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I wish I had some magical words of guidance and wisdom to offer but I'm in the same boat unfortunately. Most of the standard "fixes" have left me more depressed, feeling lost, and the lack of results …
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5 Best SQL Books for Web Development - JV Codes 2025 — Welcome to the [SQL Books](https://jvcodes.com/category/free-books/sql-books/) section on [JV Codes](https://jvcodes.com/)! If you’re starting with SQL or want to strengthen your skills, you’re in the…
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Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…
SEO and Digital Marketing IG accounts — Hi everyone, I'm looking for Instagram accounts run by digital marketing agencies that not only offer services like SEO and content marketing but also focus on educating their audience, particularly…
The Ability to Scale Predictably Is a Superpower (Here’s Why DTC Brands Can’t Skip Performance Marketing) — The ability to **scale predictably** is a superpower—especially for DTC brands. If you’ve worked with or inside a DTC company, you know the drill: * You launch, get some organic traction, and then… …
Can you successfully use AI humanizers to improve SEO — When working with AI-generated content for SEO, it’s always a balancing act. On one hand, I want the content to be optimized with keywords and structure, but on the other, I don’t want it to come over…
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Reddit Marketing Tips: What's your best advice for Reddit work that helps SEO? — Interest in hearing everyone's thoughts. From my experience, conversations with a high amount of engagement tend to end up ranking in the SERPs, so anything you can do to encourage conversation (like …
Research -- What makes you hire a copywriter? — Hey everyone, I'm doing some market research and would really appreciate any input you have. Also, this isn't a promo post or anything of the sort, just me diving into the market. First off, a bit ab…
Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…
Seeking Your Input on a Tool to Boost LLM Rankings — Hey SEO community, as the title says, I’m building a new tool just for us, and I’d love your feedback. More people start using GPT and similar AI for searches. It’s still early days, but the trend is…
I struggled with posting consistently as a creator — so I built a tool to make it easier — Between content planning, editing, and just staying active online, keeping up with social media as a brand or creator can feel like a full-time job. I built a small tool that helps schedule AI-powere…
To all e-commerce store owners: What tool do you wish existed to make managing your store easier? — Hello to all e-commerce entrepreneurs! 👋 In the fast-paced world of digital commerce, we know there are many daily challenges — whether it's managing orders, handling customers, shipping, analyti…
SEO vets - what actually works for ranking nowadays? — Hey, So I’ve been diving into SEO for a bit now — took a dozen free courses (Semrush, Hubspot), read some articles by people like Brian Dean, etc. Thought I was starting to get the hang of it. But a…
I have failed. More than once. (i will not promote) — Been 10 years since I started my professional journey. I have failed. More than once. I have also succeeded and still doubted myself through it. I have risked time, energy, money, relationships. S…
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
Should I purchase multiple domain TLDs for my brand? What’s your opinion? — Hey everyone I own the main .com for my brand, but I’m wondering if it’s smart (or necessary) to purchase other TLDs too like .net, .co, .io, and so on. Some people say it helps with branding, trus…
Co-Founder wanted — Me: a decade in acquisition marketing for top brands in Europe. Responsible for P&L, decided if I’m responsible anyways, might as well be responsible for the whole damn thing, and the benefits it come…
Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure. I have been involved in th…
Voice-to-text recs for sales professionals — Happy Monday killers! Hope everyone's crushing their quota this quarter. So, I've been in sales for about 5 years now, mostly SDR roles, and I'm starting to feel it. My wrists are *screaming*. All th…
Discuss SaaS idea - API wrapper — Hello everyone! I am building a tool that turns *any* API (yours or third-party) into a full SaaS website,. with a UI, user auth, billing, and deploy, in one click. It is a no-code solution, where yo…
✨ Marketing Consultants – What tools do you actually use to manage clients, leads, and projects? — Hey everyone – I’m doing some deep research into how independent marketing consultants (freelancers, solopreneurs, boutique agency owners) manage their day-to-day operations. I’d love to hear from yo…
Marketing Digest: Google tests new AI mode outside Labs along with more features, ChatGPT introduces shopping features with personalized product recommendations, Google confirms search signals used to train Gemini AI — Hey guys! A new week means a fresh batch of marketing insights. Google’s keeping us on our toes as usual, and AI is busy finding new ways to take over the digital space. Let’s read: **SERP features /…
Best low-effort analytics tools for Shopify optimization? I'm drowning in data... — I'm struggling to make sense of all the analytics data from my store. The native Shopify reports give me tons of information, but I'm finding it difficult to determine what metrics I should actually f…
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…
Would web developers be interested in a business that analyzes their websites and helps improve monetization? — First-time poster here—apologies if I’m slightly off-topic. I’m planning to build a website that helps website owners improve how they monetize their sites. I’d like to know if there are people who …
How Liquibase Simplifies Schema Management — If you've ever deployed schema changes manually, you know the pain: tracking SQL scripts, guessing what's applied where, and praying nothing breaks in prod. I recently wrote a post on how **Liquibase…
Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things in business, but still wrestling with doubt, decision fatigue, or just low-level burnout? — You’ve got the strategy. You’ve read the books. You’re pushing forward... but something’s off. What I’ve noticed in myself (and in others I work with) is this: It’s not always about more knowle…
Can I legally register a P2P fund-matching app (not handling money)?( I will not Promote). — Hey founders, I’m working on a startup that helps users abroad (e.g., Nepali students in the US, UK, etc.) connect with others who want to exchange funds in opposite directions locally. The app doesn…
Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …
Automated Texting for Customer Orders — Looking for an automated texting service that isn't bloated with unused features. Basically we are a small family farm that texts customers on any given day to collect orders. Would like a service tha…
ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…
How I built a digital toolkit for side hustlers with ₹0 starting capital — I’ve been working on a side hustle framework that helps anyone get started with no capital. Documented everything into a simple toolkit: 10 ideas, execution plans, planners & trackers. Not looking to …
Advertising — So I have a small business and it’s a service based business. I’m trying to find the best ways to advertise. We have Google ads running and it’s working well but we need more clients. I have done Face…
Should I find a business partner? Sell Or just give up? My business has potential but I don't have to energy to make it happen. — I started a business about two and a half years ago. It is quite niche and has potential but I haven't been able to get over the tipping point of making it really work. We have great processes and a…
Overtraining and being effective — Wanted to share about a recent breakthrough I had in being effective and getting things done. Like many of you, I believe that being physically fit is a huge part of operating at peak efficiency. Whe…
Wordpress Dev Approach for SEO — When it comes to wordpress or woocom, may I ask what approach you usually prefer for development and CRO? Do you use page builders (even though they are often bloated), or do you prefer using Gutenbe…
Anyone from Spain around here? Trying to expand in Madrid and Barcelona, unsure about my tactics. — My company prepares and executes a fully tailored 1:1 English course for Spanish speakers. Live classes, 100% remote. Had a lot of success in Buenos Aires (Argentina) but now we are slowly expanding i…
What to do with my business. Sell partner or fold? — I started a business about two and a half years ago. It is quite niche and has potential but I haven't been able to get over the tipping point of making it really work. We have great processes and a s…
A little positive reflection for anyone feeling they’re in the trenches right now. — I only learnt what attachment theory was during a breakup with my most recent ex 2 years ago. When he dumped me seemingly out of the blue because ‘I deserved better’, ‘he needed to be alone.’ Etc etc …
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…
Anxiety only triggered in romantic relationship, how to manage it? — Hi everyone, I’m a 26M and fairly new to relationships. I’ve noticed my anxious attachment only really shows up in my romantic relationship, not with friends, family, or colleagues. With them I feel …
We should keep in mind that its a spectrum.. — I realized something in my relationship and it is not much shared in this way so maybe it helps someone else I am anxious and my fiancee is avoidant. He is very introverted and trying to deal with hi…
Overcoming my anxious attachment — Hi I've successfully combated my attachment style and offer some of the resources I've found. I've dealt with anxiety and insecurity across my romantic and platonic relationships throughout my life. …
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Post and user flair are both required — Hello, User flair and post flair are both required to post in this subreddit. There is an auto-mod filter that removes all posts from non-flared users. This helps to prevent spam and bot posts, both …
How do i stop the cycle of freaking out when im away from my partner? — When me and my partner dont see eachother for a long time, i just shut down. Everyday were apart the urge to pick apart every message is so strong and eventually when its too much, i just break down. …
Update: Self-help group for anxious attachment — Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/) re starting a self-help group. (Yes, The…
Great information! Thanks for posting this! I might mention that if people are new to natal charts, it helps to make sure they get the Natal and Ascendant chart so all houses are displayed. Just mak…
The Guardian today [ps. I'm a totally lucid dreamer though can't choose what I dream, however every night is movie night and as graphic, in colour and sometimes I can change the dream by waking or sle…
Just wanted to say that my first lucid dream was successful with the "piano key" method. I forget the actual terminology but basically you wake up in the middle of your sleep (3-5 hours) and you're no…
i had the same dreams when i was a child until today, that i am 33 years old, like i was drowning in a broad daylight or evening in a isolated ocean, as in! no people around me and i was fall into the…
It’s difficult when there is something you share with the person though, like children. You’re involved to some capacity and you can see how they are doing in all aspects of life - relationships, fina…
Hi guys, I started 2 Youtube series to help new people getting into devops. The first one: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL-WCaWbINSZ6tTkXVYXKvB7oC7-t19rHF revolves around containers and kubernet…
I know this post is 6 months old, but I still want to say this. I truly feel that Robert Bruce's book, called "Energy Work", (funny how the title is the name of this sub?) should be required reading f…
1 day at a time. I only plan 1 week ahead - helps me stay sane.
Hi! So one thing I can tell you from lots of therapy and recently spending time around her is I realized I had been only remembering her good qualities and putting her on a pedestal in my mind. When w…
Well I’m glad to see that it’s a lot easier than you thought it was going to be and that it will be easier than you expected to have to go through all the stuff that I was supposed to be working on to…
I had no idea. I still often feel like my situation wasn't that bad especially since I don't even remember a lot of it, so this really helps to know. Thank you for sharing this :)
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
If it helps at all, I'm doing better a few months in now. Not *a lot* better... but enough, for now. Pick a couple areas you want to improve in. Now's the time to get started. Don't try to fix every…
I realized after I read my initial response how much I repeated myself. Sigh, this shit is hard. Brain not firing on all pistons. The reason I asked for compassion is because he is acting like it’s a …
I just want to say, I’m am so happy to have found this sub! Oh how I’ve created so much in my life, with LOB (unconsciously) and more so just belief and the movie the secret that started it all. Then …
From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…
I personally think it's whatever works best for you. You can give it another name, you can imagine talking to yourself in spirit. It's not about the methods, it's about how you go about convincing you…
[https://youtu.be/j0REex781ZU?si=xyY07PlK4drZFrUe](https://youtu.be/j0REex781ZU?si=xyY07PlK4drZFrUe) Skip to 12:15. I think this can help you. It's not an answer to your 1-6, there are some really gr…
>If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, L…
Thanks for all of the above. I can relate in that I may on occasion turn inward a bit when I’m super tapped out socially or like physically don’t have the reserves left, but I socially exhaust a lot l…
FA leaning more towards DA here, when I’m dating and we spend a lot of time together or talk/text a bunch I typically take time to myself after. It can be pretty overwhelming “dealing” w my partners i…
Yes, I do this myself and see this happen with the guy I'm dating as well. I think it's triggered by positive feelings/increased connection or vulnerability. For me, when we get closer, or when he tel…
I’ve experienced all of the attachment styles in one way or another. What has been working for me is finding security in my friendships first. I’ve become so severely avoidant that im not pursuing a r…
I feel you. I’ll give you my experience as a FA then suggestions. - I also transitioned from anxious to avoidant our the years. I was never full on AA but more anxious leaning FA as a child. Now I l…
The only thing I would really recommend is learning about internal family systems. That kind of work *can* be done on its own but I did the majority of mine with a therapist. The book “No Bad Parts” b…
If you want to talk, I invite DMs but I'm only here sporadically. I'm a healed avoidant. I say that, but it's not black and white. I measure now for mostly secure. I still experience the initial resp…
Right. It’s starting to feel like a circle jerk (that I am definitely a part of). I think people get confused because of the cognitive dissonance of them being caring and love bombing and then neglect…
It helps me have a better relationship with myself when I let my protector part shit on avoidants.
I think I sometimes do feel like it’s a little bit of whiplash, but I think it’s more so when they haven’t been making time for themself or are burning the candle at both ends with work, etc, and we m…
Thank you so much, this helps. But are we sure I’m not heavily broken and only attracted to unavailable people? How can I figure this one out?
It's a theory, as that'd what it is. It may work for some, it may not for others. Its essentially a basic CBT method to help you break a loop of rumination and understand you can have 2 opposing thou…
It's a theory, as that'd what it is. It may work for some, it may not for others. Its essentially a basic CBT method to help you break a loop of rumination and understand you can have 2 opposing thou…
Beautiful posy. Brain tends to want pick sides and clash the thoughts. And helps with connecting the two sides. I am allowed to feel emotions and there is other side to it that is beyond my control.
Absolutely! This stops the suppression of feelings we want to push down, as well as helping to accept the reality of a situation! If you can do it every time a thought comes up, it helps with the pro…
I'm glad it helps and hope it gives you the clarity it gave me!
Completely agree with you that it's a common topic, just haven't seen it discussed much on these forums, so thought I'd try to impart what'd helped me in the hope it helps someone else! Relationships…
That’s an interesting point, the possibility of dissociation. I have actually been quite conscious about remaining present through the pain. And there has been quite a lot of pain. So many emotions su…
Maybe (as an FA) I can offer some insight… I was raised by a narcissist. In spite of my best efforts (15 years in therapy), I still have a high risk of ending up in a relationship with one. The mom…
My man, I feel that deeply, as a FA myself, who seems to exclusively date other FA or avoidants. You need to start here, TheLoveChat Youtube: https://youtu.be/H8yRnR3iYA8?feature=shared - this man h…
Well, by not dating insecure people, that’s one way to not become unregulated to begin with. Therapy helps too.
very insightful! i appreciate you sharing that bc i want to be sure i don’t fall into assuming etc… just bc i’m hurting i don’t want to miscategorize. and this helps me keep compassion bc we all have …
Well, I could read several books on attachment theory and the words made sense but I couldn’t put it into practice. I was an Anxious Preoccupied and reading about how I had a fear of failure, rejectio…
Totally relate to this. I can’t bring myself to “care” or get excited about someone from an app. If I meet someone IRL I’m way more open to exploring. I think from an app I’m just immediately expectin…
Increase your php-fpm worker pool. There's a dark art to finding just the right number, since fpm shares memory a lot. Look online to find out how to set that number. Then monitor performance and if y…
What do you mean by "in a way that keeps state"? Do you mean keeping track of all the static routes automatically? If so, here's my project (shameless self plug) that creates routes dynamically and sc…
20+ years in, I don't know what you mean by 'real devops'. A lot of questions come to mind. What platform are you using? What tools? What languages is the code being developed in? All of these decid…
You could try to get a cert or two, but honestly, why not apply now? The programming experience helps, but every DevOps position is different. Some split Dev and Ops 50/50, but in my experience, Dev…
helps if you say what you are using for these runs
There is no single right way to do it. The right way is deciding which tools work for your workflow, and provide the least administrative overhead. Whatever helps you not copy and paste things all the…
DevOps has in my opinion always been trial by fire where for many technologies you learn them when you need to learn them. Picking up foundational concepts helps with this greatly, particularly networ…