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You Just Don't Understand

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My 35M husband shuts down every time

Learning how to have construction conservations with your partner is exactly what couples counseling is for, there are also several excellent books on the subject, including th classic "You Just Don't…

r/relationshipscomment4/11/2026
Me (32f) Feeling abandoned and trapped after husband (32m) attempted suicide and friends said they didn't want to be involved. How to I deal with all this with no support system?

Me (32f) Feeling abandoned and trapped after husband (32m) attempted suicide and friends said they didn't want to be involved. How to I deal with all this with no support system? — Context section: Me (32F) and Husband (33M). We have been married 7 years, together 10, been friends since we were 19 and 20. We have 2 babies, 3 and 1 years old. I am the breadwinner for our family, …

r/relationship_advicepost4/7/2026
Girlfriend(26F) of 3 months slapped me(32M) in the balls for a third time

Idk brother it seems like you're tempting her with explaining how much it hurts. That'd be like if I told my bank robber friend OH THE WORLLLLD BANK ITS JUST FULL OF GOLD AND JEWELSSSS. Then I send a …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/18/2026
(tw: trafficking) I can't interact in queer (or even fandom) spaces because of all the sex

No it is internalized homophobia you just don't understand what that means and thats okay

r/CPTSDcomment3/21/2026
My brother (28M) is getting married to his gf (18F) and I am TA for disapproving...

We are, you just don't understand the differences between my parents generation and previous ones and my generation and the ones after. Very different times and ways of life. 

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Why Simu Liu keeps speaking out, no matter the cost

You are like, incredibly sensitive. Honestly that's not my problem. Also it's not hypocritical, weak links like yourself are a detriment to the movement if they can't see why what they say or do is wr…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/31/2026
My (32f) partner (37m) says I “don’t let him talk,” but he talks in circles for so long that I can’t even respond

Three points: 1) Look up a book called "You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation." It's 35 years old and it was one of the first books to point out that men dominate conversations AND…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026