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My boyfriend (25M) just told me (24F) that he has sexual fantasies for his old crush — I (24F) have been dating my current boyfriend (25M) for 8-9 months now. He told me had a big crush on a uni friend before me, even while dating his ex. He says they’re “not close,” but he brings her u…
My DA bf broke up with me Saturday morning. — We’ve been together three years, living together for two. He (38m) wouldn’t ever give me (43f) emotional depth or physical connection. (I had to *ask* for hugs. Anything more was off the table.) Pri…
The day has come! — For more than 50 years, the Monroe Institute has been quietly pioneering a systematic way to explore human consciousness — beyond meditation, beyond belief, and beyond theory. I’m excited to share tha…
Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…
UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…
Does anyone else feel like they were robbed of real socialization? — Don’t know where else to ask this, but I’m assuming some people in here can relate. I feel like everyone around me grew up with these big, supportive families and close family friends and always had…
It's my birthday 🥰 — Happy birthday to meeee (and all the other lovely Aries folks born today)! To wish me a happy 32nd, maybe you can share anything that stands out in my solar return chart? ☺️ Or even just something y…
26[M] and my 23[F] me and her just recently cut things off. — Things were going really good in the beginning, she was sweet and nice but I realized she was a very different and strange. Like maturity wise, she had so many issues she was very controlling when I’d…
My Ex’s Ex has been stalking me for 2 years. — Pretty much the title. Not sure if anyone else has experienced this. For those of you who want some back story, I (25F) was with a man for about 10 months. We had a very dramatic breakup and he put m…
Thinking about my ex constantly — ​ I haven't stopped thinking about my ex since we've broken up. I've been with my ex from the end of February to half of August last year. Since then, she's been on my mind almost non-stop. I …
Having a really hard go of seeing her in person for any length of time — Hello again I had to leave our shared apartment about 2 weeks ago due to the fact that I was constantly feeling sad and jealous while living in such close proximity to my stbx of 16 years. (We were t…
She called me - i didnt answered the phone — My ex friend just called me, i didnt answer the phone and she left a voice note on the answering machine. Told me she just wants to tell us (?) Happy birthday. I had my birthday a week ago and she h…
Happy Birthday to my ex. 1 year into D day today. — She cheated for most of our relationship. I found out a few days before her birthday, I let her birthday pass before I ended things. Its been a year today. She’s still the only one I’ve ever loved. I…
Acting like nothing happened after they sabotaged you — When I was about to escape their grasp, they did everything in their power to harass me and sabotage me, I ended up faling back into depression and all my hard work and opportunities were lost. I spen…
urgent — hi guys, i really need your help, ive been manifesting my ex boyfriend for about 2 weeks now. Tomorrow is his birthday and i really want to text him and wish him a happy birthday. I really dont know …
They texted me on my birthday — I posted this previously to this subreddit and posted it to r/whatdoIdo where it gained some traction. This wasn't actually a relationship ex but a friendship ex I was close with. We were very close f…
My (29F) husband (35M) got me nothing for my birthday… again — So… today is my birthday and I was really looking forward to it. I have always valued birthdays and special occasions, for myself and others. I like to give thoughtful gifts or organise surprises to m…
I had to break things off with my gf and I feel like shit (I am the dumper but feel like the dumpee) — God, I feel so broken and terrible about this. I am shaking so much, even while writing this. This all started in December 2025. She told me she needed 2000 dollars for Christmas and some birthday pr…
Why is she just messaging me out of the blue? — I moved out almost a month ago. I told her before I left I was going no contact to help myself heal and that it's not that I don't want to message her all the time but I am giving her the space she wa…
Mum got me a blank card for my birthday (and left the price on) — To start, I don’t care about my birthday on a deep level. I don’t expect presents or surprise parties. I don’t feel the need to celebrate by any means. My birthday fell on a nation wide holiday so eve…
Perhaps an odd question, but out of your entire life, what is your best birthday memory? — Feel free to ignore the post and just answer the question because really I'm just hoping for uplifting ideas of what a happy birthday meant to people who typically had a pretty shit start to life and …
should i text my ex happy birthday? — Sooo tomorrow is my ex’s birthday. we broke up a week ago, but we were together for 2 years. we didn’t end on bad terms necessarily, but the last month of our relationship was lots of fighting. when w…
He told me "Happy Birthday," but... — it was his ex- wife's birthday today. Mine was March 6th, and of course, he ignored me that day, just like he did last year. Last night he messaged me how much he missed me and wanted me to come to hi…
maybe texting my ex? — Me and my ex have been broken up for almost 4 years. We stayed quite close friends for a while and then just seen each other every so often from mutual friends. we have been in fully no contact for ab…
Question — We have been friends for long time (years). Last year I asked for chance, and he wholeheartedly agreed to it. We’ve had feelings for each other for years, but life/careers always got put before hand. …
Ex girlfriends birthday — I am now on over 30 days of No Contact. Do I wish my ex happy birthday this week? And does it count as breaking no contact. Feel like a douche, if I don’t text her.
How do you cope with humiliation? — Yesterday was my 26th birthday. I decided to celebrate alone with my boyfriend in a hotel the day before (best decision ever). My idea was to also get the cake there, but my boyfriend ordered it for…
I think I was a COCSA perpetrator . I feel like an awful person — sorry this is gonna be all over the place. when I was younger (I think 6-8? all I know is that I was young) I accidentally found porn on the internet and it really effected me. I felt curious but I al…
My dad just texted me to "get over it" after 8+ months of silence — I've been low/no contact with my mom since last August after she sent me a guilt-tripping meltdown over something trivial (I didn't text her back fast enough about a card renewal while I was on vacati…
The person (35M) who absolutely obliterated my heart texted me (35F) for my birthday, what do I say back? — Pretty much what the caption says, and this is my throwaway account. I’ve been heartbroken over this man for 3 years now, and we’ve been in no contact for 6 months. He was my best friend for YEARS, th…
How do I 30F ask my friend 30M to care more about our friendship? — I 30F am having a hard time with my friendships recently. I had a big group of friends (friends for about a year) but a couple of months ago around my birthday, I realized none of them actually have c…
Break-upable? — My birthday and my person takes me out for dinner. I realize after a minute or two it's a "singing servers" type restaurant. I am painfully shy and introverted. As we're checking in with the host,…
I 30M asked for a divorce from wife 28F but we have to live together for a year, confused on what I’m doing — I’m 30M and my wife is 28F. We started dating in college and have been together for several years. We got married pretty young. I recently asked for a divorce, but due to logistics (lease, family invo…
DARVO — it’s a long(ish) read but the last ever emails before i went NC officially with my Ndad and family Email 1 – You Hi dad I reached out on PayPal, I figured you’d call after almost a year of silence…
histrionic mom enabler dad - thinking about no contact again — 28F, really struggling recently trying to figure out how to approach the current dynamic of my parents. I am the scapegoat in my family, and therefore the only one out of 5 kids that has ever called e…
I texted my ex on her birthday — So my ex & i are not together for 4 months now. Long story short, in our 4 years relationship i suffered with some personal depression & issues and projected it many times on her.. (regret that a lo…
Should i send my ex her things back? — So to cut it short, me and my long distance ex broke up a few months ago, i think novemberish last year. We just couldn’t maintain it and nearing the end of the relationship i really don’t think i was…
It's nmom's birthday — Tl;dr., My siblings broke no contact with my mom today because it's her birthday. I've always had issues with the way my mom treated me. It's pretty much a textbook covert narcissist/scapegoat relati…
Vent; Life sucks, i can't deal with so much and I'm tired. — Tw: mentions of murder, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, neglect. Why have i gone through so much? i don't really want an answer, i know there's none other than luck, but this is too much for me. …
boyfriend (M31) canceled my (F26) birthday dinner reservation because of ongoing car issues — Yesterday was my birthday. I (F26) met with a friend for coffee in the morning, visited my dad and brother in the afternoon, and had plans to meet my boyfriend (M31) later in the evening for a fancy, …
I wasn't even supposed to own my own birthday — For as long as I can remember myself, the rule was, I don't get a happy birthday from my mom. Instead, I was supposed to call her and congratulate \*her\* on giving birth to me. This was presented as …
Ex said she loves me but isn’t in love, then sent mixed signals after breakup — trying to understand what’s going on — I (27M) recently went through a breakup with my ex (26F), and I’m trying to make sense of the situation without getting pulled back into something confusing. For context, she studied veterinary medic…
Birthdays & beyond — For those of you who had a parent or parents who have, to put it mildly, made your birthdays challenging and you continue to struggle with birthdays as an adult, what has helped you take back the day?…
To what lengths do I ( 34F )go to get answers from my best friend ( 34F) ? — My best friend (34F) and I (34F) have been best friends since 3rd grade. Let’s call her Amy. We’ve called each other sisters and were as best of friends as you’d imagine. I got married in June 2024 an…
I didn't wish my ex a Happy Birthday, It was today — It feels strange, haven't dated since the divorce. I don't know why I feel guilty. But this is moving on, right?
I’m so miserable and I want a mom — Yesterday was my birthday. The day before, I wanted to do something with my mommy because we have a bad relationship but it’s not really on my part bc she refuses to try and talk to me or flat out ign…
Should I get back with my ex talking stage/situationship (and how) — Context we were talking for 4/5 months This story starts about 8 months ago now this is why I’m having trouble deciding whether to act on my emotions or not. I 19F had posted some cute holiday pics…
“You have absolutely no right to be upset, hurt, or cry, sweetie” — Just for some context before I start: these events are just the "spotlights" of what I have experienced with them again and again throughout my entire life. 30M Growing up, my parents constantly made…
I need help, please read. — This is messily written because im really not ok. My first relationship. A year and a half from my first day of college. She wanted me from the second she saw me from a distance. She loved bombed me …
Should I break up with my girlfriend? — I’ve been dating my girlfriend for 5 months now and prom is coming up in less than two weeks. We have plans for going together and I don’t want to hurt her feelings by breaking up right before. Howeve…
"Your silence will eat them up." I hope that's true. I know her crazy family talked her into leaving. She came over, we went to dinner, said she wanted to break up. Go to my place and hook up twice …
I’m going through a really painful situation with someone I love, and I’m hoping to hear from people who have been in a similar anxious–avoidant loop. My ex(?) and I were slowly reconnecting after a …
Hi everyone, I need some outside perspective. Last summer I had my first relationship at 31. It lasted about 2 months. I was very inexperienced and insecure. She is also very insecure and has hot-and…
You do not need to wish her a happy birthday. If you are no contact, stay no contact. Her actions likely have nothing to do with you at all. She actually sounds like she has a mental illness on top of…
I am having a really hard time today with my anxious attachment. It's been just over a month since I told my ex gf/friend i was cutting contact. I reached back out last week for the first time with a…
Today is a milestone birthday for my ex. I broke up with her just over a month ago. I know how much she was not looking forward to this birthday, and how grateful she was to imagine she wouldn't be c…
just wish her a happy birthday. Or maybe like a $5 gift card for coffee
This a more recent group that I’m getting closer with so have had only a couple birthdays since I joined and I did buy a beer for the dudes when we all went out to dinner This chick isn’t having a bi…
Hell yeah, bro. Happy birthday.
So it's a date on a romantic holiday and your birthday? Happy birthday, hope it's a good one regardless of outcome!
Went to check my mailbox for the off-chance there was some secret admirer sending me a cute Valentine's card. No such thing, but I did find a fine for speeding in there. Only went a few km/h over the …
One of us! One of us! 👵🧓 More seriously, you can post in both places. And happy birthday!
You are welcome here, And happy birthday!
Thanks for your response. What do you think I should say? She has a birthday coming next in a few weeks, should I just wait til then to message her happy birthday and go from there? Or should I just…
When my ex broke up witb me a few years ago i blocked his number. A few months later i communicated with him for a happy birthday and then to exchange stuff left at each others houses (all this via em…
I dated a guy who immediately blocked me after a breakup. He dumped me , on my birthday, because I was bummed he didn’t wish me a happy birthday and something to the effects of “I’m just not into bir…
Happy birthday!! 🎉 People will say not to compare yourself to others (which is absolutely true) but we’ve all been there. Especially when we’re in a low moment. But the two words at the end of your …
Thank you for your input here. Birthday dinner and giving me a gift was *her* idea. She kept bugging me to pick a place and I got excited just about being out with her, it didn’t have to be “what ar…
The idea of the relationship is so powerful that it’s difficult to face the reality that there is not one. This sounds like a sort of ghost situation. If you are dating someone - they wish you happy b…
Massive happy birthday to you, friend!! 🎉🥳
Hope you have a happy birthday fellow Pisces and treat yourself to something nice! Have a virtual hug! Mine was earlier this week and pretty fun with platonic besties. Wishing you the best.
Happy birthday! I’m also about to have my second birthday in a row alone this year. It’s so tough but please keep the hope it won’t always be like this! I’d like to think the future birthdays are goin…
Happy birthday! There are those we feel quite low, and others that'll get better.
Happy birthday! What i did in my mid to late twenties was reserve my birthday for a special date night that i take myself out alone on. I pick a restaurant or an event i want to go to, save up, and ge…
It's not really much quieter, just less jarring. On the world stage, it will still be active. Edit: Happy Birthday! Sorry I missed that. :)
Well, in a probably not shocking turn of events my date on Saturday asked for a rain check. I was super bummed - I was expecting to never hear from him after Saturday tbh - but I did get a happy birth…
My DA ex started deactivating a month before my birthday… we planned to see each other the weekend of my birthday, he wished me happy birthday via text, the next day we were meant to hang out, I didn’…
Congratulation and happy birthday!
Happy birthday, omg yay!!!
Omg Happy Birthday fellow piscean! I'm so proud of you! 🙌
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! 🎉
Happy Birthday 🥳 You can be proud of yourself and I hope you have a great day!
Happy birthday!!! Blessings for many more years around the sun.
Happy birthday! I'll be heading into my 57th year in May. I can't believe it, we made it!
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Happy Birthday and congratulations!!
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Happy birthday!
First off happy birthday! It sounds like you’ve made some great progress and have really put in the work, and it shows. Sometimes you can do everything right but still can’t make someone choose to…
Congratulations. Happy birthday to you ♥️
Way to go!!! Happy birthday! I know how hard the surviving is. One freaking day at a time.
Happy Birthday!!
Happy birthday!!! I hope you have a wonderful day and years ahead. I just want to say you’re my inspiration because even though I’m only 22, I’m in a similar boat as you and feel very hopeless about l…
Happy birthday! I’m 59 and so glad I’m on the downhill side of life.
happy birthday!! i hope you have a wonderful day🧡🧡
Happy Birthday! 🥳
Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday!!