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Best Practice HTTP Status Code for Proxy-Level Content Validation Failure? — Working on an API gateway/proxy that sits in front of APIs. The proxy adds its own validation layer (toxicity, etc). I'm wrestling with an API design choice: when my **proxy's** validation rules bloc…
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…
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The Ability to Scale Predictably Is a Superpower (Here’s Why DTC Brands Can’t Skip Performance Marketing) — The ability to **scale predictably** is a superpower—especially for DTC brands. If you’ve worked with or inside a DTC company, you know the drill: * You launch, get some organic traction, and then… …
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Feeling stuck between a promo and burnout - advice? — I'm approaching 5 years at my current company (2 years as junior, 3 as mid-level) and am submitting a promotion case for Senior. I won't hear back for a couple months - my director feels optimistic, b…
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Seeking Your Input on a Tool to Boost LLM Rankings — Hey SEO community, as the title says, I’m building a new tool just for us, and I’d love your feedback. More people start using GPT and similar AI for searches. It’s still early days, but the trend is…
I cannot figure out why Google Search Console keeps indicating "Couldn't fetch" — I'm looking over a client's website and one of the things I found was their sitemap doesn't report being crawled since last September. I resubmitted the exact map that was crawled (happens to be plura…
We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms — We just published a public glossary with **500+ terms** related to incident response, on-call, alerting, SLOs, postmortems, and more. I think this is perhaps the internet's largest glossary for incide…
New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…
Things to do with my non technical cofounder "i will not promote" — Hi all i will not promote So i have a startup / side business im working on, I bought a friend in as a cofounder as he's generally useful in going out making connections, someone to help with site …
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
After the first deployment of your products, how do you get feedback? — I launched my products and so far I've had around 100 orders, from those 100 order 4 have left a review. Apart from the fact that the reviews are shown in the website, I would like to hear feedback fr…
How do you persist data across pipeline runs? — I need to save key-value output from one run and read/update it in future runs in an automatic fashion. To be clear, I am **not** looking to pass data between jobs within a single pipeline. Best solu…
tarriffs and what they mean for clothing brands — Hi, I am a high school student starting a clothing brand from Canada and I just got an email from my shipping courier today regarding Trump's tarriffs on May 2nd. I was wondering how hard I am going t…
Got ghosted after 3rd round — Hey everyone, Just wanted to share my recent experience and see if others are going through the same thing. I’ve been applying for DevOps roles for the past few months, and finally landed an intervi…
i will not promote: help finding willing creators! — Hey guys, I just launched an app and am looking to try out influencer marketing to promote it (TikTok specifically). We have been reaching out to content creators with emails in their bio but response…
Proud of my results as a non expert and want to share and say thanks! — I posted about my SEO efforts about 5 months ago and I had such a warm response from everyone that I kind of wanted to provide an update. I had both shared my results and asked for advice on next step…
How to switch a domain and custom e-mail address purchased through Squarespace to Showit? — So I've had my website on Squarespace for 10+ years, but I finally completed the build of my whole new website on Showit (I'm a wedding photographer, for reference). I'm a little nervous to dig into t…
How to remove Fraudulent Orders from Shop account? — So the question is as above. Back in March, I got fraudulently charged by a 'Elite Chimney LLC' for about $6100+. These were not placed by me or by any one I know, it just showed up one day. I manage…
An user in Gumroad is illegally selling a product of mine. What can I do? — I contacted Gumroad and recived no response. I sent a DMCA takedown notice and reciveda "we will do the necessary actions" and no further comments has been received. What's my next option? Edit: it'…
SOC maturity tool for small teams — assess detection, IR, and automation readiness — We struggled to get a clear read on how mature our SOC really was — especially with a lean team and cloud-first stack. So we put together a free tool to assess: * Logging & telemetry coverage * Aler…
Need Help Integrating Custom OpenAI Assistant in WordPress Chatbot — Hello, Reddit! I’m working on integrating a custom-built OpenAI assistant into a WordPress site and could really use some help. The chatbot is supposed to interact with users, respond to questions, a…
Just Launched My Dev Tools Website - Looking for Your Feedback! 🚀 — Hey Reddit! I’m excited to share my new website with everyone here! It’s designed to be a one-stop destination for all your dev tool needs. I know there are similar sites out there, but I’ve often fo…
Built Artificial Intelligence driven accounting prototype for small businesses — struggling to find beta users. Any advice?(Tried LinkedIn as well) — I’ve recently developed a prototype of an Artificial Intelligence powered accounting tool tailored specifically for small businesses — the kind that typically have just one in-house accountant or rely…
What I learned building a quoting system for a construction company doing $10M+ a year — I recently finished a project for a construction company doing roughly $10M per year. They were quoting jobs using Excel and email threads, and while it technically worked, it was slow, error-prone, a…
How to find willing creators?!? (TikTok) — Hey guys, I just launched an app and am looking to try out influencer marketing to promote it (TikTok specifically). We have been reaching out to content creators with emails in their bio but response…
How to find willing creators?!? — Hey guys, I just launched an app and am looking to try out influencer marketing to promote it (TikTok specifically). We have been reaching out to content creators with emails in their bio but response…
Any Luck with TikTok Influencer Marketing? And where do you find them? — Hey guys, I just launched an app and am looking to try out influencer marketing to promote it (TikTok specifically). We have been reaching out to content creators with emails in their bio but response…
What should i do to be proactive while my product is in the prototype/ manufacturing stage — Recently i have found a manufacturer and am in contact with them planning things. While i wait for their response, what else can i do to stay on top of launching?
I need a simple easy tip to fix a JavaScript error on my Wordpress blog — I added a page to my Wordpress blog and it was fine and today a command popped up stating that it’s the wrong json response error and I looked it up in the search engine and a few of the steps that we…
FA trying to be more secure, need some insigh on relationship to have "fresh eyes" on it and not just my insecure one — Hi, So, I'm FA and my partner is secure. We're living together and are together for 9month now, it's going good and we're doing our best in the healthiest way to navigate the complicated stuff (I hav…
It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies. — I’m at a point where I just end things early if I see too many Avoidant tendencies early, but it seems like women with Avoidant tendencies are drown to me more often than secure or anxious which I’d r…
Struggling after “healing” is challenged — I’m a late 20s AA, I have put a ton of work into myself over the years to become secure (as secure as I can be at least). Recently I was seeing a guy, likely DA, who needed some space and we agreed …
The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…
Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…
Ignoring after an argument. Deactivating or disinterest? — I’m not really sure if this belongs here or in my Taurus subreddit, because he’s a Taurus, as am I, and we can be stubborn. But he also leans very avoidant, and has started ignoring me after arguing.…
I regressed so much this year — This year has been brutal since the beginning. Every single aspect of my life increased my anxiety. Multiple health issues in the family, some of them still ongoing and very serious, financial concern…
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
The New Agora: Daily WWYD and light discussion thread — Welcome to the New Agora, a place for you and others to have casual conversations, seek advice and [first aid](https://modernstoicism.com/two-types-of-stoic-therapy-by-john-sellars/), and hang out tog…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
READ THIS if you want to POST here — This is a new thread with the SAME GUIDELINES as the previous post which is now archived. THIS THREAD IS ONLY FOR APPROVAL TO POST. You don’t have to be an approved user to comment or lurk. ONLY som…
how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …
APs what would you want to hear in response if someone doesn’t feel the same as you? — So I’ve been noticing the way a few friends reach out, feels mismatched with how I’m feeling. Usually this is my more anxiously attached friends/most unhealed ones. Often it will be something sugary…
Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup. — I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known about the anxious-avoidant trap for some time…
Nobody here disparages Neville (except where he deserves it - he is good speaker but a poor teacher) and pits one against the other. And Nevilles works are cited here eve in the index and sidebar. …
I’ve read all Nevilles books several times over, but I’ll check out the lecture you’re referring to. About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought…
>About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought I’d always be broke. I even had to take a screenshot of my bank balance to remind myself of that amaz…
>“A good start”, LOL. ​ Ah. A chortle. Clearly, not much money in your bank. Must be because you know the law. lol ​ >I’m not reading POSM anytime soon. I already have a formula that…
In astral projection do you remember how you got there? Thanks for the response!
Na I disagree say what you have to say their response or lack there of will tell you everything.
Just because there are zero responses doesn't mean your posts are invisible. It means they are not interesting to people for some reason. The mods keep a pretty close eye on the sub even if we're not…
DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…
Something my therapist said to me yesterday: closure in these situations has to come from within you, since the other person has opted to disconnect. I chose to write a letter to my STBX before our …
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
I realized after I read my initial response how much I repeated myself. Sigh, this shit is hard. Brain not firing on all pistons. The reason I asked for compassion is because he is acting like it’s a …
I think its more about your relationship to it, like personally and privately. Before you bring your caregiver into the conversation. If you hurt your child by ignoring their feelings when they were c…
Looks like someone took a post I did 4 years ago and used it to insert links to something from Asia. This is a something I posted a few months ago on the same topic: [https://www.reddit.com/r/emotion…
Read the OP’s story as well as MC’s response. https://www.reddit.com/r/JosephMurphy/s/BImBpJsUsd
Hi, sorry for the long response but please bear with me. TLDR at the bottom. You are slightly correct, but drug addiction posts will also more than likely be removed. 1- There is actually another…
Ahh words! Jokes aside:TY for the response! Personally I am saddened at the new rules as I feel phone addiction (and by extension pron accessibility) is a prevalent issue, and one worthy of r/Decidin…
Can we get a Moonlight response please? It's been a while and I miss him
Yes! Agree. It's just like affirmations are just as effective, but they rarely give me "that" feeling. It took alot of time get in my head that emotions was a reaction to a present true thought. And…
Is there really? At the end of the day, they’re all just scenes you conjured up in your mind. One may feel more “real”, but it’s still just your imagination. I and many other people who left manifesta…
you can do it correctly all you want - it has to be permanent in you SM, and in response slowly changes your CM that you even start forgetting about desire. How many times you want want want smth, and…
Tbh you’re allowed to have your viewpoints but this is attention seeking behavior judging by your posts meant to get a reaction out of the people here. Also, why go on a Murphy sub for this? You alrea…
\>Daydreams and dreams serve a similar function. Neither involve looping a specific scene. Both involve a sort of mind wandering. Except one you are unconscious and the other you are awake. So I disag…
Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…
I have many, many personal anecdotes that prove our beliefs create reality. Some goals/desires achieved are beyond the realm of mere coincidence and far exceed a free cup of coffee. My response to th…
OP, you ended off your post above with the following words : "This post is kind of all over the place and I'm probably forgetting a few key points, but I really wanted to get this out." Is there…
If you want to talk, I invite DMs but I'm only here sporadically. I'm a healed avoidant. I say that, but it's not black and white. I measure now for mostly secure. I still experience the initial resp…
"Your feelings are your responsibility" as gross misunderstanding equating to "you should not have an emotional response or request based on my behavior"
I never said they tried, but who wants to find out that someone else emotional regulation depends on your constant presence. Again I’m talking about anxious attachment because secure people are secu…
Well you're right that something has changed for her, but who knows what it is, it's probably nothing you did. She is being a little disrespectful to you with that response, but you should give her th…
Another dumb self concept based response, from someone who has not read the index posts as required by the rules of this sub. Banned 3 months.
>Not saying you’re entirely wrong but that wasn’t the point of the ladder experiment. The point of the ladder experiment was to teach about awareness. > Ah. Conscious awareness. Complete rubbish and…
Just read the replies and imo there's nothing wrong with asking. It's great that you did. My opinion is that if I'd only had one date with somebody and they text me saying "good morning handsome" I'd…
I've been there! I'm bordering between being a DA and a FA, personally. For me, it happened somewhat quickly after I opened up to my therapist and it was i n t e n s e. Like, I had never in my life…
Interesting that you have this experience and your therapist is suggesting that you’re now leaning anxious. I wonder how often this happens with DAs that are becoming secure, such as yourself. In m…
I appreciate your response I have been doing a lot of work on myself. I have been trying to be more self reflective,more present, and more mindful. I think I am not used to being this vulnerable,I…
It’s unhealthy to project or “mind read”. I think there’s a bit of this going on in your post. It may feel (to you) they hate you, because rejection feels bad. It’s not a good feeling to an ego or o…
thank you for being vulnerable. After the alarm fades, is there ever an awareness that the metal walls shredded someone on the way up? I understand and empathize with all of this, I just have a hard t…
You can ruin potential connections and negatively impact your social life this way, if that's any important to you. As kindly as I can, this is is a common misconception people can have about avoida…
I really appreciate you taking the time to write this response. I was raised by a narcissist, so I like to get a second opinion on thoughts like these.
Yes, absolutely. I believe that we all have the capability to devolve into the worst versions of ourselves when under extreme stress, which the SA definitely qualified for me, and on my more understa…
Intensity and pain. Fight or flight response. Neediness/avoidance and push pull from my side. All the FA behaviors.
i can second this. my girlfriend is FA and doing well on recognizing it and NOT being so FA but there are times when she becomes disconnected and i feel like a friend to her. at times i don’t handle…
I think this is running the course of over pathologizing. Attachment styles are not personality types. They are trauma responses that are triggered by relationships of many kinds. Not wanting a relati…
It’s great that you recognize this. That’s half the battle! Like really, you’re half way there. Now you have to be your own cheerleader, “I see it, I’ve got this” and you need to do grounding exercise…
My lil cousin(20F) was having relationship issues- she is an avoidant and he is an anxious. I pointed this pattern out and she said, "My therapist said the same, does having this attachment mean I'll …
Really glad you posted this, it’s a huge realisation for me. An attachment style isn’t a life sentence then. It’s just your system reacting to the env it had to survive in. Once you see it as a respon…
> Question: Does Symfony block concurrent requests by design No. PHP applications run concurrently on each child process of the php-fpm interpreter, starting with a request and ending with it - unles…
Brush up on the company, what they do, their market, etc. Why do you want to be there specifically. Have that answer solid. It’s really important to convince them you’ll like it and therefore try hard…
Depends on the therapy. Somatic, and EMDR, and AEDP are generally better suited for avoidants, as a lot of the reactions are tied into bodily/nervous system responses.