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I wish I had some magical words of guidance and wisdom to offer but I'm in the same boat unfortunately. Most of the standard "fixes" have left me more depressed, feeling lost, and the lack of results …
Question for the template flippers out there - where’s the real money? — Genuinely curious - for all the devs who “custom build” sites that are clearly just recycled templates from ThemeForest or whatever the latest place is nowadays. Where’s the *actual* money coming fro…
SEO and Digital Marketing IG accounts — Hi everyone, I'm looking for Instagram accounts run by digital marketing agencies that not only offer services like SEO and content marketing but also focus on educating their audience, particularly…
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Tons of email spam on new site. Any fixes? — Hey everyone. So basically I've just moved the ecommerce content of my squarespace site to a shopify store. Really impressed overall with the versatility of the designer and loading times (holy s…
All child pages give 404 and can only be edited in Elementor on safe mode. — I'm using Elementor to edit my Wordpress website. I am using the Astra theme, and I have Woocommerce on my product pages. I am able to see and edit any of my parent pages, but if I nest a page unde…
Wordpress.com form — So basically I have my forms set up for my clients website and tested them. The contact form worked once for each language and haven’t worked since. It doesn’t even let me submit the form anymore. An…
Website Review — Hey everyone. I’ve newly launched my product/website but I’m not convinced people really understand what my product does as it’s unique. We’re patent pending and this product has personally changed my…
Feedback on Branching Strategy for IAC Repository — Hello, One of the challenges I’ve faced when researching branching strategies is that most resources are focused on software deployment workflows, often emphasizing versioning and tagging. These stra…
Question about desktop/mobile compatibility — I’m working on a portfolio site. I’ve had plenty of mobile/desktop compatibility issues already but that’s part of the fun :) Currently i have almost everything in place and working. Except from th…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
"What does it mean to heal?" channeled message from my guides — I thought to share with you all this excerpt from a channeled conversation between myself and my guides. I love this text a lot and return to it often. Perhaps those of you on a healing journey and t…
Manifest Website to help you manifest — Hello, I've made a completely free, ad-free manifestation web app based on Neville Goddard's teachings. No install needed - just open in your browser on any device. [https://crxptt1.github.io/manifes…
I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. — \*\*\*UPDATE\*\*\* After a long 3 days my results came back and they were all negative. I, of course, told my boyfriend and he was relived much like I was. He was supportive of me and he apologized …
Which mental health apps have you found to be very helpful? — been trying online therapy after having awful experiences with in-person therapists. honestly it's been way less awkward doing it from home. started with Headspace but it felt too generic. like guided…
(21f) No sex with boyfriend (25m) of 6 months — I’ve been dating a guy for six months. We’ve had our ups and downs but he listens to me and always fixes problems when I bring them up and we don’t argue. I’m his first serious relationship and he’s …
Uncooperative husband with his head in the sand-I can't take it anymore — The marriage is over and has been for some time. I've tried everything I can on my end and I keep running into a wall that IDK how to get around/over/break through. We own a house. Both on deed, but…
To send or not — I’ve been sitting here trying to figure out how to even start this, and the truth is nothing feels like enough. I’ve gone over this in my head more times than I can count, and nothing fixes what I mes…
do i break up with my boyfriend before or after the surprise 30th birthday party i’ve been planning for 3 months? (24F, 29M) — Edit: throwaway. i'll try to be as fair as possible because i genuinely don't know what to do and i don't want this to just be a vent. i also want to be honest that i don't know if i'm part of the pro…
Sticky Thread Until Reddit Fixes Their Shit - April-ish — This is the place to tell us about how you just got unmatched by someone you were super hopeful about after one conversation and now you've given up all hope. Or perhaps how it's totally normal that …
Mental health sucks and I'm exhausted from it — Just want to vent a little. I'm really tired of trying to fix myself. I'm tired of knowing I have abrasive and self-defeating tendencies that I can not fix. I'm tired of attending therapy, crying a l…
Partner traded me in for in laws — TLDR: has anyone had a partner go back to their nfamily after going no contact and then blamed you for everything while the nparents refuse to apologise for anything at all and are treating your partn…
Given that insecurely attached people tend to date people or get involved with people that feel familiar to them, you just date the opposite of that familiarity. Harder than it sLundy, I know. Plus i…
> Question: Does Symfony block concurrent requests by design No. PHP applications run concurrently on each child process of the php-fpm interpreter, starting with a request and ending with it - unles…
We started with Terraform 6 months ago, and are looking to migrate to OpenTofu right now. TF has some silly restrictions in it that OpenTofu fixes, like being able to iterate over certain classes of o…
I have used resolve.ai, and it's a pretty cool tool. The solutions the ai provide are not the best, but for simple fixes they are good. For junior developers it's definitely a life saver.
Heidi Priebe videos cover this alot, the hyper focus on fixing others to get our needs met Ultimately it's about accepting that sometimes people we like are not meant for us and we aren't meant for …
In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …
In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …
In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …
In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …
From what I’ve read - anxious attachment requires your partner to be okay for you to feel okay - you were trained like this as a child by parents So your mind can’t rest until it fixes the problem w…
The sub is full of posts talking about healing anxious attachment and there is a Resources page full of places to educate yourself on it. There is quite a bit and cannot fully be covered in one answ…
What advice have you gotten from your therapist? Learning self soothing techniques and other healthy coping mechanisms is important. Getting to the root of the limiting beliefs that you hold about y…
I think there is nuance here. All kinds of different relationships are important. We are social animals and I say this as an introvert. But i'm not desperate for a bad friendship, nor am I desperate f…
Have you ever gotten to a point where reassurance dosent work anymore? I hear many people saying being reassured temporarily fixes things which used to be the case for me but now i cant really relate
Being single into my thirties is legitimately a "thing." I don't feel like it's degrading my self worth, but it really is majorly impacting my next steps in life (career, home purchasing, family build…
Not sure if you're asking for advice or just ranting, but I agree with this. You could just tell them that high volume texting is disruptive for you and see if that fixes it.
I have been in this exact dynamic with three different men over the past 9 months. The first I never talked to him about it and ended it. The second I talked to him because I had a deeper connecti…
Omg… I am bad at remembering names, but I always remember faces and details about people. So I soooooo refer to people in the ways your ex did. Unless, I’ve met them/hung out with them several times o…
It is extremely hard and I think the thing you should keep in mind that it is normal to have a desire for companionship and care. No amount of journaling or other bs will absolve your need for communi…
Honestly your fixes sound great for mild anxiety - as someone with an anxiety disorder, none of these ever helped or were ever capable of helping. Only things that worked for me: 1) Constant journali…
Is there hope of healing? Of course! It does take time and effort. There are no quick fixes. The fact that you are working with a therapist will help as well.
Stop taking shortcuts. The quick-fixes serve to hold you in place. You can't go on lying and stealing and thinking that a ritual forgives it, it doesn't. To demonstrate growth you have to cease lying…
Get a [shiatsu butterfly massager pillow with heat](https://share.google/vysYV1vSpk8iAZOYr), I have linked the one I have. This is the only thing that finally got rid of the extreme tightness in my up…
This is not your fault. You did not deserve this. Her choices say everything about her capacity for honesty and nothing about your worth. The man who fixes cars for her family, who brings flowers, …
People crave quick fixes to address their inadequacies. Influencers and snakeoil salesmen prey on them by offering 5 ways to fix this or that, then feeding them their weird views of the world. Social …
"The mystery is the size and dedication of the audience." They offer community to guys who aren't successful with women and/or don't have a group where they can talk about those problems. That's the …
Seriously I think many people think divorce fixes every problem. You’re really just trading one problem for another problem. My current marriage I say it’s perfect but we make mistakes. It’s perfect b…
6th house Gemini stellium cranks up your daily grind with nonstop mental buzzthink juggling chats, quick fixes, and routine tweaks. Not misfortune, just wired for versatile work vibes. ASC ruler + Mer…
Every marriage should do this! You’re a fantastic partner for putting a monetary value on this for her. Pregnancy, childbirth and maternity leave cost one partner so much $$$, especially depending on …
Sorry to say this, but if you made the same mistakes repeatedly… especially if she told you what bothered her and you still continued… you did not really love her. If you did, you would have changed w…
Dude there is the other side for you and you’re closer than you think. I promise it all melts away and fixes its self. I’m the proof. Go within and allow it. Love the great person you are and don’t se…
It's a case by case scenario and very individualized to the person you are dealing with. In this scenario it might be that someone can reconsider or explore "fixes" after a short period of time... in …
“all melts away and fixes itself” is not really helpful and is more likely rather harmful to most people with trauma disorders. I find it offensive and ignorant of basic psychology myself. Obviously, …
It’s just not true, sadly. There are no easy fixes in life.
Yeah this is pretty common, and honestly your routine can play a big role. Skipping meals or eating randomly can mess with your energy more than people realize, especially blood sugar. Also worth che…
I’m so sorry! No, you are more than good enough, you are just healing from someone emotionally immature and getting a wound reopened. You are a living breathing creature that deserves to be cared for …
It’s understandable to feel this way, and many people share similar experiences. In astrology, remedies are not instant fixes., they are meant to gradually shift mindset, reduce intensity of challenge…
Maybe this is the same as what you're saying, but I think it also just traces back to Stoic value theory. Maybe it's anger, or greed, or envy that drives the victim stuff. But at the bottom appears to…
Being ok with uncertainty has two components to it - noticing the sensations in the body as just sensations (aka not calling them anxiety), and deconstructing the thoughts that narrate the story, that…
The fact that you apologized over text not for him but for yourself – that's one of the most emotionally mature things a person can do after a painful ending. Most people either wait for the other p…
Okay, so life as we know of is a cycle. A cycle in loop until certain karmic aspects are nullified. Now, humans run in loops of recurring patterns at certain intervals. Now, this is usually \~ 2.5 y…
I’m sorry to hear that. It’s really horrible. Is there any chance of reconciling if your ex puts in the work and fixes some of these patterns?
Honey, looking through your posts and other people commenting on it, you want us to hand you a magical solution that fixes him and your body and your health into what he wants. thats never going to h…
I can’t say my situation is the same, but I was ready to walk at from my 22 year marriage because of dealing with trying to recalibrate my nervous system from my undiagnosed CPTSD. I’m not going to …
What you’re describing sounds less like “nothing works” and more like your system being chronically stuck in a survival state. When your nervous system is that activated for that long, it doesn’t resp…
Yes psychedelics can fix the psychological. I had a similar profile and I have learned what actually fixes me. Please just trust an internet stranger. I promise this will help you. Join a CrossFit gy…
Wow. I really enjoyed your comment and the fixes you recommended. May I dm you to find out more of your suggestions?
> Apparently he has a low libido from previous posts. Are you seriously not getting how OP's attitude towards her own appearance might be a factor there? She says repeatedly that she has serious self…
you're not overreacting and you've already explained yourself more times than you should have had to what he's describing as a clothing problem is actually an insecurity and jealousy problem. he like…
He may be seeking validation, attractive younger women may make him feel that he’s still attractive. He may be getting quick fixes and not wanting to get Into anything heavy and younger women are mo…