you need a hobby

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Please help my friend and I decide if we're unreasonable. How much time do you spend with your partner or spouse and if you live separately or together. — My best friend and I are pretty similar. I'm single, she's married. I was dating a guy similar to her husband off and on for fourteen years but everything came to a head at the end of 2024 and we went…

This is like "how long is a piece of string". Sounds like a matter of compatibility. If you want more "together time" then find someone who wants the same thing. If time together is a constant point o…

The fact that both of you heard nearly identical language ("you need a hobby") when expressing a desire for time together is telling. That's not about you being clingy or unreasonable, that's about pa…

So I recently learned that everyone has their own love language. There are 5 and it sounds like you two are the spending time together one. In order for any person to be fulfilled in any relationship …

i spend a significant amnt of time w my bf! usually. we’ll see each other 5 times a week, and pop by each other’s place frequently. granted, we live down the street from each other so it makes visits …

Ugh, the "you need a hobby" line is a classic avoidant move, unfortunately.  It's like they're saying their stuff is more important than just existing together.  Don't doubt yourselves for wanting to …

What strikes me most about your post is that both you and your friend ended up with partners who made you feel like wanting to spend time together was somehow needy or wrong. That's not a coincidence.…

Sounds like the good life! Honestly though, you need a hobby. I game too, and during the winter I fall into the trap of wasting my evening gaming. Recently I picked up playing TCGs with my brother and…