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Eating with chopsticks

She didn't say anything in regards to the chopsticks but I could see it in her demeanor and eyes. The best way to describe it was her kind of flinching or being bothered by it. It wasn't a few times b…

r/AsianAmericancomment4/1/2026
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote)

How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…

r/startupspost5/6/2025
NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories.

NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…

r/experiencerspost3/13/2026
Curious about your experiences interacting with other Asian Americans

Curious about your experiences interacting with other Asian Americans — Happy Tuesday, hope everyone's having a good week so far. I'll preface by saying that I appreciate that this space exists, and I've found value in sanity checking some experiences with others (though…

r/AsianAmericanpost3/31/2026
My sister (36f) and I (28f)are fighting because she didn’t tell me that mom died and I really feel like she crossed a line. How do I fix this?

My sister (36f) and I (28f)are fighting because she didn’t tell me that mom died and I really feel like she crossed a line. How do I fix this? — TL;DR: my sister was told about my mom’s death, but intentionally withheld information from me. After I confronted her about it, she became mean and made unhinged and unsubstantiated claims about me, …

r/relationshipspost4/2/2026
My brain always keeps my lucid dreams limited and i hate it!!

My brain always keeps my lucid dreams limited and i hate it!! — **My third ever lucid dream (last night)** **Duration: 10 mins or more** The dream was that i wanted to get out of my house (I've never done that in LDs) and go explore and do cool stuff for once,…

r/LucidDreamingpost4/5/2026
I Can't Gatekeep This... This changed my life

I Can't Gatekeep This... This changed my life — Hi everyone, I just want to say this isn’t promo. I don’t post stuff like this, but this is one of those things I wish someone told me earlier. For years I’ve been lowkey obsessed with one question… …

r/Manifestationpost4/7/2026
Why "faking it until you make it" usually fails (and how to actually shift)

Why "faking it until you make it" usually fails (and how to actually shift) — Heyy everyone🥰 We’ve all heard the advice: "Just live in the end" or "Act as if it’s already yours." but let’s be reall it’s hard to feel like a millionaire or a beloved partner when your 3D reality…

r/Manifestationpost4/7/2026
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide — This post contains guides, FAQs and the fundamentals that are suitable for both beginners and experienced members. Explore the links, videos, Astral Projection stories from experienced community membe…

r/AstralProjectionpost5/2/2021
About, Wiki, Rules, Books, Etc-- Read First

About, Wiki, Rules, Books, Etc-- Read First — # Welcome to the energy work sub! The purpose of this community is to explore human energy in all of its facets. Out of body experiences, energy healing, energetic connections between people, psychic…

r/energy_workpost10/29/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Tysm for posting this compendium and summary. I can feel your sense of kindness and willingness to share with others when so many might gatekeep or be hostile. ❤️

r/AstralProjectioncomment6/22/2023
My arguments against manifestation

You’re not being rude. You just don’t understand. I won’t explain it either because I want to gatekeep it. Why does my sp come only when I want them to or work on myself? and leave exactly when I ha…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
What are the signs to spot a DA or FA in early talking stage?

You are also not going to have children with strangers, acquaintances, or even friends, and let those people potentially hurt you deeply + take half of your things when those relationship ends. You a…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/21/2025
How to fix my own FA attachment (ideally without therapy)?

Absolutely not. A good therapist will steer you out of your bullshit behaviour, an ai will just go 'yassss girlboss gaslight gatekeep' and make you believe it's everyone else who's the problem. Not be…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/30/2025
It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies.

Hmm. If you offer a relationship right off the bat without knowing the person, that typically is a red flag for women. There is no mystery, nothing to conquer.  Women are gatekeeper of sex, men are …

r/attachment_theorycomment6/15/2025
My DA bf broke up with me Saturday morning.

From the purely bystander's perspective, ie. the rational and adult brain perspective with 0 emotions involved, him telling you to "act normal" was yet another of his defense mechanisms. From the po…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/4/2025
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Feeling included? Transparency? He admits he handled things wrong in the past.. but hasn’t done much in regard to her and that situation. I understand he gets anxiety and like all of us has trauma and…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/4/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Yeah, I've had a male best friend for 20+ years at this point and there's absolutely no way we would even consider getting matching tattoos (although he does accompany me when I'm getting new piercing…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/5/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Omg yes thank you, that’s exactly how it felt when I read it. After some reflection it feels like he thinks he’s the gatekeeper of the relationship and I’ve been “applying” to a “job”. He told me he f…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/10/2026
How come everyone has a different view of what stoicism truly is?

A few of thoughts First, the original Stoics were writing and debating their theories over 2,000 years ago. Due to the vagueries of translation and the vastness of time between them and us, there are…

r/Stoicismcomment3/7/2026
I just need to rant, Y'all. I'm so angry!!!!

Jesus. So fucking evil. My ndad was the opposite while my mom was fighting cancer. He became the gatekeeper. He accused me of abandoning my mother from 2017 until she died in 2021. My brother and I bo…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/10/2026
Healing is noticing abuse in REAL time.

I really struggled at this phase in my healing. I felt I was seeing everything for what it was finally, but my nervous system would over-activate. I would also freeze. My biggest progress in this stag…

r/Codependencycomment3/10/2026
Does anyone else feel like this fixation on "trauma dumping" stinks of toxic positivity?

So far, sure. I honestly can’t think of something that would blow my mind. And I’m not saying that it’s not ever inconvenient. I’m saying that any inconvenience is worth it to me. (I don’t really kno…

r/CPTSDcomment3/11/2026
The day has come!

$600? More like the Gatekeeper tapes.

r/gatewaytapescomment3/11/2026
Ugh, I contacted the AP

I’m sorry you going through this, but there is no comfort in contacting the AP. He is morally deficient. Your wife is the gatekeeper and she let the wolf in, that is where you focus your efforts

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/11/2026
Rant about Asian American access to education in NYC

They don't understand how much much Asians **worship** education. Or how Asian parents had to sacrifice their earnings and our childhood so we can be miserable at Kumon and other prep schools. These…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/12/2026
I'm sick of the state of this subreddit

Nice post! But I should add... also the people coming in who are experts, that could offer some relief and "tap you out" and maybe take over some of the burden, for whom lucid dreaming has become a…

r/LucidDreamingcomment3/13/2026
Dating as an Asian Australian man

It's kind of a strange phenomenon with incels. It's a group where manhood is defined by sexual activity. On one hand, they are stifled by the more conservative understanding of masculinity yet they wa…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/13/2026
Asian erasure or something like that

"this situation is kind of weird" = gatekeeping?

r/AsianAmericancomment3/14/2026
Asian erasure or something like that

We really should start gatekeeping and getting more defensive like they are.

r/AsianAmericancomment3/14/2026
these antis omg

If you're stating fact, I just wanna know the source so I can do my own investigation. Or is it that you're gatekeeping so you're using projection? Atp I don't even want your source, its probably lace…

r/realityshiftingcomment3/14/2026
The horrific stories of abuse on this page make me feel ashamed of my CPTS.

I apologize but your comment reeks of a very tiny bit of gatekeeping. Again, I am not trying to confront or shame you but some of your choices in words such as 'watered down' and 'taking away from peo…

r/CPTSDcomment3/15/2026
All (That I Can Think Of) Asian Performers Currently Playing A Principal Role In a Broadway Musical!

Western media doing what it does best when it comes to casting Asians in any major roles: usually erasing Asian men in favor of mixed Asian men, and Asian women (including those who are mixed) rarely …

r/AsianAmericancomment3/15/2026
Had a shocking vision during a golden light meditation anyone else seen their 'future' family’?

He popularized the term. Thanks for sharing, but like I said, evolution is evolution. He's run more people form more backgrounds through the nonphysical exploration process than any yogi or even teams…

r/Meditationcomment3/19/2026
Please tell me this is intended to be a parody!

Her Instagram account doesn't have a blue check mark. Once again I'm worrying if this entire thing is some sort of social experiment to "prove" points for a certain side in our culture wars. I mean...…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/19/2026
Yellow fever is a result of purity culture

Is this some gatekeeping or what? Many people are attracted to women of other races.

r/AsianAmericancomment3/20/2026
What is 'not' meditation?

While not trying to gatekeep, this is a fair question. For instance Ive seen people describe their meditation practice as 'just zoning out and relaxing', 'sitting in a bath daydreaming', etc. While t…

r/Meditationcomment3/20/2026
You had an OBE, right?

I was taught by my spirit guides, so I'm not sure on what literature is out there. I'll tell you how I do it though, I'm not one to gatekeep useful information such as this. I tend to do this whil…

r/gatewaytapescomment3/20/2026
IF YOU ARE 30+ USING NC

I am in my late twenties and my ex is in her early 30s. We broke up on the 15th of February. After two weeks of being blocked, she reached out to meet, in the hopes of working things out. I thought sh…

r/BreakUpscomment3/20/2026
Had a shocking vision during a golden light meditation anyone else seen their 'future' family’?

The only historical fact I’ve got from you so far is he coined the term —combining binaural beats, breathwork, mantra, and yoga nidra, but invented nothing new. REBAL is just another aspect of the lig…

r/Meditationcomment3/20/2026
I'm so sick of laying in bed

You sitting down? Good ... There's a good chance you're neurodivergent. Try browsing the neurodivergent subs here... /autism, /adhd, /neurodivergent... (I personally like /evilautism over the /autism…

r/selfhelpcomment3/22/2026
I am dropping Loa

Yup. I really appreciate them also. Very authentic about wanting to help people, make real manifesting accessible, and get the truth out about manifesting without misinformation or gatekeeping content…

r/lawofattractioncomment3/23/2026
Spent money on clothes, grooming, and a Miami photoshoot for dating apps. Still getting weak matches. What am I missing?

You look like a momma's boy, through and through. Throw in the fact that you're a 'systems engineer' who never does cannabis, only drinks on 'special occasions' and don't have a pet (but would love on…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/23/2026
Schools Hire Asian Teachers at Half the Rate of Other Groups, Re.search Finds

It's not a coincidence. The white men who are gatekeepers favor Asian women more than Asian men. It's played out in social groups too. Majority white mixed gender social groups have multiples more A…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/24/2026
Has anybody encountered him before?

What you've met is known as a gatekeeper usually they serve as guides I have one of those cloaks myself not sure why but I do

r/experiencerscomment3/24/2026
Schools Hire Asian Teachers at Half the Rate of Other Groups, Re.search Finds

...I wasn't talking about Asian men giving Asian women a hard time online for not always dating Asian men. If my personal experience was that the non-Asian +1's of these ESEA women were overwhelmingly…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/25/2026
The extent to which people operate from the lower chakras boggles my mind

Food, clothes, shelter: we live in a matrix that gatekeeps these necessities, so most people are forced to spend a majority of their time concerned with these 'root chakra' issues. Most people also ha…

r/energy_workcomment3/26/2026
My boyfriend (M21) broke up with me (F21) because I won't have a baby

Whoa I thought woman are the gatekeepers of sex. I thought you stood up for the feminist movement. It is murder. If she had kept it for nine months like you said. It would have became a child. It…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/26/2026
My boyfriend (M21) broke up with me (F21) because I won't have a baby

But you didn’t answer my question, I thought women were the gatekeepers of sex.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/26/2026
Any Christian experiencers in here?

i'm not a christian but having an experience convinced me, previously a materialist atheist, that Christ really did exist, does that make sense? and then you look at all the gatekeepers of the UFO s…

r/experiencerscomment3/28/2026
How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish

Great share. I think it's also the parents job to gatekeep who their kids hang out with and to put in extra effort to ensure they grow up with other Asian kids. I think parents have ~14 years before t…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/28/2026
Why are koreans so class/status conscious?

It's actually wild to me that people think Europeans or Africans or Latin Americans ("mejorar la raza") aren't class-obsessed. Like it's just an Asian or Korean thing apparently. No, the reality is …

r/AsianAmericancomment3/29/2026
Breaking Through the Barrier

Yeah, that's one of the traditional ways of looking at it. For some people, it sure feels like a barrier. But, just like today where we get stuck in some meme and that filters our world view, people w…

r/energy_workcomment3/29/2026
Im having a hard time fitting in and understanding Chinese culture. Can someone help me understand it better. Cooking related

As another Chinese American, I was gonna say try connecting to other Chinese Americans if your family isn't giving you that connection, but it's sad to hear that other Chinese have dismissed you. Maki…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/30/2026
Human Plus (H-Plus) and Patterning

This is actually completely pointless to share if you're going to talk about how great this is but gatekeep where we can listen to it. It doesn't appear to be on the Hemisync app. So where can I spend…

r/gatewaytapescomment3/31/2026
Why Simu Liu keeps speaking out, no matter the cost

Love him! Been watching his excellent spy-thriller tv series, “The Copenhagen Test” (which just appeared on my Peacock App one day—saw no promo for it, or anything—was just like: “Um, damn. Why have…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/31/2026
Weekly Free-for-All Discussion Thread | March 29, 2026

SA women show strong in-group preference and don't statistically date outwards anyways. They don't have the same systemic imbalance in dating that E/SE Asians face so it doesn't make sense to group us…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/31/2026
I feel like the world wants you to die,when you are disabled/ chronically ill.

I agree. Become disabled/chronically ill & you are now subhuman. Gatekeepers in the medical industry & social programs are bullies with no empathy & are extremely abusive. Family & friends are dismiss…

r/CPTSDcomment3/31/2026
Why should one person do all the work?

because women are the relationship gatekeepers. they are the ones who have to be 'suaded. men don't have the plethora of inbox messages they do, that have to be filtered through. women have to be sele…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
Curious about your experiences interacting with other Asian Americans

I get why that would frustrate you. You went in expecting normal friendships, then found out later the values didn’t match. That feelslike wasted time and energy What you’re describing does happen. S…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/31/2026