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Thank you, and I'm sorry you're going through your experience. You're spot on about what you think I've read quite a bit on it. I wanted to know what I was up against. Basically, they are jealous of …
Parents spending all of their inheritance — This might come off as entitled, but essentially our family has always been relatively poor. About 5 years ago, a relative died and left my parents and their siblings $5m each. The relative had save…
My cop husband cheated and now I can't trust him when he leaves for night shift. — My husband became a cop in 2024 and our entire relationship changed. We've been together since 2019 and we have three kids. Before this, I truly believed he was loyal and strong. He always told me he…
Girlfriend(26F) of 3 months slapped me(32M) in the balls for a third time — I (32M) previously explained to my girlfriend (26F) the immense pain that being slapped in the testes caused a man. We've been dating for about 3 months. The first time she said it was an accident a…
“ he never harmed me” good to know my suffering meant so little to you — My ex husband left me for the mistress 6 years ago. It was hell. I am still to this day dealing with the trauma of having the person you trusted and loved so much just pull the rug from under your li…
Wrong again but did I do the right thing ? — Ugh...I was dating someone the last few months. Things were going well including physical aspects. For context I'm 44f he 51m. I planned a trip away with my best friend months ago. I'm starting a new…
I flew across the country alone at 19, and they followed me. — Hi everyone. I'm unsure of who will remember of my two or so posts detailing my potential escape and plans to have an emergency move from Alabama to California, but I did it! This was my first time f…
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
Do Narcs abruptly hang up on you over the phone? — My girlfriend has snapped over the phone 3 times this week and hung up on me without ever giving a reason afterwards or apologizing, usually the conversations are very confusing and I don't know why s…
I just had my first lucid dream (i think) and this was CRAZYYY — i've never tried to lucid dream, but i "woke up" in my living room, everything felt real, like even every little object was in place. what took me off was that I apparently had a boyfriend living with…
Relationship with a narcissist — Soooo… crazy story you might wanna get some popcorn! I met my ex boyfriend around 5 years ago. We met on Tinder! We went on several dates and really started liking each other but something about his …
Fiancé ended our 12 year relationship after meeting a new guy — Caitlyn, I'm sorry, and I miss you and still love you. I can't function. I can't sleep. I don't know what to do, and I don't know how much of this was me, and how much of this was him. Everyone has to…
A friend tried to reach me for a kiss during a bad trip at 300mcg acid — I recently posted about my trip and got to understand more about why things happened. So I think I should also post this scene. When he was having a bad trip i sat beside him and the first thing he h…
Close Friend Unicorn hunted my girlfriend while we were still together. I wish I wasn't worried about her. — The guy encouraged me to date her. Was my confidant during the talking stage and told me he wanted the best for me. Meanwhile he set himself up as emotional support for her and started slowly pursuing…
Need help — I am struggling right now. I have been separated from my ex for six weeks and I am pretty sure she is with another man tonight. She asked me to hang out. With the kids tonight so she could go have …
Cat is safe and healthy ❤️ — I cannot believe it. I’m still freaking out. One of my cats has had health issues all his life, and long story short, one of the ways he acts out is by eating stuff he shouldn’t. He has already had e…
Maybe I envy the love my T has for her children — I told my T that my mother used to spank me, hit my face, hit my mouth, give me the silence treatment, etc. Every time we talk about this it is very hard to me since I am just now starting to leave a …
Found my 19M boyfriend texting other girls 18F — I found my boyfriend of ten months texting another girl yesterday and don’t know how I really feel. KEEP IN MIND I HAD A MISCARRIAGE A MONTH AGO For context my boyfriend’s phone has been broken fo…
I(30f) found vides of my bf(33m) recording a costumer at his job. — Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. A few months ago I found records on his phone that he took while he was at work, of female a customer without them knowing. I did confront him abou…
What to do now that I have reached a breaking point with my mom — I hope this isn’t super long but I made a prior post and was directed to this board and after reading a few posts I wanted to see what some of you did or what you would suggest doing.. idk where to st…
This hurts badly — I’ve been with this girl for a year now Since November 2024 till now April 2026 For a year Atleast half a year stuff we’re going decently a lot of trust issues from my part Insecurities , Overthinking…
My best friend kissed me on the lips, after my boyfriend had set clear boundaries on that specific topic. Now i broke his trust, how can I fix this? — TLDR My (19F) boyfriend (20M) went to a gathering at my best friend's house(20F). We went there knowing things would get a little out of hand, we bought alcohol, we have truth or dare games planned a…
Anyone else's parents threaten to just stop doing things? — No idea if this belongs in this subreddit but here we go. My mother has the habit of, whenever we have an argument (mainly about her religion and me not going to church), she'll talk about the sacr…
I (27F) feel stuck in a relationship with my (28M) husband because he doesn't want to move to my country after saying that he wanted to — **TL;DR:** Married quickly to get a green card, now resent my life in the US, have no intimacy with my partner, and am conflicted because I still have feelings for an ex. This is a lot, and I’ve neve…
I 24f have caught feelings for a friend while within a relationship of 5 years. — My bf 26m and I have been together for 5 years. As with most relationships we’ve had our ups and downs. But have mostly remained solid and have never been on a break or anything. Around 6 months ago, …
What should I do in this situation? Do you think he was aware or just clueless? — I wasn’t fully sure of how to title this because this whole situation is confusing me. I’m rewriting the intro because I posted this in the wrong Reddit. TW abuse (honestly up to interpretation if it …
Just idk my life i guess (really long) — i only post here because my therapist thinks i might have cptsd but im not very sure in that so i just post this here And i already posted it before but i felt it could go here too this will be chao…
My (M25) girlfriend (F25) of 6 months broke up with me, and got back on hinge the same day — This is going to be a long post, I just need to vent and get my thoughts down. I apologize if this comes off as rambling, I am so emotional right now so it might not be structured perfectly. My gir…
Mom uses her own trauma as justification — Won’t go into a whole backstory, but my mom just called me “disrespectful” (for no real reason, and it’s just not true). Then she said she would never talk to my lolo and lola the way I talk to her, a…
I caught my mom drinking before she was supposed to watch my son — When I caught her, she immediately tried to deny it. I could smell alcohol on her breath, and when I reached for her cup she refused to give it to me. I went to the liquor cabinet and hid the bottle b…
I need help, please read. — This is messily written because im really not ok. My first relationship. A year and a half from my first day of college. She wanted me from the second she saw me from a distance. She loved bombed me …
30F do I have a crush on my 33M brother in law?? — I’ve been married for 10 years now and have 1 beautiful baby girl. I’m very much in love with my husband but there’s been something on my mind for the past few years. Me and my husband’s younger broth…
Wow, that’s… I mean, that’s seriously sociopathic behaviour. I can’t even imagine how you felt. It’s such a mindfuck. I hope you kicked him out and never looked back. What a toxic piece of bovine excr…
I heard someone say that red flags should be renamed off-ramps. My partner is a gamer and would NEVER do this to me.
I appreciate all of the context that you added, but, like, does it *really* matter if he's avoidant or if he has a girlfriend? How did you feel when he pulled away the first time? How did you feel w…
What helps for me is realizing that the person I loved isn't who they pretended to be. It was all a mirage. I fell in love with someone who didn't really exist. She was fond of me, she respected me,…
Perhaps it's disingenuous to pretend to like feminist literature to score a date, but that seems a bit silly to apply to dancing. You never know if you might genuinely like it! And even if you don't, …
Haha for sure. And thank you that makes me feel a little better. I am 32 y/o male and have never had a GF or a date. It was pretty tough on my already lacking confidence to finally submit to the dati…
Because losing doesn't mean the same thing to them as it does you. It's often very short term and extremely short sighted. It doesn't make any sense because you would never do that. First husband ca…
The key to handling all of these is knowing that when someone says any of them to you, they’re GONE. Take that sign from the universe and remember how you’ve felt when you’re really over someone or no…
Do you know the answer this question. He just loves her so much that he knows she would never do this again.
You know what's funny? The more that I read into this and the more posts I see on here, the more I see that cheaters follow a pattern. The ego and the narcissism to think that we, the betrayed, are so…
"I’ve always stated that porn isn’t an issue. I’ve had past relationships where it definitely evolved into an issue, but as long as my partner is being open and honest abt watching it - then I couldn’…
Yeah I dated someone recently separated once thinking the circumstances were okay for us to date and taking his word for it that he had moved on and was ready. What a joke lol I hope you weren't with…
First, I’m really sorry to hear this and it’s strange how karma brings this stuff to your doorstep, isn’t it? Good that you’re getting therapy might recommend figuring out how to start envisioning yo…
I understand why you're upset, but when people say that they would never do something when they're 21 or 22 years old, take it with a grain of salt. As for destroying your marriage, she's the one des…
Indeed. I also recognize he made these choices himself and is quite shitty for them, so I’m not blind to his faults. I’m just choosing to accept him with his flaws… right now. BUT I know he is capable…
Once a cheater, always a cheater is bullshit. I cheated on teenage partners during relationships, but I would never do that shit now. People make mistakes and can learn from them. As we now know our…
Sounds like negging to me, but framed in a way that makes it hard to argue with, because it supposedly started with you (despite you not remembering saying it). "Oh ***I*** never said I could get a …
I was sad to see all the “Don’t do it” replies because this shit is dreamy and now I know that most men would never do this😭😂
> Surely this is a valid reason to not talk to her again? Yep. This is abuse. She's hurting you for fun. She's done it 3 times in 3 months. Something is wrong with her and it will come out in other …
if you’re in the early stages of grief, you’ll likely blame yourself, blame the AP, anyone but her because you love her. unfortunately, you need to come to terms with the fact that a person who loves …
You have to respect yourself and leave her. She victim blames you, causing further trauma. There’s people out there who would never do such a thing in their life. So sorry you went through that. Fuck …
>How could my brother who essentially treated my ex as his younger sister do this to me man. It's hard to wrap your head around something like this when you would never do anything like what your br…
Nope this is so normal, I found my ex's reddit account when they broke up with me the first time (we later got back together so I ignored the red flags) but I'm pretty sure they broke up with me for s…
(46M) 50/50 two kids B/G 14/10. Divorced 3 years. Currently coupled up now for 1.5 yrs to a (50F). I met her on bumble. I always say she sniper’d me. She had a hidden profile but where she could “like…
If i ever get involved with someone again, highly unlikely at this point, it's going to be mostly analog. These devices have made it way too easy for people to do things they would never do in person.…
Original copy of post by u/CooperWillAsk: Ugh...I was dating someone the last few months. Things were going well including physical aspects. For context I'm 44f he 51m. I planned a trip away with my…
I'm not going to paint an overly bad picture. The gold digger type women are not exactly common. They're definitely a loud minority. I want to clarify that gold digging is the extreme end of this. The…
They fully believe me and are on my side. Of course because my twin is their daughter they are trying to talk sense into her although it’s not working. They are not paying for the wedding or planning …
Just focus on you and your healing. Seriously. Allow your parents to shoulder whatever teachable moments or potential help she might need since she's in a relationship with a rapist. You're both very …
And that’s all you need to feel ok :) knowing that they’ll feel regret eventually because you would never do what they did after you’ve went through all this pain will finally be worth it
I don’t think having a screen saver *other* than your partner is an avoidant disconnect thing at all. I would never do that and hope to god no partner of mine does, that would feel obsessive. Those th…
I was known as the kid with super strict parents who would do a lot of punishment for nothing. So around preteen age other kids would ask me, “then, what would your parents do if you did xyz? Mine wou…
Your chart ruler (Aquarius) is fixed. Not a sign known for “letting go”. Capricorn and Virgo are both kinda serious (especially Capricorn) where they take themselves very seriously. Scorpio is also …
As a T, I would never ever EVER do this. If I ever needed to ‘vent’ about something from work, it would be to my supervisor, in a confidential setting, and it would likely be something regarding the s…
I mean your body your choice, I myself am a big boob lover, and would never do that, but i believe he's concerned how you'll look after the surgery since they tend to look artificial after augmentatio…
I want to give you a big giant mum-hug. I'm so sorry these things were done to you. You deserved a childhood full of love and hugs and warmth, and that was stolen from you by horrible predators. I hop…
Haha thank you for the advice though. I think it’s been a month of NC and I’ll just stick to NC Since she is DA I don’t think she’ll have any thoughts of coming back to me since it’d need her to a…
Yeah, using the truth to conflate a massive lie is something they do. The disorder is all about avoiding their own shame, so they have to make up stories about other people to make themselves feel bet…
I am so glad to see people recognize that it’s not about “deserving” an in person breakup. Stay away from dangerous people, folks. My friend (middle aged) wanted to talk with her physically abusive …
This is absolutely not true. I would be willing to bet anything that your bf has a porn addiction. He can’t stay hard or finish with vaginal sex because he’s used to his own death grip. This will be t…
Everyone does this, even if it's not acknowledged as an actual rule. If you meet a fellow student or coworker for the first time, it wouldn't be weird to wave and say "hi" or "hey" or some other inf…
Mine was about my community at work. It shifted like I never would’ve believed. I also did something voluntarily for the first time that I swore I would never do, bc all of a sudden there was a need. …
Oh yeah, this came up and of course she wouldn’t have a problem with it. But I told her the difference is I would never do this or ask you because for one I know you would get pissed and 2 I wouldn’t …
Nobody owes anyone the right to look at intimate parts of their body and OP does NOT have to wear clothes she's uncomfortable in. Edit: if you would start looking at other women bevause of this, you'…
If we are to believe her complete innocuous desire to help a friend, I can kind of understand it. I have a friend who's going through something of the same, and as someone who is long married I kind o…
1) But how do I actually know I’m getting better? You might know in the little things. You feel less shame. You accept criticism more easily. There will be an ease when moving about the world and so…
I dated a woman in my 30's with 3 total children only 2 of them lived with us. Quite honestly - I would never do it again. Having children ripped out from under me after investing 6 years of my life, …
why? why are you guys upset that she doesn't want to dress a way that CLEARLY makes her uncomfortable? i would never do this to my husband, even if i preferred him in a certain style. i just wouldn't.…
I married a woman with a child in my late 20’s and raised him to adulthood. I would never do it again.
I haven’t revenge cheated, but here’s my take, if you care. 🙂 There are two extremely strong reasons ensuring that I won’t. One is respectable, the other is more questionable. 1. Seeing how abso…