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Attachment and intelligence

Attachment and intelligence — [https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Marco-Del-Giudice/publication/365106961\_A\_new\_look\_at\_the\_relations\_between\_attachment\_and\_intelligence/links/637e2eb92f4bca7fd084f79c/A-new-look-at-the…

r/AvoidantAttachmentpost4/6/2026
START HERE !!!

START HERE !!! — # Step-by step short guide r/Sbreggo So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the…

r/gatewaytapespost1/19/2024
Too Long on First Mission And Moving On

Too Long on First Mission And Moving On — Hello Everyone I know I'll probably be banned for this so let me explain my story. I have been on my first mission for the last 8 months using the index training guide fully and it has been a massive …

r/JosephMurphypost2/21/2025
Welcome to r/ecommerce! Please Read Before Posting

Welcome to r/ecommerce! Please Read Before Posting — **Table of Contents:** I. Account Requirements II. Content Rules III. Linking Policies IV. Dropshipping Guidelines V. Reporting Violations VI. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) VII. Encouraged C…

r/ecommercepost3/4/2025
Share your startup - quarterly post

Share your startup - quarterly post — Share Your Startup - Q4 2023 [**r/startups**](https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/) **wants to hear what you're working on!** Tell us about your startup in a comment within this submission. Follow thi…

r/startupspost4/11/2025
Feedback Thread

Feedback Thread — Our weekly thread is the place to solicit feedback for your creations. Requests for critiques or feedback outside of this thread are against our community guidelines. Additionally, please be sure that…

r/web_designpost4/18/2025
How does one go about creating these sorts of animations?

How does one go about creating these sorts of animations? — Sorry in advanced if this is a stupid question. I am such a noob when it comes to this sort of stuff. I came across this website ([https://animejs.com/](https://animejs.com/)) which has a really cool…

r/web_designpost4/18/2025
Best Practice HTTP Status Code for Proxy-Level Content Validation Failure?

Best Practice HTTP Status Code for Proxy-Level Content Validation Failure? — Working on an API gateway/proxy that sits in front of APIs. The proxy adds its own validation layer (toxicity, etc). I'm wrestling with an API design choice: when my **proxy's** validation rules bloc…

r/web_designpost4/19/2025
Feedback Thread

Feedback Thread — Our weekly thread is the place to solicit feedback for your creations. Requests for critiques or feedback outside of this thread are against our community guidelines. Additionally, please be sure that…

r/web_designpost4/25/2025
SQL Commands | DDL, DQL, DML, DCL and TCL Commands - JV Codes 2025

SQL Commands | DDL, DQL, DML, DCL and TCL Commands - JV Codes 2025 — Mastery of [SQL commands](https://jvcodes.com/sql-ddl-dql-dml-dcl-tcl-commands/) is essential for someone who deals with SQL databases. [SQL](https://jvcodes.com/what-is-sql/) provides an easy system …

r/web_designpost4/28/2025
SEO and Digital Marketing IG accounts

SEO and Digital Marketing IG accounts — Hi everyone,​ I'm looking for Instagram accounts run by digital marketing agencies that not only offer services like SEO and content marketing but also focus on educating their audience, particularly…

r/digital_marketingpost5/1/2025
Feedback Thread

Feedback Thread — Our weekly thread is the place to solicit feedback for your creations. Requests for critiques or feedback outside of this thread are against our community guidelines. Additionally, please be sure that…

r/web_designpost5/2/2025
What to Say When You’re Not the Cheapest Option (And Someone Pushes Back on Price)

What to Say When You’re Not the Cheapest Option (And Someone Pushes Back on Price) — I will not promote. This is a best practice I've found in my own works.So, you’re having a great conversation with a potential client and then you get hit with that line: “I know someone who can do it…

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions

Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions — I had a technical discussion with with a smaller company(around 100-200 employees) and they are filling out a new devops team. I have 7 YOE at large tech companies as a software engineer, but my dutie…

r/DevOpspost5/2/2025
We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms

We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms — We just published a public glossary with **500+ terms** related to incident response, on-call, alerting, SLOs, postmortems, and more. I think this is perhaps the internet's largest glossary for incide…

r/DevOpspost5/2/2025
Inappropriate Design Task

Inappropriate Design Task — I recently did well in an interview and have been given the most wild design task to date that I was made to feel stupid for pushing back on and would like some opinions. I was presented with a 9 pag…

r/UXDesignpost5/2/2025
Can someone explain to me why my competitor is ranking second on Google when the homepage is just the shop with no text and his menu has the shop and a contact us page?

Can someone explain to me why my competitor is ranking second on Google when the homepage is just the shop with no text and his menu has the shop and a contact us page? — I’ll DM links if that’s allowed and anyone would like to see both sites. I’m currently building out a site (it’s basically finishing just setting up payment gateways and adding product to the shop on…

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
What is your social media content creation workflow?

What is your social media content creation workflow? — Im running an ecom business with 700k plus revenue. Ive never did much on social media or video content creation. There is a lot of value in creating explainer videos for potential and existing custom…

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
Things to do with my non technical cofounder "i will not promote"

Things to do with my non technical cofounder "i will not promote" — Hi all i will not promote So i have a startup / side business im working on, I bought a friend in as a cofounder as he's generally useful in going out making connections, someone to help with site …

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Question about 404's

Question about 404's — Explain to me like im 5: I just do not understand why google shows me 404s when the URLs listed in GSC as 404s were never posted anywhere. I accidentally created a duplicate URL once, which then mad…

r/SEOpost5/5/2025
HELP? FAVICON

HELP? FAVICON — hello, no idea if this is the right sub to ask this and if it isn’t please lead me to it but : HOW DO I change my website’s (shopify) favicon so it shows on google ? please? It shows when you click…

r/web_designpost5/5/2025
Devops not using Docker (or Podman), what does your stack look like?

Devops not using Docker (or Podman), what does your stack look like? — Edit: I have nothing against containers, I'm looking for another containerization solution / ecosystem. I hate docker with all my soul. While writing it, I'm 100% aware that "hate" is a feeling and n…

r/DevOpspost5/5/2025
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

r/ecommercepost5/5/2025
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
Founders, Seriously, Please Don't Quit your Day Job (I will not promote)

Founders, Seriously, Please Don't Quit your Day Job (I will not promote) — I say this as a lifelong Founder who spends all his time trying to make other people lifelong Founders - **"Please don't quit day job" ... at least not yet.** Seriously, hold on to that steady incom…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
"Locked" Inspector Stylesheet

"Locked" Inspector Stylesheet — So, I recently was modifying and testing something in CSS via inspector-stylesheet and all of a sudden it got... Locked?? I don't know how else to explain it. I can create a new inspector-stylesheet …

r/webdevpost5/6/2025
A great copywriter is worth their weight in gold

A great copywriter is worth their weight in gold — I've been building brands for 15 years. If you just got your first $20k-$100k budget to build your brand/web/app, let me humbly offer you a tip: # In 2025, the #1 thing that will affect how 'pro' you…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote)

How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…

r/startupspost5/6/2025
We all have this problem, what's your solution? (i will not promote)

We all have this problem, what's your solution? (i will not promote) — I'll cut straight to the chase, do you **focus your marketing on**: 1. **The benefits of your product** (which other solutions similarly provide) 2. **The novel way those benefits are delivered** (wh…

r/startupspost5/6/2025
Anyone use shopify to sell as a marketplace?

Anyone use shopify to sell as a marketplace? — same as ebay, amazon etc? I always see shopify users being either brand owned or verified third party sellers who have permission from the brand owners to sell their products. but what about resellers…

r/Shopifypost5/6/2025
Head of Digital - Feeling burnt out.

Head of Digital - Feeling burnt out. — Hey everyone, I’m in a “Head of Digital” role at a mid-sized company — but in practice, I’m the only technical person in a team full of editors and project managers from a traditional print publishin…

r/webdevpost5/7/2025
Being an Entrepreneur is bloody hard

Being an Entrepreneur is bloody hard — That's a quote from Dan Pena and it's absolutely right. The bum boys on Instagram, YouTube and all the rest that pretend like it's easy are 1000% full of it. The true life of a business person and e…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Need feedback for my new one.

Need feedback for my new one. — Hey y'all, so I am trying to build a Micro SaaS for generating high-converting ad creatives/posts for platforms such as FB, Instagram, etc. The app uses OpenAI's latest image generation model and n8n …

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do?

Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Spending more to potentially make more

Spending more to potentially make more — It's hard to explain what I do but recently I spent around 2.5K to create a video game on the platform Roblox, the game is doing well and at it's current rate I would make my money back in around a mo…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD?

ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…

r/DevOpspost5/7/2025
FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later

FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later — I had posted in this group at the time when things between me and this guy who I really really care about sort of deteriorated. After that post he did come back and tried for about a week to reconnect…

r/attachment_theorypost7/1/2025
Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable

Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable — Hi everyone, I apologize in advance for this long post. I’ll just post the TL;DR at the start. TL;DR: Lost my best friend/coworker of 7 years after a conflict. He’s now cold/avoiding me but friendl…

r/attachment_theorypost8/19/2025
Seeking self-closure

Seeking self-closure — To give a brief overview. Had a multi year situationship with someone I had fallen for, a fearful avoidant. Much pulling and pushing until it ended by her pushing everything away. A year later she st…

r/attachment_theorypost8/25/2025
Help me understand-anxious now ex bf + part avoidant ex gf

Help me understand-anxious now ex bf + part avoidant ex gf — My anxious ex and I met in ‘22. Online I was a full dismissive avoidant I began to work on myself in October’23. Since October ‘23,I have been a dismissive avoidant in recovery Recently,I have …

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost8/30/2025
The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment.

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

r/attachment_theorypost9/6/2025
I need some FA to give me insights on this situation

I need some FA to give me insights on this situation — Break up with a FA need some insights Hi guys, i really need some insights as someone whos desire is to be a safe space for a FA girl. Breakup context: I (M, 23) was in a 2-year relationship with my…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost9/10/2025
For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure?

For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost9/16/2025
Proving Conciousness Creates Reality Syllogistically

Proving Conciousness Creates Reality Syllogistically — 1. We exist. But our existence is dependent. We as physical beings, did not cause ourselves. 2. Everything we observe in the universe is also dependent. Stars, planets, people, and everything else we …

r/JosephMurphypost9/18/2025
Will my ex FA ever stop resenting me?

Will my ex FA ever stop resenting me? — I was with my ex (FA) for 2 years, amazing connection and relationship. She broke up after a rough period (lots of changes + frequent arguments, not too intense) saying she was overwhelmed. Later she …

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost9/18/2025
Losing (F23, AA) my mind in my relationship with my (F22, DA) sister.

Losing (F23, AA) my mind in my relationship with my (F22, DA) sister. — We’ve had some real struggles, and I’m at a loss for what to do. I feel generally pretty secure outside of this one relationship, but recently it’s been making my AA flair up in my romantic partnersh…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost9/26/2025
Physical Reaction

Physical Reaction — I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I really felt a deep connection to, until a f…

r/AnxiousAttachmentpost10/21/2025
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

r/attachment_theorypost10/23/2025
Mostly healed, but I can’t stop walking on eggshells before I trust a new date (anxious-ambivalent)

Mostly healed, but I can’t stop walking on eggshells before I trust a new date (anxious-ambivalent) — Edit: I’m single but I’ve dated guys online. I’ve changed almost all of my symtoms from anxious-ambivalent to secure attachment. When I first start text someone romantically however, it’s all good un…

r/AnxiousAttachmentpost10/29/2025
Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me?

Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…

r/attachment_theorypost11/1/2025
Least talked about method from POSM (question)

Least talked about method from POSM (question) — In the section where Murphy talks about techniques, one is the "argumentative technique". "In brief, the argumentative method employed according to Quimby consists of spiritual reasoning where you …

r/JosephMurphypost11/7/2025
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Knowing that there's a physical reason for the confusion and lack of awareness makes it easier to accept. One feels like an outsider; the people around you seem to know how to be with each other. An…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment6/26/2020
If you are new here..

I wonder if the practicality of Joseph Murphy is the reason the "pornstars" don't bring him up much, where as Neville is more complicated and requires more interpretation/explaination, i.e. coaching.

r/JosephMurphycomment7/7/2020
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Check out [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/msprrk/this_multidimensional_model_by_jurgen_ziewe_shows/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb), [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralP…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/2/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Thank you! The diagram + stickied comment explain it well. And I'm glad I don't have to change tons of my beliefs, just expand them.

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/6/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Regardless of what it was, it was a non-physical experience. There can be lines blurred between what is lucid dreaming and astral projection, here's a video explaining the difference https://youtu.be/…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/30/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Thank you so much for explaining! One more thing if you don't mind, what's the best method to leave the physical body? I tried the rope technique yesterday, it didn't work but I know I need to practic…

r/AstralProjectioncomment7/22/2021
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

I was neglected from birth till, well, now, and have CPTSD for 28479227392 reasons related to my parents and to other experiences. I don't think focusing on blame is useful. I can't blame my one paren…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment12/15/2021
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Also, I often can slip back into the dream if I wake up and continue on with it. It is so hard to explain. I am hoping that I am not alone /crazy lol. Just wondering if other people experience this. T…

r/LucidDreamingcomment12/28/2021
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Can you explain more on how you achieved this? Did you lay back down after going to the bathroom? To try to sleep? How long did you do the finger movements?

r/LucidDreamingcomment1/12/2022
If you are new here..

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/18/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I wish i could ap 😭 I only have fuqed up but awesome dreams like fantasy, scifi othwr world, unexplainable stuff @_@

r/AstralProjectioncomment4/3/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Can someone explain what the fuck just happened to me. I was trying to fall asleep and when i finally succeeded i woke up again at like 3 am i realised I couldn’t move it felt like i was moving but wh…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/14/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

What if I ruined the chance of possibly not getting back together due to me being an emotional abuser??For example, she broke up with me because of unhappiness, goal of finishing her college degree, a…

r/ExNoContactcomment8/20/2022
r/EmotionalNeglectcomment10/12/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

what is the rollover signal. Im intrigued not allot of people explain things in depth, most of what iv read is like mostly just kind of do it.

r/AstralProjectioncomment11/13/2022
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Hi. My mother and father to a lesser degree were emotionally neglectful. It is a miracle that I’m still here and have been able to do all that I’ve done. But I’ve done a lot of work and healing and I’…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment12/28/2022
If you are new here..

I’m fascinated to find VM here, vipassana meditation. I’ve been practicing it for 20 years and it’s very powerful. It excites me that you’ve found a link between vm and JM. Can you please explain how …

r/JosephMurphycomment4/14/2023
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Aww im sure you would be able to find a partner that love you despite your autism. My ex is autistic too. He broke up with me and didnt even explain the reason behind the breakup. It hurts so much. …

r/ExNoContactcomment7/18/2023
About, Wiki, Rules, Books, Etc-- Read First

I'm a little new to this, but do any of the books above contain info on the chakra system? I'm looking for something that gives more than a introductory to them and explains how they are interconnecte…

r/energy_workcomment8/28/2023
REMINDER: be kind to yourself. This is hard, and you’re handling it with grace and strength.

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

r/Divorcecomment9/28/2023
REMINDER: be kind to yourself. This is hard, and you’re handling it with grace and strength.

Thank you so much for saying this. I said some things, calmly and collectively to my soon to be ex husband last evening, which were all true, but reflecting back today I wondered if he may have thoug…

r/Divorcecomment12/13/2023
If you are new here..

Has anyone read Grow Rich With The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind? Murphy references the founder of WhatsApp in chapter nine, yet he died in 1981… can anyone explain this? There are a few things in t…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/28/2024
Question about POSM

I would imagine so, but it’s not about doing it throughout the day but rather doing it when you wake up and before sleep, maybe occasionally during the day if you need to get yourself in the right hea…

r/JosephMurphycomment10/21/2024
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means)

I understand thank you for taking the time to explain using this helpful uber analogy

r/relationship_advicecomment11/4/2024
Question about Negative Statements "don't, not etc" and mild contradictions in POSM

It's because it's not about those details but about immersion into the scenario. Someone can have a mental argument in there without seeing other people. They followed the argument because of the imme…

r/JosephMurphycomment11/11/2024
Type 1 Diabetes

Ever heard of Lourdes ,the famous shrine in France? They have recorded miracle healings which are unexplainable by modern science and should be for all intents and purposes impossible . Every tim…

r/JosephMurphycomment11/19/2024
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I can lucid dream and I do sleep paralysis which can be very scary. Being thrown against walls etc. always a dark swirling cloud and a deep vibrational mode.. I just took it as ptsd as stated. Until…

r/AstralProjectioncomment11/27/2024
Question about Negative Statements "don't, not etc" and mild contradictions in POSM

hi! can you explain more you visualition technique. can I dm you?

r/JosephMurphycomment11/28/2024
Addressing Community Concerns: No Porn/Masturbation Addiction Posts and Self-Hate Posts + Revamped Subreddit Rules

Apparently a lot of it was gimmick advertising, which explains why they all sounded so similar

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment12/9/2024
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading

Can you explain more about true hand, what exactly it has to do with lob , since i too have done the same thing i was born left handed changed to right.

r/JosephMurphycomment12/31/2024
My arguments against manifestation

Don’t agree. There’s a difference between mental dieting and not living in a constant state of lack. This is why MB recommends going NC during SP missions. This person barebones was trying for three y…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
My arguments against manifestation

Yeah I gathered as much from a quick gander from their profile. Honestly it just works for me so whenever I see these arguments I don’t get triggered because I can’t explain why or how it does logical…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
My arguments against manifestation

You’re not being rude. You just don’t understand. I won’t explain it either because I want to gatekeep it. Why does my sp come only when I want them to or work on myself? and leave exactly when I ha…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
My arguments against manifestation

exactly, I have strong scientific understanding, so I know all the sort of science reasons are usually bullshit, and fool those with less science background, yet I also have experienced that it works,…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
My arguments against manifestation

I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
My arguments against manifestation

If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/9/2025
My arguments against manifestation

>If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, L…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/10/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

This explains how I let things get so out of control with avoidant types as I’m an introvert and quite secure independent and confident but after a year I started feeling like the relationship wasn’t …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/19/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

Ok I’ll explain. She’s claiming that people who vents about avodant discord is really just coping with the break up in a maladaptive way. When in reality avodants self sabotage good relationships. I …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/24/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

Fluctuations, yes. You're talking about the fluctuation toward 80% being the anomaly, and that the normal amount of time would be far less. And, no, there are plenty of secure people who enjoy greate…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/30/2025
Reading interest in text

That’s how you see it though. Some people are different and do not have the capacity to consider that, especially if they had a stressful day. Normally I respond to my friends, but the other night aft…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/3/2025
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe?

This is largely because people would rather avoid the discomfort of being honest about how someone's behavior impacts them, and let somebody else continue to struggle forever, than let themselves be u…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
The "and" theory...

Replacing BUT by AND and NO by YES when interacting with people and myself was an absolute game changer for me. I am always so happy when I hear others feeling the same joy. You explain brilliantly…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
Confused about affirmations

I manifested working remotely after i started a new job in the office. Well let me explain. Since i came to the us i been a housekeeping.. first in hotels then housekeeping in a hospital. I started im…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/6/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

Thank you for explaining. Im also super happy for you that you’ve grown from this,I know its hard. I’m in a relationship with an avoidant/emotionally unavailable man, so I’m bracing myself for impact.

r/attachment_theorycomment4/8/2025
Does attachment style start to shift after cutting out toxic family members?

Happy for you. Nobody asks to have an attachment style that’s dysfunctional. I’m working through mine and try so so hard to have compassion for others. But a big part of self love is learning how to h…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/9/2025
Does attachment style start to shift after cutting out toxic family members?

I was dismissive avoidant for more than 20 years of marriage. A few months ago, some things changed in my life, including a strange dream, and almost since the day after that enlightening dream, I ha…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/12/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

Maybe (as an FA) I can offer some insight… I was raised by a narcissist. In spite of my best efforts (15 years in therapy), I still have a high risk of ending up in a relationship with one. The mom…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise.  I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/23/2025