed legs stand out a lot in real life, or is it mostly in my head? From y…
Had my second lucid dream and it was completely different from the first , man it's so fkn cooool!! — Okay so this time was nothing like the first. After my first lucid dream, I tried a bunch of times to do the same thing, you know, masturbate, listen to the same music, all that. Didn't work. Tried …
How do I stop smiling — All the time, and all my life I can't just stop smiling deeply, and I don't mean just a normal smile, I smile while laughing and this completely ruined my personality. it's hard for me to communicat…
Setting a geographical destination in advance — does it help? — For all those who have been stuck for years, does setting a geographical destination in advance, going there in real life, visualizing it, and feeling comfortable in that place help? Has this worked f…
Nightmares of things that didn't happen, is it just me? — Hey, I comment here often but I want to make my own post because I'm wondering if it's just me. I know that like me many of you might have nightmares about your abuser(s) have you also had nightmares …
We keep having the same argument over and over again and nothing changes (E.g. 30M) — My partner and I keep having the same argument over and over again. We both think we’re right, and every time we try to talk, it escalates instead of getting better. I’ve been thinking — what if the…
Dreamt my therapist morphed into my abusive mother. Now I’m terrified of her and want to quit. Can I just "skip" healing my childhood trauma? — I really need some advice. I’m feeling incredibly lost, desperate, and terrified of going back to therapy. I’m a college senior graduating in a few months, and I’ve been seeing a counselor at my uni…
How come the person who caved in from being pressured is blamed more than the person who was doing the pressuring? — # I’ve noticed this - sometimes in a sexual context, but also in wider contexts. A person will pressure another person into doing something, and the person being pressured will repeatedly say no and…
Has anyone's parents said you were too honest? — Throughout my life, my parents tend to say I'm too honest when interacting with others in public and with extended family. I do recognize there are times to be dishonest, such as telling phone scammer…
My GF(20 F) request me(21 M) to call her less and wanted more alone time. — For context, my GF (20F) and I (21 M) have lived together for a year. However, we couldn't live together anymore, and she is back at her parents' place for reasons unrelated to our relationship. Ba…
Lucid dream ssild — I set an alarm for 3 a.m. and had a really hard time waking up—I snoozed it like five times, but eventually I got up. I took citicoline, drank some water, and went to the bathroom. Once I made sure I …
My most successful lucid dream "technique" — So over the years I realised that whenever i go out and party till late hours and wake up the day after with around 6 hours of sleep, Im obviously very tired and hangover so I go to bed earlier that d…
Does lucid dreaming make real life less exciting? — I wanna learn how to lucid dream every night. Ive gone lucid in my dreams a few times before, and I know how powerful and fun they are. Problem is, if I can have everything I want and do anything I wa…
Why do I always think about someone I've never meet or know who he is ? — Since I was young, maybe around 5 years old, I’ve always imagine about a man who is obsessed and loves me.AlMOST EVERYDAY IN MY ENTIRE LIFE.But I’m not thinking about a specific person. I don’t real…
NHI encounter and message from astral projection — This recent post (https://www.reddit.com/r/aliens/comments/1s2gjly/does\_anyone\_know\_where\_this\_picture\_came\_from/#lightbox) depicts almost exactly the NHI I met about 3 years ago in the astral.…
NHI encounter and message from astral projection — This recent post (https://www.reddit.com/r/aliens/comments/1s2gjly/does\\\_anyone\\\_know\\\_where\\\_this\\\_picture\\\_came\\\_from/#lightbox) depicts almost exactly the NHI I met about 3 years ago …
What Are The Interactions With People In Your Lucid Dream Like? — I’ve been able to successfully lucid dream a few times. It’s been getting more vivid and successful with practice. My most successful experience was a few weeks ago where I was able to vividly travel …
Does anyone else get anxious about rewinding videos when scary topics come up? — Does anyone else get anxious when they have to rewind a movie, TikTok, or video multiple times to the same part because they lose focus right when something scary is mentioned, like death or tragedy? …
I've discovered I'm a toxic sibling and my life is a discombobulated mess. And, I want to change. (First time venting to anyone about my life, esp online.) — I'm an older sister of two younger ones, and I've been so mean to them for years. I'm high school age, and even looking back at when I was a kid, just small snippets of memories, I don't think I have …
I Dreamed Something… Then It Happened in Real Life ! — hi It’s been about 6 days since I started working on astral projection, trying to achieve it and reach the vibrational stage, but i never achieved the OBE. something very weird happened to me today. …
Not quite dating, but still adult conversing? — Any tips to figuring out the folks who delete their Reddit profiles all the time? It’s exhausting to keep up chat to only ultimately open the app to find they have deleted their profile. I’ve had fol…
19 years. 11 years no contact. 1 year of healing — f (42) & f(39) TL;DR: 19 years ago I met a girl (Cassandra) in a chatroom. We had an intense on-and-off situationship for \~7 years — romantic and flirty when it was on, sweetly charged even when pl…
Does anyone have any advice? — I’m 27 and I have anxiety and anorexia. I’m quite a shy person, always have been. I’ve discovered recently that me texting people and me in real life are two different people, by that I mean I’m brave…
“Lucid dream”is when you wake up in a dream just like when you are awake in real life,you have the ability to think get things done do what you like and look for people or just navigate in it just lik…
Hi Ralumarian35 On Moonbeam's instructions, the mod team has decided to ban you for 4 months. From your post history, it is clear that you've read, thought about and understood the posts in the index…
You have to give more time to build a rapport with people from the apps. People in the wild, you instantly see them in person without any competing preconceived notions, then you gradually get to k…
Do you have health insurance? A lot of therapists accept health insurance. Mine was only $15 a visit with mine. There's also income based/sliding scale community clinics that offer affordable or even …
I can see and feel the scene in the SH quite like in real life, but after the scene the mind just somehow wanders. How do you focus more intensively on the scene during SH? Do you just loop the scene …
I know this is an old post, I was searching FA on this sub and yours really piqued my interest. I don’t think I was ever that much of a FA except for when I was a teenager, I had childhood trauma and …
I see "scripting" a lot, but what does it exactly mean? Like I know what a script is in real life, but how is it for manifestation? Literally writing down a situation like idk if you're manifesting a …
He calls women "females", demeans women's emotions, and made up a fake scenario that would never play out in real life, nobody sane is going to make fun of you for being sad a pet died. Its incel tal…
I had one of those dreams where people from different parts of your life nonsensically show up in one location. It ended with both my mom and boyfriend (who irl have never met) helping with an injury …
I’m 34M, POC, live in PNW and I’m honestly just trying to understand what happened. From 18 through my early 30s, dating was pretty normal for me. I had relationships, met women through friends, apps…
I’d 100% suggest meeting. So I’m glad you decided to do it. You’re not wasting anyone’s time. It’s dating - this is what it’s all about! Meeting up to gauge attraction, both physically and personality…
Just unmatch. It unambiguously indicates that you're not interested. You haven't set a date to meet, much less met in real life, so this is an easy situation.
I think talking about ex's can make people feel uncomfortable. Personally i wouldn't want to be on a date with a new person talking about my past relationship or ex too much. So 3 years ago seems kin…
I live in South Europe so a bit of a culture shock. It seems many men are used to have casual relationships that may progress to more (but I don’t really feel comfortable starting with casual sex) or …
Gah. I vented about my non-existing social life and my uncertainty about where I stand with a girl in my cosplay group (it's actually a copy of my very last post here, if anyone wonders about the spec…
I can see the typos and syntax errors since English is not my mother tongue, furthermore, I feel a burning desire to help so I just write from heart. That being said, I will leave it as is, I hope I…
Medicine is a tough field to marry into. This is generalizing, but from what I’ve seen, medicine can really take over someone’s life. They spend so much time at the hospital, that work life is their r…
It's always those who are the stupidest, think they know everything. The ego, narcissism and pride get them in the end. I feel the same way about my family. They come from surviving the Vietnam war an…
Number one Korean show of 2025 that every girl who watches K-shows wants to make into her real life, is about a woman madly in love with a barely sentient, idiot, poor as hell fisherman, the lamest gu…
I wear glasses so it honestly felt better lol, everything looked crisp in an indescribable manner. The main thing was how immersive it was though, for me it was no different than real life, except I'd…
I think you might not be interested enough. I’m currently speaking to a few people and had a few dates with a couple of other people. The ones I’m not that into, when they ask me how my day goes I hav…
When RE5 came out, western liberals immediately got on them about killing Africans, and they folded faster than a broke-ass lawn chair. They immediately included non Blacks in these rural African vil…
This is always what surprises me about complaints about dating apps. You're complaining that in the apps you have to filter it a lot of unsuitable people and work hard to find someone that you have…
He’d do things this man doesn’t do, then not do things this man does. No one is perfect and human being have flaws, often times making mistakes that they’re unaware of. This is why communication is i…
I don't think it's inherently *bad*, but I (34F) personally would prefer not to receive flowers on a first date. To me it comes across a little as though you view the date as an audition for my approv…
I was very pleasantly surprised. Usually reddit can be a cesspool, but this sub is very supportive. I feel like I can vent a little bit here. It's nice because I don't have many people I can talk to a…
You have awareness in your sleep and it's said the more your third eye is activating the harder it becomes to differentiate between dreams and reality, but the goal is try to become too much aware in …
Yeah, no, it's time to run. You shared your password and in response, he got mad that you didn't share it sooner? That's crazy talk. "Hey, you gave this to me, but now I'm gonna whine that I didn't h…
Yes! It was amazing! Like in real life, maybe even stronger.
Personally, when I have OBEs it feels the same as real life. As in, I move as I would in real life, I sit up in bed, get up and go out the window or door or through the wall. I don't just THINK about …
In real life, fairly often. On apps, almost never.
The dopamine hit was a good point! That makes a lot of sense, and I think I do the same thing. I'm a lot more witty in my imagination than I am in real life, but in my fantasy I have the time to come …
In my real life, yes. In my real actual life I married an Asian man. In my real actual life I speak up for Asian men. In my real actual life I do stuff that advocates for you all. Tell me, woul…
Honestly this sounds pretty normal for mid-40s apps, not a personal failure. The pool is smaller, people are more set in their lives, and attraction isn’t symmetrical. Often people want to date up, an…
I honestly think the apps are just a worse scene now than years ago. I hear the same from younger people, not just 40+. It sucks and I've mostly stopped trying and am focusing on enjoying my life inst…
I started studying philosophy at 16, about a decade ago. So, not *that* much perspective, but some, and of course my life changed tremendously over that decade. My attitude towards philosophy has chan…
After being single for about 2 years, I realized I've been jumping from one rebound to the next my entire adult life. Healthy relationships don't start with trying to fill a peg hole, they start wit…
My comment is based mostly on real life, not reddit horror stories. Trust me- the bar is in hell.
I do relate a lot. Its been about 5 months since I broke up with her and almost 2 months since I initiated no contact. I dumped her, well the last straw was her accusing me of cheating with 0 evid…
This is one of those reddit things where people virtue signal but few people actually require or ask for in real life, surprisingly.
I think that the anonymity of apps and the fact that you don't know him in his real life, allows this behavior. It would be entirely different if you had say met him through friend, at work, church,…
I'm confused, _all_ my dreams are in 3d, why would they not be? I guess sometimes I might switch between perspectives or see things from a third perspective? (Though when lucid it's always from a firs…
I read i should add a Trigger warning. This is the warning! I had a supposed “best friend” for three years. I was her unpaid 24/7 chauffeur, helped her more than 60 times according to my list, was he…
Start taking longer to respond. Just ignore his messages for a few hours to take a break. Next time he says that sort of thing, reply something like, "when you say things like that, it makes me concer…
He’s not looking for validation for its own sake. He’s looking for women, whether it be situationships, hookups, a gf or a wife. Things would change with warm approach because he wouldn’t be subject…
It’s true. Even if she really believes it. It’s because when you are actually in the physical presence of someone, there are all kinds of factors that could change how you feel. Up to meeting, all …
This is fresh from a cut. It looks good with the right lighting and angle but I feel like most of the time in real life, it just looks like the original photos i posted. https://preview.redd.it/gdakg…
I like to compare meditation to lifting weights. Being “able to meditate” isn’t the goal here, it’s to train for real life, *off* the cushion (or outside of the gym). Saying “my mind wanders too muc…
It's unsatisfying, but I find the truth is that closure only happens in the movies. In real life, you will often never understand why someone suddenly turns cold or stops feeling the chemistry.
That one is (probably) real life, not Reddit. So it was probably some boring stuff like them growing apart