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Two spring to mind! First: If something difficult happened my mom would get upset if I was acting upset about it, I couldn't visibly cry or look like I wanted to cry without her lashing out at me. I …
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Donald Trump & the LOB — JM sub, It has been talked about Trump and the LOB a few times on this sub, and I wanted to remind you about how Donald Trump has used, and still uses the LOB in his favor. Recently, I've seen an in…
My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…
FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…
Blog built with “Projects” in Divi instead of “Posts” – Will this hurt SEO? — Hi everyone, I’ launched mta website using WordPress + Divi (still in early stages), and my site developer set up the blog section using **“Projects”** instead of the standard **“Posts”**. Now I’m c…
Minimal or No Design Emails Will Almost Always Outperform Designed Emails — For most ecom owners, either spending the time yourself or paying a professional to intricately design each of your emails has to be one of the worst ROI decisions possible. I'm not exactly sure wher…
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …
Offering Options to offshore engineer. I will not promote — I have a startup. obviously. anyhow, my company is in Canada. I have this developer in Vietnam, and he is pretty good! I pay him decently for his hours, but as a founder, I feel like i want to offer …
Low-risk, High-reward, and Easy-to-start Business... an A-Z overview of the Rental Management business I run (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I'm a real estate & software developer, AirBnB Host of \~20 units personally, and I help run a management company with \~200 client homes. So I've been through the ringer in every which …
Flora Market Mobile App — Hi! This is my 1st completed mobile App. It is a Flora Market mobile App, and it is a personal project. Summer is coming, balconies and yards are filled with flowers, so I found a good idea to des…
Why isn't Firefox respecting prefers-color-scheme? — I use properly contrasted favicons for my site depending on if the user has light/dark mode enabled. I noticed that they display properly in Chrome and Edge but Firefox seems to ignore my \`prefers-co…
Was pushed into a Devops role. Never got the chance to learn properly — I was pushed into a devops role. And since then there was always a deadline on head and was never able to learn things properly. I am still good at my job and can do what is required but somewhere fee…
How to approach colleagues ‘improving’ my copy with unedited Chat GPT? — Hi all, I’m a new and junior member of a very small team, we are overstretched and have far too much on the go at any given time, which inevitably leads to shortcuts being taken. I’m no stranger t…
Are you running Exit surveys? — When your wife asks, “Does my bum look big in this?” Do you give the honest answer? Or do you say “no” to keep the peace? The truth might sting. But the people who tell you what you need to hear are …
How do I properly embed Webpack-bundled JS/CSS into a WordPress site? — Hey everyone, I built a JavaScript app for a client using Webpack. The final dist folder includes: A JS file (bundle) Two CSS files A PNG and SVG The client wants to embed this into their WordPr…
“No Referring Sitemaps Detected.” — **Why your web pages might not show up on Google — even if they’re indexed** I ran into this issue while checking Google Search Console and thought it might help others here. Many of our indexed pag…
Product variants are not tracking properly in GA4 - Any Suggestions? — Hey all, I'm trying to analyze product variant performance in GA4, but they don’t seem to be showing up properly. I can track general product views, but not specific variants. Has anyone figured out …
Tips regarding upgrading Contour — Hey everyone :) We have a Contour (https://projectcontour.io/) and are a bit behind when it comes to version updates. There is a guide on their website here [https://projectcontour.io/resources/upgr…
Should I sell my design agency? — Should I sell my design agency? Growing a design agency takes time especially when most of the business comes from cold outreach. It’s a high-volume game: thousands of emails, countless calls, and co…
Is Dwarka Courier legit? — Has anyone used Dwarka Courier for international shipping (especially to New Zealand)? Are they legit and do they handle packages properly without damage? Looking to send clothing items and want to kn…
Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…
Can no longer access my website after changing the URL from HTTP to HTTPS in settings — I am using Siteground to host my website and added an SSL certificate and enforced HTTPS. I was already logged into my Wordpress site when I did this and then changed the settings on Wordpress so both…
I don't want to cry all day and feel lonely anymore. I don't want to fear abandonment anymore. I want to improve myself. — In 12th grade I became very close to a classmate of mine. Both of us bonded over shared trauma and basically became inseparable. We texted each other 24/7 and became very VERY affectionate which then …
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…
Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…
The fear of intimacy — I have started to realise that anxious attachment is also a fear of intimacy rather than only avoidantly attached people. I think many of us (when triggered) can prefer to live in the fantasy of a per…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
I astral projected last night.. — I astral projected last night... What was your first experience? Here's mine: We arrived in Tunisia yesterday, had some sleep, woke up, yawned, and my nose started bleeding, only mentioning this bec…
F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…
Am I meditating improperly? — So I've heard from Dr. K of HealthyGamerGG that when your attention wanders from your meditation and you bring it back, that's like doing a pushup for your mind/brain. But only very few times have I d…
I was able to communicate with someone….. — I don’t know if this the correct sub… let me know I’ll explain my situation hoping some one can orient me : A few days ago, I had a weird dream/astral projection experience—I don’t even know how to …
Anyone else ashamed of how they were neglected but also spoiled? — For me, it’s very strange to see how I might’ve been taken care of at times, like my mom or grandmother doing all the house cleaning and cooking, but physically/emotionally neglecting me. I wasn’t rea…
I achieved my dream… now what? — Hi everyone, I’m in my early 30s and I’m facing a luxury problem I never thought I’d have. I’ve basically achieved what I set out to do, since I was a kid. I have a good education, a well paying job…
Can the 6th house represent the service of others? — Is it possible for a person with strong 6th house placements to just... have others do the 6th housing for them? I'm not sure if i'm wording this properly. But, in other words, would it make sense f…
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do — Hi everyone, I could really use some outside perspective. I (F28) have been in a relationship with my partner (M28) for about 3 years. I love him a lot and I genuinely imagined a future with him. We …
Succes? — I am shaking while currently writing this basically in the middle of the night I woke up and I thought why not astral project I tried it didn’t work and I fell back asleep later on I woke up again and…
Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone. — Hey everyone, I’m Lucy (F, late 20s) and I’ve been with my husband, Rick (M, late 20s) for about 8 years, married for 2. I know he cares about me and our family, and I see that he loves us. But latel…
(trip report) Telepathic communication through high doses of psilocybin — Dose: 8g (Myself), 5g (Brayden, first time), others 3–4g Setting: Friend’s house, nearby park, neighborhood walk Time: 3:00 PM – 9:00 PM Participants: 5 friends So a couple years ago me and my …
Which one trait helps you detect narcs early on? — For me it is people that can NEVER laugh about themselves or admit mistakes. I don‘t mean people should be self deprecating but people that take harmless remarks as personal attacks. I.e. the…
I am 18F and I’m exhausted dealing with my Indian mom who practically worships her narcissistic, manipulative younger brother and lets him control my life while treating me like garbage. — My mom (44F) has two younger brothers. The one I’m talking about is the middle child. He’s married and has a 10-year-old daughter. In my opinion he is one of the most narcissistic, selfish, and arroga…
UPDATE: I thought my marriage just felt loveless…turns out there was a reason — Original post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/s/9esS6gNKMJ](https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/s/9esS6gNKMJ) Hi everyone, I posted a while ago saying that my marriage felt empty and loveless, but th…
First Regulate Your Nervous System — Recently I watched a YouTube video by a guy named Reeves Tsang called how to reset your nervous system (and how to finally override your reality) This is one of the first manifestation videos I've se…
[Update] My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth — It’s been almost a year, so I thought I’d give an update in case anyone is wondering. First, I want to thank everyone who took the time to comment, message me, or simply read and reflect on the post.…
Energetic Absorption or Something Else? Looking for Insight. — Hi all, I’m looking for some perspective from others who are energetically sensitive. I recently went into my aunt’s home after she passed. She had significant hip and back pain for a long time. Whil…
Someone scolded me on how to AP properly while I was AP! — “Why are you AP right now? Please do it on the weekend, likely have a warm glass of milk and some food with you once you’re done - Do it in the perfect setting not while you’re stressed” This was so…
I'm so excited to shift — So over the past couple days I've been building where I live in my DR in Minecraft and I am genuinely so motivated to shift rn because I'm done building most of everything, including the house, interi…
My mother won't stop grabbing my crotch — Not sure exactly how to flair this. Marked it NSFW just in case. Sorry if that's not right. I'm a 22y/o living between my divorced parents (don't have the means to get out on my own right now). Thing…
I love my bf, but i genuinely cannot stand his dog, its affecting everything — Okay, I need honest opinions because I feel ridiculous even typing this, but it’s becoming a serious issue in my relationship, For reference, I am a girl, 21 and he is 23, we have been dating for a ye…
How do I know what is my attachment style and how to change it properly? I have heard it a lot that it helps — I get attached too quick and put all efforts from my side even when other party does not reciprocate and I keep chasing until the dead end.
Regardless of what it was, it was a non-physical experience. There can be lines blurred between what is lucid dreaming and astral projection, here's a video explaining the difference https://youtu.be/…
I believe I came close, I discussed it here ([https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/10z4vjo/was\_this\_obe/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/10z4vjo/was_this_obe/)), bu…
Anyone else have random lucid dreams about the exact way to start a flying sequence. Some kind of 3 step jump and then a somersault and then you take off and fly for ages if you control your arms prop…
How do you actually know you are in SH? Is there a way to tell if you've done it properly? I thought having thoughts popping up was a sign you aren't in SH?
People have many many proofs for themselves. If I’m gonna share my proofs to you, would you believe? Try to properly reprogram your subconscious, and see what happens. It literally does not know how n…
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …
Irritating the ones you love, polysecure (because it deals with a lot of attachment education), women who love too much, polyvagal theory and exercises, legit anything to do with different therapies— …
It’s unhealthy to project or “mind read”. I think there’s a bit of this going on in your post. It may feel (to you) they hate you, because rejection feels bad. It’s not a good feeling to an ego or o…
Still new but posting this comment both to help you and hopefully get feedback from the mods that I’m understanding things properly. You are not trying to trick yourself in the 3D. Your only job is …
You will find the answer here - Moonlight Mailed Me ! : The No1 reason why people fail with their alpha programming. *Hi Everybody, I am one of moonlight's new cubs and his best for sure. I have a …
I don't want to tell you how you should feel, but maybe it would be helpful to learn the technology properly. Maybe Docker is not the problem, but how it is used at your company. I fear Docker is use…
Cloudflare is fast, cheap and easy. Fastly from what I know offers more as it's based on Varnish but very few people need that level of complication. I only worked on one project that needed Varnish.…
If you still can, DON'T use branch per environment approach. Instead allow devs to merge feature branches at their convenience to main branch, then build properly versioned artifacts. And then trigg…
That, or it means you should properly plan a realistic business.
If you want another arguement, people in the clothes industry say that 2x your landed cost is wholesale, and 2x the wholesale to get your MSRP. This is obviously also super product dependent, and it …
I used to work for a company that is exactly this. Excel did all the quoting. Worked fine especially because all of the trades use their own format/layout for project quotes. I once gave a machine le…
You have a couple options. U can navigate this yourself, but u need to know a few things and I am operating with assumptions here. For context - I am a manufacturer rep selling product to supermarke…
Thank you so much. I hope we heal properly ❤️🫂 It baffles me how similar my ex DA was to yours when I read what you wrote. Except the 2nd point, aml of them were true in my case. Now I feel so stupid…
I am not an expert, but this is not what I think. Everyone needs space and it is normal asking for space. It is also possible to use this space to work on your attachment wounds. If communicated prope…
Im healing FA myself and my unaware FA avoidant leaning did this all the time. She was hard people pleaser aswell and when time passed i couldnt trust anymore what she said to me. I really understand …
Before I was aware of attachment issues this sentiment would just feel like annoyance at their presence, like I'm unhappy and I just want to leave them. Now I know, when I start feeling uncomfortable …
I am feeling lonely. Like I am not a priority to my partner. Yet? Or any more? Who knows? I know this is mostly her communication style over text/online. But in the beginning, we would call every da…
He broke up with me but I had broken up with him a few times the previous months I went no contact and then we talked once or twice before I blocked him so I couldn’t see him on anything and we’ve ne…
I had a pretty similar experience and landed in a similar spot that you did, even down to the same number of dates and spiraling when I would run into her afterwards (we work in the same building so i…
What i alluded to at the end: I was very hot headed; i would not communicate properly and then either explode into an argument or just shut down; i was very nit-picky and always criticizing; i would b…
My ex and I have been apart almost four months. I realize now I'm fearful avoidant. When we got together, I actually kind of didn't want to. I had left my last relationship a few years before and felt…
Attachement styles aren't like a hair colour or an eye colour, they change with each relationship. If you notice repeating behaviours it has more to do with your choice of partners than a specific att…
Hey, thanks for the reply. I'll do my best to answer as precisely as possible > 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in th…
That makes sense. What is confusing for me is how FAs know the difference between something like core value differences and if it’s FA tendencies creating reasons why there isn’t a connection. The …
That's a lot. Getting a list with all the things someone doesn't like about you is already really hard to swallow, even harder when it's given by a person you loved and trusted very dearly. Not only d…
Text of original post by u/Positive-Entrance193: In 12th grade I became very close to a classmate of mine. Both of us bonded over shared trauma and basically became inseparable. We texted each other 2…
What makes me feel better is having healthy calm communication skills. If you approach them with that (chat gpt can help but you need to change the wording to sound like something you would say), and …
This is pure bullshit to the tenth power and weak minds will eat this up and wonder why their life is fucked lmao. Thoughts don’t magically bend reality but your beliefs, focus and mindset shape how y…
I think the answer to your questions is "not yet"... At least, not in a secure way (because i can always take anything as a red flag and bolt before anything even starts). I think a big reason of…
You can’t think your way out of this anxiety. It’s in your body. Beta blockers from your doctor may help, or pick up L-Theanine supplements that help calm you. But your body is stuck in fight/flight…
I love the phrase emotional burnout. That's what I had after my divorce, but it'd been happening for 3 years already at that point. And it really did get to a point where I couldn't even work or think…
Same. I was begging and crying the 1st day. One day I woke up not feeling any particular way. All I could think of is "I am tired of this pain, I don't want to go back to feeling this way ever again. …
Yes, i had started to do just that when she told me about her past with this guy. It sucked all the wind out of my sails for dancing with her at all; i needed time to process it before i could see it …
I’m not aware of apologizing for such a thing to make much of a difference. It will not come off the way you are hoping. Honestly she doesn’t sound like she was much of a friend either if she couldn’t…
I almost got into a new relationship before I was properly healed from the previous one. It was the first thing I said, I gave a huge warning label, but we tried anyway. Every step forward was accompa…
I would ask that you seriously give some thought into why you want a child, if it’s that you truly want to raise and nurture a child or if it’s a legacy/natural human desire and curiosity to reproduce…
>Everyone tells you to focus on the healthy stuff. Get fit, see friends and family, keep up with therapy, get into your hobbies, give yourself time. I have been doing all of that, and so has my friend…
Your question took me back six years. I was in exactly the same situation. A week after the breakup, anxiety overwhelmed me so much that I had to call a mental health hotline. I wasn't eating, I could…
Is mind reading an anxious attachment trait? What I mean by that is expecting people to understand what's going on with you without having to say anything? One of my friendships ended, unfortunately, …
I just posted about this same thing! I tend to overthink in the early dating stages I think because it is really hard for me to decipher who I should just be communicating with better and who I should…
I think of the people i often refused to let get too close. Any real feelings was an instant shut off from them because it felt too unsafe. There are 5 people I dont necessarily consider a relationshi…
Yes and no. On a community level, when every insecure attached person dates a secure person then it leaves little room for insecure attached people to grow in relationships since they are just avoided…
For me it feels very much like shame, which is hard to describe but I feel a kind of tightness in my chest, and almost like a sick nauseous sensation, connected to them seeing me, like I just need to …
That makes so much sense. I could imagine it's similar for me, even though I haven't managed yet to connect to the fear which is probably driving the deactivation/avoidance. At least I would assume th…
Everything you wrote explains why you spent 3.5 years with no results. You didn't read the index and all of the comments, or you did but didn't think critically. You're banned for 90 days. If you st…