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I have to agree. Trauma is not nearly so well-understood as you might think based on hearing "experts" talk about it. I can't remember where but I have heard Gabor Mate say that he hasn't healed his o…

START HERE !!! — # Step-by step short guide r/Sbreggo So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the…

Bundle pricing and host suggestions — Sup y'all, I'll start by mentioning that I did read through the FAQs regarding pricing as a web developer. This post is regarding bundling and host selection. I recently worked with my brothe…

Lessons Learned from Recreating a Styled Dialog

Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice — First Let me say: I have absolutely no eye for design. If it is more complex than a stick figure, I cant imagine it in my mind. However, I do know of already existing designs that I love and want to r…

Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team — Hi everyone - quick background: I'm a freelance web designer/developer who's been doing this thing now for almost 15 years. I've done it under a studio name, but it's always just been me, with some oc…

What parts of digital marketing are most valuable to learn in 2025? — I'm gonna begin learning digital marketing (as I'm already doing non-digital marketing) but I don't feel like (and don't have enough time & energy to) learning all kinds of it, I mean for instance SEO…

Meta won’t let you control impressions, so I trained an RL model to do it — One thing that always annoys me with Meta campaigns: you can’t just say “give me X impressions.” It’s all budget-based, and if you’re trying to hit specific visibility goals (like consistent daily del…

Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…

I learned SEO on Reddit, now learning LLIMO anyone else? — I gathered a lot of my SEO knowledge right here on Reddit,and now I’m starting to get into LLIMO (Large Language Model Optimization).It seems like a really exciting shift,anyone else diving into this?…

How do I hire someone to work the SEO part of launching my site? — I'm a Realtor that knows enough PHP/Laravel/Wordpress to make a site. I know very, very little about SEO and most of what I've learned is simply thgrough Moz and that sort of thing. I really need to …

What to Say When You’re Not the Cheapest Option (And Someone Pushes Back on Price) — I will not promote. This is a best practice I've found in my own works.So, you’re having a great conversation with a potential client and then you get hit with that line: “I know someone who can do it…

Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…

Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…

Don't get distracted by lack of experience (I will not promote) — You know the biggest myth people buy into? That you need experience to succeed. It’s a trap - a story we tell ourselves to stay comfortable. Don’t get me wrong, experience is nice, but it’s not the…

New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…

Bootstrapped Turkish Food Brand Exploring Global B2B Expansion – I will not promote — Hey everyone, I help manage a family-run pistachio butter business based in Gaziantep, Turkey — a city known for producing world-class pistachios. Since 2007, we’ve been selling a premium, all-natur…

SEO vets - what actually works for ranking nowadays? — Hey, So I’ve been diving into SEO for a bit now — took a dozen free courses (Semrush, Hubspot), read some articles by people like Brian Dean, etc. Thought I was starting to get the hang of it. But a…

Getting into digital marketing — Hello everyone, I have some questions about how to build a proper portfolio for getting an entry level position in digital marketing. I graduated with a behavioral science degree and my first job is i…

Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote) — **Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups** These are a few things I have come to learn while doing "startups," maybe it will help some entrepreneurs in their startup travels.…

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

Is this normal? CSS — I was taught there are three main styling approaches: CSS Modules, CSS-in-JS, and utility frameworks like Tailwind. I also learned that it's important to write clean, organized styles with good class …

We Fired a Developer But Not Because He Was Bad, But Because He Wasn't Right. Only 2 Legit Reasons to Fire Anyone. (i will not promote) — After building a small team and running a startup for a while, We’ve come to a hard conclusion: There are only two legitimate reasons to fire someone. 1. They are not the right fit for the company.…

If you are new to online stores, does having someone to guide you make things easier? — Has anyone here started an online store and learned everything while running it? I went through this myself. From domain and hosting to product listings and shipping, everything felt new and a little…

A Modest Proposal — A Manifesto for Metrics-First Everything — Picture it: Q1 FY 2025. A Medicaid patient opens an app to request mental health services. The screen is sleek—gradient buttons, playful microinteractions, and conversion-optimized flows. A calm anima…

Finding Like Minded Business People — **TL/DR :**  Looking for people who are stuck with unsure with what business they want to pursue and end up learning a little bit about all of them; that want to partner up to stay focused with each …

SOC maturity tool for small teams — assess detection, IR, and automation readiness — We struggled to get a clear read on how mature our SOC really was — especially with a lean team and cloud-first stack. So we put together a free tool to assess: * Logging & telemetry coverage * Aler…

I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …

Americans working in majority Indian workplaces. What do you need to know to succeed? — I’ve been working at my company for a year or so and it’s been great. I’ve learned a lot of new tech as well as practice old tech (Django). My team is also quite strong and I can’t really complain. I…

Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …

What I learned building a quoting system for a construction company doing $10M+ a year — I recently finished a project for a construction company doing roughly $10M per year. They were quoting jobs using Excel and email threads, and while it technically worked, it was slow, error-prone, a…

Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…

Think I found a secure woman, and almost immediately self-sabotaged. — In my social club, there’s a woman who had consistently shown signs that she was into me. I was direct and asked her out. She said she was interested but couldn’t date for a few months because her j…

Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …

This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

Reflections of my healing journey (avoidant) — I’m grateful I decided to work on myself I still consider myself a constant work in progress (I’m neurodivergent,communication and misunderstanding has always been an issue) I used a lot of self h…

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

Thank you — I'm in one of the healthiest relationships I've ever been in, and this subreddit—along with my therapist—has helped me in a big way. I still get triggered, but I'm better at self-soothing and have lea…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

I’m still a magnet to guys who need help. (I stopped rescuing). — I used to be more anxious-ambivalent/codependent and enmeshed from family + an ex-friend. I’ve learned in CBT to separate someone else’s problems/emotions and my own to not become codependent again. (…

Recovering DA trying to reconnect with FA wife — For context: * I (40M) am a DA, my wife (41F) an FA. We have three children. * Together for 17 years, married for 13 years, distant/no-touch for over 10 years but stable and no deep conflicts. * Cont…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

Rushing to know if I’m long term compatible with someone — The past two years I’ve done a lot of internal work on myself regarding my attachment and codependency issues. I feel that I lean more secure than ever. I recently started seeing someone, I’ve known t…

I did it!! I did the hard thing!!! Even though they were a good person, even though I knew they cared, our relationship was hurting me, despite my best attempts at healing myself. At the end of the day, an asymmetrical dynamic hurts. After 2 years of hoping and hurting, I chose myself. — I have been in anxious-avoidant dynamics before, but this was the first relationship where there were genuinely...*good* things about my the person I was seeing. They were emotionally intelligent, had…

Curious about “episodic engagement” — anyone relate? — Hi everyone, I recently learned about this idea called “Episodic Engagement” in avoidant attachment, and it blew my mind. I discovered this after running some thoughts by ChatGPT, and this is the gis…

feeling numb in dating but longing for intimacy — For the past few years, I've been mostly numb in dating. I don’t really feel anything romantic. I don’t feel sparks. I don’t feel excited about anyone or attached. I don’t miss people when I’m not wit…

a song about longing for something that never was - disorganized attachment style edition (cathartic release) — Lyrics: I’m standing at a wishing well, One coin trembling in my hand, A promise pressed against my palm, A truth I barely understand. They told me I was unworthy, Long before I learned my name,…

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

Coaches — So,we all know the scam of RAIN I wanted to talk about this other girl ‘Amara innerpower’who keeps posting in various Ng groups on Facebook. Beware of this one too and never ever pay any coach for mon…

Help me understand what happened here after around 2 months of dating and talking with someone I knew from 7 years ago — Hey all, I need some perspective on this to help me process. I'm 33M. I met this girl (30F) about 7 years ago when we were both working at a bar. We always got on really well and hooked up one ni…

Well. I've learned something new today. I had no idea. I've always known when I'm dreaming. Always. I've always known it's my dream, I've always had control. On the rare occasion I haven't contr…

Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…

You mention both JM & NG learning from Abdullah. Is there any material direct from Abdullah? Lectures, written? Been doing various searches for this since first learned of. Not found anything.

Already familiar with these concepts, but I enjoyed reading this. It is succinct. Reading your descriptions of learned helplessness, trauma, complex trauma and addiction made me cry too, from identify…

The very first paragraph really struck me. I haven’t learned how to copy text here yet since I’m new to Reddit. But “Non-intrusive and engaged curiosity from parents about what you were feeling and ex…

Thank you so much for this, it’s cathartic to see the traits childhood emotional neglect can cause. I always just thought well this is how I am like I was just made this way, and seeing them as result…

Hmmmmm you know I recently only learned the word astral travelling but I have been doing it for years. I did have a question about folding space, is there anyone else here able to fold space in their …

This has most likely has been asked a couple of times, but how does one forcefully achieve sleep paralysis? The only time I successfully astral projected is when I had sleep paralysis and I simply tri…

Stunning introduction. I have been fooling around in astral spaces for years having learned as a teenager. I'm thrilled to discover a whole community, nay a library! This is really beautiful

This is so true!!!!!! Learned from a very difficult experience. The way is to drag yourself through the hurt and despair and rid them from your lives. They WILL COME BACK if they want to, but don’t ev…

Hey, I am an overconfident twat that lacks any real creativity. I tend to just jump in on anything to feel included . Sometimes it's confusing cause I don't even understand what I'm trying to shit on.…

One thing i have seen, but not learned fully yet. Is that relationships are extremely dynamic. A woman who hates you to death, who literally wants you see you dead. Or a woman who completely disrespec…

Respectfully, this is what happens when you only focus on material aspects and totally disregard the "spiritual woo woo." I'm not saying everyone ever needs to be enlightened, but there's a reason why…

I know this post is 6 months old, but I still want to say this. I truly feel that Robert Bruce's book, called "Energy Work", (funny how the title is the name of this sub?) should be required reading f…

Hello all, I am new to this site but I have been lucid dreaming since I was eight years old. I am now almost 66 years old. I had nightmares as a child. I decided that if I had a nightmare I would wak…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

I echo this about sitting in your uncomfortable feelings. Most of the time we want to rush out of those hard uncomfortable feelings but I learned that they are just feelings and emotions that can't hu…

I’ve learned the most about chakra systems from yoga teachers who have a more mystical focus in their practice!

What does that look like??? Find a new hobby. Anything. Try learning to knit. Learn to build robots. Take a class in 17th century blacksmithing. Join a woodworkers guild. Join an improve troupe. Volu…

Ive had female friends who can dettach and drop a guy as easy as theyre changing clothes and would always tell me to be like them so I dont get hurt, but the thing is I would rather be hurt than hurt …

Hello. I have been lucid dreaming since I was a young child too, though I am roughly a third of your age. I too learned very early on to wake myself up from nightmares. Recently I have been learning t…

At first there are signs, then with practice you just know. The signs vary from person to person can occur during a session and not occur during the next. So the only way to know is to do your researc…

It's very easy to debunk everything as a fluke, even if it comes knocking on your door. And beginners often succed in any bigger mission they set to as a first timer bc they have no expectations of it…

1. Daydreaming that makes you feel emotional isn’t what Murphy or Goddard are talking about. It is about feeling the reality of what you want to have happen now, that is the feeling. Emotions might co…

I say just get used to it. This is a breakup subreddit and in the early stages of grief it’s pretty much impossible to not ask those questions. I do believe no contact is a boundary that cannot be era…

Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…

Just found this sub and consider it a safe place. My mother is a narcisist and my father is just there. I suffer from complex-ptsd from emotional neglect, and verbal,emotional abuse. I just recently…

Any insecure attachment can be healed by learned self regulation/self soothing.

It is extremely difficult to *start* the healing process while in a relationship as you would be required to balance other factors (is the other party willing to work too? What is their level of healt…

Yes, that's precisely my message! And that's why I started treating myself for my issues so aggressively since my late teens (now mid/late 20s). I didn't want to keep passing on the cycle, and this go…

Irritating the ones you love, polysecure (because it deals with a lot of attachment education), women who love too much, polyvagal theory and exercises, legit anything to do with different therapies— …

Yes this is my default mode. I need calm after engagement. Relaxation after stimulation. To unwind / recharge. The best thing an AP person can do is realise that other attachment styles don't need to…

My best friend used to say he "couldn't imagine" not texting someone back quickly. Then, *in his own words,* he ""got a life"" and understood that, **yes,** people really can and do get that busy and …

Oh man, I am anxiously attached and I act a bit avoidant now in dating. It always shocks me! My therapist is my securely attached figure. When I have some internal issues going on, I actually imagin…

It’s unhealthy to project or “mind read”. I think there’s a bit of this going on in your post. It may feel (to you) they hate you, because rejection feels bad. It’s not a good feeling to an ego or o…

I don't think it's hate, it's just a 'ok that's done now' door close moved on. Heidi Priebe on YT (video: avoidant blindspot) talks about the idea in her videos about avoidant behavior of having the …

Thank you, I have learned a lot from your comments here, and I agree the index answers so many questions that I genuinely get confused how people ask questions that are answered in the index.

The distance didn’t make it harder in my opinion. At the beginning of a relationship you’re getting to know the other person. Thats incredibly easy to do with texting, calls, video chats etc.  We cou…

I feel more tense and anxious, as my feelings grow. I use to self-sabotage by limiting how much I contact them. Every time I initiate contact I have to work up the courage. I'm afraid to text becaus…

I think the attachment styles in place work well. I know it was studied exhaustively on thousands of children in the 70s/80s/90s and had there been more definitive styles we would have caught them bac…

I think it comes down to when those comments are brought up. If someone is assessing you this way without a conflict thats really cruel. I feel on reddit it appears only in connection with a breakup …

Not a good metric. It's used by middle managers to justify their existence (my opinion), as it's as useful as counting github commit lines. Or bugs found and squashed. Additional process limits pro…

I was diagnosed three years ago with ADHD. My wife, who is a psychotherapist, speculated for a long time and then gave me an assessment, which was then confirmed with a psychiatrist. But I've been run…

Reaching $300k in profit usually doesn’t happen overnight, but here's how I got there: I started with a side hustle while working full-time. Having a steady paycheck allowed me to take risks without …

I’ve worked myself into the hospital several times. I learned my lesson.

I too, am a solo founder and I learned to build apps with no code like a champ. There really is no excuse nowdays with AI. I just built a Deep Work timer with Lovable and Supabase, and I have three mo…

For me, it’s been about building a personal brand and a company brand as two distinct things. They’re obviously connected with shared values and vision, but they serve different purposes My personal …

Man, this post hits SO hard. Running a business is absolutely brutal, and I think we need more honesty about the real toll it takes on founders. I've gone through some of these exact same experiences…

Setting boundaries is not easy technically you should have learned boundaries as a child. Therefore you are certainly neglected. That's a pretty difficult thing to deal with.

I'm more FA but have definitely been in this situation when going on holidays. In my case I mainly needed space due to chronic illness, so I usually try my best to explain it to people politely - but …