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THE OYSTER IS NOT YOUR WORLD! (IT'S THIS SIMPLE)

THE OYSTER IS NOT YOUR WORLD! (IT'S THIS SIMPLE) — LONGGG POST! DISCLAIMER: for any of ya'll havin a problem with "long posts" , "english", "structure", "accent" etc etc. i got 2 tips for ya 1. chat gpt (or any other ai platform) - command c+v (summ…

r/nevillegoddardpost4/11/2026
Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is?

Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is? — How has this continued to be a thing, and how did this get approved internally? The Shopify Admin UI is a complete mess. It's genuinely hard to believe this shipped — and worse, that it's still the c…

r/web_designpost4/15/2025
Landing Page Collection - TailwindCSS

Landing Page Collection - TailwindCSS — I've gathered the landing pages l've built over time and am adding new one every week. Each template comes with a complete Lorem Ipsum structure that you can easily customize for any type of business…

r/web_designpost4/20/2025
Question for the template flippers out there - where’s the real money?

Question for the template flippers out there - where’s the real money? — Genuinely curious - for all the devs who “custom build” sites that are clearly just recycled templates from ThemeForest or whatever the latest place is nowadays. Where’s the *actual* money coming fro…

r/web_designpost4/20/2025
5 Best SQL Books for Web Development - JV Codes 2025

5 Best SQL Books for Web Development - JV Codes 2025 — Welcome to the [SQL Books](https://jvcodes.com/category/free-books/sql-books/) section on [JV Codes](https://jvcodes.com/)! If you’re starting with SQL or want to strengthen your skills, you’re in the…

r/web_designpost4/23/2025
SQL Commands | DDL, DQL, DML, DCL and TCL Commands - JV Codes 2025

SQL Commands | DDL, DQL, DML, DCL and TCL Commands - JV Codes 2025 — Mastery of [SQL commands](https://jvcodes.com/sql-ddl-dql-dml-dcl-tcl-commands/) is essential for someone who deals with SQL databases. [SQL](https://jvcodes.com/what-is-sql/) provides an easy system …

r/web_designpost4/28/2025
Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker

Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…

r/UXDesignpost4/30/2025
Am I Overcomplicating This Workshop? (Personas or Empathy first?

Am I Overcomplicating This Workshop? (Personas or Empathy first? — Hey everyone! I need some advice on structuring a workshop for a client’s new product. They’re unclear on the direction (app/web/game?), target audience, or features, so I suggested a workshop to alig…

r/UXDesignpost5/1/2025
Can you successfully use AI humanizers to improve SEO

Can you successfully use AI humanizers to improve SEO — When working with AI-generated content for SEO, it’s always a balancing act. On one hand, I want the content to be optimized with keywords and structure, but on the other, I don’t want it to come over…

r/digital_marketingpost5/1/2025
Identifying website visitors (companies) tool recommendations for a trade publication

Identifying website visitors (companies) tool recommendations for a trade publication — Hi guys! I have some potential freelance business for a trade publication in the design space (architecture, interiors, landscape, urban planning topics) and I was originally trying to pitch SEO, re…

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use?

Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use? — Our business is scaling rapidly — we’re currently handling millions of unique requests per week, and this number continues to grow. At the moment, we’re hosted on DigitalOcean, paying approximately €4…

r/DevOpspost5/2/2025
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond

What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going

Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions

Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions — I had a technical discussion with with a smaller company(around 100-200 employees) and they are filling out a new devops team. I have 7 YOE at large tech companies as a software engineer, but my dutie…

r/DevOpspost5/2/2025
What is k8s in bare metal?

What is k8s in bare metal? — Newbie understanding: If I'm not mistaken, k8s in bare metal means deploying/managing a k8s cluster in a single-node server. Otherwords, control plane and node components are in a single server. Howe…

r/DevOpspost5/3/2025
From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps

From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…

r/DevOpspost5/3/2025
Thoughts on a platform that can give AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation (i will not promote)

Thoughts on a platform that can give AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation (i will not promote) — **AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation** Hey r/startups, I’m exploring a product idea and would love to hear your thoughts. **The problem:** Many users land in product documenta…

r/startupspost5/3/2025
Need Guidance for Amazon Systems/DevOps Engineer Interview (Cloud Support Background)

Need Guidance for Amazon Systems/DevOps Engineer Interview (Cloud Support Background) — Hope you're all doing well. I'm currently working as a Cloud Support Engineer and have managed to land an interview with Amazon for a Systems/DevOps Engineer role. While I’m excited, I’m also feelin…

r/DevOpspost5/3/2025
Offered Technical Cofounder Role — How Much Equity Should I Ask For? [I will not promote]

Offered Technical Cofounder Role — How Much Equity Should I Ask For? [I will not promote] — I initially joined a startup as a developer, building the product from scratch — no existing codebase, no tech team, just me & one junior developer. After a few months of work, the founder has now off…

r/startupspost5/4/2025
Unsecured Capital Raise "i will not promote"

Unsecured Capital Raise "i will not promote" — Hello, first-time poster looking for creative fundraising recommendations. I’m working to open a recreation + F&B "eatertainment" facility inside a large leased space. I anticipate traditional invest…

r/startupspost5/4/2025
How do you estimate full Shopify projects for clients?

How do you estimate full Shopify projects for clients? — For those who offer full Shopify site builds (themes, apps, checkout customizations…): What’s your typical process to estimate time and price? Do you follow a checklist, use a spreadsheet, or someth…

r/Shopifypost5/4/2025
Please guide me in learning infrastructure automation

Please guide me in learning infrastructure automation — I currently manage a few servers running some ecommerce sites (WordPress) and some custom PHP based applications (Vanilla PHP, and Laravel) on DigitalOcean. My setup is pretty basic and consists of *…

r/DevOpspost5/5/2025
I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more?

I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…

r/UXDesignpost5/5/2025
SEO Backlink exchange marketplace - 10 testers

SEO Backlink exchange marketplace - 10 testers — We built a software that creates daily SEO articles for your site AND handles backlink exchange between users automatically (similar niche) Looking for 10 peeps to try it for free! You get: - Fres…

r/digital_marketingpost5/5/2025
I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs!

I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs! — Hey everyone! I’ve been working on a VSCode extension called **Array Size Extension**, and I wanted to share it with you all to get some feedback or maybe help out others who run into the same proble…

r/webdevpost5/5/2025
Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote)

Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote) — **Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups** These are a few things I have come to learn while doing "startups," maybe it will help some entrepreneurs in their startup travels.…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Understanding StructuredClone: The Modern Way to Deep Copy In JavaScript

Understanding StructuredClone: The Modern Way to Deep Copy In JavaScript

r/webdevpost5/5/2025
[Terraform vs. Bicep] — Is Terraform Still a Safe Bet Post-IBM?

[Terraform vs. Bicep] — Is Terraform Still a Safe Bet Post-IBM? — **TL;DR:** We're 99% Azure and choosing between Bicep and Terraform for IaC. Bicep fits the stack, but Terraform offers flexibility (especially if we acquire orgs using AWS). With IBM buying HashiCorp…

r/DevOpspost5/5/2025
Duplicate Websites: One Ranks, One Tanks

Duplicate Websites: One Ranks, One Tanks — I own two small‑town dental practices and spun up two nearly identical websites for them. Same structure, images, and copy, just different color schemes and logos. The site for Practice A ranks nicely…

r/SEOpost5/5/2025
How do you currently use app store reviews for product decisions?

How do you currently use app store reviews for product decisions? — I’m building a tool that turns Google Play reviews into structured UX + product insights (themes, requests, sentiment clusters). As a solo product designer, I got tired of digging through noisy feedba…

r/UXDesignpost5/5/2025
Is there a reason why Wordpress permalink: website.com/post-name would be better than website.com/blog/post-name?

Is there a reason why Wordpress permalink: website.com/post-name would be better than website.com/blog/post-name? — I just noticed that my website's permalink structure was set to [`website.com/post-name`](http://website.com/post-name) instead of [website.com/blog/post-name](http://website.com/blog/post-name). I as…

r/Wordpresspost5/5/2025
TransferForge – Convert Oxygen Classic to Oxygen 6 Without Rebuilding

TransferForge – Convert Oxygen Classic to Oxygen 6 Without Rebuilding — Hey builders, We've been working on a tool called **TransferForge** to solve one of the biggest headaches in our community: migrating from **Oxygen Classic (4.x)** to **Oxygen 6**. As you know, O6 …

r/Wordpresspost5/5/2025
Research Paper Help

Research Paper Help — I’m researching how transfer latency impacts application performance, operational efficiency, and measurable financial impact for businesses in the real world. Proposing the importance for optimized …

r/ecommercepost5/5/2025
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

r/digital_marketingpost5/5/2025
OpenAI now shows product recommendations. Has your store received additional traffic?

OpenAI now shows product recommendations. Has your store received additional traffic? — So, OpenAI announced on X last week that it’s now showing product recommendations in product-related searches. I had a little play with this for a mini case study and what’s interesting is that the s…

r/ecommercepost5/6/2025
What really makes an Internal Developer Platform succeed?

What really makes an Internal Developer Platform succeed? — Hey, I work at Pulumi as a community engineer and as we are doubling down on [IDP features](https://www.reddit.com/r/pulumi/comments/1kg3o0l/introducing_pulumi_idp/) I’ve been looking around at variou…

r/DevOpspost5/6/2025
Best Practice For Canonical URLS

Best Practice For Canonical URLS — Hi everyone, I haven't used reddit much for anything besides lurking and memes, so its time to try it for crowdsourcing information. I'm looking to implement a rule set for a very large catalog of p…

r/SEOpost5/6/2025
If you had to rebuild your business ops from scratch, what systems would you start with?

If you had to rebuild your business ops from scratch, what systems would you start with? — We've been working with small teams to rebuild internal operations from the ground up. Most of them come to us after things start slipping. The solution isn't always a new tool. It's often a few well…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
Best practices for organizing large web projects?

Best practices for organizing large web projects? — Hey everyone, I'm currently working on a large-scale web development project, and I'm trying to figure out the best practices for organizing the codebase. How do you structure your files and folders f…

r/webdevpost5/6/2025
How do you transition from low-fidelity wireframes to high-fidelity designs?

How do you transition from low-fidelity wireframes to high-fidelity designs? — I’m in the process of designing a web app and started with these [low fidelity wireframes](https://wireframes.org/) to map out the structure and flow. It’s been really helpful for getting ideas down q…

r/webdevpost5/6/2025
What Platform Engineering Really Means (and How It Differs from DevOps and SRE)

What Platform Engineering Really Means (and How It Differs from DevOps and SRE) — Hey all, I just wrote a piece breaking down what **Platform Engineering** is — not just as a buzzword, but as a real discipline that’s emerging in many engineering organizations. 🔧 **Key takeaways…

r/DevOpspost5/6/2025
How to approach colleagues ‘improving’ my copy with unedited Chat GPT?

How to approach colleagues ‘improving’ my copy with unedited Chat GPT? — Hi all, I’m a new and junior member of a very small team, we are overstretched and have far too much on the go at any given time, which inevitably leads to shortcuts being taken. I’m no stranger t…

r/digital_marketingpost5/6/2025
Junior sysadmin looking for project ideas to modernize a simple infra

Junior sysadmin looking for project ideas to modernize a simple infra — Junior sysadmin looking for project ideas to modernize a simple on-prem infra Hey everyone, I’m a junior sysadmin working with a fairly basic on-prem infrastructure with about 45 users, and I’m look…

r/DevOpspost5/6/2025
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote)

How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…

r/startupspost5/6/2025
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search

Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search — **What It Does** This is an internal tool I’ve been building to help with UK property prospecting, market research, and deal due diligence. If you've ever tried to buy or invest in property in the U…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
Services which don't quite mesh with devops

Services which don't quite mesh with devops — Hey folks, Do you have stories about teams or products which don't quite fit into devops? - for any reason. How did your org or you approached these? - At my current org (midsized insurance enterpr…

r/DevOpspost5/6/2025
Proud of my results as a non expert and want to share and say thanks!

Proud of my results as a non expert and want to share and say thanks! — I posted about my SEO efforts about 5 months ago and I had such a warm response from everyone that I kind of wanted to provide an update. I had both shared my results and asked for advice on next step…

r/SEOpost5/6/2025
Looking for a technical co-founder I will not promote

Looking for a technical co-founder I will not promote — Hey all, I'm working on a B2B SaaS platform targeting a specific form of fraud that's draining revenue from e-commerce and logistics companies. It's a blind spot for many, but the financial impact is…

r/startupspost5/6/2025
How do you effectively refine wireframes into a responsive design?

How do you effectively refine wireframes into a responsive design? — I’m currently working on a website redesign and started by sketching out some wireframes to get the structure right. I found some great wireframes on [wireframes.org](http://wireframes.org) to use as …

r/web_designpost5/7/2025
To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go.

To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go. — I’ve found Projects modeled visually instead of written in flat lists to be wayy more productive and successful. Traditional to-do lists are linear—one-dimensional. You follow a fixed path: top to bot…

r/UXDesignpost5/7/2025
Head of Digital - Feeling burnt out.

Head of Digital - Feeling burnt out. — Hey everyone, I’m in a “Head of Digital” role at a mid-sized company — but in practice, I’m the only technical person in a team full of editors and project managers from a traditional print publishin…

r/webdevpost5/7/2025
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Knowing that there's a physical reason for the confusion and lack of awareness makes it easier to accept. One feels like an outsider; the people around you seem to know how to be with each other. An…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment6/26/2020
'Getting into DevOps'

I really like the Gene Kim's material, such as the Phoenix Project. I so enjoyed the entertaining story. It is interesting though, careful to navigate misinformation out there. DevOps is about acce…

r/DevOpscomment11/12/2022
'Getting into DevOps'

This is bullshit and has nothing to do with beginners The only efficient and quick way getting into devOps : a lot of practice and googling from day 1 None of these endless videos From 1 s…

r/DevOpscomment11/27/2022
'Getting into DevOps'

DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…

r/DevOpscomment7/23/2023
If you are new here..

I just want to say, I’m am so happy to have found this sub! Oh how I’ve created so much in my life, with LOB (unconsciously) and more so just belief and the movie the secret that started it all. Then …

r/JosephMurphycomment1/19/2024
My arguments against manifestation

I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

It has been there for the last 5 years : [https://www.reddit.com/r/JosephMurphy/comments/h7g0vn/progressive\_goal\_structure\_for\_lob\_mastery/](https://www.reddit.com/r/JosephMurphy/comments/h7g0v…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/25/2025
Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use?

I’ll be very up front with you; if you’re already facing concurrency issues where your DB is effectively deadlocked, infrastructure and cloud hosting isn’t going to be your holy grail to work through …

r/DevOpscomment5/2/2025
Virtualization is hurting my mental state.

It's called programmable infrastructure, and it's been great... Datacenter hardware is hard enough without software problems on top

r/DevOpscomment5/3/2025
Need Guidance for Amazon Systems/DevOps Engineer Interview (Cloud Support Background)

Focus on showcasing your cloud support experience and how it relates to DevOps principles. Your background gives you a solid foundation in understanding cloud infrastructure, troubleshooting, and work…

r/DevOpscomment5/4/2025
Why did it take OpenAI 24 hours to roll back a faulty model?

24 hours makes sense when you consider their infrastructure scale. Rolling back ML models isn't like deploying a typical web app - you're dealing with massive distributed systems, model weights, and c…

r/DevOpscomment5/4/2025
Why did it take OpenAI 24 hours to roll back a faulty model?

Rolling back an LLM at OpenAI scale isn’t like redeploying a web app on Vercel. You’re talking global load balancers, multi-region infrastructure, model sharding, GPU fleet management, and system prom…

r/DevOpscomment5/4/2025
Please guide me in learning infrastructure automation

You have mention to many changes other than infrastructure automation. My suggestion would be to focus on automation without changing much of your stack. Once you have automated then focus on things y…

r/DevOpscomment5/5/2025
What else do I need before I apply?

Check this roadmap (and no, it's not that one with thousands of tools that no one ever finished ... it's structured a bit differently): https://devopsroadmap.io There is no 1 source that covers the …

r/DevOpscomment5/5/2025
[Terraform vs. Bicep] — Is Terraform Still a Safe Bet Post-IBM?

Terraform/OpenTofu is still the industry standard, OT means it's still "safe", and relative to Bicep has the advantage of stable providers managing more than just Azure. I use it for managing infrastr…

r/DevOpscomment5/5/2025
[Terraform vs. Bicep] — Is Terraform Still a Safe Bet Post-IBM?

I second OpenTofu over terraform, but do you actually need it? The idea of "if I use terraform I can swap cloud" is probably a YAGNI, and even if you use terraform / OpenTofu, you'll need to re-write…

r/DevOpscomment5/5/2025
I’ve been acquired!!!

Good stuff, I’ve seen people turn down offers and later end up with a 10th or a 20th of what they would’ve gotten. When I sold my business about five years ago I went from being overworked to having …

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/5/2025
Any advice for fake it till you make it with AWS specifically?

You want honest advice? Don't. AWS is not as sophisticated as it may seem. The trick is to stick with services that are mutually beneficial so you get to know their integrations and how they synergis…

r/DevOpscomment5/6/2025
Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup

I am in online marketing for the past 15 years with a focus on early stage startups and scaleups.... And no... SEO is not the way to go. I welcome the phased approach to paid, but you need to unders…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/6/2025
Was pushed into a Devops role. Never got the chance to learn properly

There is no single right way to do it. The right way is deciding which tools work for your workflow, and provide the least administrative overhead. Whatever helps you not copy and paste things all the…

r/DevOpscomment5/6/2025
Services which don't quite mesh with devops

One thing I am selling is the difference between Standard Operating Proceedures (SOPs) and "releases". Our customers are resistant to any idea of change at more than an 6 or 3 month interval, but what…

r/DevOpscomment5/6/2025
Backstage feels like a fools errand

Hey, [OpsLevel](https://www.opslevel.com) CTO here. We have a ton of respect for what the Backstage community has accomplished. It's impressive how they've expanded the IDP space and created a vibra…

r/DevOpscomment5/7/2025
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search

This is super impressive! I relate to that frustration with fragmented UK property data soooo much. I'm actually working on automating my own property investing workflow (tho not nearly as sophisticat…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Being an Entrepreneur is bloody hard

Yes, not easy, especially when dealing with employees. It takes a lot of work too but there’s a different drive there than working for someone else. Also no cap on your salary and a sellable business …

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Feedback on Branching Strategy for IAC Repository

>Is there a better branching strategy or workflow for IaC repositories in this scenario, one that allows safe promotion of tested changes Yes. Trunk-based with tests. You lack automated tests, and yo…

r/DevOpscomment5/7/2025
Your tools and tips for better team alignement?

It’s a common challenge. It sounds like you might need a stronger structure for cross-functional communication. Try setting up clear documentation (like a shared roadmap), defining goals for each team…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
What’s one DevOps tool you tried but just didn’t click with?

Terraform! Specifically HCL logic. Don't get me wrong, I still use it, there isn't anything better... but on complex infrastructure with dependencies and conditional scaling is bad. I know, I know, I…

r/DevOpscomment5/7/2025
Is my $1,000 bookkeeping discount helping or hurting my business

This kind of discount is all in the positioning. There's not much information here about your typical engagement structure -- e.g. whether it's monthly, annual, how much it costs, whether you bill by…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search

This is super impressive! I relate to that frustration with fragmented UK property data soooo much. I'm actually working on automating my own property investing workflow (tho not nearly as sophisticat…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Is my $1,000 bookkeeping discount helping or hurting my business

Referral relationships are great. Find someone that is already working with your target customer and structure a referral relationship (commissions / referrals back / discounted services in exchange f…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/8/2025
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA

I literally felt the same, and so needed a second opinion. Here's what Claude Opus 4 had to say (after copy pasting it): Why does this reddit post feel like an ad? My spidy sense is tingling: Yo…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/29/2025
It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies.

I appreciate your perspective and the structure EFT brings. In my case, at least with my avoidant ex-wife (not EFT specifically, just therapy in general), she could do the work in-session: open up, …

r/attachment_theorycomment6/24/2025
Think I found a secure woman, and almost immediately self-sabotaged.

She's not that secure, you're telling yourself a story to fit a narrative. Secured is not only emotional attunement (although some in the therapy heavily emphasis that) it is also the ability to buil…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/1/2025
How to fix my own FA attachment (ideally without therapy)?

Was doing therapy with a probable FA in their 40s & was permissive with my schedule because they had financial concerns & single parent. Too permissive. They late cancelled on about 38%, said they…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/3/2025
In an avoidant-anxious friendship, how much space should I be giving before I reach out?

You always saw her as something more than a friend, it's just that now you need to realize it because she is out of your reach. Since she was always available before, you never bothered and was part o…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/9/2025
I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies.

It’s not really fair to bring someone innocent into the mess until it is demonstrably healed. Otherwise, it’s just using them as yet another crutch to justify prolonged weird behavior. We also have …

r/attachment_theorycomment7/30/2025
Women I’m dating is afraid I’ll lose interest when I learn who she really is. Seeking FA perspective.

Go slow, always offer space. And, difficult but, when it’s something out of proportion, or irrational, that’s not something to take personally. FA brain is always on hyper vigilant mode. And it’s no…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/15/2025
Women I’m dating is afraid I’ll lose interest when I learn who she really is. Seeking FA perspective.

Do not sleep with her before you have built the mental/emotional infrastructure & structure to consistency. I have screwed this up so many times it's embarrassing. If you truly want this to work for h…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/21/2025
4+ Months of LOB Practice

This is an interesting question, and if I understood you correctly you are asking if my subconcious belief/faith has risen? Well I have to preface this reply with one nuance. I discovered manifestin…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/3/2025
The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment.

Wow, you have done a significant amount of research. I am just now learning about these Avoidant Attachment Styles. I'm not real sure what my SO has, and I'm also not sure which attachment style I hav…

r/attachment_theorycomment9/8/2025
4+ Months of LOB Practice

Read Progressive Goal Structure for LOB mastery. Try starting with a smaller goal to build faith.

r/JosephMurphycomment9/8/2025
4+ Months of LOB Practice

What's the point of this comment? Did you even read my post or? Maybe delete your comment before you get banned when stating : >Read Progressive Goal Structure for LOB mastery. Try starting with a sm…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/8/2025
Mass produced emotional security/intelligence?

That's life! If the sugar isn't enough, I recommend the addition of ghost pepper sauce. re. a 'strong enough' government, what is your concept as to how a government that manages a capitalist politic…

r/attachment_theorycomment9/15/2025
Practicing acceptance while anxiously attached?

I hear you. I’ve also been there. Acceptance is tough because it feels like giving up, but it’s actually about shifting perspective. Friendships evolve, sometimes they deepen, sometimes they fade, an…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/24/2025
I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight

Structure helps, 'idle hands are the devils workshop's if you are focused on doing stuff you are less likely to think about being lonesome. Yes it's valid and okay to feel lonesome, you have to decid…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/27/2025
I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight

First of all, I just want to say, I really feel your pain in this. Healing isn’t linear, and even when you’ve made so much progress, nights like this can hit hard. The fact that you’ve gone almost a y…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/28/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

Thank you for the insightful response, yes I have met this person we had to transition to long distance actually but we plan to get married after college. In terms of realistic plans I plan to move to…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/26/2025
Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup.

Like, I get what you’re saying but coda is a structured recovery program with support and resources. It sounds like OP is very early in their healing journey so suggesting jumping to “making amends” w…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/5/2025
Do fearful avoidants "split" or "idealise" and then "devalue" when triggered? Or is it more likely to be a sign of something else? (Eg BPD/NPD?)

So… I have dated someone with DID before. Dissociative Identity Disorder. In these individuals, when anything even remotely stressful happens; they will quite literally turn into a different person. L…

r/attachment_theorycomment11/13/2025
How do i stop the cycle of freaking out when im away from my partner?

What’s actually happening (in plain language) Roughly, your system is doing this: 1. Distance = danger. When you don’t see him (or replies slow down), your body reads it as “I’m about to be abando…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/20/2025