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I'm your age. I'm in a slightly different experience since I'm 20 years into a second marriage (after about 10 in my first). I'm pretty sure my wife and I are doing good, but realistically....you ne…

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Welcome to r/ecommerce! Please Read Before Posting — **Table of Contents:** I. Account Requirements II. Content Rules III. Linking Policies IV. Dropshipping Guidelines V. Reporting Violations VI. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) VII. Encouraged C…

FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…

I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…

When does maximising space/reducing elements go too far? — I'm working on an eCommerce site at the moment, and when it comes to the product category pages, I've had some feedback from my senior to suggest that space needs to be used more efficiently. To name…

What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…

My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…

Some packages on Sonatype Nexus aren't updated when using as a Composer repository — Hello, We have a Nexus Sonatype repository for Composer and one of the devops guys who was maintaining it left and now we are not sure why some packages aren't being updated to the latest. For examp…

I was partially refunded for a 13$ order on Shop a day or so ago, but the order status still says “Ordered” instead of “Partially Refunded”? — I also haven’t received an email confirming my refund. Is it processing or what? I’d atleast expect my order status to update. I am in contact with the seller, and I cancelled the order, he partially…

Do I upgrade WP or PHP first? — Hello, I’m helping someone who has an out of date site: Wordpress 5.3.18 PHP: 7.2 It’s using a very simple theme (also outdated and no longer supported.) The site owner has full access to their host…

How hard is it really to raise money as a startup in Italy? Looking for real stories & insights - I will not promote — I’ve been working in the Italian startup ecosystem for several years — supporting early-stage founders and helping navigate the (often messy) fundraising landscape. From what I see, there’s a mix of …

Marketing Digest: Google tests new AI mode outside Labs along with more features, ChatGPT introduces shopping features with personalized product recommendations, Google confirms search signals used to train Gemini AI — Hey guys! A new week means a fresh batch of marketing insights. Google’s keeping us on our toes as usual, and AI is busy finding new ways to take over the digital space. Let’s read: **SERP features /…

With Updated Reporting, Now Deleted Products are removed from Sales & Tax Reports — I'm struggling to get a clear answer from any of the help team (shocker I know). Previously I could delete a product and still run reports and see the sales numbers, etc. Ran a report yesterday and t…

Seeking a low-maintenance frontend/CMS stack for modernizing 10+ year old sites — Hi all, I’m looking for advice on a conservative, low-maintenance frontend and CMS stack for modernizing a couple of old but still functional client sites. **Background:** I’ve got two long-lived s…

Shopify Bill Pay - international vendor payments cannot be funded by Shopify Balance anymore — Im not in love with Bill Pay as its so sloppy and support is lazy. Plus they lock down accounts left and right and don't tell anyone. Once the new balance account numbers went out I saw that they were…

New Monochrome Theme — Hey yall, I have been researching and trying out different themes to use since I have been on the free themes and I want to upgrade my shop to a paid template. There is a new theme called Monochrome t…

Anyone else noticing small businesses drowning in SaaS subscription costs these days? — Been consulting with a few local businesses recently and I'm shocked at how many are spending $500-1000+ monthly on various software subscriptions. One client is paying for Salesforce, Asana, Notion, …

SEO is updated on my Shopify page, but the text on the page hasn't changed. How do I fix this? — Hey everyone, I recently updated the SEO settings on a specific page of my Shopify store, including the title, meta description, etc. Everything looks good in terms of SEO, and the SEO score is solid…

Webdesign and SEO — Hi I'm updating an old website with more updated/modern visual elements, but all website structure, urls and content is the same. Speed is the same if not faster, html structure/tags have some diffe…

how do you manage cache browser control- after version update? — here's the problem- obviously we don't want to screw up our clients when they are working, so a new version should be in a manner that won't cause conflicts in the previous version, which has loaded …

Problem with wpbooking back end — I work at a public library and i'm managing the meeting room bookings while a couple of other staffers are out for the week. Should be no problem but when I go to the backend page to check the pending…

What I learned building a quoting system for a construction company doing $10M+ a year — I recently finished a project for a construction company doing roughly $10M per year. They were quoting jobs using Excel and email threads, and while it technically worked, it was slow, error-prone, a…

How do you validate a product idea? — Hi everyone! I’m in the early stages of launching a sustainable product and I’m looking for advice on how to validate my product idea before going all-in. Specifically, I’m working on a bamboo toothbr…

🛑STOP HIJACKING POSTS🛑 — 📣Saying it loudly for the people in the back. I know this post is going to have a “vibe” but being warm and fuzzy has never worked so I’m trying to be crystal clear and firm here: Recently there h…

It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies. — I’m at a point where I just end things early if I see too many Avoidant tendencies early, but it seems like women with Avoidant tendencies are drown to me more often than secure or anxious which I’d r…

Updated Rules — Hello, r/therapy! We hope this post finds you well. We are writing to announce a minor overhaul of our rules. As our community continues to grow and evolve, our rules must do the same which is why we…

Workshop On Sunday, July 20th: Basics of Attachment Repair Meditation: donation based. — This course will cover the basics of Attachment Theory and Attachment Repair Meditations. There will be a strong emphasis on the meditation practice [https://attachmentrepair.com/online-events/2025-…

r/AstrologyChartShare Is Being Rebooted - Stay Tuned! 🌙 — Hey everyone, We’re the new moderation team for r/AstrologyChartShare, and we’ve officially submitted a request to Reddit to reopen this subreddit! Our goal is to revive this space as a welcoming, o…

A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns) — When I was 21 and *severely* fearful avoidant I dated a secure guy who was wonderful in every way, but obviously not for me. I did everything stereotypical of a fearful avoidant attachment does in a…

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…

I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight — I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even managing anxiety attacks. It's not always pe…

How do you stop feeling of needing to be perfect? — I have no problem getting dates, but things always seem to end after 1-3 months. Sometimes, it was my decision to break up or it was theirs but I didn't disagree. But I've had guys dump me when I thou…

Can a FA-DA relationship work? — My partners have been dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant, so I have always leaned anxious ig. In my last relationship, I felt secure at the start, it was nice, we set boundaries.. till it happene…

how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …

Mostly healed, but I can’t stop walking on eggshells before I trust a new date (anxious-ambivalent) — Edit: I’m single but I’ve dated guys online. I’ve changed almost all of my symtoms from anxious-ambivalent to secure attachment. When I first start text someone romantically however, it’s all good un…

Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…

I’m still a magnet to guys who need help. (I stopped rescuing). — I used to be more anxious-ambivalent/codependent and enmeshed from family + an ex-friend. I’ve learned in CBT to separate someone else’s problems/emotions and my own to not become codependent again. (…

Updated Rules — Hello, your mod here. The rules for this sub have been updated slightly, check them out at your earliest convenience. Basically: 1. Please remember this is not a space to make blanket statements…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

DA Downplaying friendship — I have a self-confessed avoidant friend (I am secure). We dated very briefly but ended it because he said he couldn’t do serious relationships and I didn’t want to continue something ambiguous, catch …

What do secure bids for connection and co-regulation look like? — I am a dismissive avoidant trying to get better about reaching out to others for connection, co-regulation, emotional support, etc. I am really struggling to figure out what's normal/healthy/reasonabl…

Should you announce that you're avoidant early on? — Not just in dating (in fact I don't even want to date right now), in general? I really want to start correcting my fear of engulfment and vulnerability but I can't make the jump from avoidant to consi…

Dismissive - Anxious dynamic catch 22, how could we make it work? — I'm having issues with a relationship that's really important to me. It's someone who I dated last year for 6 months. We have very intense and wonderful attraction and connection in a way that is rare…

Anxious Attachment Injury - Nervous System Stuck in Fight/Flight — TW: attachment injury, trauma-bond withdrawal, panic attacks, obsessive rumination I think I’m in severe attachment-injury / trauma-bond withdrawal and I’m struggling to function. I’m asking for nerv…

When does the relationship clock start? — I (42F) met my bf (36M) in September on a dating app. We dated for five weeks, then I ended things because he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship (mental health struggles). We didn’t talk for two …

Bf of 14 months hasn’t said I love you — My bf (35M) and I (33F) met December 2024 on a dating app and became exclusive immediately after our first date. On our first few dates he asked what I was looking for and I said I was looking for som…

Girlfriend told me she was going to kill herself on my birthday. My attachment was almost healed or so i thought - all of that is in shambles now. — There were a lot of other red flags I have previously chosen to ignore, but this is what made me wake up. I suppose after hiding from people and feelings for so long, I felt like if I just broke it of…

Should I meet up with my ex? — Back in November 2024, I went on a couple of dates with a guy from my friend group, “Frank” (41M now). Looking back, it’s obvious to me that he was a rebound, but I genuinely didn’t realize it at the …

updated the rules. thanks for this.

Yes, thanks for pointing that out. The babe has been updated. p.s. If you have any hot babe suggestions, pm the link and we'll get it posted.

Yeah, this is not true and not really good advice. In fact, it’s mental bullshit that feeds the ego of a person. People are bitter and want their ex to feel bad and regretful because it makes them fee…

Yes you can literally everyone thinks about someone they dated in any significant way from time to time period.

The 2019 DevOps Roadmap link (aka https://roadmap.sh/devops) is no longer useful and should really be removed or majorly updated as it's confusing to newbies. It's actually linked twice in different…

Much better at dealing with my emotions. I think of her every hour and it's been 11 months. My birthday was 2 days back and she didn't wish me. Sucks how easily replaceable/forgettable iam ,did I not…

Wow I’m so sorry you’re going through this! It’s nuts how common our stories are. I always felt like I was being dragged around by Eric and he could never just tell me “it’ll never work out” Just brea…

Really solid points and then there's space for legitimate concern regarding abusive relationships. Basically, the “Power & Control Wheel”, like instances of sexual harassment/ assault, emotional abuse…

It sounds like a hard job to decide what can stay and what should be removed. Say there was a post with a comment that could be taken negatively by the OP. Is that grounds for removing the comment? Wh…

This was a great explanation and it’s validated my experience of confronting my family, thank you :)

I dated an avoidant person who needed those cool down periods. It didn't work for me.

I dated an avoidant person who needed those cool down periods. It didn't work for me.

So pardon the length (I haven't told anyone yet) and thank you for reading. I might have a crush on a good friend ("Steve") who I've reconnected with after a few years of not hanging out. We didn't …

Thankfully I haven’t dated an anxious attacher lol! No shade, I just don’t think I have it in me. And my bullshit detector has a hair trigger these days; when someone people-pleases or tries to “suck …

Just for giggles - do we think Travis is secure since she seems sincerely happy? Maybe she should have dated a football player sooner instead of these tortured artists.;)

Haha I don't pay enough attention to Swift's personal life really to know but I hope yes for her sake. I actually used to think she dated those tortured artists because it played so well to her streng…

I feel so seen. I had to take breaks from dating due to that built up resentment but also from sensitivity to rejection that I projected onto my worthiness. I’ve mostly dated FA in the past I felt l…

Husband and I met when I was on a business trip we dated 1 year plane ride long distance. 1.5 year car ride long distance then moved in together and got engaged a year after that. It absolutely can wo…

Agreed. I also dated a guy like this and things got progressively worse and worse- no amount of ‘*understanding*’ would have fixed it because ultimately he wasn’t fit to be in a relationship. On refle…

every DA i dated asked me "is there someone else" when I initiated the break up.

I don't know your situation, but it reminded me of my own, so I'll share in case it might be relevant. (Also: I'm sorry you had to go through that-- that sounds horrible. There's no excuse for that ki…

i used it, and love the fact that you can put your .toolversions file and isolate all your tools for that repo. really handy for monorepos. any tools that allows you to have a reproducible environment…

Java applications deployed in web application server Dotnet applications deployed in iis Tools manually installed and updated with procedure for each tool.

It’s CLI-based! You can simply integrate it into your CI/CD pipeline, and it will scan your code for any potential vulnerabilities. There’s also a plugin available for IntelliJ, so your developers can…

As someone trying to get into building a product and entrepreneurship where should I begin? I'm in school for product design and have also read quite a few books on the side. I know I need to start wi…

One thing I am worried about when it comes to the Secondary Contour installation approach, are the CRDs. They are global, and once updated to the new version, the old version will most likely break. S…

Please note the following is my opinion only, YMMV. I like minio for homelab or developer use cases. When it comes to cost though, I'd argue that S3 is generally cheap enough for anything that is ei…

Hey, thanks for sharing your story and I am sorry to hear what happened to you, it sounds pretty hurtful. Yes totally agree, as anxious we tend to overlook or blame ourselves for our date or partner s…

I think it's important to communicate how you're feeling and give reassurance to people around you who care for you. Silence might feel like self care to you but not to others. I dated a DA who thoug…

I’m not a DA, but I have dated several and I also have a long term relationship with a securely attached introverted person. When my DA exes wanted space, they didn’t just physically distance themse…

I am FA but lean dismissive so take my response with a grain of salt. I tend to disappear from time to time not out of anger or resentment but because my nervous system just demands space to reset. I…

I can't ever develop anything for people I meet online because my attraction doesn't grow that way. If I meet someone, like their vibes, and there's chemistry, I'll like them. On an app? It's appearan…

I hear you and I can see that your comment is grounded in past experiences. Fair enough. The only reason I chose to pursue this was because I had new found knowledge. This was the first time I've date…

wow, i coulda wrote that with my FA girlfriend! i had a very similar journey and whatta roller coaster of emotions it was for a year or so. i’ve dated my fair share of avoidants in my youth, didnt r…

Idk about this. As an FA who dated a DA and lost time like OP in a situationship for a year, both avoidants have boundaries, but are less likely to discuss them at depth or compromise.

The one time that I noticed a sign and was correct was when they would say that ALL of the people they’ve dated, they just didn’t click with. Just nonchalant, didn’t click with any of them. I just r…

I am a FA learnt secure, and I'll say almost half of the women I have dated are avoidants. Ken Reids and Dr Sarah Hensley have given lots of advice on this. I'll paraphrase them: 1) Ask them early,…

avoidants (especially those that are actively working towards healing and becoming secure) may come off as secure in the beginning of a courtship. until they are met with some triggers which will lead…

Yeah, I think it hurts extra hard when you considered them a friend and knew what they were capable of acting like and just chose not to at a certain point. I’m aware that I was likely a “rebound” or …

Well, if you're into them, that's the first sign. It'll be tricky to differentiate between DA and secure for you because they'll both feel like they're moving at a reasonable pace at first, but a DA i…

According to Ken Reid, the playful energy can be a sign of arrested development, which can happen with insecure attachment styles. He mentioned avoidant types can sometimes develop the class clown arc…

i’m in the same boat right now. I dated a girl a girl for two years who dumped me and has never spoken to me again since that day. it has been about a year since our breakup, but I keep obsessing. m…

I don't want to go to those other spaces and have to wade through the slog, but could someone explain why we are lumped in with narcissists? Most of my family members are avoidant attatchers (it runs …

Thank you. The "from this other side/perspective" stuff is unpleasant when we're already inundated with "from the other side/perspective" already.

You’ve seen this woman two times, haven’t kissed or even dated, and you’re calling her avoidant for simply not wanting to entertain a conversation about having kids with you?

>Whatever the actual proportion is, I bet there is definitely a rise in non-secure attachment overall.  Yeah, agreed. People keep citing these dated and dubious "statistics" that 50% of the populati…

He's not wrong. I've started a business because of this. After various relationships with avoidant woman its become obvious that as a culture we have caused a mistrust within genders. This is fueled b…

I'm FA and have mostly dated FAs. If I got this message, I would also be tempted to respond. I even might do it. But with a very high likelihood, nothing good will come from it. There needs to be…

So the FA I dated for over 3 years sent me an almost identical message like clockwork everytime he would discard me(usually took 1-2 months after no contact) I didn’t know what attachment styles were,…

OP, Reddit and especially this sub is a great source to have your feelings validated and to fulfill your need to be seen, heard and understood. Its however not a replacement for therapy.