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How to effectively use an anchor? — Hello everyone, I've struggled to come up with a proper title for this issue For context: I've started a meditation practice since almost 4 weeks, up to 35 minutes without any major discomfort and w…
Best SEO Practices for writing blogs — Hello, I'm a copywriter, and I want to share some "best SEO practices to keep in mind when writing blogs" with the younger copywriters. Some I'm thinking about are: * Using the keyword in the header…
Ranking a client in the map feature — Hi ya’ll One happy accident of my work is that now one of my clients is ranking in the map feature, but not for the typical anchor texts I’m using when I link out to them. But for different but relat…
Help Me Understand Relation Between Guest Posting and Google's TOS — I'll start off by quoting Google's Spam Policies: https://developers.google. com/search/docs/essentials/spam-policies >Advertorials or native advertising where payment is received for articles that i…
I made an awesome ChatGPT prompt for internal linking — I just made this prompt for ChatGPT that finds internal link opportunities on your website. It works surprisingly well. 1. Enable “Deep research” mode on ChatGPT (you’ll need a paid plan). 2. Paste t…
Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup. — I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known about the anxious-avoidant trap for some time…
I (28F) had an affair and don’t know what I’m doing. Please help. — I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, married for 2. He is genuinely the best person I know. Kind, safe, loyal. He’s my best friend. When I cry, he’s who I want holding me. When something funny happe…
adhd — my thoughts do not ever go away i’m either completely asleep or completely awake and my mind is racing and i will just sit there for HOURRRSS throughout the day and night idk what to do everyone alway…
Thinking Versus Meditating? — I have a question about meditation. I often like to sit down, close my eyes, and just be still. When I do that, I think a lot—I feel inspired and come up with ideas—but I’m starting to wonder if that’…
I meditated for 10 years. Here is how life changed — This is a personal anecdote of daily (99.5%) meditation practice spanning 10 years. I hope this will be helpful for those looking for motivation for their practice. Personally, I found external motiva…
Should I push my psychologist to give me a diagnosis? — I recently had my first session ever, I am 23. I asked my psychologist if they could give me a diagnosis on what they think I suffer from (ADHD, BPD etc which I suspect). She said we should avoid lab…
"Men Can't Be Men Anymore" — A week ago, I [posted about the Louis Theroux documentary on the “Manosphere,”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1rtveyg/the_manosphere/) noting my surprise at the scale of the phenomenon, u…
The mechanics of EIYPO — Today it finally clicked after 6 months of travel in a new state and returning home to where the old state stayed. Everything was his, and nothing was mine, the detachment was amazing and it eventuall…
How I finally "tricked" my analytical mind and shifted from AP to Eversong Woods — Hi everyone. I’ve been practicing Astral Projection and Lucid Dreaming for a while now, but I kept hitting a wall—literally. My analytical mind would always pull me back to my body whenever I tried to…
Hacking the parasympathetic nervous system for AP with neural entrainment — In our journey to understand the mechanics of out of body experiences, we often focus on the metaphysical. However, I’ve been reflecting on a profound question: *What if ancient yogis were describing …
The chains your parents put on you (that you don't even remember) — My English is not native, sorry if I write a bit imperfect. I want to share something from a recent session that might help someone who feels stuck in their love life. Tina came to me feeling stuck. …
When I Let the Devil Back In — I feel like I can't speak this to anyone in my life so I will try here. What people don’t understand is that this didn’t just happen in some clean, simple way where I got hurt and then walked away. I …
Wife asked for a divorce. We have two toddlers and still live together. How do you survive this? — I am in the thick of it right now and could really use some perspective from people who have made it to the other side. Recently, my wife told me she wants a divorce. She has made it very clear that …
Wild Technique — So I have been lucid dreaming for years, but for a long time couldn't figure out a good technique for myself. Most of the times it was accidently or with a whole lot of luck. Just recently I am starti…
Anxiety tips you might not have heard of — Hello, I've had crippling anxiety on and off for many years and I have developed coping tools that has helped me alot. This Mostly is for people who have GAD and panic disorders but can help for almo…
I Communicated With the Moon — I'm searching for some anecdotal evidence of anyone else who's seen 'the eye of the moon' on mushrooms, but I can't find anything so I'll post my experience here. When I was tripping, I laid outside o…
How I finally hacked meditation with an extremely loud inner monologue — I've been practicing meditation since 2019. Traditional techniques never worked for me because of my extremely loud inner monologue (a phonological loop due to dominant introverted thinking), so I had…
Do I need a social life/ anchor prior to starting the tapes so I’m grounded? — So I want to start but I read a post recently which stated someone going through an accidental awakening and going through psychosis- and the main factor was because they were isolated. See I’m in tha…
Being an adrenaline junkie in my DR — ​ I’ll be completely honest with you guys: I originally only got into shifting because I wanted to get boned. I have a terrible time connecting with people in this CR, so that was my main moti…
I just watched a video on how ADHD makes us prime targets for abusive/narcissistic behavior, and I feel so defeated. — Hey everyone, I’m writing this because I really need to vent and see if anyone else here with CPTSD and ADHD has experienced this. I just finished watching a video by a creator named Danish Bashir a…
800-1000ug+ FIRST acid trip complete ego loss most terrifying thing ive ever had — Before I get into this, I want to make something clear right away. I am not encouraging anyone to do this, and I am definitely not presenting this as some cool or impressive story. This was not enjoya…
2nd lucid dream in a week after trying for 3 weeks!!! — On March 11th I started dream journaling. I've been working with the gateway tape meditation from that same time as well and I feel that has increased my awareness. Last week I had a lucid dream tha…
3g Mushroom Trip on Good Friday / Full Moon: Seeking Chaos Magick perspectives and "Self-Remembrance" techniques. — Hi everyone, Tomorrow (Good Friday / Full Moon), I’ll be taking 3g of dried mushrooms in a rural setting (Tarija, Bolivia). This will be my first full experience with psilocybin, though I have a back…
what do orbs look like? — hello all! ive been an experiencer for a long time and had several contacts with nhi within my mind and dreams. previous to this ive only had one f2f where i saw nothing but experienced an intense act…
Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters — [**Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters**](https://youtu.be/aPMjZJDOfis) by Preston Dennett https://preview.redd.it/78ywlpbo7zsg1.jpg?width=1604&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bac3d50493e2b7125956…
Do you ever experience a profound sense of weightlessness, where your body feels like an external shell? — Sometimes I feel entirely detached from the physical world, as if I'm just observing it without actually anchoring into it. What are the everyday physical triggers—like the biting cold on your skin, o…
Bhrumadhya meditation - 17 days Progress Report: Transitioning to Dual-Core Awareness (Mental Anchor + Thought Observation) — TL;DR: Moved from a single-focus "spotlight" to a partitioned awareness. I can now hold a stable mental coordinate at the brow while simultaneously observing background thoughts without "system hijack…
I need help with a False awakening hybrid technique — I genuinely need help and this has been frustrating. I've been doing lucid dreaming for more than a month almost 2 and I thought I found this technique that would fit me the most, a MILD-WILD hybrid. …
Self isolating for 40 years. I'm more at home when I'm alone. — I have worked almost entirely alone (and at times completely alone) for the entirety of my working life and home life has been much the same. My childhood was marked by isolation and emotional negle…
It's better to enjoy your own companionship than being in an unhealthy and immature relationship — Just came out of a very weird breakup, and I was completely emotionally drained near the end Sometimes you give your all, and it still doesn’t matter because it’s not enough for the other person. I’…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
My gut knew what she was doing, but I trusted that she wouldn’t. — GF & I have been together for 2 years. She’s been straight as an arrow through her entire life, bookish, introvert, straight laced, strong family values, carries a lot of trauma, low self esteem, self…
Everything crashed down after 3 months and I am so unwell I didn't get home for Easter — I have been crying for two days, I have the anxiety, the pit at the stomach, the existential dread, everything I didn't experience before. Every time I tried to take the bus home for Easter I had an a…
Day 3 of learning lucid dreaming. — Last night aka my second night trying to lucid dream i did the wild method where my anchor was counting to 4 repeatedly. and i got a dream at a pool and im pretty sure it was a lucid dream but not 1…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…
Tim Fletcher, his reading list — https://youtu.be/q0RiIkd9\_pc \* the Body Keeps The Score (Bessel van Der Kolk) \* What Happened To You? (Bruce Perry w/Oprah Winfrey) \* The Myth of Normal (Gabor Maté) \* When The Body Say…
How do I not fall asleep while doing WILD? — I have managed to have a lucid dream a couple of times before but when I try to have them again by using WILD I just fall asleep. I got my first lucid dreams by visualising a flower and having that as…
let's share our depression hacks that no one ever talks about — 1. depressed in bed: i just switched onto the other side of the bed (head is where feet normally are.)I'm still depressed, but it's a hack and I feel \*different\* at the very least. 2. sit up. I'm no…
Meditation on the present moment and what it means to be a human experiencing the moment — Disclaimer - \*\*Hello and please note, this is my “own” interpretation of the information I received after having meditated and formulating the totality of the information that I had received. If any…
Society protects the abusers — I'm so upset right now because i was watching the news while having dinner, and they were talking about a teenager boy who assaulted his father. The boy told the authorities he did it because his fath…
Need a hug / Another 7 days — For a little bit of quick background, my girlfriend and I have been together for about four or five years now. Back in September of last year, we opened things up in the relationship, and she got a bo…
Co-Creation Flow in Focus Sessions – Active & Passive Imagination — I’ve always struggled to understand what “feeling” meant when patterning or doing anything with law of assumption. I had a few sessions lately that offered some clarity. I believe feeling is about emb…
Google engineer rejected by colleges uses AI to sue UCs and others for racial discrimination — The return of a story from 2023 in which a graduating student who was rejected by many universities but ended up hired as a software engineer at Google. His father has filed lawsuits claiming racial …
Best type of therapy for CPTSD from age 2-41 while still in a severely abusive relationship? — I posted this in r/therapy but not sure if anyone will have an answer so posting here in case anyone here has experience with this. I have just recently become aware that my marriage of 17 years was…
How Do You Define a Good Session? — I’m very new to meditation, 40 days in. In general I think I’m doing OK. Some sessions my thoughts are all over the place and I have to work really hard to go back to my anchor and some days, I have …
That happens when you feel really safe. Which is good but learn how to balance that. You can talk to your therapist about it, also use her as your inner voice - imagine what would she say about this…
There's grype too: https://github.com/anchore/grype
I feel this. as a female FA who leans anxious (specifically towards men) I can relate a lot because in my female friendships, a lot of the time you're expected to be an emotional rock all the time for…
I just am not going to hear how awful DA and FA are at this point. I’m a DA I don’t ignore the expressed needs from my partners but I also don’t allow (AA attachment people specifically) full range to…
I associated it with a freeze response because that's how he's described it before when it happened in the past. I injured my foot but had no crutches. He watched me crawl around the floor to get to …
Text of original post by u/f1rstpancake: I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known abou…
As I’ve learned recently, kids can definitely bring out our best impulses. But it’s dangerous to anchor our motivation to do better to them. It puts an unconscious expectation on them that children, i…
When my DA ex and I were still together he would sometimes say similar stuff ("*when* we breakup," etc.), and i figured out it was 2 parts pushing away so he didn't feel smothered/overwhelmed and 1 pa…
Hi!! I highly recommend these: For core wounds and relationships : 📚Mathew Micheletti and 3 more The Inner Work of Relationships: An Invitation to Heal Your Inner Child and Create a Conscious R…
Find a therapist whom specializes in attachment therapy mate. Get some reading materials/workbooks - set limits. Listen to podcasts about AP but again set limits. Go to the gym. I know I’m not “welcom…
You’re spot on on that “it’s not fair to make my ability to sleep someone else’s responsibility”. I have a similar experience with sleep, i find it hard to sleep alone especially when im extremely anx…
Im ambiamorous, I can do either non monogamy or monogamy, they are the same thing in my head the rules are just different and I abide by whatever the relationship model is. I am dissatisfied with l…
You are you. Is who you are, lol. Stop worrying about diagnosing yourself so much as you worry about listening to yourself. You sound like your nervous system is a touch wired towards anxiety as you n…
From a previous relationship, my partner at a point started to be able to vocalise what she needs to emotionally regulate - which saved me from having to assume/mind-read and help me better engage wit…
Hi I previously recommended these to someone so will copy and paste it here Book on understanding and healing trauma : 📚The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma…
Why? Its nothing to be ashamed of or anything. I was the opposite. Dated the same person on and off until I graduated highchool. Circumstances mean we drifted apart a year and dated others then got …
What helps me is to start this meditation with a visualization technique, what I visualize myself from a birds-eye view and picture my thoughts slowly circling around me. I try not to to create or see…
First of all, I'm sorry to hear you were tortured like that. I really hope that you've since found people you can trust and have gained some measure of peace and even healing. I will ask: why wouldn'…
Seneca's Epistle 1: A "Historical Restoration" for Modern Practitioners (Lodge/Gummere Synthesis) **The Content:** I hear you on the translations, u/Fragrant-Point-4328. I've been working on a rest…
I dont copypasta much but this what I made for my void friend. I wrote the deck by hand i just run it using gpt The card you’re asking for is: C13 — Void Friend (ID: C13_friend_of_nothing) --- A…
Doesn’t seem like OP did, but I just did. Kinda love some of these. ————- If you want to move past the "vision board" clichés and into the fringe, you have to stop treating the universe like a ve…
I feel you on developing other abilities without being able to AP. My astral vision developed while trying to AP but still no luck with AP consistently. One of the biggest obstacles for me was my li…
Thanks for your clarification. It wasn't that long ago when I felt nobody could possibly understand what I was going through. I can't tell you where I found people who understand what this feels lik…
you have to ignore the current reality completely. whatever comes go back to your script. like in your case you can script how you want your family to treat you and record in your own voice and listen…
Absolutely 100%, more so in the beginning than anywhere else. A relationship found on feelings/attachment - feelings and attachment can fade in or out. Being honest from the start I believe will start…
What you said about honesty being the anchor really resonated with me. I think it’s easy for relationships to run on infatuation for a while, but without that foundation of honesty it’s hard for anyth…
During meditation when u keep re-anchoring to the breath u gain insight that thoughts just happen, they come in waves and leave on a random basis. And everytime u re-anchor to ur breath, u strengthe…
An anchoring phrase, attention to your breath, or even a piece of jewelry worn throughout the day might serve as a useful reminder to 'bring you back' to yourself.
First, there is Sung Kang, the Korean American actor best known for portraying Han Lue in the Fast & Furious series. His character became a fan favorite for his calm presence and understated charisma …
Nobody talks about it because it looks like closeness from the outside and felt like being chosen from the inside. The child who becomes the parent's emotional anchor gets elevated to a special status…
I think some people prioritize having a romantic partner/ spouse above everything. I think my mom was that way. But fir me my daughters are my anchor, my priority and my family. They give me all the …
Honestly mixing the chakra stuff with the rebal is a pretty smart workaround. I actually started doing this myself at some point, consciously letting the energy flow through and target the chakra cent…
Honestly you are definitely not overthinking this, that is actually exactly how one month patterning usually plays out. When you drop into focus 12, your brain is in a state of extreme neuroplasticity…
The drinking water idea is perfect. I drink water pretty often and it’s always next to me lol. The door or phone checking anchors don’t really work for me when I’m doing work on my computer, so this i…
Well, I think they put you in a different headspace that’s distinct from meditation. I would say it’s more a faith-based practice, rather than something analytical/observational like meditation. You’r…
Did you know that you can also make/write your own ‘function commands’ quite easily? The concept of the H+ series is based on anchoring, which is a common tool used in NLP and hypnosis amongst others…
Yeah, this is the thing nobody warns you about. You get good enough at noticing your thoughts that you start treating every sit like a debugging session. "Why am I thinking this? What does this patter…
Start by forgiving yourself for wanting to be more than you are; you are but a human, with beautiful facets of perfect imperfections. Cherish all your parts; your capacity to accept suffering is equa…
I went through something very similar last year. When I first started meditating, focusing on the breath felt simple and I could clearly notice when my mind wandered. After a few weeks though, my thou…
I’ve been meditating for over 40 years and, especially in the beginning of your lifelong practice (if you go that far), you will see “monkey mind” often. Eventually, it settles down and let you contro…
Thank you for the detailed response – it helps me better understand the direction I'm moving in. I practice some forms of meditation and have been on Vipassana retreats (essentially body scanning, an…
English is my second language, so wording might be bit off sometimes. What I'm noticing in your post is that you're focused on thing you want to manifest, but you're trying to manifest from place of f…
Your dream is still real, art, creativity the need for expression through an outlet exists. Meditation does help clear the mind, the anxiousness is cured through stability of being able to sit through…
You are the real adult in this relationship, he is 31 and living with his parents??? This man will be an anchor weighing you down. Let him go, make the break and drop the dead weight.
I think this man is hiding financial problems. I don’t think he has the funds to live on his own and is expecting you to take care of him…like a parent. He wants babies to anchor you to him, forever. …
“He thought I’d change my mind about kids” means he doesn’t respect your decision. He thinks you don’t know yourself. He thinks he knows you better than you know yourself. You should break up becaus…
If you are not aware, you should check out body/muscle armoring(sometimes it helps to spell it armouring because search engines get it confused with body armor). Mine is so bad that it caused reversal…
I've been writing about this recently as well. My main post was about the lack of a sense of belonging - and what fills those voids for people. My take was that the manosphere is less about bad men an…
How do you know your experience is enhanced if you have never explored the depths of sensory deprivation? Take a hero dose and float in a tank. Music is great, but it anchors us to the material world.…
I think I missed your comment or Reddit didn't give me a notification or something. Either way, I agree with what you're saying and for some reason (autism) wrote a bunch of paragraphs about my though…