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Clothes in themselves are indifferent - they are not inherently good, **nor are they inherently bad**. Your reasoning that led you to the choice of clothes is where the good or bad lies. Are you s…
START HERE !!! — # Step-by step short guide r/Sbreggo So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the…
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
Is it worth it as a new Laravel coder to buy PhpStorm? — I've been developing Wordpress sites and started branching off into Laravel. Having a great time but a friend said I should ditch VS Code and move to PhpStorm. I'm curious what your opinions are. At $…
Reddit Marketing Tips: What's your best advice for Reddit work that helps SEO? — Interest in hearing everyone's thoughts. From my experience, conversations with a high amount of engagement tend to end up ranking in the SERPs, so anything you can do to encourage conversation (like …
Linking *from* domain *to* GBP — Hi everyone! Is there any local SEO benefit of linking to your GBP from your domain? For example informing site visitors they can read your Google reviews and actually sending them from your domain to…
City links — I've done a fair amount of searching and reading on this topic but I've not seen any examples of creating links for cities on a website that is one page. I run a business that provides repair work a…
The "Perks" listed at the bottom of an ad for a *Senior* Product Design with 5 years of experience. — Stuff like this is why I read job ads throughly and I encourage all young job seekers to do the same. This tells me they are either hesitant to discuss benefits, or there are none to speak of and th…
Detailed Car Crash Simulation as a Service - I will not promote — Hello everyone! I am a mechanical engineer specializing in simulation (with a PhD in biomechanics) and I'm currently working on software that simulates car accidents in detail, also taking biomechanic…
How to target global traffic but prioritise the UK? — Hey folks, I run a .com ecommerce store and I sell globally to English-speaking countries. But I want to make sure the UK is my main audience — most of my marketing and SEO focus should benefit UK u…
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
Co-Founder wanted — Me: a decade in acquisition marketing for top brands in Europe. Responsible for P&L, decided if I’m responsible anyways, might as well be responsible for the whole damn thing, and the benefits it come…
My experience winning a chargeback — Sharing my experience winning a chargeback recently. We specialize in gaming collectibles, and our store has been running online for 3ish years. We have had 2 chargebacks in that timeframe, and won bo…
How should I go about looking for insurance for my home, auto and ecommerce business? — Did anyone have issues with getting insurance considering your business is located at your home? I have an at home ecommerce business and I also do gig work (Uber, doordash etc) as well. For whatev…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Shopify Free Plan? — Hey friends! I used to run my online store via Shopify (sold it last year), and now I’m recommending it to a lot of people in my marketing course. I *thought* there used to be a free plan, or maybe I’…
What are the Benefits of AI in eCommerce that actually influence why we buy? — I was reading up on how ai taps into emotions like FOMo urgencye or even guilt to push you closer to a purchase. and it’s not always obvious it’s subtle stuff like “only a few left prompts or remindin…
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…
We all have this problem, what's your solution? (i will not promote) — I'll cut straight to the chase, do you **focus your marketing on**: 1. **The benefits of your product** (which other solutions similarly provide) 2. **The novel way those benefits are delivered** (wh…
A Modest Proposal — A Manifesto for Metrics-First Everything — Picture it: Q1 FY 2025. A Medicaid patient opens an app to request mental health services. The screen is sleek—gradient buttons, playful microinteractions, and conversion-optimized flows. A calm anima…
To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go. — I’ve found Projects modeled visually instead of written in flat lists to be wayy more productive and successful. Traditional to-do lists are linear—one-dimensional. You follow a fixed path: top to bot…
Volunteering to consult on business challenges and find ways to optimise — Hello! I'm looking to find some smaller business which would benefit from some optimization in a certain area - things like processes which take to long, are too costly, duplicated effort, reocurring …
2 Domains - 1 Primary, and 1 Linked/Routed to Other — Hello, So I bought 2 domains recently, and have tied my landing page (via Carrd) to one of the domains directly. The 'secondary' domain, I have routed to the primary (so if you type the secondary dom…
Would you use AI to automate emails and newsletter drafting for your products? — Hey there marketeers! 👋 I’ve been working on an AI-powered newsletter tool that automates content curation, summarizes insights, and generates newsletters based on sources you choose. The idea is to…
I DID IT! Put in my notice today, focusing on my agency full time. — I've been working 70+ hour weeks for the last 16 months, working a full-time job as VP of Marketing for a Fortune 500 company while also getting my side hustle marketing agency off the ground. My agen…
Set out to launch my first e-commerce brand, feedback? — Looking for advice on a health and wellness business, A transdermal nootropic patch designed for biohackers, deep workers, and anyone looking for clean, all-day cognitive enhancement without the stim…
Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
Jupiter in Aquarius and the impersonal nature of this placement — This is one placement I genuinely struggle to fully understand. Jupiter, as a principle, feels conceptually misaligned with Aquarius and its traits. The expansive, benefic, growth oriented nature of J…
Input wanted — avoidants, what has helped you heal? — Hi everyone! This is my first post here. I’m looking to hear from other avoidants what, specifically, has helped you heal (more detail than just “therapy”). I’ve known for a while that I’m avoidant, b…
Recovery. I don’t care to be in a relationship.. did he break me or is this healthy? — 1 year and 2 months! Getting better (and who ever said this is a quick recovery is wrong this takes a lot of time, dedication, work and lots of waves of emotions.) Things are mentally getting better …
Parents spending all of their inheritance — This might come off as entitled, but essentially our family has always been relatively poor. About 5 years ago, a relative died and left my parents and their siblings $5m each. The relative had save…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
How do I beat decision paralysis? — My entire life I've struggled with making decisions, whether it's choosing what food to buy at the shop, which route to take on a trip, or more important things like what job to take, or what I should…
You can be pretty and still fucked up. Attractiveness will not save you from this disease. — I am not model-tier attractive, but I have modeled for local brands and have a very unfulfilling "successful" dating life. Everyone in the internet, and in real life claims that attractive people "hav…
In what ways did the gateway tapes helped you? — I am curious how people used them and what benefits they gained from them.
Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…
Getting rid of nihilism/pessimism — I (24M) am a pessimistic person, it is a really bad thing and i'm struggling to get rid of this thing. A lot of things happened these last years that chopped my illusions about life, such as losing my…
I feel like the only one not trying to permashift. Is anyone else trying to make round trips? — The title pretty much covers my primary inquiry. I don't see a lot of people posting about reality shifting or their goals therein unless it's about permashifting. I'm not shaming anyone for permashif…
Over thinking is a term that was created in order to get people to fall in line with manipulative behavior as quickly as possible — I recently was meditating and this came to me. Throughout my life whenever I was dealing with people/decisions that relied on me using my intuition I would occasionally come across someone who took my…
Funny Therapy Story — I recently started therapy and I think it’s been really good. I’m comfortable with my therapist and I genuinely feel like it is benefiting me. I am a very private person so I don’t have anyone in real…
What is the connection between fasting and manifestation? — Does anyone here practice fasting? I have read alot about a state of fasting (36 hours plus) putting people in a state where they tap into adrenaline / relaxation through enhanced norepinephrine in t…
As an East Asian, I feel discriminated by colleagues — I feel I have experienced a lot of discrimination in the workplace due to my race, but I feel like it's also getting worse as the years go by. Actually, so many things, like the propensity for cancel…
We’re in a computer simulation — I’ve lived my entire life experiencing all sorts of inexplicable illnesses, and I always thought that they were just coincidences or due to bad genetics. However, after I started reading into **religi…
My experience with NHI's, contact and navigating society. — # Hello! Where do i begin? Firstly, i want to give thanks to this space cultivated by Oak and the other Moderators, without this space, people such as us/me do not really have anywhere to go with a…
Heart chakra help — Hello all, I hope everyone is well. I am suffering from a closed heart chakra, I consciously think I am good there but I am not. I hold pain there. It began in 2023, I got a snippet of some trauma i…
Beware of taking back the ex that broke up with you and wanted to rekindle with you — Let this be your testimony that you are much better without them. My ex of 7 years and I rekindled after a couple months of no contact. She broke up with me cause she said she relied on me too much an…
NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…
Started gateway this week. I’m confused — Hello! I admittedly don’t have the most knowledge about the gateway tapes. I’ve listening to a couple podcast episodes about them but it sounded like this intense experience where you will astral pr…
Everyone coming here from the other subs is blessed to have finally sought a break from the emotional self-harm that seems to be at the core of the methodology in these other groups... which I took pa…
Relationships are 'us', not 'me'. Relationships which have 'me' first, don't last. Why do we get into relationships? Probably because we 'love' each other? And wouldn't like them to see them happy wit…
Is there really? At the end of the day, they’re all just scenes you conjured up in your mind. One may feel more “real”, but it’s still just your imagination. I and many other people who left manifesta…
This is 100% a pattern for avoidant attachers. It’s referenced as the “vulnerability hangover” in our own spaces. It’s almost like taking an ice bath. You can do it for a while, like 10-20 minutes, an…
I really benefit from a YouTuber named Patrick Teahan. His approach and explanations about our childhood trauma and effects make a lot of sense to me.
Simply get back to the things that give me joy in life. Nature, cycling, career progression, healthy cooking, travel, caving, gym, movie buff, research, etc. Never abandon my identity ever again when …
Well you're right that something has changed for her, but who knows what it is, it's probably nothing you did. She is being a little disrespectful to you with that response, but you should give her th…
I question myself, for sure, which only leads me to ignore the initial red flags (love bombing, rushing to intimacy and commitment, neediness, etc.) I tell myself that I am being paranoid, that I am…
Maybe it’s worthwhile just fixing the app now to get it in a better working state with what you have, before moving onto a new cloud provider? If the code can’t handle it in your current provider, c…
The answer here seems pretty clear. Fix the app. There’s no point scaling until you’ve fixed it. DigitalOcean is more than enough for your needs right now. And be wary of using Kubernetes. It’s an inc…
There's all sorts of reasons why it might take that long, though I'd echo that 24 hours doesn't seem that long to me considering their scale of operations. Ignoring all of the technical side of thin…
Bicep is azures cloud formation. I don’t think “might acquire an org” is necessarily a reason because it’s not like you’re azure tf code will be totally re usable in other clouds so the only benefit i…
Terraform/OpenTofu is still the industry standard, OT means it's still "safe", and relative to Bicep has the advantage of stable providers managing more than just Azure. I use it for managing infrastr…
I second OpenTofu over terraform, but do you actually need it? The idea of "if I use terraform I can swap cloud" is probably a YAGNI, and even if you use terraform / OpenTofu, you'll need to re-write…
I was diagnosed three years ago with ADHD. My wife, who is a psychotherapist, speculated for a long time and then gave me an assessment, which was then confirmed with a psychiatrist. But I've been run…
That's an inspiring mindset! I'm also a solo founder, and i am working on a student-focused idea. It's a mobile app that aggregates verified discounts (like Apple, Nike) and campus services (scholarsh…
Always, always try to show business impact. Estimate it if you can't derive it precisely, but whenever you can craft something consistent and useful for showing the value of your work, you gain tremen…
Congratulations! You did that hard work of putting in the time, and now you get to reap the benefits. So important to have a supportive spouse. I also have 2 young kids and it’s keeping me from jumpin…
I’m not a DA, but I have dated several and I also have a long term relationship with a securely attached introverted person. When my DA exes wanted space, they didn’t just physically distance themse…
I think if you had the option to change that timeline, it would be very beneficial. Maybe checking in every 24hrs is great for some and checking in one every 3 months is better for others. I’d be ex…
Well, where do I start? I guess for me the foundation was based on 3 pillars. 1st was of course Mindfulness as ability to comprehend that neither thoughts or feelings are our true self, which is in fa…
Not all women will engage in situationship. I’d argue that confident and secure women who aren’t looking for something casual especially won’t entertain this type of situation. Unless they don’t take …
I'm not gonna lie its a massive red flag that I wasn't able to secure a date with her until I was fully ready to walk away. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt because she is stressed over work. I…
As others have mentioned this is called, "Hoovering". In attachment theory, particularly with someone who is dismissive avoidant, they may feel threatened by too much intimacy and push you away (brea…
I’m giving her the benefit of doubt because I’ve jump to conclusions in the past, and the guy was some socially awkward tech nerd. I was more concerned about her playing games than the possibility she…
As long as the avoidant partner is willing to work on healing towards secure and seeking therapy then there is hope. Good on you for clearly expressing your expectations. This is what it means to work…
lol. She had to put clear boundaries on him. He’s definitely perusing her and she allows it because she enjoys the benefits without having to sleep with him or commit to him.
So the solution to "jumping to conclusion" is not "giving the benefit of a doubt": it's learning to investigate with kindness and with non-violence communication. From a neuroscience perspective, you …
After being away for some time, the nervous system regulates and they make decisions from a calm safe space. And realize that they should (maybe) not have left the relationship, they were too rash, wh…
Oh trust me, I learnt through the school of hard knocks by "giving the benefit of a doubt" when I was a Disorg leaning Anxious. As a Learnt Secured, I still do that occasionally. Some avoidants love …
Thank you for dissecting this. Usually I'm okay at noticing manipulative tactics but hoovering is something I could benefit learning more about to protect myself from. A FA who I really cared about wo…
This definitely feels familiar from times in my past as well. The problem is, when we are so inward looking, and introspective about things, while that carries some really strong benefits, it can also…
"I'm giving the benefit of the doubt."- famous last words
It’s one fight. Perspective. Self soothe. Positive self talk. Always give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Regulate your nervous system. This creates space for you to emotionally process…
I have had a decent amount of success with ssild as well as mild, what are the benefits of each and which should I focus on
Fix yourself (any personal mental or physical health issues, fill your time with hobbies/books/work/fitness/social time), not him. I’ve been there, girl, I wasted ten years on gentle-parenting men int…
You can take the lessons without keeping the man. I’ve done that 5x over and leveled my life up with each man. Trust me they benefited from being with me too, mostly in the arena of emotional awarenes…
What are you referring to? When I talk about emotional security or that I think psychiatry is questionable medicine. The two are related, at least from my perspective. But I really started this threa…
Healing without going no contact is really hard. I think you might benefit from reading "Adult children of emotionally immature parents" (I think you can find it on YT for free). Specifically, "Detach…
I personally have always offered at least some simple explanation. I’ve felt that much need for social acceptance in terms of my “honor”, and respect for others. I’m in my forties, and whether it’s ge…
DBT helped me a lot. You can see if your therapist knows about it or check some free resources like https://dbt.tools/ It has practical things you can actually do when you're feeling anxious. I like…
Thank you for your comments. Can I ask you: you say “she misses you even now…” as if she is still hung up on him? Is this a situation you’re in? Is this a common FA characteristic? I’ve heard of the…
Congrats on your hard-won self-awareness! It sounds like it was painful and difficult and you're still grieving. I just find one part problematic: >I decided to go on a rescue mission, for myself, a…
I don't think there's a "circle jerk" in the avoidant attachment sub. I've read and genuinely benefitted from seeing how the group helps each other comprehend their reactions and attempt from a place …
She has to work on her attachment issues as well, there's videos and books for anxious preoccupied styles, she would benefit in learning how to self-sooth in those moments instead of needing you to co…
I do too! It’s incredibly difficult to pour into someone without a lot of reciprocation and some days/weeks are better than others. Our relationship is best when we’re communicating, spending quality …
I've got my fingers crossed for you! It really is tough to pour into someone when you get little to nothing in return. I don't know about you but I don't give my partner my love and affection just to …
This is not a criticism of Neville. Neville and Jm were two sides of the same LOB coin and both have benefitted the world immensely. However we know next to nothing of their real lives and these snipp…
Thank you. Yeah I’ve been working a lot on my AA since it used to be really bad so I gave him the benefit of the doubt, I was for sure going crazy during this in my head, but wanted to remain calm. So…
It’s kind of normal to go through this with a lot of mental health treatments. People finally understand themselves and others better, there’s new skills to implement, but the outcomes initially swin…