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I hadn't been on the apps since June, completely deleted my profiles too. Hearing my friend had set up a hinge date had me curious a few weeks ago so had redownloaded. Didn't last 24 hours - terrible.…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/15/2026
Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker

Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…

r/UXDesignpost4/30/2025
Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions

Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions — I had a technical discussion with with a smaller company(around 100-200 employees) and they are filling out a new devops team. I have 7 YOE at large tech companies as a software engineer, but my dutie…

r/DevOpspost5/2/2025
Got a 3hr interview coming up. Tips/advice appreciated.

Got a 3hr interview coming up. Tips/advice appreciated. — I got through the recruiter screening, a meeting with their main DevOps guy and CTO. I got notified that I'll be moving forward to the next round which is a 3 hour interview with other members of the …

r/DevOpspost5/5/2025
Dating in your 40s changed what I look for - and not in the way I expected

Dating in your 40s changed what I look for - and not in the way I expected — When I got divorced I assumed I'd become more practical about dating. Older, wiser, better at screening for the right things - income, stability, shared goals. The usual checklist. Three years later I…

r/datingoverfortypost3/18/2026
Schools Hire Asian Teachers at Half the Rate of Other Groups, Re.search Finds

Schools Hire Asian Teachers at Half the Rate of Other Groups, Re.search Finds — Asian teaching candidates are more likely to boast an advanced degree, but less likely to get a job offer, according to a s.tudy of hiring data. School hiring processes play a crucial role in determi…

r/AsianAmericanpost3/23/2026
NEW STUDY — Folks planning a psychedelic experience this year sought for a $250 entirely online Yale research study!

NEW STUDY — Folks planning a psychedelic experience this year sought for a $250 entirely online Yale research study! — The Powers Lab at Yale University is recruiting people who are planning to use a psychedelic this year for a fully online study that measures how psychedelics affect basic perception and learning usin…

r/Psychonautpost3/30/2026
My Ex’s Ex has been stalking me for 2 years.

My Ex’s Ex has been stalking me for 2 years. — Pretty much the title. Not sure if anyone else has experienced this. For those of you who want some back story, I (25F) was with a man for about 10 months. We had a very dramatic breakup and he put m…

r/BreakUpspost3/31/2026
Could he be actually cheating?

Could he be actually cheating? — 27y/o (F) 35y/o (M) married for 7 years, 2 kids (preschool and 7m baby) tested positive during prenatal screening for syphilis both unsure where from? Got treated during pregnancy, I’ve lost basically…

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/1/2026
I feel overwhelmed and lost and I think being the only and eldest daughter plays a role

I feel overwhelmed and lost and I think being the only and eldest daughter plays a role — I am 25 years old and the eldest and only daughter with four younger brothers. After spending the last few days with my family, I feel completely unimportant, like I don’t matter. Growing up, I was al…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/6/2026
Constantly anxious 24/7

Constantly anxious 24/7 — I’m not sure what’s going on with me and I’m honestly getting scared and exhausted from dealing with this for months, so I wanted to see if anyone else has experienced something similar. After having…

r/Anxietyhelppost4/10/2026
NEW STUDY + expanded eligibility — 450 people with any psychedelic experience and 150 people who have not tried psychedelics need for quick (~45 minute) study entirely at your computer! $10 compensation!!

NEW STUDY + expanded eligibility — 450 people with any psychedelic experience and 150 people who have not tried psychedelics need for quick (~45 minute) study entirely at your computer! $10 compensation!! — The [Powers Lab at **Yale University**](https://medicine.yale.edu/lab/powers/) is recruiting **450 people with ANY psychedelic experience and 150 people who have NOT used psychedelics for a brief (\~4…

r/Psychonautpost4/10/2026
Some Burning Questions

Some Burning Questions — Almost two years ago I started having regular (open and closed eye) spontaneous extremely vivid visions and significant anomalous changes to my sensory perception, in particular my (closed and open ey…

r/AstralProjectionpost4/11/2026
Got ghosted after 3rd round

My 5cents, as a person that’s been interviewing candidates for several years (almost 10 at same company, seen it grow from 100 employees to 2k+, interviewed QAs, SETs, Devs, DevOps and SREs). I’m sor…

r/DevOpscomment5/6/2025
Marketplace Tuesday! - May 06, 2025

**Find the right programmer.** [Technical Interviewers](http://techinterviewers.com) provides vetted coders that are hand-picked for your needs. Our screening process uses IT professionals as intervie…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/6/2025
FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later

Seems like a person who got spooked and having escaped unscathed has calmed down, reflected, and realized that perhaps their anxiety was irrational. And that is a good indicator that when times get to…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/1/2025
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Just some pattern observation: I (36F) am cute and interesting and personable and almost always get asked on a second date. But from there it seems to go two ways: 1) I see an incompatibility and end…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026
r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026
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Day seventeen of my dating break. So far I've learned/am working on 1) not staying in relationships once I find an incompatibility/not settling for an absence of red flags.  2) Getting better at s…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/11/2026
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On dating while being disabled and Covid-cautious: Health updates! 1. My partner went for an STI screening to do "whatever that gives me the peace of mind to be with him" and tested negative so far! …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/13/2026
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Yeah he's screening my calls now so I think he slept with her.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/15/2026
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Epistemic position/disclaimer: I'm a 30yo black male, finished undergrad but hated school (terrible GPA, I'd calculate the least amount of work I could do for a passing grade), love my career, very mu…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/18/2026
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I've done an outdoor movie screening at a park. Getting there early to eat and chat made it less awk, and there wasn't that "no talking allowed" vibe of an indoor theater.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/20/2026
What's your experience been with an activity on a first date ?

First date is date zero and is really a screening to see if you want to go on an actual date. Try to facetime before you do an activity so everyone can save some time.

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/2/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 06, 2026

I’m a woman with adhd, and I think you’re going about this the right way! You’re screening out women who want/expect men to pay 100% of the time, and you’re setting a good tone of having open and hone…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/6/2026
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath

He is denying it- but not trying to figure it out. So he knows what’s going on. Save all the messages and don’t block him. But I’d get a burner phone to carry around to use in the meantime just to s…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/9/2026
My (29F) brother (34M) asked me if he ‘still has a sister’ because I’m not excited enough about his baby. How do I fix this?

This is actually a funny story. A few years ago I tried to get screened for ADHD. In my country, the screening asks a close family member who grew up with you, usually a parent. I couldn’t ask my mom …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/10/2026
Tips for attracting left-leaning men?

Left leaning man looking for a serious relationship here. Every third profile in my stack has something specifically to do with screening out conservative or even moderate men. It doesn’t hurt the wo…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
My (18F) girlfriend told me she is taking 5 days to think over if we should break up. What should I (19M) do?

Yes. Just go for a walk. Go to the dining hall. See what’s happening on campus and just go to something - a club meeting, a basketball scrimmage, a movie screening, whatever. Talk to people or sit …

r/relationshipscomment3/10/2026
Feeling kind of stuck with the tapes

Yeah man you absolutely nailed it. Anticipation keeps the left hemisphere of the brain completely active and engaged, which totally kills the process. If you read the old bentov and cia analysis docs,…

r/gatewaytapescomment3/11/2026
Feeling kind of stuck with the tapes

That's a great description of what's going. I never thought about it acting like a screening filter but that makes complete sense. In waking reality it will filter unimportant things out, familiar, sa…

r/gatewaytapescomment3/11/2026
unpopular opinion: therapy isn't worth $200/session

I agree with you if the therapist isn’t a good match. However, the therapist I found who was a great match for my personality and had the right training background for my issues…that therapy was worth…

r/therapycomment3/11/2026
What are your personal OLD rules

Well I am a guy and I’ve heard that here too. The women’s side sell out faster here, so you know. But they don’t do any screening for anything at all so I keep expectations low. I do like being able t…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
I’m so frustrated!!!!

Don't give up. Lots of nice men out there. But you may need to get better at screening out the jerks. Sadly it takes either luck or experience.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 14, 2026

32 nb Update! Spent the day in an Emotional Hangover after a night of nightmares :( prompted by my very sweet bf asking about my Traumatic Childhood. Which I wanted to tell him about, and did. But I …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/15/2026
What We Really Need To Heal

He discussed two or three with the OR nurse. None of them familiar to me, all new to me too. Unfortunately my general anesthesia was already clouding my mind. Not so much to make me forget to look int…

r/CPTSDcomment3/15/2026
I 34F woke up to a message about my 35M husband

Incase no one has said it yet: go get an STI screening!

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
This is harder than it should be. 🥸

You can also look at it the other way: your real life screening method is working. I guarantee you that those people know single men and there maybe a reason they aren't setting you up. The apps ju…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/17/2026
Dating in your 40s changed what I look for - and not in the way I expected

Original copy of post by u/Apprehensive_Pop4936: When I got divorced I assumed I'd become more practical about dating. Older, wiser, better at screening for the right things - income, stability, shar…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
I think I have to leave this sub

I don't think I share a lot in common with the people here. I'm a never married while most are divorced with kids.  Most of the people that post don't follow any dating screening which leads to most…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
How does a rational universe produce people who are irrational?

The Stoic universe operates as a singular, rational organism governed by Pneuma, a divine breath or reason that structures all matter. This universal reason, or Logos, is perfect and consistent. Howev…

r/Stoicismcomment3/19/2026
Red flag moment

Sadly, that’s screening behavior. Like scammers purposefully misspelling emails, etc. Humans need human contact.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/21/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 20, 2026

Last guy talked about how beautiful his ex was. She's black. He's not black. I'm not black. I was definitely side-eye unreasonably hating on the drug screening woman next to me yesterday (but also, sh…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/21/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 20, 2026

This is the second time I’ve seen you post this - the other was a roughly a week ago in reply to someone else. I’m really confused about what either of your race/ethnic background has to do with it/wh…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/21/2026
Asking for STD tests?

It’s decently common for women to get an HPV test, but it only tests the cervix and only looks for certain strains and requires a lot of the virus present to be positive. It’s really a cancer screenin…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/21/2026
Asking for STD tests?

I have sex with condoms... bc sex is important to me, and I want to have sex (and know if we are compatible) way before I want to share medical history. Im a 3rd date, exclusive only, sex w/ comdo…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Should I push my psychologist to give me a diagnosis?

It took like, 2-3 years of therapy and psychiatry to come to the BPD diagnosis. For adhd, the screening is relatively quick. Just expensive. And that diagnosis is life changing. BPD is more nuanced,…

r/therapycomment3/22/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 22, 2026

You’re not doing anything wrong. You’re getting your target demo of right on paper, but the apps can’t filter for the intangibles, chemistry, etc. The only thing I’d investigate is maybe trying for mo…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/23/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 22, 2026

He dumped me. It's been weeks. I still beg for his attention. Yesterday, the drug screening woman was muttering to herself and I thought how he could be into her. He talked a lot about how beautiful …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/23/2026
my 22M bf says he will leave me 22F if i get breast surgery

Obviously, you are free to do as you please, your body and all that. He is also free to do as he pleases, if he wants to leave, he leaves. Personally, I am not in favor of breast implants. Implan…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/25/2026
my 22M bf says he will leave me 22F if i get breast surgery

Just FYI because I follow some breast cancer forums where women talk about getting breast implants after double mastectomies: Breast implants will always feel like foreign objects in your chest. They…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/26/2026
my 22M bf says he will leave me 22F if i get breast surgery

Most all of this is a lie. Lol! You don't feel deep in the middle. I forget mine are there. They feel just like the rest of my boob, pretty much. They're not cold. Lol! They don't need replaced every …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/26/2026
Burned Haystack: I Break the Rules

Burned haystack seems like a screening philosophy. At some point, the philosophy has to give way to the fact that there is a flesh and blood human being in your bed and life. If you convert ”dump …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
Has anyone dated a lot and kind of regret it?

I’ve been on a lot of first dates post divorce. It has made me somewhat cynical about women. The dates always feel very transactional, it’s very difficult to feel a connection. I think out of 50 dates…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
I (20M) haven't slept in my own bed in almost 2 months because of my (19F) girlfriend

I would report her to the RA in her dorm, and in your dorm. Break up in a public place, then block on everything. You can make a police report with the campus police and the regular police. She sounds…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/27/2026
Burned Haystack: I Break the Rules

I guess my point, basic screening and asking questions after matching, can weed out most people just looking for sex. If someone is intent on deceiving for sex, no "method" will filter those people ou…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
Has anyone dated a lot and kind of regret it?

I've been on what seems like a lot of first dates for me (nothing compared to some) and YES I regret it. I should have been pickier since I made some BIG mistakes. Better screening in the early days…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/28/2026
How early is too early to bring up sex and libido?

I am more okay talking about this than some other women, in part because I'm doing my own screening -- and a man who does not seem to understand that how much/how often I want to have sex with **him**…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/28/2026
How early is too early to bring up sex and libido?

Libido/frequency is a conversation for after we start having sex, or we won’t be having sex. There’s no guarantees here. You can’t take out insurance with the right screening questions to avoid “was…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/28/2026
Burned Haystack: I Break the Rules

I haven’t found that to be true  When I use the rhetorical patterns as part of my basic screening, I end up going on fewer but much higher quality dates.  I’m of course a small sample size, and every…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/28/2026
I (32m) found out my partner (32f) cheated on me while she was away on holiday. She doesn’t know that I know. How do I navigate this?

Why would you remotely consider accepting this? You know she cheated for months. She may have cheated in the years before as well. Break up with this woman. Go get a full STD screening. Consider …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
Need help determining if I need therapy

You can get a screening done at a near by mental health clinic and see if there's signs.

r/therapycomment3/30/2026