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“Your family misses you, I pray you find your way back”

It was very enraging when they tried to use religion to guilttrip and emotionally manipulate you. Like my mom decided that I was always less religious than her... despite the fact around the mom…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/6/2026
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

r/Wordpresspost5/13/2024
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading

Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…

r/JosephMurphypost12/31/2024
My arguments against manifestation

My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…

r/JosephMurphypost1/23/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs? — My (FA) therapist and I (lol) may have noticed a pattern with my partner (DA); after an increased amount of quality time together (compared to our usual 1+ times per week), or increased amount of mess…

r/attachment_theorypost3/18/2025
FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp

FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…

r/Anxietyhelppost3/25/2025
Share your startup - quarterly post

Share your startup - quarterly post — Share Your Startup - Q4 2023 [**r/startups**](https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/) **wants to hear what you're working on!** Tell us about your startup in a comment within this submission. Follow thi…

r/startupspost4/11/2025
Requesting feedback on a landing page design

Requesting feedback on a landing page design — Hey everyone, hope you're having a great weekend! I just finished designing a landing page for a pest control company and would like some feedback on it. Particularly the bottom section, starting fro…

r/web_designpost4/19/2025
web page concept

web page concept — heya, i just came on here to share an idea i have for a webpage, to people who know more about this stuff than i do lol. It's for hosting my art and creative works, sfw and nsfw, and the different pla…

r/web_designpost4/24/2025
Wanted to share a website I recently made for small business in Croatia

Wanted to share a website I recently made for small business in Croatia — I'm really happy how this one turned out. I both designed and coded it myself. Client told me I went above all of his expectations - but I'm wondering what do pros think? Link to the site if anyone …

r/web_designpost4/26/2025
Meta won’t let you control impressions, so I trained an RL model to do it

Meta won’t let you control impressions, so I trained an RL model to do it — One thing that always annoys me with Meta campaigns: you can’t just say “give me X impressions.” It’s all budget-based, and if you’re trying to hit specific visibility goals (like consistent daily del…

r/digital_marketingpost4/30/2025
How are unemployed designers managing financially right now?

How are unemployed designers managing financially right now? — I was laid off two months ago and have been in the job search grind since - applying, interviewing, and trying to stay hopeful. But I’ve also been feeling pretty stressed and anxious, especially as ti…

r/UXDesignpost4/30/2025
The algorithm doesn’t hate you

The algorithm doesn’t hate you — Started working with a TikTok shop client who thought they were ***shadowbanned*** and we reversed that in 60 days. Views were at less than 200 per video. Sales? Even worse. It dropped from 30k to be…

r/digital_marketingpost4/30/2025
Best SEO Practices for writing blogs

Best SEO Practices for writing blogs — Hello, I'm a copywriter, and I want to share some "best SEO practices to keep in mind when writing blogs" with the younger copywriters. Some I'm thinking about are: * Using the keyword in the header…

r/SEOpost4/30/2025
Google not indexing images from my site? Images don't show up in search results?

Google not indexing images from my site? Images don't show up in search results? — I submitted my website to Google months ago and they've successfully crawled it many times. For some reason it doesn't seem they are indexing any of the images on the site. My website is image heavy a…

r/SEOpost5/1/2025
Tired of UX advice accounts that never show their own work..

Tired of UX advice accounts that never show their own work.. — I’m a product designer and I post my work on Instagram and Linkedin. Lately, I’m getting tired of all the design accounts with thousands of followers that just post tips, rules, or “ do this, not that…

r/UXDesignpost5/1/2025
SEO and Digital Marketing IG accounts

SEO and Digital Marketing IG accounts — Hi everyone,​ I'm looking for Instagram accounts run by digital marketing agencies that not only offer services like SEO and content marketing but also focus on educating their audience, particularly…

r/digital_marketingpost5/1/2025
Is there a site that has components (with code) with animated cards? I'm an designer and I want to use cards that rotate in a circle so I can share it with my dev colleague, because we want to save time. Example of what I have in mind:

Is there a site that has components (with code) with animated cards? I'm an designer and I want to use cards that rotate in a circle so I can share it with my dev colleague, because we want to save time. Example of what I have in mind:

r/web_designpost5/1/2025
how much coding should i learn

how much coding should i learn — hi im an aspiring ui ux designer and i saw that a lot of employers look for designer who has background or basic knowledge of html, css, js. but im not in IT/CS. i dont know about coding, sooo if i wo…

r/UXDesignpost5/2/2025
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going

Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit)

Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…

r/web_designpost5/2/2025
Memcached Docker Images (as small as 124 KB!) – Feedback Wanted

Memcached Docker Images (as small as 124 KB!) – Feedback Wanted — I wanted to share a project I’ve been working on: a **suite of Docker images for Memcached 1.6.38** that I’ve stripped down to the bare minimum—optimized specifically for **containerized environments*…

r/DevOpspost5/2/2025
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote

My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…

r/startupspost5/2/2025
Dreaming of Full Time Freelance Consulting in SaaS B2B (I will not promote)

Dreaming of Full Time Freelance Consulting in SaaS B2B (I will not promote) — Hi r/startups, I’m in the process of developing a consulting service designed specifically for startups, from Pre-Seed all the way to Series B. The idea is to offer a practical, hands-on partner for …

r/startupspost5/3/2025
What’s been the most challenging part of your startup journey? I will not promote

What’s been the most challenging part of your startup journey? I will not promote — What’s been the most challenging part of your startup journey? Building something from scratch comes with its fair share of ups and downs. There are always unexpected hurdles, some that really stick …

r/startupspost5/3/2025
[I will not promote] i built a tool to help with affiliate outreach because i kept forgetting to follow up

[I will not promote] i built a tool to help with affiliate outreach because i kept forgetting to follow up — hey folks just wanted to share something i’ve been building on the side i’ve been trying to grow an affiliate program for a while but finding the right people is tough outreach feels like yellin…

r/startupspost5/3/2025
What is k8s in bare metal?

What is k8s in bare metal? — Newbie understanding: If I'm not mistaken, k8s in bare metal means deploying/managing a k8s cluster in a single-node server. Otherwords, control plane and node components are in a single server. Howe…

r/DevOpspost5/3/2025
Thoughts on an image sharing tool with link permissions? (i will not promote)

Thoughts on an image sharing tool with link permissions? (i will not promote) — **Looking for feedback: Tool for sharing images securely with permissioned domains (like DocSend, but mainly for images)** Hey r/startups, I’m working on validating an idea and would love your thoug…

r/startupspost5/3/2025
To all e-commerce store owners: What tool do you wish existed to make managing your store easier?

To all e-commerce store owners: What tool do you wish existed to make managing your store easier? — Hello to all e-commerce entrepreneurs! 👋 In the fast-paced world of digital commerce, we know there are many daily challenges — whether it's managing orders, handling customers, shipping, analyti…

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
[I will not promote] curious does affiliate marketing still work for early stage startups?

[I will not promote] curious does affiliate marketing still work for early stage startups? — hey folks just wanted to share something i’ve been building on the side i’ve been trying to grow an affiliate program for a while but finding the right people is tough outreach feels like yelling in…

r/startupspost5/3/2025
How Would You Approach Digital Marketing for a Premium Food Product Expanding Internationally?

How Would You Approach Digital Marketing for a Premium Food Product Expanding Internationally? — Hi everyone, I run digital efforts for my family’s pistachio butter business based in Gaziantep, Turkey — a region famous for producing world-class pistachios. We’ve been in business since 2007 and …

r/digital_marketingpost5/3/2025
Upwind's Cloud Security CNAPP. Is it viable?

Upwind's Cloud Security CNAPP. Is it viable? — Can anyone share their real-world experience implementing Upwind's "Runtime-Powered" Cloud Security Platform? The promise of using real-time runtime data (I think they use eBPF sensors?) to focus onl…

r/DevOpspost5/3/2025
Anyone have suggestions for easy to use/affordable c-corp and banking tools for startups? i will not promote

Anyone have suggestions for easy to use/affordable c-corp and banking tools for startups? i will not promote — I just came across every io and like the idea of super easy setup for my still very early stage startup. They also offer a free Delaware C-Corp set up for you, which is nice. They make some bold claim…

r/startupspost5/4/2025
Built a fast multi-host terminal log viewer with timeline histogram – looking for feedback

Built a fast multi-host terminal log viewer with timeline histogram – looking for feedback — Hey all – I’ve been working on Nerdlog: an open-source fast terminal-based log viewer loosely inspired by Graylog/Kibana, having a similar timeline histogram on top, but designed to be snappy, lightwe…

r/DevOpspost5/4/2025
Jobsites to lookout for as a Product Designer. Need help.

Jobsites to lookout for as a Product Designer. Need help. — I'm currently in the lookout for a job change and I would like to know if there are any specific sites/channels/spaces/groups to get a job alerts. I'm aware of fee and actively on top of it, but I cou…

r/UXDesignpost5/4/2025
Intercom “design challenge” (stay away)

Intercom “design challenge” (stay away) — Please don’t give them free work…. or charge them a consulting freee. https://www.linkedin.com/posts/thomas-rimmer-73903030_%F0%9D%97%AA%F0%9D%97%B2-%F0%9D%97%B7%F0%9D%98%82%F0%9D%98%80%F0%9D%98%8…

r/UXDesignpost5/4/2025
[Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread

[Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread — # [Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread This is an experiment. We see there is a demand from the community to: * Find Co-Founders * Hiring / Seeking Jobs * Offering Your Skillse…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote)

Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
How to Build a Site for Both Art and Ecommerce?

How to Build a Site for Both Art and Ecommerce? — Hi everyone, I’m a freelance graphic designer and currently have my portfolio site on Squarespace, which also includes a small e-commerce shop for art prints. I originally chose Squarespace because …

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs!

I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs! — Hey everyone! I’ve been working on a VSCode extension called **Array Size Extension**, and I wanted to share it with you all to get some feedback or maybe help out others who run into the same proble…

r/webdevpost5/5/2025
What are your favorite tools to share changelogs, roadmap & features feedback with users?

What are your favorite tools to share changelogs, roadmap & features feedback with users? — We’re a B2B SaaS platform starting with beta testers in our production environment. We’re looking to integrate a tool to facilitate communication with the users, including: * having visibility on the…

r/UXDesignpost5/5/2025
Does anyone here use Humanitec? Feedback wanted!

Does anyone here use Humanitec? Feedback wanted! — I’ve been looking into Humanitec and I’m curious to hear from people who are actually using it. * What use case(s) you’re solving with it? * How it's integrated into your workflows? * Any wins or cha…

r/DevOpspost5/5/2025
Marketing for startups (I will not promote)

Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure.  I have been involved in th…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Advertisement ROI before and after AI-generated answers.

Advertisement ROI before and after AI-generated answers. — Is there a case study or any article that discusses whether businesses that advertise (PPC) on search engines are still achieving the same or better ROI compared to before the advent of AI-generated a…

r/digital_marketingpost5/5/2025
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

r/ecommercepost5/5/2025
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
Good user interviews? [I will not promote]

Good user interviews? [I will not promote] — Hey r/startups, I've had some recent pain doing user interviews, and I'm wondering if it's something that can be fixed. Every tool I've looked at for help seems expensive, and tbh, pretty shit. I'd …

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Like a mentorship, but more low key

Like a mentorship, but more low key — Coffee Drips, Strategy Sips is a product that delivers daily steps of action to keep you and your digital business growing! ON SALE for $17 until tonight, back to $27 tomorrow. Private Telegram chat w…

r/digital_marketingpost5/5/2025
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

r/digital_marketingpost5/5/2025
Question on initial release of product/service (I will not promote)

Question on initial release of product/service (I will not promote) — I’ve been working on a web app for a while now as a solo developer, and I was wondering how any other founders here have gone about releasing their own apps for the first time. So far I’ve only shared…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Impressions dropped significantly. Can not figure out reason

Impressions dropped significantly. Can not figure out reason — I have very new site launched at start of feb. It is app content made available through site. When I launched my site I had almost 15k public pages ready as the content was from app now just available…

r/SEOpost5/6/2025
Analyzing Astrology (Natal) Charts

Okay, thanks. About all I know in regards to this it's that I'm a Leo. Lol the post that you shared this link to I had asked my mom what time I was born and she told me 10:58 p.m.. I just looked at m…

r/AstrologyChartSharecomment1/28/2018
If you are new here..

> Oh God. Way to generalize people. This blanket statement and judgemental attitude shows that you have not even understood the principal basics of neither Nevilles nor Joseph's teachings. Oh ? And w…

r/JosephMurphycomment5/22/2020
If you are new here..

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/18/2020
If you are new here..

I’ve read all Nevilles books several times over, but I’ll check out the lecture you’re referring to. About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/18/2020
If you are new here..

>About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought I’d always be broke. I even had to take a screenshot of my bank balance to remind myself of that amaz…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/18/2020
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Thanks for this. The 'element of conscious choice' bit is interesting. I see how earnest I am to teach and share now, but still see some elements of passivity that my parents had-- a permissiveness,…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment11/12/2020
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Check out [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/msprrk/this_multidimensional_model_by_jurgen_ziewe_shows/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb), [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralP…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/2/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

The point is to still go to sleep, if you're going for the direct method, exiting the body happens during the precise moment between wakefulness and sleep, [see this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralPr…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/5/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Okay, I'm making this my next project. Can someone who's an experienced AP share their coolest AP story? Did you go to another planet, move through time, or meet others on the astral plain? I really w…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/18/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I share experiences on my YouTube :) https://m.youtube.com/c/AstralDoorway

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/18/2021
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…

r/LucidDreamingcomment11/4/2021
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

The Guardian today [ps. I'm a totally lucid dreamer though can't choose what I dream, however every night is movie night and as graphic, in colour and sometimes I can change the dream by waking or sle…

r/LucidDreamingcomment11/14/2021
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

##This Is The Way Leaderboard **1.** `u/Mando_Bot` **500725** times. **2.** `u/Flat-Yogurtcloset293` **475777** times. **3.** `u/GMEshares` **70937** times. .. **411598.** `u/Benjadoo36` **1** …

r/ExNoContactcomment4/1/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

##This Is The Way Leaderboard **1.** `u/Mando_Bot` **501219** times. **2.** `u/Flat-Yogurtcloset293` **475777** times. **3.** `u/GMEshares` **70943** times. .. **467156.** `u/kam1goroshi` **1**…

r/ExNoContactcomment6/6/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

How do you go about NC when you share a 6 yr old child together and it’s a 50/50 arrangement? Every time I message her regarding our son, a flood of emotions come in from memories of our 8 year relati…

r/ExNoContactcomment6/10/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

I needed to read this right now. Do you have any links you could share me for me to read through for motivation please and thank you.

r/ExNoContactcomment7/20/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

It’s difficult when there is something you share with the person though, like children. You’re involved to some capacity and you can see how they are doing in all aspects of life - relationships, fina…

r/ExNoContactcomment10/12/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

In this case no contact would be sticking to logistics only. Be neutral and deadpan and polite. Don't share insights, emotions or vulnerabilities with this person who is essentially gone from you fore…

r/ExNoContactcomment2/22/2023
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I’ve had this pulling sensation happen to me before. It feels really scary tbh. So scary that you feel yourself gripping your bed so “it doesn’t take you.” “It” being this invisible force trying to li…

r/AstralProjectioncomment2/24/2023
Analyzing Astrology (Natal) Charts

Thank you. I am appreciate of any info you can share.

r/AstrologyChartSharecomment5/3/2023
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Tysm for posting this compendium and summary. I can feel your sense of kindness and willingness to share with others when so many might gatekeep or be hostile. ❤️

r/AstralProjectioncomment6/22/2023
If you are new here..

Yeah this guy has some bad beef with Neville and I find the hot babes thing kinda gross but hey, the mods on the NG subreddit are too damn slow at approving posts so here I am to share success stories…

r/JosephMurphycomment8/7/2023
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

What has been bouncing around in my head is “why does the parent do this? Why can they not just do the bare minimum?” which has made me contemplate if they have had their own share of abuse, or a ment…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment9/3/2023
REMINDER: be kind to yourself. This is hard, and you’re handling it with grace and strength.

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

r/Divorcecomment9/28/2023
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Thank you for sharing this 🙏 I have a follow up question if anyone could help answer. I've been trying to heal from this, and I want to be able to share my journey with friends and extended support n…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment10/19/2023
REMINDER: be kind to yourself. This is hard, and you’re handling it with grace and strength.

You have the right to your truth! And accountability is needed at times for you and for them. I think there is such a thing as loving through high expectations. Avoiding the hard truth of things means…

r/Divorcecomment12/13/2023
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

My ex broke up with me, I only sent him one message and link discussing ED. Stated "read it or don't". After that I muted all possible ways he'd contact. Had fair share of bitter tears and lost weight…

r/ExNoContactcomment12/14/2023
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Reading this now and all I can say is same, and you’re not alone. All I’ve ever wanted is for my parents to show some level of engagement and curiosity in my life. How am I doing? What interests me ri…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/5/2024
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

I'm glad this is here. I've been lucid dreaming for years since I was a kid and shared with my family who could also, but hadn't known other people know about and do it too to such a capacity that thi…

r/LucidDreamingcomment5/7/2024
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Glad someone shares the same technique as me 😂 that is wild

r/LucidDreamingcomment6/10/2024
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

People have many many proofs for themselves. If I’m gonna share my proofs to you, would you believe? Try to properly reprogram your subconscious, and see what happens. It literally does not know how n…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/22/2025
A reminder to think about what you’re posting.

Yeah I've seen a lot of increase in those posts too. I don't think is the subreddit to tell everyone else that NC led you to get back with your ex, first of all is giving everybody false hopes or unre…

r/ExNoContactcomment1/24/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

I'm FA and I identify with this. I value my alone time, and generally speaking, consider myself an introvert. A recharge period is definitely necessary, not just after a social interaction but at the …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/18/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

This is 100% a pattern for avoidant attachers. It’s referenced as the “vulnerability hangover” in our own spaces. It’s almost like taking an ice bath. You can do it for a while, like 10-20 minutes, an…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/18/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

>I have had conversations with my partner over time about attachment styles, and they eventually determined that the descriptions of Avoidant Attachment sounds awfully familiar to them. They have star…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/19/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

I disagree with comments saying it’s a “vulnerability hangover” bc that implies they shared too much too soon in a way that crosses their own boundaries. This just sounds like recharging their social …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/20/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

Yes, I do this myself and see this happen with the guy I'm dating as well. I think it's triggered by positive feelings/increased connection or vulnerability. For me, when we get closer, or when he tel…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/20/2025
How to heal avoidant attachment?

The only thing I would really recommend is learning about internal family systems. That kind of work *can* be done on its own but I did the majority of mine with a therapist. The book “No Bad Parts” b…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/22/2025
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe?

Usually most people are a little bit chill and collected in the first few weeks of meeting each other. There are no global standards or benchmarks, but if you’re looking for general guidance maybe som…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/31/2025
Reading interest in text

I shared a little different perspective based on the experience. This is just me and how I would feel. She engaged, asked a question. I responded and asked a question and she read it immediately. I kn…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/3/2025
Reading interest in text

I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
Does attachment style start to shift after cutting out toxic family members?

Yes. I was with a dismissive avoidant and I divorced him, and then my older sister is a DA as well and I have been regaining my voice after I left my ex. So I have set very limited time to talk to my …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/10/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

It’s unhealthy to project or “mind read”. I think there’s a bit of this going on in your post. It may feel (to you) they hate you, because rejection feels bad. It’s not a good feeling to an ego or o…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

I agree with this. Even fearful avoidant men that lean a little more anxious will still put the lion's share of the emotional labor onto the women even if they tend to be slightly more vulnerable wi…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/19/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

My man, I feel that deeply, as a FA myself, who seems to exclusively date other FA or avoidants. You need to start here, TheLoveChat Youtube: https://youtu.be/H8yRnR3iYA8?feature=shared - this man h…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/20/2025
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided

Hi there, i know it's only been a day, but are there any updates? Reading this, i feel a pit in my stomach for you and hope that he's just busy. It's almost like getting the news that someone you love…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/21/2025
my mind knows I’m trying to “trick” it

There is obviously some way in which this happens. If there wasn't, it wouldn't be possible to write a book called POSM and to have it work for untalented beginners for generations. If you read the i…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/24/2025
Haha being an FA is fucking weird

ok so i typed up a hypothetical example haha let's say i have a coworker/acquaintance who seems like they'd have a lot in common with me, but we don't know each other well. i want to become closer to…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/24/2025
What hurts a DA?

Living through this right now. Was dating a DA last year and I really liked her, but she would put me down and be generally disrespectful at times. She would often say things that minimized our relati…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/25/2025
Helping my partner

I don't know your situation, but it reminded me of my own, so I'll share in case it might be relevant. (Also: I'm sorry you had to go through that-- that sounds horrible. There's no excuse for that ki…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/25/2025