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My (21F) boyfriend (26M) met my parents and it didn’t go well. I want a strangers opinion on the situation?

> And if that person is willing to put in the work with a professional therapist, they can be helped. I think "willing" is the key word here. I'm mostly a lurker here, but I feel like I see "go to t…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
Anybody stuck with a life of blue collar type jobs?

Anybody stuck with a life of blue collar type jobs? — The gist of it is that in the last year or so i was heavily affected by mental symptoms and mental health. Now, im currently on medications that dampen brain activity and basically make me dumb, to wh…

r/AsianMasculinitypost3/25/2026
Unknown amount of fresh mushrooms

Unknown amount of fresh mushrooms — I had a grow bag that was failing pretty badly… the pins quickly turned to aborts and the mycelium started to pigment badly. I figured “fuck if I might as well harvest what I can and hope for the be…

r/Psychonautpost3/31/2026
Ndad is forcing me to do heavy labor knowing I’m chronically ill

Ndad is forcing me to do heavy labor knowing I’m chronically ill — I have been stuck with my parents for the past year and I’m finally getting out in a month or so to live with my partner. I have POTS, scoliosis, migraines, and hypermobility in several joints. Yes I …

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/6/2026
I 22F WANT TO CALL HIM 70M DAD, BUT HOW?

I 22F WANT TO CALL HIM 70M DAD, BUT HOW? — I want to call him dad. This one's pretty wholesome guys. Just looking for advice om how to broach this subject. I 22F lost my dad 6 years ago. My mom has never dated anyone else. not that my sibli…

r/relationship_advicepost4/6/2026
I feel for everyone on here.

I feel for everyone on here. — I’ve been in an a relationship for last 9 years. I’ve read everyone stories infrequently as a reminder of how hard all this is and how hard life can be. Tomorrow will be day 1 NC for me. I found out…

r/ExNoContactpost4/8/2026
Do I really have to create a job for myself in order to feel safe?

Do I really have to create a job for myself in order to feel safe? — I can’t stand the idea of having to get abused at yet another job. The exploitation never stops when you’re vulnerable. I could name 50+ instances where I’ve been witness to or experienced inappropria…

r/CPTSDpost4/8/2026
My (43F) fiancee (41M) is a man of few words. What advice do you have to make this work?

My (43F) fiancee (41M) is a man of few words. What advice do you have to make this work? — My (43F) fiancee (41M) is a blue collar man of few words. He is a typical, hardworking blue collar man. I am a c suite executive in a completely different field. I tend to be introverted until I am co…

r/relationship_advicepost4/9/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 25, 2026

Since my last post about [diving into the world of matchmaking](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/s/g7AeBUgP7X), a few people have reached out privately to ask questions and for updates and I …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/25/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 25, 2026

Might be worth asking the matchmaker why she selected this match. As for coming from different backgrounds, I suspect that might be a common occurrence for you with matchmaking. Matchmaking is usual…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/25/2026
Dressing To Impress For Dates (And Everyday Life)

the last date I had was spontaneous. I hadn't done laundry in weeks, I had a half hour to get ready, I wasn't prepared. I had a hard time deciding what to wear, I had a couple 'pretty' shirts.. I ende…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/6/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 06, 2026

I think you're conflating very high earners with FIRE, which is probably totally valid in some scenarios. In my case I barely make low six figures and live frugally.   I'm my experience so far the f…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/6/2026
Some men have questionable hygiene and it has made dating even more challenging than it already is.

I do not believe in being super focused on it. I've worked blue collar jobs, and I also work in IT. I do skip a shower and take it the next morning or whatever. However, If were on a date, in a rela…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/15/2026
Have we reached a tipping point with generational trauma?

Absolutely. Trauma is also passed down genetically... getting compounded and lasting multiple generations. Very few people in my family of immigrants/ blue collar workers are well and fully functiona…

r/CPTSDcomment3/16/2026
My girlfriend tells long, detailed work stories every day after I get home exhausted. 25M-23F, 6 months.

Please. White collar workers generally have absolutely no clue what blue collar life is like, both in terms of the work itself, and the lives they lead around that work. No clue. They live in two dif…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/17/2026
My girlfriend tells long, detailed work stories every day after I get home exhausted. 25M-23F, 6 months.

I've worked blue collar, retail, and white collar(public sector). The thing about office jobs is that shit doesn't just stop at the end of your shift, and it can be mentally exhausting in a way that …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/17/2026
"Men Can't Be Men Anymore"

I believe it's much less about rights and more about purpose. Traditional blue collar jobs were often hard but they offered a path and a certain dignity for men - you'd get a job and support your fami…

r/Stoicismcomment3/23/2026
Seattle man who killed pregnant asian woman and shot her husband found NOT guilty due to mental illness

I find that the more Americanized people I’ve seen (like born/raised in America) mostly either find English speaking corporate jobs in HK Singapore or even Japan, or kind of retire/nomad around in Tha…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/23/2026
Why MAGA 2.0 Hates Legal Immigration Too

Look, I work in tech too. I find the cry of “dey turk err jerbs” equally unconvincing whether it comes from blue collar or white collar workers. Probably less so for white collar workers since, my god…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/24/2026
Anybody stuck with a life of blue collar type jobs?

There’s nothing wrong with blue collar jobs. My godbrother has one (technically a gray collar since he owns the vehicle repair company but also does the hands-on work) that he co-owns with his brother…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/26/2026
What Standards to Reduce?

Number 6 isn’t one of mine, and I like blue collar men and don’t care about formal education at this age. I know millionaire electricians and contractors and plumbers, and my own college degrees were …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/26/2026
What Standards to Reduce?

The ONLY one I would say be flexible on is comparable education. There are many people who are intelligent, articulate, and can have deep conversations who may only have a HS diploma. I also learned t…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
Anybody stuck with a life of blue collar type jobs?

There are some very well paying blue collar jobs and you can more easily start and scale these types of businesses since they don't require as much investment

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/27/2026
What Standards to Reduce?

I have a GED and work a blue collar job. I've dated many women with graduate degrees. It's never been an issue for me.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
What Standards to Reduce?

Everything is bare minimum except for comparable education. It should be, comparable intelligence. I've met guys with phd's who were boring af and other high education guys who left me wondering how t…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
My GF (22F) told her parents about my (24M) secret financial situation

I hate this for you. I deal with this on a blue collar level, make enough dough that it gets people’s attention and they show you a side of them that just isn’t like them. It’s extremely sad. With mon…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/27/2026
What Standards to Reduce?

Nah, its not uncommon for working class guys to feel some kinda way about a female partner with more education. Im firmly blue collar, first gen holder of a bachelor's degree, and prefer to date blue …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
Anybody stuck with a life of blue collar type jobs?

Blue collar work as an Asian man might not provide you the same type of lifestyle you see other Asian guys have, but what it does for your physical nature and character will set you apart from many ot…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/27/2026
What Standards to Reduce?

I wish you didn’t have to change your wants at all. It’s a very reasonable list. But I would say you might be surprised if you step away from set expectations for education. I have a PhD and I’m happi…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
Anybody stuck with a life of blue collar type jobs?

Blue collar jobs pay well and, depending on the trade, require a certain level of intelligence/problem solving. I can say for certain, I no longer struggle for an independent life.

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/28/2026
Anyone else feel like they need to move to find a person to date?

🙋‍♀️ I'm in a trust fund baby college town. Blue collar women who are rough around the edges don't have a lot of non non hobosexual options here. 

r/datingoverfortycomment3/29/2026
What is the highest-paying Job for an average person with no education, experience, skills or intelligence ?

You will always meet dummies in every sector. It doesn’t take away the fact most blue collar workers are analytically intelligent. Most people entering the field require understanding geometry and tri…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/29/2026
My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this?

Hm this reminds me of a weird funny moment I don’t like to think about: I had an ex who at the time was the biggest I went for, I always went towards skinny men and like I grew up and realized bigger…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Anybody stuck with a life of blue collar type jobs?

If the blue collar job has a work environment that fits your personality, I know you'll overlook it being blue collar and will love it.

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/1/2026
My theory on why Chinese restaurants have a bad/low end rep with most Americans (I’m not talking about Panda Express style takeout places)

i remember when i was in NYC for the US open a couple of years ago and getting my nails done by this fujianese girl, and she asked me where I was from and I said Vancouver. She said then I must be ric…

r/AsianAmericancomment4/2/2026
Moderate men matching with clearly liberal women?

They want to have sex with you because of your appearance and characteristics, and don’t care about you in any way shape or form, at all, not in the least. You unfortunately fit into several fetish ca…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/6/2026
Am I not doing enough?

You’d think he would. We even have Uncrustables on standby for crying out loud. He works in a blue collar field so he exerts himself 10 hrs a day and doesn’t seem to take into account that food fuels …

r/relationshipscomment4/8/2026
(F22) Seeking Advice on BF (M23) Who Is Potentially Ruining His Future

You’re both young , he’ll probably pull it together later in life . A lot of young blue collar men do, but that doesn’t mean you need to stick around for the shit fire. Leave him, build your life . An…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
I dread summer

I agree with you. I live in South Texas and the heat here gets so bad it never fails to depress me. It’s unbearably hot and as an empath and chronic worrier, it makes me think nonstop about global war…

r/CPTSDcomment4/9/2026
I dread summer

I tend to hate the summers too. A lot of traumatic things happened to me over the summer months. (I was also grounded unjustifiably through the entirety of summer when I was 17.) The initial onset of …

r/CPTSDcomment4/10/2026
If there was a “bring your spouse to work day” do you think couples would understand better? 38F and 37M

I doubt it. Perhaps for some people. Two thoughts: 1. I work from home. My girlfriend can see that sometimes I spend long (or late) hours troubleshooting urgent issues, but she has little to no unde…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
Has anyone actually recovered enough to function in society?

Yeah. I'm unmedicated, work full time and perform very well at my job. I've been in therapy twice per week for 20 years though. My job is very blue collar, so behaviors that wouldn't fly in most moder…

r/CPTSDcomment4/13/2026