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It's a good question. I think most people come to Stoicism, or any philosophy really, because they're looking for something. They're in pain, or facing a problem they can't solve, or just feel lost. …
Can Manifestation Really Help You Get Full Marks in an Exam If You Only Wrote Part of the Answer? — Hey everyone, I have a question that might sound a bit out there, but I’m curious to hear if anyone has had a similar experience. I recently took an exam where I only managed to write answers for ab…
FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…
Sick of Spam? Use the Report Button! — Annoyed by AI-written posts full of stealth promotion? We are, too. Whenever you see it, hit that report button! The majority of spam that makes it through our ever-evolving filters is never reported …
Bundle pricing and host suggestions — Sup y'all, I'll start by mentioning that I did read through the FAQs regarding pricing as a web developer. This post is regarding bundling and host selection. I recently worked with my brothe…
Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…
Does this SEO strategy make sense ? — Hello experts ! Recently, I came across an SEO expert (have some good proof) that talked about the seo strategy that she used, but I'm not sure if I understand it correctly. The strategy goes as fol…
Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…
E-commerce shop for honesty/honor farm shop/stand — Hello everyone. I run a small farm shop selling out vegetables and beef. It's based on an honesty system with customers writing purchases in a notebook book then paying in by cash or by typing their…
Why would startup hire me as an intern? I will not promote — Hi guys, I recently joined a startup as a marketing intern. My focus is mostly creating video content for their TikTok and youtube. In the LinkedIn post, I saw that they had a lot of interest from…
How do you deal with the spam? — I recently (4 weeks ago) started a shopify store in a niche market with my handmade products. Doing organic advertisement with product videos on tiktok, facebook, instagram and youtube. Generally spea…
I designed an AI-powered path planner, but users lean toward heavy learning goals — need help rethinking the UX direction — Hi UXer! I’m a solo founder & designer, currently building a lightweight learning platform that uses AI to generate custom learning paths and micro flashcards. I designed it to support curious, self-…
Struggling to build credibility *I will not promote* — Hi everyone. I am just starting out in web design and development, and after taking 5 extensive (and expensive) courses in web design, SEO, and development, I’m confident in my skills. The challenge I…
Portfolio, Case Study, and Resume Feedback — 05/04/25 — Please use this thread to give and receive feedback on portfolios, case studies, resumes, and other job hunting assets. This is not a portfolio showcase or job hunting thread. Top-level comments that …
We Fired a Developer But Not Because He Was Bad, But Because He Wasn't Right. Only 2 Legit Reasons to Fire Anyone. (i will not promote) — After building a small team and running a startup for a while, We’ve come to a hard conclusion: There are only two legitimate reasons to fire someone. 1. They are not the right fit for the company.…
Thoughts on Password Protection for Portfolios? — I wanted to share my solution based on feedback from hiring managers being frustrated with portfolios that are password protected (especially when you can’t find the password on your resume). Ideall…
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search — **What It Does** This is an internal tool I’ve been building to help with UK property prospecting, market research, and deal due diligence. If you've ever tried to buy or invest in property in the U…
Seeking WordPress Booking Plugin with Stripe Integration for Card Authorization Without Immediate Charge (no-show fee) — **TL;DR:** *Need a WordPress booking plugin that works with Stripe to: require credit card at booking, do €0 authorization, allow in-person payment, and charge 10% no-show fee later.* I'm currently…
A Modest Proposal — A Manifesto for Metrics-First Everything — Picture it: Q1 FY 2025. A Medicaid patient opens an app to request mental health services. The screen is sleek—gradient buttons, playful microinteractions, and conversion-optimized flows. A calm anima…
Do we overestimate usability and underestimate motivation? — I used to obsess over UX friction, fewer clicks, better layout, no confusion. But lately I’ve been thinking more about *why* people even care enough to use a product in the first place. Sometimes i…
Set out to launch my first e-commerce brand, feedback? — Looking for advice on a health and wellness business, A transdermal nootropic patch designed for biohackers, deep workers, and anyone looking for clean, all-day cognitive enhancement without the stim…
How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable — Hi everyone, I apologize in advance for this long post. I’ll just post the TL;DR at the start. TL;DR: Lost my best friend/coworker of 7 years after a conflict. He’s now cold/avoiding me but friendl…
Depression and self harm needs to be discussed with professionals. — I cannot stress this enough. Please do not use suicide coded language or express intent or desire to self harm in this subreddit. These are issues that need to be addressed by trained professionals. M…
Hello from your new mod — Hello from your new mod! 🤓 I’m someone who’s been on my healing journey for a long time, and I’ve had gotten so much out of communities on Reddit in my own process. The intention is to keep this s…
For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
The most painful relationship/breakup I've ever had, cracked me open for healing. Plot Twist: The text message llm tool said I was an FA, I ignored it for 5 months before I figured it out. — For five months I was absolutely certain I was dismissive avoidant. Monthly attachment coaching—as a DA. Studied obsessively, could recite every AP/DA/FA trait. I even built this text analysis tool, a…
Least talked about method from POSM (question) — In the section where Murphy talks about techniques, one is the "argumentative technique". "In brief, the argumentative method employed according to Quimby consists of spiritual reasoning where you …
Physically Reacting to Jealousy — My first post was about my deep attachment to a former friend who cut things off because she is now my employee. I'm actually making a lot of progress with that. Well my stress level is very manageabl…
Weekly Newcomer Questions, Support, Vents & Victories — As the community continues to grow and attract people who are just figuring this all out, we've decided to change the weekly thread focus to be more open and encourage newcomer questions and support. …
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…
Here's to an emotionally secure 2026! 🥳🎈🎉😎 (open thread) — Happy New Year everybody! Open thread to share your small or large intentions and steps for making 2026 a more emotionally secure year 😊 My commitment: I'm going to ask for help. I'm going to as…
How do avoidant dynamics move forward — and when do they not? — I’m trying to understand where the line is between someone genuinely moving slowly due to avoidant attachment, versus someone who just doesn’t have the capacity (or intention) to move forward. I’ve b…
A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…
Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…
Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…
Decided it’s time to call out blatant misrepresentation regarding our sub — Slide 2 is a post made elsewhere that exaggerates and distorts what was actually said. Slide 3 is the actual conversation in the comments including their “reaction” at the bottom. PLEASE DO NOT go …
I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…
Are pre-birthday discards the norm? — I’m trying to understand this through attachment theory because I genuinely don’t know what just happened. We’re both women. I was 23 with a grad degree, she was 38 and just got her culinary degree w…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
Can You Change How Your Moon Sign Expresses Through Conscious Behavior? — I have a theoretical question about how flexible natal placements are in astrology. For example, if someone has a Moon in Aquarius but consciously chooses to develop emotional habits and attitudes th…
Is there a way to manifest myself to STOP being attracted to someone? — I’m curious if anyone here has used manifestation or LOA techniques to intentionally lose attraction or romantic interest in someone. There’s a guy in one of my classes that I find really attractive.…
My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…
Everything we know about shifting is probably false — So much of our communities take the knowledge we spread to be fact, when in reality shifting isn’t a science. At all. This has been said before but I NEED you guys to actually read and internalize thi…
Don’t Contact Your Ex. For Anything. Let Go Quietly. They Watch You for Access Without Intent. — We had a bad breakup. He was very cold and distant at the end, as always (we broke up several times). He made a joke about how I can be single and rushed me off our last phone conversation when I was …
Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…
A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…
I have got to that level many times and I have heard myself snore whilst I am wide awake this is not astral projection but a projection of the immortal spirit and it is this part of us that survives …
Astral project and set your intent to find out your purpose
This is the hardest part for me. I struggle with some PTSD which manifests itself often at night, in the form of nightmares, night terrors, and sleep paralysis. I'm deathly afraid of encountering an…
Oh dude last year I split up with a man and I was DEVASTATED. Like, thought I’d never meet anyone like him again, tried everything I could to get him back, and then finally went no contact with the in…
Know how we connect back to our purpose... or intention...?
What about for those who have almost nightly lucid dreams without intention?
Why does it happen haha Also I meant “without intention”
I had to add this: (In situations where they have intentionally/willingly hurt you) If your tears/pleads didn’t eat them up then your silence won’t either. They don’t give a fuck about you & That’s …
It depends what you mean. Some people try to wake up intentionally and have a hard time, which isn’t related to how real a dream seems. But you are going to wake up sooner or later, you can’t get st…
Lol wtf I forgot about this. It is kind of a funny rant. I think I noticed some standard reddit trolling by people who's only intent was to be shitty and I might have been pretty hammered and wrote a …
So my long story short.. yes I reached out after almost a year and not with any love or dating intentions. We started to reconnect and things started to happen for us again. We’ve been back to togethe…
You're allowed to feel anger. If that's how you feel it's how you feel, it's healthy to express anger if it's authentic to your experience. People deserve kindness and compassion, AND it's not wrong t…
It's so easy to resent and want to blame your parents, but don't you think the way you where raised where how your grandparents raised them? Finding compassion, and understanding that your parents did…
I just want to say, I’m am so happy to have found this sub! Oh how I’ve created so much in my life, with LOB (unconsciously) and more so just belief and the movie the secret that started it all. Then …
Definitely true. My parents in law have been together for 40 years, married for 32. They started dating when she was 16 and he was 24! Something that's literally illegal in most places now and situati…
When i take naps in class sometimes i will feel my body going to sleep (or i’ll get punched in the face by a fake hand and jolted awake) while i’m still awake and i try to move and for a couple second…
I've seen the opposite. I've seen people encourage illegal acts. It was a recent post about a PS5. The girlfriend bought their boyfriend a PS5 for his birthday and like a week later he said he wants …
It's because it's not about those details but about immersion into the scenario. Someone can have a mental argument in there without seeing other people. They followed the argument because of the imme…
Ever heard of Lourdes ,the famous shrine in France? They have recorded miracle healings which are unexplainable by modern science and should be for all intents and purposes impossible . Every tim…
Agreed. I try not to be swayed by how it was received by a person and read into the intent of the post. But it's not a perfect science and we all have f/t jobs and lives and such.
No what I meant was that it usually takes years to build up solid faith for lob itself, to see your mind as cause and effect towards your reality and to manifest with a snap. And that happens with alo…
It’s about specifics. It has to match. Intentional manifesting.
There is a very big difference between an unfocused daydream, in the third person, without intention or belief, vs a focused controlled self hypnosis/SATS session where you are focused on feeling the …
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …
I have many, many personal anecdotes that prove our beliefs create reality. Some goals/desires achieved are beyond the realm of mere coincidence and far exceed a free cup of coffee. My response to th…
My intention is not to victim blame! I am sorry it came across that way. Understanding you were a victim of abuse if powerful, but I believe there are ways I can set myself up as not to attract abuser…
I let my intentions be known. I tell the im dating with the intention of finding a GF. If I do not hear from them for a week or they dont text back for days I set the boundary that if this continues…
All this to say, anxious, avoidant, something in between. Neither style will be a great partner. They will be selfish to ease their insecurities cause they don’t have proper coping skills. Villainizi…
“Would you be ok if we slow our cadence down a bit? I like to have some time between our dates and texting interactions, so I can settle into my feelings and intentions.” Or something like that… If t…
I've been experiencing something similar, broke up in December. In my mind, it's almost as if the person I knew and loved severed (like from the show Severance) themselves and returned from a trip as …
I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …
Yeah I don't really agree with their point at all. There’s a big difference between a slow burn that feels a bit boring and something that stirs up anxiety, usually because someone’s bringing anxious …
Very smart and a good reminder to try to intentionally practice this. “I really miss him, and my nervous system feels more regulated without him.”
Thank you. That was exactly my intention, and everyone here seems to understand it immediately. Except OP, who is extremely externally focused, and the person who has 0 self awareness at all. Everyone…
You are correct. Your perception of love is warped. And thus it can be really hard finding it without accidentally finding yourself in shit relationships. As many have commented, avoidants typically …
FA here. All of my romantic interests have ended in a fiery blaze outside of my most recent with another avoidant. Practice being present and breathing. Learn to communicate your needs and wants. Take…
i can second this. my girlfriend is FA and doing well on recognizing it and NOT being so FA but there are times when she becomes disconnected and i feel like a friend to her. at times i don’t handle…
You will find the answer here - Moonlight Mailed Me ! : The No1 reason why people fail with their alpha programming. *Hi Everybody, I am one of moonlight's new cubs and his best for sure. I have a …
I try and focus on everything else. We run a profitable small biz together, take care of that like it’s our baby. Cook and clean together, watch shows together. We laugh and joke and have a good time.…
Don’t worry, I understand that my phrasing was a bit strong. What I meant was that ‘removing autonomy’ can also go under being abusive/unintentionally toxic (for example, making them feel like they ar…
The issue is, I hurt him unintentionally by crossing an unspoken boundary..and im left reeling and in pain because he ghosted. I begged for forgiveness..even not fully knowing for what, but he just re…
It is different for me too. One is an apology, and the other one feels more just expressing guilt or absorbing responsibility to some degree. At least for my DA ex, I knew there was no ill intent in m…
There's a million different opportunities. Most are viable. At 18 you basically have no experience. There's nothing wrong with that, and even a few advantages. But you also don't know what you don't …
An entrepreneur is not just someone that’s wants to do their own thing eventually. Neither is the entrepreneurial spirit good intentions, a desire to break the chains, or a desire to own your own thin…
Love the intent. India needs more founder-driven communities like this. Keep it focused, cut the noise, and real builders will show up.
Them not TRYING to hurt you doesn't make it hurt less. Regardless of the intention the impact is the same
>wanted to stay casual Idk what that means, exactly. Dating someone... but not really ? The specific rules or the framework of this concept are unclear because "casual" can mean anything, including:…
No intention to offend, but unless you have the trauma that leads to avoidant behaviors ofc you wouldn't be having the same experience as him. Anxious is not better by any means. I'm disorganized so I…
Definitely communicate. People are not mind readers. People feel disrespected when you don’t communicate your need. It feels discarded even if it’s not intentional.
*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…