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You're very welcome! In my case, it ended up becoming some sort of "excuse" for every single adult around me as to why I could "handle" myself. That there was no need to pay attention "too much" to m…
Confused about affirmations — Hey guys i am confused about self concept and beliefs. Like i am currently unemployed and want a remote job i have few beliefs like i dont have the right network connections I need to get skilled a lo…
Share your startup - quarterly post — Share Your Startup - Q4 2023 [**r/startups**](https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/) **wants to hear what you're working on!** Tell us about your startup in a comment within this submission. Follow thi…
Best Practice HTTP Status Code for Proxy-Level Content Validation Failure? — Working on an API gateway/proxy that sits in front of APIs. The proxy adds its own validation layer (toxicity, etc). I'm wrestling with an API design choice: when my **proxy's** validation rules bloc…
Haha being an FA is fucking weird — I’m dating someone I really like and just being around her makes me dis regulated what is this shit. Learning to laugh at it. 😂😭😂 fellow FA’s how do you handle being deregulated.
What is your go-to method for catching post-design issues? — After wrapping up a web design project, What is your usual approach to spotting missed details or issues? Do you have a personal system, or rely on tools, testing, or just a fresh perspective after a…
Pouncemonial: 7th Kill - Disciplined Trader — # Here's how I achieved my 7th mission! **Mission**: To become a disciplined trader **What I achieved**: Mastered stop loss and trading discipline **Background**: After my 6th kill, I was eager t…
Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…
SEO and Digital Marketing IG accounts — Hi everyone, I'm looking for Instagram accounts run by digital marketing agencies that not only offer services like SEO and content marketing but also focus on educating their audience, particularly…
How to handle versioning in Figma? — I joined a project where the figma doesn’t match what is in the field for a mobile application. The project wants to re-baseline the app to what is in the field and keep up to date in the future. F…
Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use? — Our business is scaling rapidly — we’re currently handling millions of unique requests per week, and this number continues to grow. At the moment, we’re hosted on DigitalOcean, paying approximately €4…
Should we use Grafana open source in a medium company — I work at a medium-sized company using New Relic for observability. We ingest over 4TB of data monthly, run 20+ services across production and staging, and use MongoDB. While New Relic covers logs, me…
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…
AWS network automation — I find myself in a funny position to redo part of the network in AWS. We have two parts: one is newer and uses transit gateways that are centralized in a single account, the other is older and vpc pee…
I work with meat snacks and my supplier is one of the leading companies. Looking for a partner. — I’ve developed two types of meat snacks products - beef jerky and dried beef slices. My supplier is one of the leaders in the space and is EU-certified organic. Marketing isn’t my strong point, so wo…
(22 M) Newbie Project Manager seeking to handle a project. | I will not promote — (Kinda promotion but eager to learn.) Whether it be a startup or an established firm. I have transitioned from marketing to project management and fortunately got a role of a project manager in a comp…
Offered Technical Cofounder Role — How Much Equity Should I Ask For? [I will not promote] — I initially joined a startup as a developer, building the product from scratch — no existing codebase, no tech team, just me & one junior developer. After a few months of work, the founder has now off…
How do you estimate the cost and effort for full ecom website builds? — If you’re building e-commerce websites for clients (Shopify, WooCommerce, etc.): → How do you usually scope the project? → Do you use fixed-price packages, custom quotes, or hourly estimates? I’m c…
Anyone else rethinking bulk imports with these tariffs? — I’ve been importing apparel in bulk for a couple years now, but the new Trump tariffs have really forced me to rethink things. Between higher shipping costs and customs delays, the old model just isn’…
Can’t Access My Shopify Store Created with Google Login – Stuck in Login Loop, No Password Option — Hey everyone, I’m having a frustrating issue and hoping someone here can help. I created my Shopify store using the “Continue with Google” option with my Gmail so I didn’t set a password because Goog…
Low-risk, High-reward, and Easy-to-start Business... an A-Z overview of the Rental Management business I run (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I'm a real estate & software developer, AirBnB Host of \~20 units personally, and I help run a management company with \~200 client homes. So I've been through the ringer in every which …
Self-hosted alternative to AWS Elastic Beanstalk with GitHub deploy and automatic horizontal scaling (no Kubernetes)? — I’m looking for a self-hosted platform similar to AWS Elastic Beanstalk that lets me push my code to GitHub and handles deployment plus automatic horizontal scaling on VPS servers. **Requirements:** …
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…
Advice on Partnering with UK Freelancers for a Marketing Agency – Need SEO, PPC, Content Writers, and More — I’m in the process of starting a marketing agency and looking for some advice on where I can partner with skilled freelancers (based in the UK) for the following roles: • SEO/CRO Specialist: Someone …
SEO Backlink exchange marketplace - 10 testers — We built a software that creates daily SEO articles for your site AND handles backlink exchange between users automatically (similar niche) Looking for 10 peeps to try it for free! You get: - Fres…
I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs! — Hey everyone! I’ve been working on a VSCode extension called **Array Size Extension**, and I wanted to share it with you all to get some feedback or maybe help out others who run into the same proble…
How do you handle tracking updates + international shipping transparency in Shopify? — One challenge we’ve been facing is managing customer expectations when it comes to international shipping, especially when multiple carriers are involved (like packages moving from 4PX → USPS, or YunE…
For those of you that run an ecommerce business from home, which insurance company do you use for your Home and Auto? — I had some issues with getting home insurance just because my business is located at my home. Additionally, I'm an Uber driver and that needs to be on there as well. For some reason this complicated…
Why isn't Firefox respecting prefers-color-scheme? — I use properly contrasted favicons for my site depending on if the user has light/dark mode enabled. I noticed that they display properly in Chrome and Edge but Firefox seems to ignore my \`prefers-co…
How do you handle selling your app but still want some level of say in it's development? — If you developed an app and someone gets interested in it, how do I make sure I don't get the short end of the deal? Also, can I make a deal to be part of the company's developers and have some level…
Good user interviews? [I will not promote] — Hey r/startups, I've had some recent pain doing user interviews, and I'm wondering if it's something that can be fixed. Every tool I've looked at for help seems expensive, and tbh, pretty shit. I'd …
Furniture ecommerce idea - good or bad? — Looking to start a furniture ecommerce brand. I own a digital and branding agency so I can nail it on brand and design/UX but I'm torn on if the idea will work. For me, it'll be fairly economical to s…
Shopify staff: Please let me handle shipping by item instead of weight. I shouldn’t need an app for that… — Just let me do it like every other service on earth… it’s so simple on google merchant center etc. Doing something simple like offering free shipping for 2 or more items is such an exercise in frustr…
Stategies for scaling out MySQL/MariaDB when database gets too large for a single host? — What are your preferred strategies when a MySQL/MariaDB database server grows to have too much traffic for a single host to handle, i.e. scaling CPU/RAM or using regular replication is not an option a…
iThomas.dk - New site don't get traction? — I launched my site on March 1st, but I’m still struggling to gain traction and would really appreciate a second pair of eyes. A quick check using site:ithomas.dk shows that most of my pages are index…
How can I manage paid early access to a private Facebook group? — I run a private Facebook student group with a waiting list. I want to offer a VIP option where people can pay a fee to skip the wait and get priority access to the group. I’m looking for a way to man…
can you retrieve collections assigned to the product by slug? — hi, can you retrieve collections assigned to the product by slug/handle on the product page? I would like to add section called related collections for products.
Is 6-8 years of career enough to start a business on? — I notice a many industry wide consultants are in the field for 20+ years before providing advice and their services for companies. While im not wanting to become a consultant, I’m wondering if someon…
ChatGPT Plus vs Claude Pro – Which is Better for a UI/UX Designer? — Hi everyone! I’m a UI/UX Designer looking to subscribe to either ChatGPT Plus or Claude Pro, and I’m trying to figure out which one would be the better fit for my workflow. I want to use the AI mai…
Aspiring Dance Studio Owner - First Steps? — ~ TL;DR: Aspiring dance studio owner (currently in school). Active in the dance community and planning ahead. Looking for first-step advice, financial tips, and mindset guidance from other small busi…
Should I hide my plugins in WordPress for safety? And how? — Hey folks, I've been thinking about WordPress security lately and came across this question: **Should I hide the plugins I'm using on my WordPress site to improve safety?** I’m not talking about u…
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search — **What It Does** This is an internal tool I’ve been building to help with UK property prospecting, market research, and deal due diligence. If you've ever tried to buy or invest in property in the U…
Backstage feels like a fools errand — The employee I replaced was promoting backstage and now its all my company wants to talk about. Recently I looked up the custom runner he had to develop in react to get templates to run bash scripts,…
How to handle shift from input error inline with button? — [https://imgur.com/a/91hc4Tu](https://imgur.com/a/91hc4Tu) I want the input to be inline with the button, but that fails (items-end) as soon as a form-validation error shows. I tried making the input…
Anyone else noticing small businesses drowning in SaaS subscription costs these days? — Been consulting with a few local businesses recently and I'm shocked at how many are spending $500-1000+ monthly on various software subscriptions. One client is paying for Salesforce, Asana, Notion, …
Need affordable tool to convert 200–400 images/day to WebP — **Need a simple image conversion tool for my website – suggestions?** I’m building a website where users can upload images to their profiles – around 10 images per user. I’m expecting 200–400 image u…
Death by a Thousand Subscriptions: Is anyone's SaaS bills higher than their Ad spend? — I've been watching several eCommerce businesses in my network, and it's fascinating how many are drowning in subscription costs for essential software. One store owner I know is paying nearly **$500/m…
How do I add tariff costs? — Hi, I'm a very new U.S. Shopify seller, selling POD products (book, t-shirts mugs hats posters, mouspads) internationally....or at least trying to. Currently, if a customer places an order, the POD pr…
How do you promote kubernetes environments using ArgoCD? — I've watched a video by Anton Putra, [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=\_G\_RY5trQao](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_G_RY5trQao), on production grade setup with Argo. The video is great and I've l…
I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …
Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…
Reality transurfing is a bunch of balls. Some idiot says stuff using complex modern language and people believe it without thinking because they are addicted to things being complex. Posm is very s…
Same. I hung in there , at first thinking no matter what she does. Im more wise , I see her flaws, i will help her change. Me the man she “use” to say i was. She=“never give up on me”. Me-“never”. 4 w…
I think that's the goal though. A secure attachment style that can handle that scenario.
Definitely trying, but I’m still at the I ruined my kids life because I couldn’t handle staying with their dad when he made it very obvious that he wanted to be with men, not his wife. So the feelings…
We all handle it differently
None of it *should* stop you from moving forward and healing, but for some people it still nevertheless does. I'm sorry, I know you said this more than half a year ago but I'm going through my situati…
I am 5 months out from my divorce, and I can only handle it day by day. I try to give myself the same grace I would give others. Some days are easier than others. I try to stick to a routine. Oddly, e…
It sounds like a hard job to decide what can stay and what should be removed. Say there was a post with a comment that could be taken negatively by the OP. Is that grounds for removing the comment? Wh…
Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…
Fearful avoidant is much harder to fix than dismissive avoidant, because you have the problems of the anxious and the avoidant. To fix the anxious - I only know about this in theory/hypothetically si…
It's not relevant what anyone is telling avoidants if you're not an avoidant... to think it is is slipping back into this competitive mentality where you're dissecting whose fault it is. It doesn't ma…
i’m coming around to the idea AA’s really shouldn’t be with avoidants. i’m mostly secure and being with my FA gf took some skill to navigate and alot of reading and reflecting because it was all new…
I never said they tried, but who wants to find out that someone else emotional regulation depends on your constant presence. Again I’m talking about anxious attachment because secure people are secu…
Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…
💯💯💯 OP is being anxious Edit: Oh. I only just remember his handle. Yeh. Unhealthy.
But that’s the thing - I (thought) I could spot an avoidant person and he truly never showed any signs of that. He was so communicative and able to handle conflict, he said he wanted a relationship, t…
3 months really isn't long enough to be able to tell that sort of thing with everyone. Of course, some issues can be seen that early, but in my experience it can take 9-24 months to get a more full vi…
Yes, absolutely. I believe that we all have the capability to devolve into the worst versions of ourselves when under extreme stress, which the SA definitely qualified for me, and on my more understa…
i can second this. my girlfriend is FA and doing well on recognizing it and NOT being so FA but there are times when she becomes disconnected and i feel like a friend to her. at times i don’t handle…
So he's great when he's not triggered, but he gets triggered every couple of weeks. That's not a rare occurrence, it's very often. Replace this with any other issue whether attachment related or not…
It ended with “you can’t always read their mind”. Sounds like the original commenter is similar to me or has been through stuff. But if you happen to be disorganized and also have bdp (I don’t think…
Maybe it’s worthwhile just fixing the app now to get it in a better working state with what you have, before moving onto a new cloud provider? If the code can’t handle it in your current provider, c…
Increase your php-fpm worker pool. There's a dark art to finding just the right number, since fpm shares memory a lot. Look online to find out how to set that number. Then monitor performance and if y…
As the others mentioned fixing your app is priority number one, however, I find it very weird that just one request blocks your whole server. You should try to find the bottleneck before moving clouds…
Im sorry, but 80GB ingest/month is not medium company. 80GB/hour may be middle sized company. You are really looking for small scale/homelab sized solution. Worst part of grafana stack is loki. If yo…
Yes, 4tb of metrics Prometheus can eat like peanuts, if you need fault tolerance,better look into Thanos or Mimir, vanilla Prometheus can handle it too, but it will be more manual work. Dashboards can…
You did great! Your enthusiasm, clear communication, and ability to handle the Linux part confidently really stood out I believe . Hope you crack this role would love to hear how the final round goes!
My company is ready to pay reasonable price for the software we use and that provides value over FOSS ones. Unfortunately many companies go for crazy unrealistic pricing models and then complain that …
As you are already using DigitalOcean, start with Ansible + Terraform. Use Terraform to provision droplets, load balancers, and Spaces, and Ansible to handle server config. Keep Docker + docker-compos…
Take a look at roadmap.sh, pick a technology to learn, then get a book/course/read docs (whatever works better for you). Ask chatgpt to generate you a real-world, production-like task for this technol…
You apply as much as it makes sense for the people and time. Making those decisions for now while maintaining a long view is an important part of DevOps. It's a process that introduces people into th…
I recognize this disorder because I suffer from it myself! :-) It's commonly known as controlfreakism. Don't worry, though. You can use it to your advantage. The good news is there's a way out. Much…
There is a lot of middle ground before you hire an employee. You could contract out for a personal assistant. They work for themselves and usually have several clients. You could contract with an over…
Pulumi, actually. I wanted to like it, but i wasn't able to really get any of the sequencing or dependencies figured out and i just mostly ran into errors. Terraform/opentofu just handles it better …
If they're selling the product for you they'd handle distribution. The big variable would be how much / how fast can you scale production. You might have to see a manufacturing partner depending on …
Again, well said. You definitely have a good handle on it. So, if we honour our feelings and let ourselves get mad initially, then let that transition into compassion for the other unhealed person, th…
Hey. A separate team handles this sort of thing, I handle other works but we are interested in this as a business. Feature flagging - Yes this is widely used and they pull metrics and try to correla…
I'd handle it by doing a lot of merging - and by not doing clickops - this is a devops subreddit, you should be automating everything so you don't need 30 aws tabs...
I don't understand all the salty responses that talk about "bending over backwards". If you have anxious attachment, you will need to do attachment work to make sure your side of the equation isn't co…
So instead of replying individually and repeating myself, I'm just going to make a comment addressing it all. Firstly, it was interesting to read all these perspectives. I see where some of its comin…
Of course. What's your native language? That could help me explain it better, but harmony or harmonious means when everyone in a group is getting along - well, when they are not *showing* **visible** …
The same can be said with anxiously attached and codependent individuals though? Some people cant handle boundaries and in turn label them as neglect or avoidance when in reality time is required to p…
Yes— multiple reasons I’ve noticed for this: 1. Easy an obvious, needing time away from them is seen as rejection because they don’t want time away from you 2. One of the things with us is that we …
Reassurance never actually helps us, it just makes us more addicted to it and sourcing our safety and validation from their words. It would be more helpful to slowly talk yourself through the case wh…
How would you feel if all of this is handled for you? Relieved? Trust in the power of something higher? Ask yourself these questions . Just let it linger, don’t answer right away. If you’re try…
Ahhh, I'm sorry to hear that. Thanks for your sympathy : ) How did you handle no contact? I found the short, sharp disconnect (after something that had initially seemed so promising) extremely diff…
I think a secure attachment is really great for someone with an insecure attachment if they're willing to put in the work. I don't think that there's anything wrong with that per se but they should kn…
This, and also: >I got to know her pretty well on the way over When I read this post I thought about a certain handle on this sub and of fucking course it is that exact account on this post aswell.…
Dude you're in here acting entitled and demanding, thinking everyone is wrong but you, calling anyone who holds you accountable toxic, and for some reason you think women must all be avoidant? You'r…
In order for you to be a good happy couple she first needs to understand your attachment style, and love you enough to work with you through it. she doesnt love you yet but it already seems she might…