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Asian parents and haircuts.

I learned a lot reading about narcissism and narcissistic parents. My mother also controlled my hair while I was growing up and into my teens until I just plain refused to go to the salon with her. Ha…

r/AsianParentStoriescomment4/11/2026
My girlfriend [20F] has scrubbed all photos of me [21M] from her social media and her room. How do I handle her explanation?

The old standby advice for an ending relationship (or cheating or whatever) is "lawyer up, delete Facebook, hit the gym" or joking variations. I guess it's just being abbreviated to references to the…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/7/2026
My girlfriend [20F] has scrubbed all photos of me [21M] from her social media and her room. How do I handle her explanation?

Delete reddit, lawyer up, hit the gym. You're single now. Find another woman who'll respect you.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/8/2026
Where to go from here

Consider yourself lucky you aren’t married!! She’s showing you who she really is. Lawyer up and be the best dad you can be for the kids

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/10/2026
As an East Asian, I feel discriminated by colleagues

You can collect proof and have HR deal with it. If they don't, then you can go to the media and lawyer up. That way, you can collect enough of a payday to move out of that racist shithole and into a b…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/12/2026
As an East Asian, I feel discriminated by colleagues

So sorry to hear that. Some things I would do. 1) Get in the habit of documenting all your interactions with colleagues. Don't know exactly what you do at a medical setting when outcomes can be impa…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/12/2026
Update 3 months later

The kids aren't going anywhere internationally without a passport. If they have passports, get ahold of them. If they don't then get ahold of their birth certificates. And, of course, like other p…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/15/2026
Husband racking up credit card debt while we are divorcing

Lawyer up. You’re stuck with half depending on the state, unless you actually filed.

r/Divorcecomment3/15/2026
[Update] She [F25] withdrew consent after the act, how do I [M26] move on from this?

> I still have no idea whether that girl wants to take legal action or not, I don't really care anymore to be honest. That's the problem though, you can be forced into it, ironically. Consider findi…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
How to begin the “healing”

Sorry this is happening. Do not confront. If you are still in the same house, move out of the bedroom to another room or the couch, totally gray rock the shit out of her. Total iceman, no communicatio…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/16/2026
Married 9 years and just found out my wife has been cheating on me.

Lawyer up, find a hobby, and hit the gym. Don’t let her know you know anymore.

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/17/2026
I 34F woke up to a message about my 35M husband

Ok, show us the literature that recommends therapists immediately recommend clients to lawyer up and divorce? I suspect you can't because you just pulled this out of your ass and are speaking from you…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/17/2026
Ex-wife is adamantly opposed to me introducing anyone to the kids ever. Any advice?

What power does she have? What does she want a restraining order lol!! lawyer up if you have to!

r/Divorcecomment3/18/2026
Ex-wife is adamantly opposed to me introducing anyone to the kids ever. Any advice?

OP lawyer up, record everything she says (specially the menace/threat of doing your life hard or miserable) And tell her that she has no word in it like you had no word with how and when she introduc…

r/Divorcecomment3/18/2026
My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago

Honestly OP, the moment she started to f—k this guy, your marriage was over. On top of that she lied for years about it, even when you confronted her. You did everything a good husband should be doing…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/18/2026
Husband left for reasons I won’t know

100%. Hopefully the money isn’t already gone. Lawyer up ASAP.

r/Divorcecomment3/21/2026
My partner (f34) “quiet quit” our relationship and I (m37) need closure.

Who put the down payment on the house? If you did, lawyer up.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
Dead bedroom, found pregnancy tests

Your post indicates you're not married to this woman. Lawyer up to understand your custody rights and obligations. DNA the kids just to be sure. If this woman hasn't been screwing you for the past…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/24/2026
16 years together feels destroyed...

Lawyer up asap. Don't do or say anything before this step.

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/27/2026
New device at my husband car

I can promise you 99.9999999% he’s cheating. Whether emotionally or physically. Might be a coworker that had lunch together in the car- my best guess. So many APs are coworkers. My husband’s was. Bec…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/27/2026
I (32m) found out my partner (32f) cheated on me while she was away on holiday. She doesn’t know that I know. How do I navigate this?

Don't make a big splash. You know what you know. You don't need to have her admit it, and she won't feel guilty. What she did was deliberate. Lawyer up, just in case you need that where you live. (A …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
20 years of a "loving" marriage, then a 6-month double life. Seeking to understand this mindset from folks who have 'lived experience'

If you truly believe that your wife was in an EA after six months affair then my friend i would like to sell you an Inland. The only one who feels marriage is you only. TIME TO LAWYER UP AND EXPOSE HE…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/30/2026
How do I (35F) handle my soon-to-be-ex-husband (38M) asking me to change my name back?

Tell him for 50k you will do it. Write up a contract. With real property involved, I think you should lawyer up.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
How do I (35F) handle my soon-to-be-ex-husband (38M) asking me to change my name back?

That can work if neither party gets combative, sure. If he's going to make things difficult if you keep your name, then you're gonna want to lawyer up. Most areas have some sort of legal aid clinic …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
How do I (35F) handle my soon-to-be-ex-husband (38M) asking me to change my name back?

It became your name when you got married, he has no further say in what you do with it. Also, under no condition should you ever discuss the conditions of your separation with him directly again. Ge…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
r/Divorcecomment3/31/2026
How do I (35F) handle my soon-to-be-ex-husband (38M) asking me to change my name back?

Yep! Time to lawyer up. He will keep coming at her with one ridiculous demand after another without even filing for divorce. She should hurry up and find herself an attorney and then start the form…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
My husband(35M)wants me to quit job because I(36F)make more than him.I don’t know what to do?

Divorce him. Choose you and your child’s best interests. Lawyer up. He should be able to provide for himself and not request alimony. But just in case Have your lawyer get ex-husb to agree to alimony …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
The moment when everything clicked after the discard. Does this pattern strongly point to NPD?

To me, it isn't necessary anymore to label it. NPD? BPD? (POS? AH?) They'll never accept a diagnosis. The only label that matters to me is what I received: abuse. Narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/31/2026
Separated with spouse and now she is backing out on her agreement to pay the mortgage (Michigan)

Time to lawyer up the minute she threatens to use the kids against you.

r/Divorcecomment4/1/2026
My (M27) Best friend since High School (F26) told me she cheated after we got engaged

Lawyer up. Kick her to the curb. Rally friends and family and tell them the truth.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
Not everyone is able to leave a wayward

They do love a dogpile in this sub. Hell, half the commenters don’t even finish the OP before they head to the comments to cut’n’paste their last comment from a different post saying the exact same s…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/4/2026
My (M33) wife (F28) cannot accept that I dated a, on what she calls a "low class" woman (F30).

Probably only married you to milk you in the divorce. Try for an annulment and lawyer up.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
Money to fight?

Lawyer up bro and never remarry just date. My advice to him.

r/Divorcecomment4/5/2026
I think I need to leave my marriage

Hey, friend. You deserve peace, and in relationship you deserve to be cherished and respected. Echoing others here: Lawyer up, write her a letter to read while you are out of the house.

r/Divorcecomment4/5/2026
Is my partner cheating or am I crazy?

Well, you gotta lawyer up anyway. If she's a customer using felony-level drugs, you will need to show your non-involvement if the dealer (or her) get busted.

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/5/2026
Husband (28M) wants to cut off lifelong friend (28m) after he made AI porn of me (28F) How do we move forward?

Lawyer up. Your husband did you dirty. Is that how a man who respects you acts?? That soooo fucked up. And there was AI porn of his mother?? Id be done.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
What would be the best way for me (M38) to approach my wife (F37) of 10 years about separation and divorce?

Lawyer up before you do anything. Custody is going to be a battle and you'll need your ducks in a row.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
I went Low Contact with my parents and they contacted my work and lied about my whereabouts. What do I do?

Restraining order. But before you do that RECOGNIZE THEIR PRIMARY WEAPON. Gossip and character assassination. So you know they talk shit. Start doing the same but with truth bombs. Tell everyone ever…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/7/2026
22F/21M – BF still watching twerk videos after I’ve brought it up multiple times

Have you tried twerking for him? Maybe let him record it, or you record it yourself and send it to him? YouTube, tiktok, insta - all them sites are full of twerking tutorials.  I'm trying to put mys…

r/relationshipscomment4/8/2026
She did it by text

New job? She probably has a new guy on the hook. So it's bye bye husband. Best thing to do is lawyer up, gray rock and fight to protect yourself

r/Divorcecomment4/8/2026
Betrayal : side chick knew

Kick his ass to the curb. Don’t worry about her, she’s trash. He’s the one who needs to be your sole focus. He must pay, literally & figuratively. Lawyer up, my dear.

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/9/2026
Betrayal : side chick knew

Yeah, you can be mad at her, but just realize if it hadn't been her, it would've been someone else. You can't be mad at the whole world of potential APs. Lawyer up with a shark and take your WS to the…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/9/2026
I feel crazy, I need someone with a clear head.

Cheaters cheat and liars lie. This is who your wife is. She has made her choice repeatedly... and it isn't you and your family. You've learned the hard lesson that to a cheater, forgiveness is permiss…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/11/2026
Divorce after 9 years

Lawyer up with pro bono providers or just take a loan out and do minimum payments.. Thank you for your service.

r/Divorcecomment4/11/2026
Family drama between me 45F and my brother 46M after I was named executor of the estate

Lawyer up and counter sue. Fight back or he will never stop.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026
I just watched my wife get ready for her affair to pick her up

Lawyer ASAP, and you should be able to get a protective order given this conduct. Hole in the drywall and broken glass is abusive behavior and doing it in front of the kids is unacceptable, and a cour…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/12/2026