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Please help my friend and I decide if we're unreasonable. How much time do you spend with your partner or spouse and if you live separately or together. — My best friend and I are pretty similar. I'm single, she's married. I was dating a guy similar to her husband off and on for fourteen years but everything came to a head at the end of 2024 and we went…

After 10 years of doing the most, I (30F) told my husband (34F) that we needed counseling or separation. Help me process? — I met my husband when I was a 20 year old college student and even though he is 4 years older than me, I became a pseudo-mother upon meeting him. For the last 10 years, I have been the sole breadwin…

Overarching Energy of the Libra Full Moon on April 1st, 2026 — This Full Moon is all about our responsibility when it comes to our relationships. We are reminded to balance what is external, creating harmony without sacrificing self. The solution isn’t  about “we…

I really hate me so much — Im Only A Burden I 42f have been with my husband 42m for 19 years. We have 2 kids (16 & 7). I am madly in love with my husband. But Im completely codependent and its ruining us and pushing him away. …

Nothing is fair — Every time line in my life seems to be unfair: High school = bullies College = narc best friends and bullies Marriage in laws = new trauma unlocked My family ( mom & sister)= all my life traum…

Continuing on my Crazy Scouting Reparenting Project — I've written on here in the past about my crazy reparenting project. It's helped me more than I've thought. I'm excited to continue it in a revamped way. Basically, I always wished I had been able …

Oh man, I am anxiously attached and I act a bit avoidant now in dating. It always shocks me! My therapist is my securely attached figure. When I have some internal issues going on, I actually imagin…

That's fair! But babysitting is a condescending way to refer to people who want to actively do life with their partner, not separately from them. Avoidants are best with other avoidants, imo. I'm an a…

I could not agree more. As someone who worked very hard to overcome their anxious attachment I've had to put a lot of time and effort into making sure that I did not become too self reliant. I'm reall…

I had a somewhat similar situation re: my partner’s divorce not being finalized when we first met. It took him nearly a year to wrap it up. But through it all, he was so affirming of his feelings for …

Ugh this hurts my heart. I was dating a guy like you described for three years before meeting my current person. My current bf does seemingly want to do life with me and wants to spend time together…

I'm only curious! I just see that there's a lot of speculation about his feelings, which there's no evidence that's even true. Which is why I wanted to ask if this is how you're feeling about yourse…

I was with someone from where I live now for 5 years. Family never really approved of me and cultural differences and expectations I was not willing to adjust to came up often. We didn’t make it. Stil…

My bf and I agreed we wanna do life together and get married in the not-too-distant future, and it feels amazing to finally have this. I'm a very happy and lucky woman

I’ve had “you’re not ready for a relationship and you’re damaged from your divorce. It’s not my job to fix you or convince that men aren’t terrible”. Well no it isn’t and that’s why I spent 19 mont…

This is just a rant out to the void I guess. I've been single for over 5 years and I've really accomplished so much in that time. I moved to a new country/city, got my Masters degree, really focused o…

You don’t need to charge forward. Imagine you do, it’s perfect, you’re married (if you want that,) cohabitating, enmeshed lives all of that… then what? You can’t get extra married. You could have a ba…

I appreciate the detailed thoughts. I disagree that they’re still completely luck, but I understand where you’re coming from and agree that navigating our society as a disabled or ill individual is be…

This is the answer. Dating seriously since my mid-40s and looking for a healthy, awesome dude to do life with. But that is very very hard to find. Lots of unhealed, addicted, bitter, immature and un…

I had HG with my daughter. She is 40 and my throat still starts bleeding if I vomit or heaven more than once. It can do life long damage

I looked at your past posts. You are not worthless. You have tried to work but you are experiencing health problems that you haven't gotten to the bottom of. And your "wonderful" husband's reaction to…

Some women fluctuate +/- 10 lbs. *monthly* bc of cycle changes. It’s such a negligible amount to me that I’m truly struggling to wrap my head around his response. I’ve gained ~50 lbs. over a few yea…

Yeppp. I don't know what I'll do if I do end up single for life. I'm scared I wouldn't know how to cope, as I feel that inherently I'm someone who has always craved the feeling of having someone to do…

Sadly if you can’t sleep in a bed with him and he isn’t willing to have separate bedrooms then you’re not compatible. Don’t move in together or compromise your wellbeing for someone you’re not compati…