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Poly person perspective here; Id recommend you send him to the poly and/or nonmonogamy subreddits The "i feel i missed out so we need to open our healthy relationship" downfall is a VERY popular tro…
Question about Negative Statements "don't, not etc" and mild contradictions in POSM — In the book Power of the Subconscious Mind the Doctor says that the subconscious mind does not understand/register negative statements. However later in the book he mentions examples of negative auto …
Confused about affirmations — Hey guys i am confused about self concept and beliefs. Like i am currently unemployed and want a remote job i have few beliefs like i dont have the right network connections I need to get skilled a lo…
Can vague desires manifest? — So I am not happy with my current job but I am not 100% sure of the job that I would like to do. So I always affirm that I am doing a job that I love and enjoy and I am earning a mind blowing salary. …
Suggestions are like Forex signals - doing the exact opposite is where the real money is — I was in a Discord channel with 90K+ designers and every time someone dropped their landing page or website, it felt like getting advice from someone selling Forex signals. Doing the opposite would a…
Bundle pricing and host suggestions — Sup y'all, I'll start by mentioning that I did read through the FAQs regarding pricing as a web developer. This post is regarding bundling and host selection. I recently worked with my brothe…
When does maximising space/reducing elements go too far? — I'm working on an eCommerce site at the moment, and when it comes to the product category pages, I've had some feedback from my senior to suggest that space needs to be used more efficiently. To name…
How to overcome lack of mobile experience? — I'm a mid-early senior product designer with over 5 years working on SaaS/Enterprise products. The issue is that they've all been for desktop. Quite a few roles i've been applying to have some need fo…
How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…
With AI becoming a boom for quite a long time, how can an SEO expert make use of it — Just wanna know like any AI courses that can help improve my work and make me sustainable in a job without it taking my role. Curious/anxious about it. Anyone has any suggestions?
What AI Assistant can I use to copy or clone a website? — Hey everyone! I’m looking for an AI tool or any easy method to help me copy or clone an existing website—mainly for learning purposes or to use as a template. I don’t have much experience with web dev…
Pricing Doubt — I am a web developer who has just ventured into freelancing. A client wants me to create an eLearning website with LMS, booking system integrated. Basically a dynamic website. I'm confused as to how…
Thoughts on asdf — I ran into this tool a few years back and didn't give it much thought (I ended using pyenv at that time) But now I am juggling a few projects that require different versions for different things. En…
Suggestions for affordable shipping for large unusual sized boxes and regular box that’s a bit heavy. — Im launching EV AirCare. We ship DIY Air Filter replacement kits for Teslas. It’s niche, with about 30% of Tesla drivers opting to DIY. I have all-in-one kits that aren’t available anywhere else. I’m …
ROAST my design before I end up in the streets — Hey everyone, I recently launched a small SaaS project and while I’m getting some traffic, the conversion rate is sooo low. I’m trying to figure out if the design is part of the problem — or the prob…
Thoughts on a platform that can give AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation (i will not promote) — **AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation** Hey r/startups, I’m exploring a product idea and would love to hear your thoughts. **The problem:** Many users land in product documenta…
Sitemap 404 error in Yoast — Hi everyone, I am stuck on this for 2 days. I am Getting 404 Not Found on my website sitemap, I have activated it on Yoast. Here is what I have done so far to fix this using youtube vidoes and Chatgpt…
Bank Account? - Ed Tech Startup (i will not promote) — Hi all! Question- we are in the early stages as an educational tech start up. We are in the process of incorporating, etc. We want to get a bank account. Any recommendations for what type of bank to …
Developing your own app — Hello! So I’m needing to hire a developer to create an app for my company, basically linking the two POS systems (one of them is Shopify of course) we use at the front desk with an API… Currently ther…
Any suggestions on the most worth-it UX AI certifications or programs? — After years of holding off on this, I’m finally in a decent place to look into the AI side of UX and am looking for deeply insightful, and valuable AI certifications or other tools that is more practi…
Anyone have suggestions for easy to use/affordable c-corp and banking tools for startups? i will not promote — I just came across every io and like the idea of super easy setup for my still very early stage startup. They also offer a free Delaware C-Corp set up for you, which is nice. They make some bold claim…
Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything) — I've built a directory listing website and I'm using WP All Import plugin to pull in data from a spreadsheet (which consists of scraped business info from their Google Maps / GBP listings). Being tha…
[Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread — # [Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread This is an experiment. We see there is a demand from the community to: * Find Co-Founders * Hiring / Seeking Jobs * Offering Your Skillse…
Etsy integration that allows products not listed on my Shopify store? — Hi all, I'm trying to get started with Etsy integration with my Shopify store... Would like some suggestions on which app to use. I've looked around myself and maybe I'm misunderstanding how this who…
Need technical help; streaming platform dev. I will not promote. — Hello I am looking for someone who can build a streaming site (many different users stream live to viewers). The specific niche and competitive angle can be discussed in more detail, but at the core …
Need technical help; streaming platform dev. I will not promote. — Hello I am looking for someone who can build a streaming site (many different users stream live to viewers). The specific niche and competitive angle can be discussed in more detail, but at the core …
I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs! — Hey everyone! I’ve been working on a VSCode extension called **Array Size Extension**, and I wanted to share it with you all to get some feedback or maybe help out others who run into the same proble…
Looking for theme suggestions for an online bookstore — I’m looking for themes that can help support the expansion of my store. At the moment, I’m using Dawn which has worked over the past 2 years. For context, I run an online bookstore. At the moment, I h…
Which tool gives the exact search volume of a keyword? — I'm checking keyword volume of few keywords using online tools. Each tool is showing different volume data. Which tool shows reliable search volume? Any suggestions are welcome. Thanks for your valua…
Payment Processing to use for my online storefront, USA — Located in the USA trying to add a payment processing on my *online* storefront. I can't use shopify payments, and I don't see stripe under the listing I signed up for "Airwallex" but just received…
Got a 3hr interview coming up. Tips/advice appreciated. — I got through the recruiter screening, a meeting with their main DevOps guy and CTO. I got notified that I'll be moving forward to the next round which is a 3 hour interview with other members of the …
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Brightedge for SEO. Please help. — I just got onboarded as a SEO professional for a company that uses Brightedge and frankly I'm a little overwhelmed and confused with the tool. I'm used to using SEMrush, but can't understand the sugge…
Grouping products for a gift box — Looking into creating a gift box. Would like to source from different suppliers and looking for a company that offers packaging and fright forwarding. Any suggestions are welcome Thanks
Attachment page with info — Hi, I've had a couple of basic Wordpress sites for about 15 years for my artwork using the Twenty Ten theme. I'd create a gallery, and on clicking the thumbnail, it would link to an attachment page wi…
iThomas.dk - New site don't get traction? — I launched my site on March 1st, but I’m still struggling to gain traction and would really appreciate a second pair of eyes. A quick check using site:ithomas.dk shows that most of my pages are index…
What Projects Should I Build That Actually Matter?New to the community plz help 😊 — Hey everyone, I’m relatively new to Reddit and just starting to get more involved in the dev community. I’ve been learning and working with the MERN stack, and now I want to move beyond tutorials and …
Business Idea — I'm thinking about selling airline tickets to people from different countries, comparing prices with mine. If mine is cheaper, they can buy from me. Currently, I'm having difficulty with marketing and…
Marketing Digest: Google tests new AI mode outside Labs along with more features, ChatGPT introduces shopping features with personalized product recommendations, Google confirms search signals used to train Gemini AI — Hey guys! A new week means a fresh batch of marketing insights. Google’s keeping us on our toes as usual, and AI is busy finding new ways to take over the digital space. Let’s read: **SERP features /…
Unique Field Guard For ACF — https://preview.redd.it/a99i8tsrl5ze1.png?width=2632&format=png&auto=webp&s=837f17d2a06d91e3e0a14803dbefe7e1c4f897aa Hey WP family! I recently built a plugin I’ve been working on that solves a headac…
Theme Suggestions- simple, visual oriented, for events/non-profit — Hello! I run a small nonprofit that produces low or no cost music shows for the community. Part of our mission is to be as supportive as possible to the creatives "on both sides of the stage"... So w…
Seeking a low-maintenance frontend/CMS stack for modernizing 10+ year old sites — Hi all, I’m looking for advice on a conservative, low-maintenance frontend and CMS stack for modernizing a couple of old but still functional client sites. **Background:** I’ve got two long-lived s…
MySQL Database Quota Reached - Clean database — Hey everyone, I’m currently hosting several websites on SiteGround’s GoGeek plan which comes with 40 GB of web space. Most of my websites use between 1–3 GB, with one around 5.3 GB. However, one of m…
Seeking WordPress Booking Plugin with Stripe Integration for Card Authorization Without Immediate Charge (no-show fee) — **TL;DR:** *Need a WordPress booking plugin that works with Stripe to: require credit card at booking, do €0 authorization, allow in-person payment, and charge 10% no-show fee later.* I'm currently…
Finally in Dev!! Your input would help — This journey as a non-technical founder has shaved years off my life, but fuck it - I am in Dev and ready for this next stage!! 😤 Any suggestions on what I should be looking out for while in develop…
Is there sometimes no hope? — Good afternoon, DevOps people of Reddit. I want to know if anyone else is feeling this. I have been brought on a project to help this company achieve DevOps practices. My main issue is that I am getti…
Need affordable tool to convert 200–400 images/day to WebP — **Need a simple image conversion tool for my website – suggestions?** I’m building a website where users can upload images to their profiles – around 10 images per user. I’m expecting 200–400 image u…
How do you promote kubernetes environments using ArgoCD? — I've watched a video by Anton Putra, [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=\_G\_RY5trQao](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_G_RY5trQao), on production grade setup with Argo. The video is great and I've l…
Product variants are not tracking properly in GA4 - Any Suggestions? — Hey all, I'm trying to analyze product variant performance in GA4, but they don’t seem to be showing up properly. I can track general product views, but not specific variants. Has anyone figured out …
Looking to Start Small Scale PCB Assembly/Manufacturing. Where Should I Begin? — Hi everyone, I’m planning to start small scale PCB manufacturing with a budget of $100k. I have experience testing circuits on breadboards and assembling Drone flight controllers and LoRaWAN systems,…
Yes, thanks for pointing that out. The babe has been updated. p.s. If you have any hot babe suggestions, pm the link and we'll get it posted.
Hi, I’ve been lurking for a couple weeks now and finished my first reading of POSM at this sub’s suggestion last weekend and The Feeling is the Secret not long after. The concept is completely underst…
Do you have a suggestion for how I can use this for appearance change? I have a basic idea what to do but your expert opinion would be helpful. For example, what specifically would you implement into …
Before you ban me, please understand that I’m not trying to argue with you, I was just pointing out that claiming people can’t think critically is not a wise move because it can easily be said of you…
>Before you ban me, please understand that I’m not trying to argue with you, I was just pointing out that claiming people can’t think critically is not a wise move because it can easily be said of yo…
This has most likely has been asked a couple of times, but how does one forcefully achieve sleep paralysis? The only time I successfully astral projected is when I had sleep paralysis and I simply tri…
Just joined this sub yesterday and this single post by a mod is making me question my choice. Calling people “losers”? Posting photos of “hot babes” in the sub index? What is this, high school mach…
Both of these also happens to me. Sometimes if I wake up in the middle of the night and I want to come back to the dream I was having, I give myself a quick suggestion to go back where I left and it h…
From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…
I am in a similar position to you OP. I've been seeing my fiancée for over 2 years. We live separately due to circumstances at her end, and we see each other roughly once a week, usually at weekends…
I feel you. I’ll give you my experience as a FA then suggestions. - I also transitioned from anxious to avoidant our the years. I was never full on AA but more anxious leaning FA as a child. Now I l…
Therapist will navigate with you your core wounds which will help you to identify your fears and patterns, learn healthy boundaries, learn about attachment in deeper and learn more about yourself, wor…
I will definitely check these out, thank you for the suggestion
It helped me to cut out some toxic family members. One of the elements that fed my anxious attachment was that I had low self esteem. I worked really hard to build that up, but it was difficult to m…
You have mention to many changes other than infrastructure automation. My suggestion would be to focus on automation without changing much of your stack. Once you have automated then focus on things y…
Maybe set up a lab and start studying the stuff you don't know well. That's my best suggestion because it's what works for me. I spend a lot of time inside and outside of work hours studying, both han…
Side note: If you have any suggestions of online communities or ideas that could relate, that'd be great too. I do extensive research before I post and only found 2 old threads on here that we're not …
Please note the following is my opinion only, YMMV. I like minio for homelab or developer use cases. When it comes to cost though, I'd argue that S3 is generally cheap enough for anything that is ei…
That's an inspiring mindset! I'm also a solo founder, and i am working on a student-focused idea. It's a mobile app that aggregates verified discounts (like Apple, Nike) and campus services (scholarsh…
This kind of discount is all in the positioning. There's not much information here about your typical engagement structure -- e.g. whether it's monthly, annual, how much it costs, whether you bill by…
So maybe the best strategy is to set some rules for dating. Here's some suggestions: Make it clear on the first date that dating for you is an exclusive engagement. While you are dating one person, y…
I have just learned about attachment Theory and believe my partner is avoidant( not sure if da or fa as still a bit confusing to me) I felt like my avoidant partner was putting me through test. At the…
Love this comment. I’ve found it to be so true. For a regular ex I was with for nearly a decade and we had a fairly normal/stable/secure attachment to each other, maybe a little bit dependent on each …
I love this post and appreciate your ferocity in protecting the community and all of us in it. We need to keep this a safe space for us. I receive the occasional DM but usually don't respond because …
You write beautifully. Do you have good book suggestions?
This issue with this is that all this stuff is a spectrum that has no real quantifiable way of measuring. You can be an avoidant with secure tendencies that is working on themselves and is getting be…
Your first suggestion of a form of mental dieting. You’re basically advising OP to replace a negative thought with another thought which is basically mental dieting and something that is ill advised o…
I've read it twice. Great book. Self Mastery through Conscious Autosuggestion by Emile Coue is great too. Murphy mentions him in POSM.
Are these conversations or fights? Idk how good these suggestions are, but maybe they're things to think about. Can you find other people to be your most vulnerable with? Do you check in during th…
Hmm I guess that I don't really get too much anxiety before or during the date. If anything I'm usually decently excited to meet the person. After the date though, the negative emotions are pretty ove…
Since everyone is giving you replies on the note deep aspects of this, I'll offer something about the app/texting usage. Just a suggestion but you could try not spending too much time texting. Pres…
He wasn’t always mean. There were times where he was kind and showed interest in my day, what I’m doing, and whatever else. Other times when there was minor conflict or I sensed him just being rude, I…
Hey, I'm in a similar situation, do you have some suggestion on what to do when those shut downs happen? We end up arguing on super stupid stuff, because of her, she doesn't want to recognize it and…
Yes, it is indeed 😅 I wouldn’t call it polite to breadcrumb someone when you’re not interested, the polite thing would be to actually say something. My guess is that he’s immature or avoidant, and ju…
TLDR: Anxious(22M) seeking advice during a break with an avoidant(21F) . I am an extremely anxious person due to cheating and abandonment in prior relationships. I never used to care as much about th…
Recently figured out I might have this style, any suggestions or advice that’d help me get better?
How do I survive getting broken up with when I’m so much in love? Hi! My bf (25M) just sort of ended things with me (22F). For back ground we have lived together for about a year and a half but have…
That's such a great suggestion! I need to get better at "pausing", but your question is a great tip! Absolutely saved.
I feel like there are multiple things going on here. You may need to separate them out so as to help you know how to help yourself. 1 - Have you always struggled with attachment issues? Does it show…
About a year ago, we got new seasonal hires at my job. One of them ended up being this woman. I usually chitchat with new hires if they have questions regarding the job and that’s about it. I would ch…
I’ll second what the other person has commented- that you gotta stick to your boundaries. Though I’m picking up on things that may be concerning here. I am not accusing anyone of anything, but are y…
Thank you for the suggestion!
Text of original post by u/TheOceanTheSun: Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/…
Ok great stuff. If anyone interested in a Europe time zone meeting could share in the comments what days/times might work for them. I'm currently thinking 7pm GMT Wednesday as a suggestion. But am ope…
thanks so much for this post and for that podcast suggestion! i've been looking for something like that.
I personally found IFS was a great way to work with my avoidance without triggering it too hard, so my personal suggestion would be to look for someone who does it. It also tends to be a modality used…
Yeah I feel like that is a common issue among anxiously attached people. My suggestion is start small by just being open and friendly with people. I have even made friends on Bumble BFF
ahh thank you i appreciate that :) i looked up schizoid personally disorder and it seems extremely different from what i experience, but i appreciate the suggestion!
Well I did it. I just ended up telling him and ripping the bandaid off. Didn’t work out like I hoped, but I’m okay with it. Just going to keep working on myself and enjoy life. Thank you for all the s…
Yeah, don’t write Love, Name if you haven’t said it yet. I like the other suggestion of signing it “XOXO, Name”