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THE OYSTER IS NOT YOUR WORLD! (IT'S THIS SIMPLE) — LONGGG POST! DISCLAIMER: for any of ya'll havin a problem with "long posts" , "english", "structure", "accent" etc etc. i got 2 tips for ya 1. chat gpt (or any other ai platform) - command c+v (summ…

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

I (29F) have cancer and my estranged father (60M) is funding my treatment but forcing me to leave my boyfriend (24M) or marry him immediately. Do I have any way out? — Please be kind. I was unable to type so used audio to text converter and ai to fix the spelling mistakes. I m already in a terrible mental state so hope this sub can be a little gentle on me. Haven't …

How to have a helpful conversation when you feel something is wrong. — I am working to become a therapist and I have run into a situation in my life that I don't know how to have productively. My fiancee is Catholic and has decided to wear a cilice. For those of you who…

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

Polish old man asking Polish girl why she's with a "Chinaman". — I can't post the video for some reasons but here's the link and description, An Asian man (Chinese) confronts an old Polish man after the older Polish man did not like the fact a Chinese man has a Po…

My (21F) girlfriend had a complete meltdown when I (23M) tried to use her phone — Last night my girlfriend of two years and I were just chilling after about 4 days of not seeing each other while I had a close friend visiting. Initially, I asked to use her iPad (which I bought for C…

Finally got the ick — Honestly, I know I post here a lot, and I’m sorry if it’s ever bothering anyone; but I think I finally got the ick for my ex!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m seriously SO happy right now. I never thought I could ever…

Ghosted at 45 — I’m genuinely heartbroken. I (45F) was ghosted by a 40 year old man after exclusively dating for 4 months. I have been divorced for 3 years, I’ve dated here and there, but really took time to work on …

Watching Life Pass Me By — I know this has probably been written about many times, but I need to get this off my chest. I’m a 34-year-old man, and I’m struggling with depression. I’ve been reading about the law of attraction, …

My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone — Pretty much what the title says. We live separately but visit each other every weekend alternating (about 1.5 hours apart). We've been together 2.5 years. His bag was on the couch with all his clothe…

I feel like garbage after seeing my best friend......... — Im a 46 year old man. I'm married with 2 kids. Im fat, bald and 5 foot 5. Im a piece of shit and cant take it anymore. My best friend is actually a girl who i have always been in love with. Shes marri…

Specifically within this chart, is there an indication of a lack of prioritization and need for romantic partners ? — I hold many complicated and significant relationships with my friendships and family. I like to date, but nothing significant has occurred in a while. The last time I had a significant other of signif…

Having a really hard go of seeing her in person for any length of time — Hello again I had to leave our shared apartment about 2 weeks ago due to the fact that I was constantly feeling sad and jealous while living in such close proximity to my stbx of 16 years. (We were t…

"When trust is lost, traumatized people feel that they belong more to the dead than to the living." — "The sense of safety in the world, or basic trust, is acquired in earliest life in the relationship with the first caretaker. Originating with life itself, this sense of trust sustains a person throug…

My 71 year old mother escalated to throwing objects at me tonight because I started vacation from work — Quick intro: I'm a 49-year-old man earning \~$225K/year, living with my 71-year-old mother in a house that's fully paid off. I'm planning to move out within the next few weeks. You can see the post hi…

What is my (35M) role in my parents (69F)(80M) dispute about chickens — I bought a large property with my elderly parents. I have a house in the back half of the lot and they live up in the front house. Since we have a few acres I thought it would be fun to get a few chic…

31M, why am I failing at everything - No job, Partner broke up with me, No Luck at all? Is something wrong with me? — I'm a 31-year-old man and I feel completely stuck in life. I'm currently unemployed and struggling to find work. My partner recently broke up with me. Is there is something fundamentally wrong with me…

[31M] My wife [32F] of 4 years (together 9) wants a divorce. We survived family deaths and her Bipolar 2, but I'm exhausted. I just need someone to tell me starting over at 31 is going to be okay. — I’m just kind of aimlessly describing my situation right now. I have no clue what I’m looking for, maybe just perspective, or someone to tell me I'll be okay. My wife and I met in college. We've been…

smoking, gambling, loneliness, and being alone are ruining my life — Hi, I’m a 34-year-old man. For the past six years, I’ve been heavily smoking weed and gambling. I’ve been trying hard to quit, but I always end up back in the same place. Right now, I’m living alone i…

My neighbor is a convicted rapist — I feel so stupid for not looking into it before moving in. My neighbor who lives in the other half of my duplex was arrested for attempted rape years ago, and has multiple domestic assault charges, on…

Dealing with the repercussions of making mistakes — Posting this here because the BPD subreddit kinda sucks and will not allow you to post anything :)) Hey guys :// I was doing pretty good but I’m definitely still feeling repercussions of when I was …

Any therapies for gaps in memory? — I’m a 31 year old man, an immigrant living in the UK. Have for a long time really struggled to piece together my childhood, pretty much can’t remember anything before like 13-14ish. Tbh even anythin…

A narcissist mom VS an ASPD son. — My mom's words will be dashes(-) and mines will be plus signs(+) pretty sure my mom is a narcissist, I have been checking boxes and she checks every criteria to be suspected or assumed. I am 21. and …

I (28M) want her (31 F) back but am conflicted around how everything ended. — Hey y'all, I'm looking for some advice on if I should continue holding out and hoping to get back with my short term ex or finally find a way to try and get over this. there's many layers to this bu…

Is anyone else fucking angry? — I'm angry. There were so many times in my life when someone could have intervened. One example is my family used to attend a 'family' christmas party every year, it was a long held tradition. it was…

lads,how to cope with a small penis? — Alright,im an 18 year old man...i grew up watching porn,like most younger adults. and i cannot measure up,my dick is 4.5 inches long and about 3.8 inches in girth and about 1.8 in thickness,so uh...i …

I feel terrible ending things. — I (30F) met a man (40M) in Bangkok while travelling solo after we matched on a dating app a day before I was leaving the country and exchanged a few messages at first and when he asked for my number I…

Was I groomed at 15? — I am 33F This is a story from the time I was 14/15 and was enrolled to go to a coaching centre for mathematics tuitions The maths tutor (35M) was very charming and someone every student seemed to lo…

Lying by omission, 28F and 35M — I’m a 28-year-old woman who has been dating a 35-year-old man. Two months into seeing each other, I found out he was separated- something he hadn’t mentioned until I asked directly. When we discussed …

Found out the 60+ year old man in my apartment building is a sex offender. — I made a post a week or two ago about weird interactions with my neighbor. Like him commenting on my appearance, watching me for hours sit on my deck, driving up slowly behind me as I’m walking and co…

Moong hour subliminals+ it's weird effect on my dream and shifting — I mean I clicked on a random moon hour video cause everyone was praising moon hour so much and I do believe that each to their own for subliminals , it works differently for everyone I honestly had …

I just realized that my mum had been SAing me as a child — I am a 20 year old man, who is very openly queer. my mother (40) is very biggoted and completely against that kind of stuff. Despite being in the UK she openly supports Trump, and ICE. Basically ever…

Do golden children have some sort of hypnosis spell? — There is absolutely no other reason why a 61-year-old man (my uncle) would be able to come to his parents’ house, start yelling, screaming and cussing at them because they don’t know where his new ins…

How do me (25f) and my fiance 26 M set up a good cleaning program? — Ok I know that we are adults and we should have this figured out but we need unbiased input. Background. my fiancé. He works 80 hours a week and I work 40 hours a week. I also have a chronic illness…

Reading about EDS triggered a memory. — Marking this NSFW due to triggers. This is a vent post so hopefully it's allowed. I just got hit with a vivid memory from my past and I just need to shout it into the void and get it out or somethin…

Where are the real f...ing stories?! — Share your mindblowing stuff. But let me speak first. I manifested a job from a state of lack, fear and despair, having almost $0 to my name. This job reflected my inner state perfectly, like 1:1 - c…

Quotas at new job — im a 23 year old man with pretty bad anxiety. I started my first job in sales, a gig at a smartphone store, and im worried at the moment. ive finished my online training modules and it is likely that …

What was your breaking point? Need advice — Hey everyone I am (24f) and my husband is (24m). We got married at 22 and share a toddler together. Recently I have felt myself starting to be more resentful and disconnected to him. Firstly, he doe…

Considering seeking out help. Had poor experiences in the past. Minimal resources in my area. Any tips? — I've experienced low level depression for most of my life. I'm in my 30s now. I tried the medication roller coaster in my teens/early 20s and it just felt like I turned into a soulless zombie. It made…

I’ve always been a year younger than my actual age — Hello, I’m not really sure where to write this, or if it’s weird or awkward, but I need to get it off my chest somewhere! Basically, I’ve always been a very sensitive person—someone who overthinks t…

Trying not to get offended/upset so easily — I have always had the issue where if someone didn’t want to be my friend or hang with me I’ll get really upset and I don’t handle places where people are cliquish even if I know the reason behind it I…

WHAT DO YOU WANT?! — OK IMMA ASK A QUESTION - **QUES-** how many of ya'll had worse "3D" after learning about manifestation? reading neville? reading secret? law of attraction? law of assumption? anything at all youtube?…

Need help, multiple therapists have said they don’t know how to help me I don’t know what to do — Hey guys, I’m a 25 year old man and have some serious problems that stop me from living a normal life: 1. Extreme debilitating anxiety. I can’t talk to people on the phone and even asking for help at…

Too much Sympathy — TW: manipulative parents I am curious if anyone else experiences this. My go to reaction tends to be one of trying to take the best possible view of someone else. Potentially even ignoring negati…

My wife of 10 years physically attacked me. I’ve built a successful life from nothing, but the abuse and isolation are life-threatening. Need an exit strategy. — **The Background:** I am 29 Years old man . I married in 2016 while I was a student with zero income. My father supported us, and my wife chose to stay with me in the city during my university years. …

How can I change for the better? — Warning: massive essay (life story) incoming. My profile should be open, so you could maybe browse what I’ve said earlier. They can be a little too much, and I can be judgmental sometimes. Some posts …

How is it Like Being an Adult and having to live on Your Own? — I'm turning 18 in a few months and I'm starting to face the reality that I'll probably have to live on my own soon, I’ve been dependent on my parents forever, but my home life has always been so unsta…

I thrive in social environments, yet eye contact during intimate moments leaves me feeling strangely unsettled — I’m a 34‑year‑old woman who’s always been a social butterfly. As a Gemini, adapting to new situations comes naturally to me, and in most areas of my life I’m confident and comfortable. But when it com…

Stop stepping into a mummy role. You can’t help your partner, he’s a grown ass 40 year old man who needs to step up and help himself. There are tons of free resources available as well as therapy and …

I think all these time‐tracking systems in IT are absolutely useless and only justify the work of those who implement them. No offense to efficient managers. If the company were like a factory produc…

Keep in mind there are PLENTY of people IN RELATIONSHIPS that feel completely alone also. A warm body doesnt mean a fulfilling relationship. I have AA , Im a 44 year old man . Im learning to be more s…

I'm a 51-year-old man, divorced twice, with autism and severe anxiety. I've been completely socially isolated with no friends. I met a woman online 6 weeks ago and we've had 1.5 in-person dates. I'm f…

Chat (says the 38 year old man trying to sound young and cool) I have a silly conundrum question. With Valentine's Day coming up, I want to get my lady some nice flowers from a local florist. She love…

>Dating is starting to feel emotionally exhausting, almost like a form of self-harm at this point. I feel this one... I can only stand to try dating for a month or two every few years. I always end …

Hi. Anyone else have any similar experiences? I’m a gay guy and really want a group of straight buddies for some reason. I love platonic bonds with other guys since I didn’t have any as a kid. I’m m…

I feel people are using "middle aged" differently. A 37 year old man and a middle aged woman are the same age, he absolutely should not be dating her daughter EDIT: Thank you to the people clarifying…

It's not fun to swipe through dating apps in hopes of making any connection, and even less fun to be thinking "well you still have to do this, you're simply too ugly to ever successfully flirt in pers…

I think I’m aging out of dating purely because of the lingo. I saw a 40 year old man described as “emotionally fluent” and I know those words, but not in that combination. 😫

Relocating for a better social scene I'm a 34 year old man living in middle of nowhere Pennsylvania. I've had several long term relationships but ultimately they did not work out due to cultural and …

Hi everyone! I'd like to know if anyone has any fresh perspectives or advice on my situation. I'm a 36-year-old man, diagnosed with autism. Never had a girlfried, neither my first kiss or hug  I…

So he answered this to my "breakup message" (a bit below). His response: "Can we at least call each other tomorrow to settle this up.. I just don’t know what to say anymore". What do I even say? Wh…

i dont like taylor swift and so i just didn't listen to her lol. you don't have to like and share everything your partner likes. if you can't be playful about the things you disagree on, then yeah it …

OP, as an old man I don't know everything but I do know your relationship is over. Please don't make scene and just move on. Don't think you'll never find another gf because you will. It's happened to…

Yeah it’s interesting how narcissistic behavior can so often be written off as just lunacy, because this could honestly just be a confused old man that means well. As someone without a dad in my life …

My first thought was "what community?"... In my opinion, the lack of a dedicated forum and accompanying etiquette is a major problem. I would love to be more active in the sub, but the daily delu…

I had an experience when I was around four or five years old, but I don't know if it was a tall grey or not. I think at that age I had a slightly different viewpoint of what was strange and what was n…

It’s mostly math. There are more men than women on online dating, but the ratio changes a lot with age. Under 30, men vastly outnumber women on the apps. Estimates vary, but it can be something like …

He is like a 90yr old man when it comes to most things tech. I tried to teach him for 15 years, all I got was a headache. His job involves a work phone & certain apps that he forever needs help with.…

There are some meaningful discussions to be had about the idea of the SHSAT and accessibility without specifically considering race/ethnicity. Yes, Asian families, including lower income ones, value …

Brilliant! The only way to deal with a psycho is either not at all, or to beat them at their own game (legally). This simultaneously gets rid of the golddigger, infantilizes the old man (which will…

>This simultaneously gets rid of the golddigger, infantilizes the old man (which will massively break his ego), and puts the farm back in her pocket Hopefully. I wonder who's power of attorney? I ho…

Nobody talks about it because it looks like closeness from the outside and felt like being chosen from the inside. The child who becomes the parent's emotional anchor gets elevated to a special status…

Still lying to yourself?? Still has ego?? Life hasn't humbled you yet?? Well you claimed to be perfectly fine by being alone but you reached out two times and here you are writing a post with paragra…

I disagree with some of your other points, but I wanted to address point 1 specifically. You may be right that "apps kind of reward low-effort/high-volume behavior," but you can successfully use the …

Not that you asked for it, but I'm gonna weigh in here...As long as their prefrontal cortex is fully developed, i'm willing to have some conversation to see where we lie. I am somebody that is a kid a…

Echoing others-old man combover bs or too grown out is a hard no. Shaved? 👌👌👌👌👌

Don’t care as long as you don’t feel the need to wear a baseball cap 24/7. Outside for sun protection is fine but these guys that live in baseball caps 🫤. Also, I prefer shaved bald over wispy strag…

Have you read Hemingways ‚The old man and the sea‘? A true fisherman enjoys the fishing 🎣 going out on the sea, being on the shore, meeting at 3-4 am to prepare, watching dolphins follow you out …

He didn’t know what tiramisu was … a 50 year old man

Totes. Cartoons though and most shows mentioned here are too hyper. Columbo again and again. 60 year old man going back in time watching with my mum. Should lookup Rockford - she liked him 😉- but Col…

Seriously. I'll be 40 this year. Imagine telling a 40 year old man to "grow up" and "man up" and expecting him to be like "Ho hum you're right, der der"

I'm sure if I had witnessed it I would feel bad because he's a feeble old man now, but my inner child is smiling.

I'm the complete opposite of mine and I know now why he latched on to me and still refuses to let me go. I'm the opposite of him in every way. The last time a colleague of many years gave me a job ref…

Luckily, God isn't the type of resentful, grumpy old man we are told as little children he is. So, we can easily tell him we hate him every now and then, that's not really something he worries about a…

So many garbage therapists. Be careful out there. My first EMDR therapist was garbage. I was trying to switch the second guy, and upon talking to me over the phone, the second guy is like, give the ol…

You guys are not compatible. There is a reason why he dates women so much younger. Only this time he ran in to someone who is actually more mature than him at a younger age. This will not go the way…

Ima be real. A 28 year old man perusing a 21 year old woman sounds fucking creepy. I think it’s entirely possible he thought he could turn you into being his bangmaid and you’re not allowing that to h…

Take things step by step. 1. Decide to date, then date. 2. Date until you find an appropriate match for you. Someone you love, cherish and respect, who cherishes, loves and respects you and you share …

He heard you. He just decided you did not mean it. A 28-year-old man chose a 21-year-old hoping she would outgrow her own boundaries. She didn't. Now he's upset. You were honest. He gambled on changin…

Why is a 31 year old man with a job still living with his parents? OP, I can guarantee you one thing, if you marry him, you will end up raising one child without ever giving birth.

31 year old man not wanting to have a conversation about the practicality of the future? No wonder he’s still at home with his parents. He ain’t the one.

He's 31 and lives with his parents. He's trying to change you because he wants kids - that alone means you are completely compatible. You are more financially mature than a 31 year old man. This rel…

I know this is going to kick up controversy but my mother had very observable varieties of her that cared more about different things than others. One minute she was pimping me out then the next, she …

I'm not a *huge* fan of worms except Slimey from Sesame Street and Tube worms. The latter live on deep sea vents and I called them lipstick worms when I was a kid lol. I'm not too good with spiders,…

Ive seen one before when I was 10. He ran out from a town house and the old man came out screaming saying that thing was in my home. We saw it running out, visible body but clear. Disappeared in a sup…

If a 20-something year old man does not have the ability to discern that "I love you and want to be with you and don't want to break up, but I miss the freedom I had to not have to consider another pe…

You two are not compatible. You do not want children and he does. And I am curious is this 31-year-old man ever lived on his own and taking care of himself?

The bells should have ring when a 28 year old man decides to pursue a 20 year old woman; why do you think no one his age wanted him