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Haha a tiny part of me thought that, "in bed" part meant something else too. Glad you asked though because him breaking down the whole thing was relaxing to read. Edit: yoo who reported the dude's c…

Help me to recognise my attachment style please! — I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA). On the one hand, I clearly crave intimacy and…

Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

32(F) really need advice about feelings for friend — I have developed feelings for a friend (M30) over time. He has given me indications in the past that he might be interested in dating me, but I didn't want to get my hopes up too much. I have been try…

Can someone tell me how to shift??? (Successfully shifters only pls) — No methods. No LOA. no assume you’re in your dr bs. Tell me HOW. how does it work??? How to get from point A (laying in bed) to point B (in my dr). Six years of trying every single method, every sin…

Tired of people asking me for stuff... — I don't know how else to put this but I'm tired of people asking me to do stuff for them all the time.. it's at work (that's different, it's fine it's work.) But like my mom, my roommate, my friends..…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

My (28f) boyfriend (37m) drinks to excess nearly every weekend, am I selfish for wanting it to stop? — Throwaway account. Please tell me if I am crazy for feeling this way. My boyfriend (37m) and I (28f) have what I consider to be a generally good relationship. We’ve had some issues in the past that we…

How do I beat decision paralysis? — My entire life I've struggled with making decisions, whether it's choosing what food to buy at the shop, which route to take on a trip, or more important things like what job to take, or what I should…

Woke up today feeling awful — Today is my 48th birthday. I woke up feeling like a complete loser. My ex wife left almost 4 years ago. I knew we had some issues but nothing to level of divorce. She never mentioned it. Our daughte…

Broke up with DA after a year. — Met her a year ago, almost to the day. Things started well, relatively slowly which was nice for a change compared to other situations I have been in around that time. After two months, we became offi…

I’m the problem. — My husband is perfect; amazing Dad who does half if not more than half of the school runs. He cooks every night, he brings me a cup of tea in bed every morning. He is supportive of my job (I’m C Suite…

Job hunt anxiety — I have had a very, very challenging job hunt over the last year. I have developed some pretty intense anxiety as a result. These are the things helping me to get through it. I'm wondering what has wor…

Divorce isn’t all it’s cracked up to be — I miss coming home and kissing my wife. I miss coming up behind her and hugging her, kissing her neck, caressing her breasts. I miss her laying beside me in bed at night. I miss the conversations bef…

I (31M) have a situation with an aunt (70F) where she thinks she is my handler, she won't back off whenever I tell her to knock it off. — I'm just curious if my pushback is the only solution, or if I need to rethink my approach with this aunt, I'm going to use my sister's wedding night to paint the picture of what I've dealt with all my…

My husband (29M) and I (29F) have a dead bedroom because he says I dont initiate — My husband (29m) and I (29f) have been together for 8 years, married for 1. For the past 3 months we went from a very active sex life to a dead bedroom out of the blue. Every other aspect of our relat…

Men having rigid body type preferences — I'm (45f) 5'8", thin. Not underweight, but a thin person with largish tatas of Scandinavian descent. I matched with a man on an app and went on a date, where he told me that his ideal type is a pet…

UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…

Do not break No contact — Don’t judge me. When you are in love you do stupid things. After long no contact. I did send a text if they like to meet up over the weekend. Why did I do that?! I saw them, they are active in socia…

Knowing the exact time when waking up - psychic or circadian? — Recently again I keep waking up at VERY different times every single day (anywhere from the range of 7am to 11am - UPDATE: actually 3-11am as covered later in the post) and as I'm laying there in tha…

Caught myself falling asleep and slipped into another OBE/AP (details + what helped) — So last night (11/3/2026) I had another experience. I can't say for sure whether it was AP or an OBE — I'm not sure if they are classed as the same thing or not. I’ll be looking into that later. Befo…

Succes? — I am shaking while currently writing this basically in the middle of the night I woke up and I thought why not astral project I tried it didn’t work and I fell back asleep later on I woke up again and…

"No one is coming to save you" Yeah, I know, because I saved myself. — I literally fucking hate hearing this. I can't save myself anymore. I'm burnt all the way out and am nonfunctional from saving myself. I still consider that I'm continuing to save myself by at least …

Felt like my soul was leaving my body while falling asleep after an aura cleansing — normal? — Hello! I just found this sub. I hope this is okay to post. Yertarday I had a therapy where I was helped to clean my aura. I really felt much better and calmer after it. My mind was still confused but…

First “bad” trip taught me a lot - sharing my experience to help others — I’m 28m, good job, good relationships, physically fit, happy overall. Experienced tripper with several high-dose mushroom trips under my belt. Always had positive experiences. Took 4g mushrooms today…

APs always strike at the moment your dopamine peaks. — 17M here. Has anyone observed that when they're arriving at the climax of their enjoyment, like playing sports, listening to music, or any other leisure, when they were younger, their AP stormed in an…

Unexplained flash of light — A few years ago my sister & I were laying in bed both on our phones & we saw what looked like a camera flash came from one side of the room. We both ignored it partially bc we hoped it was the other o…

Has anyone shifted while NOT in bed??? — Like has anyone shifted in public spaces like on a train or even in class or at work

Can I be honest? Scrolling through this subreddit is really depressing. — While I absolutely think it’s necessary to be honest and raw about our struggles and I love this place for that. I think it’s important for us also to appreciate the growth we have experienced. We can…

I made my husband confess to OBS and here’s what happened — For your education and entertainment purposes, this is the story of what happened when I forced my husband to confess to OBS. Quick backstory: (you can read the full post on my profile) my husband h…

Had a shocking vision during a golden light meditation anyone else seen their 'future' family’? — I wanted to share something that just happened to me during a meditation that honestly shocked me. I was lying in bed, focused on my breathing, and imagined a golden light starting at my feet. I felt …

Caught wife with her best friend (F) — Im looking for advice, just this past weekend I discovered my wife with her best friend. I had previously never had any reason to believe that anything like this would happen and have left her with he…

My (23M) girlfriend (26F) desires less sex and has slowly stopped initiating. When are things deemed as sexual incompatibility? — My (23M) girlfriend (26F) has, over the course of our 3 year long relationship, wanted less sex. At the start of our relationship, we were going at it like crazy. Daily, if not twice a day. Over time …

Is this lucid dreaming or is it SP? — Put this in a few subs cause I’m starting to get curious about what’s going on with me. About six years ago, I experienced something unusual while lying in bed fully conscious but with my eyes closed…

Possible Encounter - Any information on this type of experience? — Blue robed figure small maybe 2-3 foot and another shimmering being behind them. Blue robed figure looked feminine. When I acknowledged the robed figure turned and walked until they just vanished. Exp…

What to do on tomorrows new moon — This and also I wanted to talk about how I’ve felt as if I’m in a freeze state these past 4-5 days or so. I just feel tired all the time and can’t do anything except lay in bed or scroll on my phone. …

I [27f] feel like I have to ask for a lot from my boyfriend [29m] of 2.5 years — When we first met, as kind and fun as he was, I noticed he seemed to be a bit thoughtless with certain things, like on our third date when I got in bed to go to sleep he started playing video games in…

I finally went to therapy and I'm angry at myself for waiting so long because of stupid stigma — For five years I told myself I didn't need therapy. I told myself I could handle everything on my own. I told myself that going to therapy meant I was weak or broken or dramatic. Meanwhile I was bare…

AP this morning. — This morning I woke up a whole hour before the alarm was set to go off, so I focused on trying to AP and I managed to do it. It was 2/3 times, as I kept waking up. Nothing much happened however, I d…

Seeing lizard-like eyes and being healed? — Hi everyone, I recently meditated for about 45 minutes to an hour in the \*very\* early morning a couple days ago (I never meditate that long) after waking up before the sun rose. I was in a supine…

Why keep on livng? — First of all, let me state that I do not have intent to take my life. I do have some ideation thought, but I'm doing therapy and I know will be fine. I just genuinely want to know, why keep on living?…

Dream or Real? — I’m curious if anyone has had a similar experience. **TLDR:** Saw a grey in my room. Communicated I wasn’t afraid. Instant paralysis. Felt three taps on my forehead. It showed me images. At the tail…

An update : Projected twice since meeting my wife’s deceased great/great great grandmas and it was not a good time — Hello my fellow travelers. Since my first post I’ve projected two times and both of them were not the best time to be honest. To pick up where I left off here is a link to my first experience [The G…

Easiest way to Lucid Dream — I’ll keep this short and simple. Stay awake all day. No naps. Do whatever you normally do all day. Do not think about sleep until you are at the point where you’re struggling to keep your eyes open, …

Midlife dating plot twist I didn’t see coming… (I have breast cancer 🙄) — I was only just musing recently about how sexy midlife dating is.. His suspected sleep apnea, my post-three-big-babies body (haemorrhoids, saggy boobs!)… all the glamorous stuff. And now I’ve just b…

I'm so sick of laying in bed — don't know what to do. I work a regular 40 hour office job that's not even that difficult or stressful. But as soon as I'm home, I end up in bed. Even showering feels like a chore. Getting out of bed…

My husband (39M) is annoyed that I (31F) always get sick after him. How can we find a solution? — Hello Reddit! Need some advice as I don't know what to do about this. It seems that my immune system isn't quite as good as my husband's. We have a 1.5 yrs old and we go to playgroups regularly, whic…

How do you approach talking about sex in a new relationship? — I (23F) have recently started dating someone (25M) for around two months now, and we recently had a conversation explicitly about us being exclusive. Our sexual chemistry is definitely there, but we h…

I want to waste time — I dont know anyone in my life who would understand this, so i wanted to share here to see if anyone has felt this before. Yes, i have asian parents. Scary, but justified - we are immigrants. They wo…

My second OBE was just... Magical!! — I got up in the middle of the night and went back to sleep. I tried to fall back into sleep but instead I shuffled, twisted and turned about. I was awake, with my eyes closed trying to sleep. So to ma…

Hi, I’ve been lurking for a couple weeks now and finished my first reading of POSM at this sub’s suggestion last weekend and The Feeling is the Secret not long after. The concept is completely underst…

>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…

"Your silence will eat them up." I hope that's true. I know her crazy family talked her into leaving. She came over, we went to dinner, said she wanted to break up. Go to my place and hook up twice …

Wanted to ask smthng. I realised i was dreaming for a first time in maybe my whole life and even better i could control it to some degree. But the dream kinda lost its depth when i became lucid and th…

Hi there, I was wondering if anyone may have had a similar experience to me or may have an explanation which could make sense. I posted this in another forum, it was suggest by one contributer to come…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

Help me to recognise my attachment style please! I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA…

This is exactly what happened in my marriage. We felt safe together and got married very quickly after meeting (a bit less than a year). I moved towards secure but his anxious attachment suffocated me…

Oh hello! A post that I have an answer to! I know this might sound a little bonkers, but I used my limerance to become a writer! Instead of using my imagination to fantasize about real people and …

He was amazing, thoughtful, and genuine… until he vanished (I think?). Help me stay zen while I wait. --- So… I (35F) matched with this guy (43M) mid-July, and honestly, he’s been kind of wonderful.…

My anxious attachment manifests as extreme panic in my chest. It's an overwhelming, horrible feeling and its hard to get anything done but lie in bed. Does this happen to anyone else and has anyone fo…

I think I just wanted someone to take charge and do something while I couldn't figure out what to do because of how much pain I was in at the moment. It could've been suggesting taking me to the hospi…

I associated it with a freeze response because that's how he's described it before when it happened in the past. I injured my foot but had no crutches. He watched me crawl around the floor to get to …

I just expected him to have any initiative or take action. I'm 100% that person who'd risk being overbearing because when I do see or hear about someone I care about having health issues, I get very p…

Yes I would! If he asked me anything or imposed anything that was for my sake, I would just go with it at that point and then appreciate it. Reposting ny answer to someone else: I just expected him…

You can’t think your way out of this anxiety. It’s in your body. Beta blockers from your doctor may help, or pick up L-Theanine supplements that help calm you. But your body is stuck in fight/flight…

I know my relationship of 15 years is over. She's mentally unwell and has very drastic mood swings, but she refuses to actually get help or to work on herself at all. When she's in a good mood, she …

Hi everyone. I’m a woman in my mid-30s and recently I’ve been feeling completely overwhelmed and ashamed about how dating affects my mental health. I’ve had depressive episodes before, and it feels li…

First of all, congrats on leaving your DA.  Second, only one month seems way too short but that does assume they had induced the typical escalation and internal noise whereas your experience might no…

Hi. I’m struggling after an anxious-attachment rupture where I begged someone to stay and ended up pushing them away. Being blocked after triggered intense shame and obsessive replaying. I get that I…

Maybe I'm just immature, but i just read "a good physical connection" as "he is good in bed"

The other thread is locked, but /u/greenline_chi if you like podcasts, you’ll love this one called “In Bed With The Right” They have a couple episodes about Christian nationalism, religion generally,…

I'm dating a guy, and while he has been mostly consistent with our plans, he's attentive and cute (and great in bed), we mostly had short dates or sleepovers. This weekend would have been the first on…

I feel extremely confused and don't know what to do.  I honestly don't understand if I don't understand myself or what's going on.  So the guy I am seeing came to my place yesterday's afternoon and st…

I appreciate when someone is affectionate, and don’t get me wrong, I love lazy mornings in bed. But I also need conversations and want to get out and about too! If it’s any validation, I’d probably …

Dating two guys right now. Both are 35, as am I. One I have dated around 6 weeks and one I’ve dated 3 months. I thought the 3 month one was going to fade away the past couple weeks as he’s been dist…

My partner and I are both inseparable in the best possible way, we live together and spend every evening together, or at least most of it. We’re genuinely interested in each other’s days and spend 30 …

I didn’t give him an ultimatum. I told him that I noticed he doesn’t give me compliments on my looks, and that made me feel he wasn’t attracted to me. He replied “that’s not entirely true,” which isn’…

My ex was very selfish in bed and not very affectionate in general. Months after our breakup, I got back on the apps and hooked up with the most generous, sensual, amazing-in-bed guy. I was laying nex…

Here’s what I’d do, besides giving yourself the time to cry in bed for a little bit. Go out in the sunshine, head phones in and just take a long walk listening to bad ass breakup / empowerment songs.…

If I were in your shoes, I’d probably curl up in bed with my comfort media. My go-to’s are favorite youtubers and streamers, and Studio Ghibli movies. I might try to meet up with my friend the followi…

Spent the day with the guy I'm seeing yesterday thinking we would also be spending today together since it's valentine's and he got me gifts and I stayed over etc. Turns out he had a date with someone…

A shirtless photo having fun on the beach with friends or while doing a physical activity is different than a shirtless photo in bed or in a smudged mirror at home.

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 I have developed feelings for a friend (M30) over time. He has given me indications in the past that he might be interested in dating me, but I didn't want to get my hopes up too much. I have been tr…

Yep, I just lay in bed and read fiction. I was sad, but I looked after myself, and that's the best I could do. (Although there were several fantasies of my crush messaging me he has feelings for me)

My boyfriend lives with two dogs (his roommates) who are very attached to him and usually in his bed. They always want to cuddle him or be laying next to him and lick his face frequently. He will clea…

This is mostly just a vent, but open to any comments… Tonight really solidified that I’m doing the right thing by taking a break from dating (if that’s what you call what I was doing). All apps are p…

I got dumped after sex! He said he took some time to think about it and his feelings weren’t romantically there. Before that he dated me for a month and we kissed a lot. What the hell happened? I was …

We were laid in bed after a valentines meal. He’d been a little distant for a while and I asked him if we still had a future. He said he didn’t know. I asked if we were over and he was silent. He left…

Do you think he would still want to be with you if you told him straight up that he doesn't excite you in bed? You say you are attracted to him and that sexual desire is present but then you contradic…

People grieve in different ways. My last break up was 7 years ago. He ended it. Both in our 30’s. I never spoke to him again. Unfollowed. Deleted his friends and family. Blocked his number. Cried an…

What's the proper response to "am I better than your exes in bed" question? I get asked this by women I'm dating from time to time and honestly I lie to them every time that they're "definitely better…

Oh i crave the ramble, so no need to apologise. Yeah I can relate to so much of that, my new years resolution was to see my friends more. I think men have a habit of making their partner their main …

I would be approaching this from the position of: my needs are not even close to getting met here (*once in six weeks?* I wouldn't even find that acceptable in my 50s, assuming there's not some kind o…

Hahah yeah I was also thinking to add a little emoji to my message 👻 How long has it been for you? You know, there was a guy who said he was looking for serious relationship and then after we had s…

Is sex the only thing that’s making you doubt compatibility? If you’re unsure of your compatibility and the sex is bad, peace out. If the only problem is the sex, I think it depends upon why the sex…

Laying in bed feeling horrible and I can’t move. And I have no one to reach out to for help. This is the part of my life I haaate.

Had a second date with a girl on Saturday. It went really well and it turned into her staying at my place all weekend until Sunday night. We agreed to see each other again when she is back from a trip…

Just had to get this embarrassing but wholesome story off my chest. I (31M) had my date (28F) over (6th date) to make dinner together and watch a movie together. We have so much in common and could t…