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The "Manosphere"

Oh hey look. DARVO. Front and center. [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO) Interesting how you not only hit all the keynotes you missed the entire point of the …

r/Stoicismcomment3/15/2026
Perimenopause and dating

Perimenopause and dating — For the ladies. I'm 40F. I'm oh so very lucky that I'm going through perimenopause early. 😑 TBH, I feel ugly these days. My face has changed in the last year and I'm gaining a little bit of weight,…

r/datingoverfortypost3/13/2026
I (22M) have a major crush on a co-worker turned friend (F19) but the situation is weird and i don't have anyone to talk about this. What would you guys do in this situation?

I (22M) have a major crush on a co-worker turned friend (F19) but the situation is weird and i don't have anyone to talk about this. What would you guys do in this situation? — *(Sorry if my grammar isn't correct, unfortunately English is not my native language. )* So i (22M) have a crush on a co-worker (F19) that has slowly become one of my best friends. We have been w…

r/relationship_advicepost4/10/2026
Question for the ladies on FB dating

Question for the ladies on FB dating — I’ve been trying out Facebook dating for about a month and I’ve noticed something on there that I find peculiar. A majority of who I match with have both something casual and long-term relationship …

r/datingoverfortypost4/11/2026
32(F) really need advice about feelings for friend

First and foremost,let me say it takes courage to do what your about to do. I feel your anxiousness and the lump in the throat but also the butterflies that start when you see the other person. You me…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/16/2026
Took the stock advice and joined social activities to meet people. Here are my results.

Not to mention that whenever someone with an agenda joins your regular group, it is usually very obvious on a visceral level and can be off-putting. If the activity itself is not something you want to…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/22/2026
Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too.

Definitely don’t look 17 but if I do a clean shave I get ID for lottery tickets. They ID everyone they suspect is 25 and under here. Most women place me at 30 with facial hair. The ladies at work mock…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/1/2026
Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too.

I agree dating a 22 year old would be creepy. I am not the one looking to do that. My wondering is why I am not compatible with people in my age range. The comments point to emotional immaturity as po…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/1/2026
Am I invisible to men as a woman in mid 40s? I'm not dealing with aging well.

I am 50 and also invisible to the ladies. I feel your pain but can't see it since we're both invisible.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/9/2026
Keeping the conversation afloat

trust me, most men aren’t out there wowing the ladies with their conversational skills either

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 10, 2026

I think you're just being buried. You have NO idea how many likes/messages the ladies get compared to us.

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/10/2026
Am I invisible to men as a woman in mid 40s? I'm not dealing with aging well.

I can’t speak definitely for the ladies, but from what I’ve heard, for the ladies, it’s more like finding a nice shiny needle in a haystack of bent/ broken/ rusty needles. Overwhelming! But you’re ri…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/11/2026
Ladies: What makes you swipe RIGHT? (inspired by today's recent post)

This was for the ladies to answer but as a man, it is the same for me. I'm not swiping yet but I do look and a warm smile goes a long way. I also see a lot of women hiding their eyes behind giant su…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Perimenopause and dating

Original copy of post by u/SkullsAndDragonflies: For the ladies. I'm 40F. I'm oh so very lucky and that I'm going through perimenopause early. 😑 TBH, I feel ugly these days. My face has changed in…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
I was the husband who didn't do enough. Sharing my perspective

Maybe it was all her fault. Maybe he's telling a story in first person, which has the natural pitfall of being a bit self-biased. Maybe he's doing what dozens of women do here every day, yet I don't…

r/Divorcecomment3/17/2026
My girlfriend tells long, detailed work stories every day after I get home exhausted. 25M-23F, 6 months.

Yeah, not an unusual "Woman" behavior. Guys could do it too, but more commonly the ladies that need to fill the air with words...

r/relationship_advicecomment3/17/2026
Daffodils on a first date?

I got flowers on first dates several times and I love it. I hate nonchalant people and am tired of all these rules in dating. If you want to get the ladies flowers, just do it. If she finds it cringe …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/17/2026
How do I (F26) talk to my partner (M33) about casual misogyny?

Edit: as requested, citation below. If you had planned a girls weekend trip away and he asked to go, you know it would make the whole trip feel different. You might not want to admit it, but you kno…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 18, 2026

No more dating apps after 3 years. No more. Its a relief. I'm tired. I put myself out there. I work out, go to therapy, volunteer, have social hobbies, and yet on the apps its like pulling teeth. I …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/19/2026
Dumpers who were emotionally overwhelmed.

What the hell are you smoking? I gave a scenario and for the ladies to come in and explain their phases? Do you have Down syndrome? Or just simply incapable of reading?

r/BreakUpscomment3/21/2026
Wrong again but did I do the right thing ?

I’m wondering when dudes like these will understand that violent words and actions don’t provide safety, don’t make the ladies open up. You dodged a bullet. Please for the love of all that is good i…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Women who had a glow up

For me I think daily yoga, botox really helped my facial muscles from repeatedly frowning, or tensing up daily so I dont need to get it often anymore, like it trains your facial muscles to relax, and …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Women who had a glow up

Thanks!! No, definitely open and happy for male opinions but wanted the detail Intel from the ladies working it.. 😊

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Burned Haystack: I Break the Rules

THANK GOD! If the ladies are out, Seriously consider cats as well I don't think a guy in his right mind should date you. Best of Luck!

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
Kink, consent and dating

We really need to normalize red flags and for people to understand their boundaries before dating. You should have a boundary, being touched a certain way, he crossed it and crossed it early. That…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/29/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

If he don’t respect the ladies he loses his visiting privileges.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
So what happens next?

Here it is on the Why Files, him saying it's actually wrong and it's October. [https://youtu.be/BYzXPxktcuM?t=7409](https://youtu.be/BYzXPxktcuM?t=7409) Transcript >But what I do know is when I whe…

r/experiencerscomment3/30/2026
My wife (f38) wants me (m42) to be okay with her going speed dating with friend?

Is she planning on wearing her wedding ring? If my wife suggests this I’d tell her I’m going out with that one friend ( the one that never got married and never has a problem with the ladies) just to …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
HINGE APP Am I doing alright on Hinge or nah? (30M)

Dad of 3 and 18 marches in less than a week?  Bro you’re killing it. You’re easily in the top 10% of profiles.  I will suggest that you focus on quality, not quantity. Focus on the ladies who type p…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/1/2026
How to indicate to women that they shouldn't background check me before I can explain the situation?

Is there a picture on any of the other guy's public records search results? As long as you have your own picture on your profile, can you put a note somewhere or tell the ladies in person that there a…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/2/2026
How often do you get approached in real life?

Yeah........that just sounds a bit too creepy for me. No thanks. I'll just leave the ladies alone in public. And if they want to approach me the can. And sometimes they do. And, I LOVE the dating ap…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/6/2026
Sanity check: is not drinking alcohol immature or hurting my dating chances?

Nothing against drinking personally. But again on a date I rarely - if ever drink - ESPECIALLY with someone I have not known long. I am a bit paranoid when it comes to the ladies. Yes Not drinking wil…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/6/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 06, 2026

Male here, question for the ladies: I had a great first date a few days ago. She wants to see me a few more times before we commit to anything. At this point, are yall looking for something specific…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/6/2026
I’m 26M and I’ve been in a relationship with my fiancée (24F) since we were teenagers, and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.

Been in a similar situation. She slowly faded and I hit a breaking point with my anxiety. Realized I struggled so much as I was so attached. In hindsight, Best thing we did was pull away from each oth…

r/relationshipscomment4/7/2026
How often do you get approached in real life?

Maybe it's time for the ladies to step up and do the approaching. In general, men don't get offended, call it creepy, or post it to tick tock, instead ....they are flattered.

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026
How often do you get approached in real life?

I found women won't close the door in a relationship, until another door opens in a new one.. That's why I never ask a woman if she is single. I figured it just makes me look like a player, and no…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/8/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 08, 2026

For the ladies who date men, what does your ideal intimacy timeline look like? Yesterday this discussion scratched the surface, and I was very surprised — not when it comes to sex, but when it comes…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/8/2026
44F: He said ‘if you loved me you’d accept inconsistency’… I ended it. Thoughts?

You put up with him many times, the first time our date was canceled last minute I left him on read and did not reply. Went to the pub with my friends. A lot of people here will tell you be strong and…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/8/2026
40F. How do you answer “did you not want kids?” Question? It just didn’t happen for me but I find this so dumb and rude given I’m single.

Jesus to all the ladies here i apologize for then men you have met. I state in my profile i have kids. However they are nearing 30 now and I have 7 grandchildren. When Simone asks why I don’t have a 3…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/9/2026
Sticky Thread Until Reddit Fixes Their Shit - April-ish

Just want to share that I went to a speed dating event and hit it off with a girl, got her number during the event and chatted a bit after (yay!) Unfortunately, our schedules didn’t line up for this…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/10/2026
I (23F) was recently told by my bf (27M) that my downstairs looks like roast beef

As long as men keep doing it, it will be heard about. Police your peers, sir, not the ladies.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026