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Curious about your experiences interacting with other Asian Americans

Hahaha ya, it's the identity assembly, which I can't relate to but to each their own xD With the Wasian example, to clarify, she was saying how he's not like the "basic" white guys that are the major…

r/AsianAmericancomment4/1/2026
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2

How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …

r/DevOpspost6/30/2023
START HERE !!!

START HERE !!! — # Step-by step short guide r/Sbreggo So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the…

r/gatewaytapespost1/19/2024
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means)

Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …

r/relationship_advicepost6/10/2024
Official r/realityshifting Discord

Official r/realityshifting Discord — ## Welcome to Shifting Help! ### The official r/realityshifting subreddit's server! I made this server a while ago to serve the purpose to give the right information to shifters across the world !…

r/realityshiftingpost7/23/2024
Donation-Based: Visualization Meditation Workshop on Repairing Insecure Attachment: Sunday 13th of April

Donation-Based: Visualization Meditation Workshop on Repairing Insecure Attachment: Sunday 13th of April — The course will cover basic Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (IPF)/attachment repair. This course is good for people who want to learn about IPF/Attachment Repair. 9am to 1pm this Sunday 13th April on…

r/attachment_theorypost4/12/2025
Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is?

Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is? — How has this continued to be a thing, and how did this get approved internally? The Shopify Admin UI is a complete mess. It's genuinely hard to believe this shipped — and worse, that it's still the c…

r/web_designpost4/15/2025
I just proved that a crappy industry is literally pissing away money

I just proved that a crappy industry is literally pissing away money — I constantly preach about template fraud and those "pretty but useless" websites that don't deliver actual business results. This week, I decided to prove my point. I spotted a security product in th…

r/web_designpost4/16/2025
Need Guidance on Turning My Design Into a Functional Social Media Website

Need Guidance on Turning My Design Into a Functional Social Media Website — Hello everyone, I’ve been learning IT for the past few months, with the long-term goal of becoming a white-hat hacker. I also have a couple of years of experience in graphic design. However, when it …

r/web_designpost4/17/2025
Why do so many retail & shopping sites hide the item details/description?

Why do so many retail & shopping sites hide the item details/description? — I’ve noticed this on a number of sites, and I’m fairly certain it hasn’t always been this way. "Hide" is probably a strong word, but basically retailers making the details/description of a product a c…

r/web_designpost4/18/2025
What web builders would you recommend in 2025 for simple websites?

What web builders would you recommend in 2025 for simple websites? — **I**’m looking to build a few simple websites in and wanted to get recommendations on what the best web builders are at the moment. I’ve been working as a digital designer for over a decade but woul…

r/web_designpost4/21/2025
Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice

Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice — First Let me say: I have absolutely no eye for design. If it is more complex than a stick figure, I cant imagine it in my mind. However, I do know of already existing designs that I love and want to r…

r/web_designpost4/22/2025
How is the job market right now for jobs in web/product design, ui ux, front end development, etc?

How is the job market right now for jobs in web/product design, ui ux, front end development, etc? — Hi all, I work in digital marketing, but am getting burnt out and am trying to learn web design and build a portfolio. Long story short, what I enjoy most about my current job in digital marketing has…

r/web_designpost4/26/2025
Resources for learning basics of design

Resources for learning basics of design — hey hey! I'm a product manager who used to be a data scientist so I've got some experience inthe 'business' and 'science' corners of the product triangle but I'm keen to learn more about the design s…

r/web_designpost4/27/2025
Meta won’t let you control impressions, so I trained an RL model to do it

Meta won’t let you control impressions, so I trained an RL model to do it — One thing that always annoys me with Meta campaigns: you can’t just say “give me X impressions.” It’s all budget-based, and if you’re trying to hit specific visibility goals (like consistent daily del…

r/digital_marketingpost4/30/2025
The market is bad but employers really shouldn't do this

The market is bad but employers really shouldn't do this — Within 6 months of time frame I've experienced: - An employer who preferred to go for an offshore option for cheaper salary after showering me with compliments. - An employer that had 6 stage interv…

r/UXDesignpost4/30/2025
Why are WhatsApp IOS app icons so inconsistent?

Why are WhatsApp IOS app icons so inconsistent? — I was trying to change my profile picture on WhatsApp when I noticed the icons were inconsistent. 1. The avatar icon looks smaller than others. 2. Camera icon has thin stroke. 3. Choose Photo icon …

r/UXDesignpost4/30/2025
How do I hire someone to work the SEO part of launching my site?

How do I hire someone to work the SEO part of launching my site? — I'm a Realtor that knows enough PHP/Laravel/Wordpress to make a site. I know very, very little about SEO and most of what I've learned is simply thgrough Moz and that sort of thing. I really need to …

r/SEOpost5/1/2025
Need an advise for my website

Need an advise for my website — Hi there, I need your help because I’m struggling to get a higher ranking on Google for my website. I’m a Psychologist and Psychotherapist, and I have been working in a small city near Milan, Italy.si…

r/SEOpost5/1/2025
Identifying website visitors (companies) tool recommendations for a trade publication

Identifying website visitors (companies) tool recommendations for a trade publication — Hi guys! I have some potential freelance business for a trade publication in the design space (architecture, interiors, landscape, urban planning topics) and I was originally trying to pitch SEO, re…

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
Should I try to learn SEO or just hire someone?

Should I try to learn SEO or just hire someone? — My family just opened a small pet supplies business. I used to be into web design and tech stuff years ago so I was able to throw together a simple website. The thing is, I have no clue about SEO. I …

r/SEOpost5/2/2025
Looking for Educational Resources

Looking for Educational Resources — I have been getting into SEO recently and I consider myself a beginner. I have a basic understanding of keywords, and some front end SEO. Still working on backlinks. Where are your most recommended le…

r/SEOpost5/2/2025
how much coding should i learn

how much coding should i learn — hi im an aspiring ui ux designer and i saw that a lot of employers look for designer who has background or basic knowledge of html, css, js. but im not in IT/CS. i dont know about coding, sooo if i wo…

r/UXDesignpost5/2/2025
Pricing Doubt

Pricing Doubt — I am a web developer who has just ventured into freelancing. A client wants me to create an eLearning website with LMS, booking system integrated. Basically a dynamic website. I'm confused as to how…

r/web_designpost5/2/2025
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going

Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit)

Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…

r/web_designpost5/2/2025
I cannot figure out why Google Search Console keeps indicating "Couldn't fetch"

I cannot figure out why Google Search Console keeps indicating "Couldn't fetch" — I'm looking over a client's website and one of the things I found was their sitemap doesn't report being crawled since last September. I resubmitted the exact map that was crawled (happens to be plura…

r/SEOpost5/2/2025
[EU] Can't get suppliers as a new small business

[EU] Can't get suppliers as a new small business — Every decent supplier I've contacted basically says "we don't care about your small shit business", only ones willing to sell are some small companies that sell random junk and surplus nobody wants to…

r/ecommercepost5/2/2025
Is Eye-Tracking Worth It for UX Testing? Looking for Real Experiences

Is Eye-Tracking Worth It for UX Testing? Looking for Real Experiences — Has anyone here actually used eye-tracking for UX testing? Is it worth the investment, or does it not really offer much over basic user testing? Curious about real-world experiences with it!

r/UXDesignpost5/3/2025
Can someone explain to me why my competitor is ranking second on Google when the homepage is just the shop with no text and his menu has the shop and a contact us page?

Can someone explain to me why my competitor is ranking second on Google when the homepage is just the shop with no text and his menu has the shop and a contact us page? — I’ll DM links if that’s allowed and anyone would like to see both sites. I’m currently building out a site (it’s basically finishing just setting up payment gateways and adding product to the shop on…

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
How did you find working in Avada? Would you charge more?

How did you find working in Avada? Would you charge more? — Im creating a site audit for a potential client about some SEO work. The last agency he was with builty a pretty site that doesnt and hasnt shown up anywhere in 4 years its been live. Were going to…

r/SEOpost5/3/2025
How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience..

How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience.. — Context:- I am a 31 year old UX designer with a masters degree in industrial design from one of the top design schools here in India. I have almost 6 years of experience on the paper of which I hav…

r/UXDesignpost5/3/2025
Should I redirect the sales?

Should I redirect the sales? — This is not a rant/rave about my e-commerce journey as I expected a lot of turmoil and for e-commerce to not be all it was cracked up to be. This is actually witnessed by the shhear number of people …

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
Is it a good idea to start an India-based agency offering social media services (graphic design, video editing, creative work) exclusively for foreign clients due to better dollar parity?

Is it a good idea to start an India-based agency offering social media services (graphic design, video editing, creative work) exclusively for foreign clients due to better dollar parity? — I’ve been thinking of starting a social media service agency based in India, focusing only on international clients (especially from the US/UK). The idea is to offer services like graphic designing, v…

r/digital_marketingpost5/3/2025
Cobbler/Chef Educational Resources

Cobbler/Chef Educational Resources — I’m a network engineer by day and part time lab assistant to earn a few extra bucks in the evening. They are wanting in the next 90 days to get me spun up on assisting with tickets as the physical lif…

r/DevOpspost5/3/2025
What are the skills needed to manage a Shopify Plus account?

What are the skills needed to manage a Shopify Plus account? — Some background: I've been a web designer/developer for 25 years. Spent 13 years as Senior Web Developer for a medium size corporation that manufactured consumer electronics, primarily working in the …

r/Shopifypost5/3/2025
Behavioral psychology ruined most UX tips for me (in a good way).

Behavioral psychology ruined most UX tips for me (in a good way). — I used to follow every UX “rule” simplify, reduce clicks, make it obvious. Then I started reading more psychology, and things flipped. Stuff like loss aversion, commitment bias, and the labor illus…

r/UXDesignpost5/3/2025
New to SEO and Trying to save my local business

New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…

r/SEOpost5/3/2025
How much do I charge?

How much do I charge? — I’ll start by saying I’m freshly out of college (I took marketing). I know basic Seo and don’t mind learning as I go as this will be my first big project. I have an opportunity to work with a local …

r/SEOpost5/3/2025
How to know you have PMF with hard tech? I will not promote

How to know you have PMF with hard tech? I will not promote — Hey, I’m in hard tech, AA battery space to be exact. Basically a better rechargeable battery for short but how do you guys know if people really want your tech? Especially at a hard tech level. Have…

r/startupspost5/3/2025
I’m looking for recommendations on a good Front-End course/certificate. Ideally for UX designers

I’m looking for recommendations on a good Front-End course/certificate. Ideally for UX designers — I’m looking for an easy to follow, front end coding course that will teach me the basics on building a single page prototype. I’ve seen some job postings for UX designers asking them to use code to …

r/UXDesignpost5/4/2025
Tons of email spam on new site. Any fixes?

Tons of email spam on new site. Any fixes? — Hey everyone. So basically I've just moved the ecommerce content of my squarespace site to a shopify store. Really impressed overall with the versatility of the designer and loading times (holy s…

r/Shopifypost5/4/2025
Should I leave my 9-5 job in a finance company for a job in an early stage startup (I will not promote)

Should I leave my 9-5 job in a finance company for a job in an early stage startup (I will not promote) — I am an engineering student who has a degree in Computer science and engineering (Data Science) with an honours in Quantative Finance. I have been a part of 3 startups mainly in the social and influ…

r/startupspost5/4/2025
SEO Basics Done But Not Ranking

SEO Basics Done But Not Ranking — I've been working on optimizing a page for a keyword with good search volume and low difficulty according to Keyword Planner, but it's nowhere in the top 100 results. I've done all the basics: * Met…

r/SEOpost5/4/2025
Developing your own app

Developing your own app — Hello! So I’m needing to hire a developer to create an app for my company, basically linking the two POS systems (one of them is Shopify of course) we use at the front desk with an API… Currently ther…

r/Shopifypost5/4/2025
Is there any app for this?

Is there any app for this? — Hello, basically I have a stock that sells shirts and there are a lot of orders with 3 and 6 shirts, all different, we have more and 1000+ shirts. Is there any way I can extract the orders just with…

r/Shopifypost5/4/2025
Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything)

Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything) — I've built a directory listing website and I'm using WP All Import plugin to pull in data from a spreadsheet (which consists of scraped business info from their Google Maps / GBP listings). Being tha…

r/SEOpost5/4/2025
Take the leap - The average business is really bad at doing business. (I will not promote)

Take the leap - The average business is really bad at doing business. (I will not promote) — The bar for doing business, in my opinion, has never been lower. The average business is barely capable of functioning. About 3 weeks ago I put out an request to multiple suppliers. I needed large qua…

r/startupspost5/4/2025
Getting into digital marketing

Getting into digital marketing — Hello everyone, I have some questions about how to build a proper portfolio for getting an entry level position in digital marketing. I graduated with a behavioral science degree and my first job is i…

r/digital_marketingpost5/4/2025
Things to do with my non technical cofounder "i will not promote"

Things to do with my non technical cofounder "i will not promote" — Hi all i will not promote So i have a startup / side business im working on, I bought a friend in as a cofounder as he's generally useful in going out making connections, someone to help with site …

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Please guide me in learning infrastructure automation

Please guide me in learning infrastructure automation — I currently manage a few servers running some ecommerce sites (WordPress) and some custom PHP based applications (Vanilla PHP, and Laravel) on DigitalOcean. My setup is pretty basic and consists of *…

r/DevOpspost5/5/2025
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

This will definitely help. I'd recommend the FILD method, it's pretty much the first (relatively) consistent method I've tried. Just remember that you can only do this after either waking up at a cert…

r/LucidDreamingcomment10/1/2017
Analyzing Astrology (Natal) Charts

These links were super helpful in getting a bit of the basics down! I’m still working my way through them. Thanks!

r/AstrologyChartSharecomment4/5/2018
If you are new here..

Yup its stupid, theres a whole set of sub skills that by the time u have those your basicly doing self hypnosis And refined directing your attention and using your imagination

r/JosephMurphycomment5/14/2020
If you are new here..

Oh God. Way to generalize people. This blanket statement and judgemental attitude shows that you have not even understood the principal basics of neither Nevilles nor Joseph's teachings. Really weird…

r/JosephMurphycomment5/22/2020
If you are new here..

> Oh God. Way to generalize people. This blanket statement and judgemental attitude shows that you have not even understood the principal basics of neither Nevilles nor Joseph's teachings. Oh ? And w…

r/JosephMurphycomment5/22/2020
If you are new here..

>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…

r/JosephMurphycomment5/31/2020
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Love the list of basic needs in the first question. I’ve never seen it put like that before, and have always questioned myself. Now I know for sure. This is great. Thank you.

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment6/26/2020
If you are new here..

Do you have a suggestion for how I can use this for appearance change? I have a basic idea what to do but your expert opinion would be helpful. For example, what specifically would you implement into …

r/JosephMurphycomment7/10/2020
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Glad it helped you in some way. I’ve felt like a whiny little wimp for getting PTSD from something that I saw as not a true threat to life. Babies and children absolutely register lack of affection…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment8/22/2020
If you are new here..

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/18/2020
If you are new here..

>About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought I’d always be broke. I even had to take a screenshot of my bank balance to remind myself of that amaz…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/18/2020
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Hi there - you may want to post this as a new thread (a toplevel post) or as a comment in the weekly check-in thread since not many people are going to see it here. I think basically all parents who …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment11/11/2020
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

So, if I'm asleep... I should just wake up like I usually do? But I don't know when is the right time. 😬 Cause I'm basically hearing myself snore. I don't hear sounds or anything flashing or vibratio…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/2/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

It just depends on what kind of beings you want to meet. Duality still exists in the Astral. Just like in physical life you can find good and bad teachers. And yes, dimensions above the Astral are gen…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/2/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Yes, so you will find many experienced Astral Projectors will agree that we all leave the body every night. In one sense, you could called both dreams and the Astral, the experience of Internal Worlds…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/3/2021
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Just wanted to say that my first lucid dream was successful with the "piano key" method. I forget the actual terminology but basically you wake up in the middle of your sleep (3-5 hours) and you're no…

r/LucidDreamingcomment12/17/2021
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

So... basically, I parented my parents... I knew this. Doesn't make it hurt any less.

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/14/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I once tried the exercise of keeping the mind awake and the body asleep. But at some point I just thought I fall asleep and get up from my bed and my body felt super heavy. I went to the kitchen of my…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/26/2022
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Hey, I am an overconfident twat that lacks any real creativity. I tend to just jump in on anything to feel included . Sometimes it's confusing cause I don't even understand what I'm trying to shit on.…

r/LucidDreamingcomment12/1/2022
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2

As DevOps engineers we should have the API-first mentality. By basically ruining the API, there should at least be some kind of signal.

r/DevOpscomment7/1/2023
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2

Sad how many people here basically don't give a shit about anything other than their lil dopamine hit. I shouldn't be shocked the guys that usually don't give a fuck about anything as long as there's …

r/DevOpscomment8/5/2023
About, Wiki, Rules, Books, Etc-- Read First

I'm glad to hear it helped! You're welcome lol. I found it really weird that nobody on this sub was talking about that book at all. (At least back then.) It seems to have basically everything you coul…

r/energy_workcomment10/11/2023
REMINDER: be kind to yourself. This is hard, and you’re handling it with grace and strength.

Your original post and all the replies and updates really do help me feel less alone, so thanks! I'm 2.5 months since she moved out, and I'm basically at where you were in your previous post. Which st…

r/Divorcecomment10/17/2023
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

I was literally just thinking the same thing, and wondering what I have been doing in respect to emotionally neglecting my daughter. And my answer is probably, and I'm fucked up too. I try my best, bu…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment1/11/2024
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means)

Really solid points and then there's space for legitimate concern regarding abusive relationships. Basically, the “Power & Control Wheel”, like instances of sexual harassment/ assault, emotional abuse…

r/relationship_advicecomment8/5/2024
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means)

Sad but true, i always like to play the safe route and ask probing questions to make the other person think about the scenario first then draw a conclusion after gathering more moral based information…

r/relationship_advicecomment10/26/2024
Question about Negative Statements "don't, not etc" and mild contradictions in POSM

From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…

r/JosephMurphycomment10/31/2024
Multiple dreams/goal at the time

Another thing that you can do is umbrella affirmations. They are more general: something like: my life is amazing, i am living my best live. everything in my life is perfect. Basically they imply tha…

r/JosephMurphycomment11/12/2024
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

I really hate it when people try to make money out of people's low self esteem. Instead of helping someone grow, you basically tell them they have to fit some mold and have to perform some role to win…

r/ExNoContactcomment1/11/2025
My arguments against manifestation

Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/27/2025
My arguments against manifestation

Then why does MC recommend NC during SP missions? Because, many times, that is the appropriate conventional action, at that moment. Either because they are increasingly fearful of you, or unfairly ho…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/31/2025
My arguments against manifestation

>She’s the one that started it. What are you, 2 years old ? You don't put forth circular arguments in proper debates about anything, ever. That is corrupt and basically lazy. > >As of 2025, there …

r/JosephMurphycomment1/31/2025
My arguments against manifestation

>If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, L…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/10/2025
My arguments against manifestation

>So the formula that always works is: Getting to know yourself well + analyzing and understanding where your issues come from + realizing your weaknesses and what you need to change in your life + sta…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/10/2025
Victim Blaming will not be tolerated

What is the consensus on telling someone they have a victim mentality? I feel like that is an instant tell that someone is an abuser. It could be true, but coming from almost anyone but a therapist - …

r/Codependencycomment3/19/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

Avoidants might seem less irritating, but they have far less chance of ever being happy. They don’t want to change. They think their partner having basic needs is “needy.” They blame the anxious partn…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/23/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

You think you don't owe your partner, someone who's entered into a loving partnership with you, anything? That you can just walk away from that righteously, whenever? Sounds like a paltry, wispy comm…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/24/2025
How to heal avoidant attachment?

I didn’t like the book attached bc he basically denigrates avoidants & says the only way forward is to be jn relationships w secure people- which js statistically not possible & ignores the vast treas…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/28/2025
Reading interest in text

I suppose it’s very subjective. Even tho I’m wired anxious in romantic relationships, I catch and correct myself. I figured this out in my 20s when I began dating. At minimum, basic self-awareness a…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
The "and" theory...

It's a theory, as that'd what it is. It may work for some, it may not for others. Its essentially a basic CBT method to help you break a loop of rumination and understand you can have 2 opposing thou…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
The "and" theory...

It's a theory, as that'd what it is. It may work for some, it may not for others. Its essentially a basic CBT method to help you break a loop of rumination and understand you can have 2 opposing thou…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
Confused about affirmations

Read the fucking manual. I.e. the index posts, the "if you are new here" post, posm, etc, and you won't have to ask such pedantic questions. Banned 3 months for your laziness in not following the rul…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/6/2025
Does attachment style start to shift after cutting out toxic family members?

Oh yeah, totally. It’s like once you let yourself see the dysfunction, you can’t unsee it. And you can’t imagine falling for it ever again. Or even bothering to figure it out. I went through a simila…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/9/2025
Does attachment style start to shift after cutting out toxic family members?

My experience is that cutting off a toxic family member enabled me to heal my attachment style. It basically let me put healthier, more secure communication and connection strategies into practice bec…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/10/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

I don’t know, everyone is saying “you’re imaging it” but this has happened to me. Only once, but it has happened, and I would say im secure. Someone definitely flipped to “hating” me and refused to di…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided

I'm so sorry, this sounds so hard. If you can, I think it would be amazing to focus on yourself right now and what you need. My long distance boyfriend dumped me out of the blue after one disagreement…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/20/2025
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided

The distance didn’t make it harder in my opinion. At the beginning of a relationship you’re getting to know the other person. Thats incredibly easy to do with texting, calls, video chats etc.  We cou…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/20/2025
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided

I've been in this exact situation when I was an FA in a LDR with another FA in another country. And our f2f time was very little like yours but we spoke daily, intensely and talked and had plans. I kn…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/20/2025
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided

Thank you so much for this. I am really hurting. Yes, he messaged me On Sunday evening my time saying “Hey baby!! I’m back, I’m so sorry for not being able to communicate.. I know it’s been a little…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/22/2025
Haha being an FA is fucking weird

I think it’s because for most fearful avoidance were not actually in the connection state when we like someone we’re in fighter flight and that’s what feels like love to us because we are used to our …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/23/2025