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This got me. Ugh. I just really feel this. I still get anxious and guilty about doing nothing. This need to be industrious and constantly doing something productive is unhealthy. It's hard on my relat…
Daydreaming — I've thought for a while now that maybe I daydreams a bit much. But I recently heard it was a codependent thing, used for escapism and caused by trauma. So I started paying attention. I daydream when …
Anxiety about my past getting brought up — I'm trying to get my foot into the entertainment business, but when I turned 18 (2 years ago) I got crazy trying to ease my anxieties about my Internet safety and decided to be as unsafe as I could wi…
Just Deactivated all of my Social Media Platforms. Super bored. — Hi friend, Yesterday, I deactivated all of my social platforms (except Reddit of course). The reason why I did this is because being on social media has taken a massive toll on my mental health. Th…
I (34F) have to move from WA to CA for my dream job and my boyfriend (42M) would have to quit his job to move with me — I (34F) am a successful product designer living in Seattle WA. I own my home. I make Good Money. My bf (42M) has never had an issue with me outearning him and is celebratory of my success. I was laid …
I feel like I have no personality but I don't know how to fix it. — To preface this, I'm very online. I know it. But I tried a "digital detox", stayed off my phone for two months, and it didn't change anything. All it did was made me bored. I don't really have any ho…
What are some cool things I can learn to do which are fun and helpful? — 19M and so far thought of learning to use canva and playing guitar guitar. I am just trying to think of things that might help me meet new people and stuff to help fill my time when I’m bored.
Movies :3 - Day 17-18 of Recovery — Two day combined post again because I keep forgetting sorry... First off, I wanted to give an update on the meditation, I still think it's kinda silly, but it's definitely working. my emotional regul…
25M, Ex-situationship keeps breaking no contact, advice needed — Hi I’m 25M, Bi and live in London, UK. I met “Tony” (same age and also Bi - might I add we’re both discreet/DL) in 2022 via Snapchat (lol). This “situationship” (I don’t even know if I can call it t…
My 25f partner 24m doesn’t put any effort into any holidays or events or anything special. Is that normal? — Post is as it reads. We have a 2 year old daughter together. Her birthday recently passed and I spent hours baking her cake, finding decorations and gifts from eBay (she’s into some older tv shows so …
A narcissist mom VS an ASPD son. — My mom's words will be dashes(-) and mines will be plus signs(+) pretty sure my mom is a narcissist, I have been checking boxes and she checks every criteria to be suspected or assumed. I am 21. and …
40, divorced 3 years, but feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me? — Location: Hong Kong Age: 40 Status: divorced 3 years, no kids Money: net worth \~US$6M (no debt), few furniture stores and a rental property. High income but stress level is insane. I could retire…
How do you bring excitement back to your relationship? (F22) M(23) — My partner and I have been together for 4 years. Id say this issue has honestly been going on for almost a year now but we’ve both ignored it because of major personal life challenges we’ve been deali…
I (24F) found my FWB/BF's (26M) tinder account after we agreed to become exclusive. Help? — I want to ask about a situation I’m going through right now. I (24F) met a guy (26M) in my martial arts class. We met at the end of November 2025, we hadn’t been friends prior, we just acknowledged ea…
I feel like my life is boring, nothing satisfies me — So I am a teenager, nothing seems to satisfy I'm pretty much average at everything (kinda good at studies though). I plan a lot end up failing at it miserably not because me but due to some circumstan…
My parents tried to unalive me on Easter — I need to share my long story to feel some sense of relief. I am a female in my 30s. I did not fully grow up at home. I spent years as a ward of the state. After a siblings passing I tried to make a …
Unintentional shift? What happened? — To make this short and simple, I’m not sure if this was a mini shift or anything at all. I was having some nonsensical “films” playing in my head while being moody and just laying down with no inten…
My (36F) partner (37M) recently got a medical diagnosis and now wants an open relationship. Is it selfish of me to not want to? Or selfish of him to ask for one? — We’ve been together for 7 years now and been through a LOT of life changes and difficulties (grad school, moving, new jobs, etc). All of the stressful things and have come out on the other side strong…
Do you need more time from your dates as you’ve gotten older or had kids? Why? — When I was in my twenties, it seemed like no big deal to only see my girlfriend a few times a week. Now in my late 40s, with teenage kids, having spent a decade married and most of a decade in two lo…
Ex doing so much better without me — This is going to be a mess of a post because I'm currently spiraling rn I've (20M) been spiraling ever since my relationship with her (20F) fell apart. It's been more than a month since we last talke…
To All Waywards – Part 1: What I Needed (and Still Need) on D-Day and Discovery — To all the Waywards out there, please heed my appeal. This may not be what your SO needs perfectly, every situation is unique, but this is what I needed and did not received. Since you are here I am a…
Im 25F just met a 35M, Need advices on how to make it work — Hi. I need advices. Im 25F, I just met someone who is 35M. We’re like 10 years apart but I kinda like the idea of him being my boyfriend now. I know I shouldn’t and I just know the guy only for a mon…
Guys. The synchronicities are too much. — I would say, I’ve recently had the big ego death. Locked in. seeing synchronicities everywhere. Instant stupid manifestations( one example: I told a broken coffeemaker to work. And it did). Realizing…
Lack of desire for shared interests in relationships — A huge struggle I’ve had with dating is not wanting to do shared activities. I feel like my trauma makes me value companionship and feeling loved more than anything else, so shared interests are kind …
I quitted alcohol 6 months ago. Tomorrow I'm quitting CBD. — I'm getting ready to take a big step in my life. Writing this helps me visualize the process, and I'm hoping to get an outside perspective here. I started smoking joints around age 20. Long story sh…
Sorry for what you’re going through, but I’ll be brutally honest. As a bad boy, I believe he bullshitted you to get what he wanted, then disappeared. After physical interactions, people tend to either…
I think it might also a problem with the way you sound about it like too aloof and casual. Like, at this point, you might not be able to trust anything about yourself as it pertains to relationships …
I spent a whole year recovering from a breakup. I focused on healing and my anxiety. Very confident in dating. I go on multiple first dates. I’m having a good time. I feel in my own skin for the fir…
I used to only feel intensity and the push/pull of chaos as chemistry. Like Spiritual Twist said, I had to heal my own wounds and nervous system to be attracted to peace. If you haven't read it, I HI…
Texting too much takes away the mystique. Like, I run out of things. If you don’t have enough of a rapport to have usual subjects, eventually you’re just cycling the same stuff. You get a rapport thro…
This isn’t directed specifically at you. I really find women who pepper with questions and/or wait for me to ask them questions profoundly uninteresting. You’re a grown person! Tell me about the t…
This honestly sounds like fearful-avoidant attachment. Your nervous system is wired to find comfort in chaos, the confusion between anxiety and chemistry creates this push pull dynamic that your bra…
Thank you so much for sharing it. I am literally crying and feeling so torn. I know that it is not because he is a bad person or because he is not interested, he is just like that, I guess. It really…
I actually left someone a few months ago like this. We dated for 3 months and he was so sweet and kind and we would always be close physically etc. However he was not a talk active person at all. I …
Just a vent. I guess romantic relationships are not for me. It never works. When I am single I feel fine, never lonely and never bored. But then whenever I start having feelings for a man sooner or…
Bored. Bored people are just bored, looking for validation and wanna pass the time, with absolutely 0% intention of meeting in person. That's why I never bring it up. Whenever I get the pen pal vibe…
Bored. Nostalgic. Needing an ego boost
Probably Tool. There’s so much going on in their songs that I don’t think I’d get bored. I’m not familiar with Fickle Friends, but I will check them out as I’m always looking for new music! If I s…
OP, it’s your friend’s responsibility to set the boundary with you in regard to his relationship with the other woman. If the girlfriend is uncomfortable, that’s between him and her. She voiced her op…
My first reaction was for like tiktok or just cause they were bored. But a friend i mentioned it to used to watch streamers who'd use dating apps for content on their stream so maybe that?
That sounds lovely! I'm very similar. I completely agree that if someone suggested Starbucks I'd instantly think that we have rather different values and tastes and would not be a good match. I've e…
if a guy doesn't ask me out on the apps within 2-3 days i get bored. lots of busy gals who don't have time (or care to) text back and forth
People with similar interests/hobbies are a prerequisite for who I’ll date, yet I’ll still feel bored. Which is weird because I’m almost never bored outside of dating
who knew zen had a time limit? 40 mins sounds solid, but maybe 2 hours just means more time for your brain to get bored.
Is the mind still interested? sounds like you stop whenever you get bored. Meditation is not about the mind being interested or... uninterested.... It's about how you respond to that, or any other st…
Women always choose these cheesy, honeytalking two faced sociopaths. They like the drama and the I can fix it, why am I not enough, what can I do feeling. Without it, they get bored. So you should be …
> He deletes text messages because he’s afraid I’ll get upset. I used to check his phone occasionally, mostly out of boredom, and once found messages where his mom talked badly about me—he didn’t even…
"In sickness or health, til death do us part. Or, until I'm just like not totes feeling it anymore and am just kinda getting bored."
Lasted ten minutes... bored.. my time to valuable.. :)
I think she was bored. It's like asking for a pretty picture of yourself and getting an anatomical diagram that takes forever to get through and in the end after not falling asleep halfway through, yo…
It never got better for me in four years. It ended up getting worse because I felt so frustrated and bored. Everything else seemed great except this issue and his extreme conflict avoidance. Both were…
Dating someone at work is fine. Dating your boss is a terrible idea. Two months is also not that long - you might just be bored.
You gotta make a whole new routine. It sounds overwhelming I know. But really it's exciting- your life is going to now be exactly what YOU want. Decorate your place more. Make new traditions. Try new …
Youre not throwing a good relationship away if you're fed up and bored. There's no good in that kind of relationship
Well… I can’t help but think this one is done. It’s only been 3 dates and one month since he approached me. He doesn’t ask about my dog, he said he noticed the tattoo on my leg (I don’t have a tatto…
You didn’t lose your ex to AP. The trash took itself out and now she can deal with his cheating ass in a few years when he gets bored. Just go there for your kid and have minimal contact with either…
I second the person who said go to therapy and take care of yourself. That is so important and sets an example for your kids. Take it from an adult child of an emotionally absent parent. My mom would …
Not long at all. She got bored....... Just wait it will hit her and hit her hard. Never feel guilty for trusting her. Her fuck up. Not yours. Update please
haha yeah it’s pretty fun to do when bored. sometimes i’ll daydream about dragon ball fights😂 goku punches vegeta off of my bed and vegeta goes flying to my wall and i imagine the wall just clouding …
And being a good listener means asking good questions! Have noticed it's usually boring people who complain about being bored.
In his moments of boredom I suspect! My sister does nasty shit for kicks when she's bored.
You have dominate water/fire and a lot of mutable planet signs so you are meant to be less routine overall, you crave change. Especially with your moon, rising, and mars in Sagittarius. So definitely …
Slight greater risk of becoming bored. Boredom is a sign of progress for beginning meditators.
Well it complicated, it wasn't a bad break. When I met her she wasnt in the best place mentally. She put in alot of work and I was always there to support her. Never forced her to change anything jus…
I’ve already done enough damage. I don’t like admitting it or saying it out a lot of I was good at acads, I was good at the work that I did. Somewhat motivated too, I’m around rank 180/400 in my colle…
DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX! Stay with the one you're with. If the chemistry is insane as you say. Why fuck it up? I swear on everything holy, you will regret your decision if you do. Her rebound probab…
Dealing with regret is really difficult, and I also struggle with making the same mistakes repeatedly in my life. I have two separate thoughts on this. For the regret, get a journal and when you find…
Prior to an actual match, I would agree. But once you have matched with someone, interest should be confirmed and effort should then be equal. Also, if I was a woman matching with 20-100 men a week, …
This is def a filter for same humor. I would find it off putting if instead of getting to know me he rather make up random shit cuz he’s bored. Or if our convo has been THAT boring I guess that’s an e…
Most likely he left because he was bored. There’s a reason why Presidents don’t sit on these things but for him he probably had to go to the bathroom and was done dodging question about the issue of t…
It's a lot about control. them telling you what to do is them exercising their power over you. But it is important for them that you feel resentment towards them for using that power. They must mak…
I really would incourage you to talk to him! Also, some people just masturbate because they are bored. It isn't really that they feel lustful/horny and or like their sex drive is burning up in flame…
Yes. I found myself. I know it sounds cliche. But at some point I realized the bright spots of the relationship were because of me. I planned the trips, locations and excursions. I organized both …
•Not going anywhere fun. I know a few family members but most of my extended family I have no idea who they are. I realized in my twenties it’s because we never got together and never met. •Watching t…