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> Specialized high schools in New York utilize a standardized test called the SHSAT, which Asian American students typically excel in, regardless of family income levels. However, AOC attended an even…
Weekly Newcomer Questions, Support, Vents & Victories — As the community continues to grow and attract people who are just figuring this all out, we've decided to change the weekly thread focus to be more open and encourage newcomer questions and support. …
Behavior of Asian boys vs. White boys? — I've been wondering about a topic regarding EA and SEAsian boys, socialization, and racialization: do Asian boys behave differently from White (European, non-Latino) boys in any noticeable manner, and…
Histories of Native American Treaties and Anti-Chinese Violence Win Bancroft Prize — Emilie Connolly’s “Vested Interests: Trusteeship and Native Dispossession in the United States,” published by Princeton University Press, examines the financial aspects of many U.S. government treatie…
Advice on how to deal with parent giving ultimatum over my relationship — I'm a 28 year old gay Asian male currently living in an East Asian country for my job, away from my home country and my parents. All my life, I had a great and loving relationship with my parents. I w…
I want to leave America. What country to move to? — I am Filipina. It is 3 in the morning where I am, and I cannot sleep. I cannot do this anymore. What this country has become, the headlines, the racists (and most white people), are debilitating. I am…
TikTok Video Calls Racial Dating Preferences Racist, Draws X Backlash — Link: https://x.com/i/status/2035395580797534514 The backlash may be aimed at South Asian men right now, but let’s be real—this is how a lot of people see Asian men in general. A video posted on Tik…
Schools Hire Asian Teachers at Half the Rate of Other Groups, Re.search Finds — Asian teaching candidates are more likely to boast an advanced degree, but less likely to get a job offer, according to a s.tudy of hiring data. School hiring processes play a crucial role in determi…
How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the me…
How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the medi…
Dad CONSTANTLY bashes me for being with an Asian guy — To preface, I’m in college and I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost six years now since early high school. My parents have been divorced for twenty years and my mom is very supportive of me (as a bi…
The reality regarding interracial dating for Asian men in the West — Hey everyone, Long-time lurker here. I was recently watching a RehabRoom video on youtube regarding whether or not height was the biggest disqualifier for ethnic men in American dating, where he p…
Curious about your experiences interacting with other Asian Americans — Happy Tuesday, hope everyone's having a good week so far. I'll preface by saying that I appreciate that this space exists, and I've found value in sanity checking some experiences with others (though…
Do you frequently get asked about your religion? — Growing up, I get randomly asked what my religion is as often as I get asked where I'm from or what ethnicity I am. And I grew up in one of the least religious parts of the country! It feels like a ra…
The ACTUAL reality regarding interracial dating for Asian men in the West — I wasn't intending to make this post but was forced to after this post to set the record straight after the below doomer information was posted [https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianMasculinity/comments/1s…
Ask reddit Post about the most disgusting thing a person has said to you. — My comment was removed for being too obscene. I just want to put this down somewhere so maybe it stops bouncing around inside my head. Extreme content warning. These are all of the most awful things …
Weekly Newcomer Questions, Support, Vents & Victories — As the community continues to grow and attract people who are just figuring this all out, we've decided to change the weekly thread focus to be more open and encourage newcomer questions and support. …
Dear parents, why are you even here — For context, my parents immigrated from their home country of China to a western country, Canada. But I’m pretty sure they hate it here. They constantly complain about how everything is worse here, ho…
Any recommendation on Asian comedians that do not rely on racial stereotype jokes? — Looking for some recommendations. I don't mind hearing a couple of racial jokes, since they are a part of their identity, and some are indeed very funny. But if a set solely relies on racial jokes, I…
CDawgVA (mainly) and others in Trash Taste throws in the racial slur Ch*ng Ch*ng repeatedly dozens of times. And people are defending him for it and claiming how it's not a slur. How it was an accidental mistake and that they were a little drunk. — [Link to the video where they said the slur multiple times](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7aPpjxdTvIM&t=7319s)
If we all got sent back to our "native" countries, how would you feel? — Asian American here. I often have these thoughts, or in my case "fantasies" of my family returning back to their native lands. I was born and raised in the US but my life has been a perpetual identity…
POC solidarity as an Asian — Firstly I would not like for this post to derail into other non-Asian POC hate, and I know this is not ALL non-Asian POCs being this way. I know this bc my own non-Asian POC (Black, Indigenous Blak, P…
I have no friends and my mental health is in shambles. — Around last year in June, my only group of friends invited me to their minecraft server.I was overjoyed at first- but that didn’t last. More members started to join, and one of them called me out for …
My interracial relationship — TL;DR It’s hard explaining to my (19M)white significant other that I (19F)didn’t have a childhood like his with celebrating every holiday because my parents fear that taking one day off of work will c…
Family doesn’t approve of relationship — I feel like this happens more often than not, but i still need advice, also apologies if this is in the wrong subreddit. Context: Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now (he’s mixe…
Not sure if its just me but I experienced more racist bigotry and ignorant slurs in the SF bay area vs. Southern California as an Asian American, can anyone relate? — I remember an incident in the bay where some bum on his bicycle was yelling "ching chong chinaman" while I was walking Berkeley. I had another incident of a black guy on his bicycle saying to me " wh…
Post-partum confinement for Asian women - necessary? excessive? Should other cultures do it, too? — In China/Taiwan/Korea/Japan, it's very common for mothers to spend a month or more in post-partum recovery (坐月子) where they eat special foods, are taken care of by caretakers, avoid cold, sleep as muc…
Google engineer rejected by colleges uses AI to sue UCs and others for racial discrimination — The return of a story from 2023 in which a graduating student who was rejected by many universities but ended up hired as a software engineer at Google. His father has filed lawsuits claiming racial …
Been hiding relationship several years, have to disclose and it's crushing me. — I (f) met my bf in highschool, started dating a few years after. We are an interracial couple and been together several years now (in early 20's right now) and coming to the time where I have to discl…
Weekly Newcomer Questions, Support, Vents & Victories — As the community continues to grow and attract people who are just figuring this all out, we've decided to change the weekly thread focus to be more open and encourage newcomer questions and support. …
Two year split. — Two years ago, I was in a relationship with a woman for about three months, prior we would speak to each other frequently whether it would be through banter or true conversations. Once we became offic…
I'm a Taiwanese-American scientist running for Congress in CA-32. Another candidate called me a Chinese spy and asked a rival campaign to act on it. Here are all the receipts. — **Edit 2**: The full unedited video of the forum I attended on April 8, 2026, less than two hours after seeing the March 5-6 texts from Anna Wilding is now live on YouTube. I showed up, I did my job, …
Would you consider Hawaii to be the “gold standard” for an Asian to exist in? — As an Asian American (East Asian decent) from the mainland US, my whole teen and adult life has been a perpetual identity crisis. For me personally, picking places to live in the US are like dodging l…
Thoughts on this comment? — Not sure if I think this sentiment is more-so "self-inflicted" (as in, it's internalised by the original commenter for whatever reason, perhaps from a lack of assurance), or if I think that the lack o…
Yellow Peril Racial Profiling — Regardless of how you feel about North Koreans this is straight up deranged behavior. It's like people spamming Tienanmen Square or Winnie the Pooh whenever they come across someone they believe is Ch…
>While it's indeed true people (and early on myself included, until I knew better) confuse or wrongly attribute abusive patterns and narcissism to avoidant attachment, I don't think it's intentional. …
No I don’t and while I think you have some fair and good points, for some reason you’re very emotionally attached and aggravated by this.This is just a personal rant on some perceived grievance you ha…
Yes, I replied to another comment above with links to articles and further discussion on this topic. You made a unique point that other commenters haven’t pointed out about the racial and gender base…
I'm surprised to hear that you know only one other gay trans man. Is the trans population in London smaller than in other major cities? Is the mainstream queer culture there less open to trans people …
Not awkward. I'll date any race and have done so in the past. The men who go for me the most tend to be White, South Asian, and Black (in that order). I'm also open to any religion. I'll love whoeve…
I know lots of single folks who are not on apps. Myself included. Broad strokes is that we didn’t get the engagement we wanted on apps. And often we were what I would call the wrong type for where w…
Going Dutch was originally a racial slur… cheapness is stigmatized everywhere. I lived in a couple of EU countries. People treat to dinner everywhere.
Hi I previously recommended these to someone so will copy and paste it here Book on understanding and healing trauma : 📚The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma…
setting aside physical traits that likely dont necessarily lend themselves well to online dating (i wont bring these up because they have not been researched in any systematic way), my race/ethnicity …
Thanks, it makes me feel good not to be judged here. I only have an issue with racial preferences when people (men or women) put other races on a pedestal and talk bad about them. My younger brother a…
Girl, don't feel any shame about this and don't apologize for it. imo men (especially black men) do this all the time, so I don't see why only women need to be shamed for it for having racial / aesthe…
I can find them in the dating apps, so that isnt that huge of a problem but more recently, specifically on Hinge (the only app I'm currently using right now) things seem slower and I dont get as many …
Defending white men while hand waving away your own racial fetishization is next level yikes. I would like to think you go this hard when it comes to calling out anti-Asian racism, but I think we all …
What annoys me the most is when people are talking about interracial relationship and will refer to the white person as “American”. -as in “yeah I’m Chinese and my boyfriend is American”. They’r…
If it was an Asian woman, she’d already understand the racialised fetishisation we get. Smells like something else to me.
There just simply aren't enough Asians in America yet. A lot of people in America have still never met, and/or interacted with, an Asian person yet, and a lot of people in other countries have never m…
I have a few different things to say in response: First, I should answer your direct question: # What is Kindness I'd say that's just a semantic thing. The real question is what you think is the ri…
it doesn't really make a difference, even if you are half white/half asian, your are still perceived as a minority in white majority america. though i would say bi-racial half asian/half white folks …
As a biracial, Afro Latina, white guys chase me like crazy, specifically Jewish white guys?? I get no love from Latino or black men. Well- I get compliments- but not so much invitations. Don’t really …
I'm not necessarily disagreeing with your take here. But when you call a group as being underrepresented, it really implies that they qualify for something but are treated as if they weren't. In other…
Prep school has a specific meaning and it’s not the one you intend. For example—Dalton is a prep school and that is in fact elite. Probably enrichment, after school program, tutoring or extracurricula…
You're not weird, you just see men as actual human beings, as do most women. While I have some physical preferences that I tend to be more naturally attracted to, my exes have been from all different …
Lots of men have strict racial preferences. I know this because I'm a minority woman.
I see no reason to continue with a man with a racial fetish, whether you fit the fetish or not. Preferences are fine. Fetishes are red flags.
My parents found out about my boyfriend once in high school. He was biracial and not Indian but also lived in another state from me. We were more pen pals than romantic partners. My parents said the s…
He sounds like a slimeball, but most people are going to have some kind of ethnic/racial dating preference whether they admit it or not
Omg I remember this person. Basically every post she made was just promoting her own self-published novel (which btw, seemed like another rote "asian american literature" semi-autobiographical drivel …
Concur with different racial backgrounds. I don’t exclude/pick one or the other but I also have been open minded my whole life. Maybe even more now. Always been about chemistry.
I mean yes less than 2% are the Garifuna or Afro- Guatemalans. Black is not an ethnicity, so I was confused. Most of the culture is indigenous. Latino is like an ethnic National identity whereas indig…
I am not saying it's bad advice, I am just not sure if it's that applicable when we are talking about systemic racial discrimination. And let's be real, men would date men too if they could.
Gay Aussie Asian here - I saw this a few years ago an frankly it seemed like every point was pretty on point back then. I just watched it again and it all resonates the same now. One of the guys ask…
It is true that most interracial relationships that Asian men get into are with white women.
I assume this is US centric so I shall respond accordingly. Anyone living in the US the probability of having a AMWF dynamic will be material. If u live in the west the probability of interracial da…
I'm a Kurdish-Iraqi woman who likes Asian men and I would say that a lot of this "Asian men only like white women" belief comes from only/mainly seeing these men with white women and talking about wan…
As a black woman whenever I see Asian men talking about interracial dating, they only want white women and sometimes latinas. Being dark skinned puts you at a disadvantage with Asian men because they …
I’m gonna yap a lot so just bear with me lmao. But most of the time, when people say that AM’s only want to date/date WW when they’re dating interracially is (imo), simply just to hate on AM’s. Cons…
Not to even mention that quite a handful of those quiet nerdy Asian guys have absolutely hot Asian girlfriends too. One can blame a subset of Asian females for having a serious unhealthy racial bias i…
The number of upvotes on this stupid ass comment…. Saying we’re at the bottom of the racial totem pole over stupid online bullshit but I bet if you were given the chance to swap places with Black Amer…
I agree with most of what you said. However I will disagree that WF are generally the most open minded to dating AM. From what I see and experience, they’re the least open to dating interracially, esp…
Really? Based on just generally what I see with AM’s in Western countries, even tho WW are the largest pool of women to choose from, they do seem relatively & comparatively more open than to other gro…
Well where I live, I hardly see AM dating interracially in general, they all stick to AF. But there are lots of Latinas here and I tend to get along with them, so organically I’d probably have the bes…
No, I’m older and it was really really bad 20 years ago. All my aunts and my mom (remarried) are married to white dudes. Fast forward my younger female cousins are actually open to and dating Asian gu…
Being the first Asian American general counts for nothing lol .. You guys constantly cry about how racist America iqs and then summarily dismiss those who break racial barriers...its absurd
Chinese Americans can’t hold dual citizenship. A lot of Asian Americans have dual citizenship through ancestry or country of origin, but not Chinese ones. How are we loyal to a different nation than t…
I think it's very clear there is favoritism on who gets to speak longer than others. There definitely seems to be a racial hierarchy but the favoritism is so bad that bringing up race isn't even requi…
Just saw this a few days ago, had a great time. I recommend it to anyone here. Great examination of growing up Asian-American and of racial politics in a white supremacist society.
Mukokuseki is under-discussed imo. A lot of Anime characters don't really look Asian/Japanese or White. This allows White and non-Asians to self insert as these characters a lot easier. I genuinel…
My original comment wasn’t even about the phenomenon of Asian American women dating white men. I mentioned Western media’s propensity of uplifting Asian women with white male partners, because that pa…
In my anecdotal experience, the male cohort of my generation also ended up with white partners. And since it may be of note, none of us live on the West coast where the odds are more in favor of Asian…
You hit the nail on the head. Stories like these are often praised and paraded around as representative of the average AsAm woman’s experiences. And unfortunately a lot of women on social media clai…