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What I find amusing is your immediately thinking a more physically active woman versus getting on board with a woman that's more your physical level. That being said in my experience those people l…
Victim Blaming will not be tolerated — Hey all, Codependency can lead to a ton of behaviors and relationship styles that are less than healthy, but as we all strive to better ourselves and shed these old habits that no longer serve us, it…
Official r/realityshifting Discord — ## Welcome to Shifting Help! ### The official r/realityshifting subreddit's server! I made this server a while ago to serve the purpose to give the right information to shifters across the world !…
Share your startup - quarterly post — Share Your Startup - Q4 2023 [**r/startups**](https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/) **wants to hear what you're working on!** Tell us about your startup in a comment within this submission. Follow thi…
Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is? — How has this continued to be a thing, and how did this get approved internally? The Shopify Admin UI is a complete mess. It's genuinely hard to believe this shipped — and worse, that it's still the c…
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…
Backend skills for a hobbyist? — Hi, I'm wondering if y'all have recommendations for backend skills that a lone hobbyist should learn? Right now I don't know everything I want to do with web design, but I know I'd like to create art…
Immersive Architects website concept — Check out this Architects concept site that brings their latest album to life in a different way. The design plays with the album artwork through cool hover interactions and showcases upcoming tour …
When does maximising space/reducing elements go too far? — I'm working on an eCommerce site at the moment, and when it comes to the product category pages, I've had some feedback from my senior to suggest that space needs to be used more efficiently. To name…
Announcement Regarding Community Safety — Dear SEO Members, We are reaching out to address a serious issue that affects the safety and well-being of our moderation team and our community as a whole. It has come to our attention that the CEO …
Best SEO Slack groups for networking? — Hey everyone — I’m looking for an active SEO-focused Slack community. Not just for learning, but mainly to connect with others in the industry and hopefully find remote work opportunities.If you're pa…
Best SEO Slack groups for networking? — Hey everyone — I’m looking for an active SEO-focused Slack community. Not just for learning, but mainly to connect with others in the industry and hopefully find remote work opportunities If you're …
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …
I struggled with posting consistently as a creator — so I built a tool to make it easier — Between content planning, editing, and just staying active online, keeping up with social media as a brand or creator can feel like a full-time job. I built a small tool that helps schedule AI-powere…
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
Jobsites to lookout for as a Product Designer. Need help. — I'm currently in the lookout for a job change and I would like to know if there are any specific sites/channels/spaces/groups to get a job alerts. I'm aware of fee and actively on top of it, but I cou…
Success comes to those that can manage 4 innovation risks (I will not promote) — As a startup, your role is to strategically manage innovation risks to unlock your business’s financial potential. To achieve this, focus on addressing the following key risks: • Desirability Risk: …
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…
What are the best channels to promote your product this year? — What are the best channels to promote your product this year? I know every product and audience are different, so there is no perfect answer. But what would you guys say are the best channels to be a…
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…
Strange WordPress Login Activity – Need Help Understanding — I've set up a new website, and **I'm the only one who has the login credentials**. However, I'm seeing **many login attempts recorded**, and I'm not sure who is trying to log in or why. I had installe…
Is there a shopify app that gives me a stock movement report ? — The company i work for uses shopify as the main online selling platform. It is a start up so alot of the basics i will need to add them as someone who will be promotoed to data analysis. I've been l…
Rejected in the final interview after a month long process — This is honestly just a rant post, because I feel completely deflated at this point. I’ve been actively looking for a job for over a year now, moved to Spain three months ago to start a new life, and…
With Updated Reporting, Now Deleted Products are removed from Sales & Tax Reports — I'm struggling to get a clear answer from any of the help team (shocker I know). Previously I could delete a product and still run reports and see the sales numbers, etc. Ran a report yesterday and t…
Seeking a low-maintenance frontend/CMS stack for modernizing 10+ year old sites — Hi all, I’m looking for advice on a conservative, low-maintenance frontend and CMS stack for modernizing a couple of old but still functional client sites. **Background:** I’ve got two long-lived s…
How to approach colleagues ‘improving’ my copy with unedited Chat GPT? — Hi all, I’m a new and junior member of a very small team, we are overstretched and have far too much on the go at any given time, which inevitably leads to shortcuts being taken. I’m no stranger t…
Aspiring Dance Studio Owner - First Steps? — ~ TL;DR: Aspiring dance studio owner (currently in school). Active in the dance community and planning ahead. Looking for first-step advice, financial tips, and mindset guidance from other small busi…
Should I hide my plugins in WordPress for safety? And how? — Hey folks, I've been thinking about WordPress security lately and came across this question: **Should I hide the plugins I'm using on my WordPress site to improve safety?** I’m not talking about u…
How do you make sure nothing falls through the cracks of your business operations? — I work with companies that use a ton of different tools (CRMs, inventory, payments, shipping, etc.). The problem I keep seeing is that things slip through the cracks, and no one realizes until it’s to…
Help each other grow - What’s a “must know” thing, that’s going to be vital to know over the next few years — I’ve been in the industry or in education for ~10 years. In that time I’ve seen “it” things come & become a must have mentioned nearly everywhere (yes Kubernetes, I’m looking at you); while others hav…
How would I create an active demo section? — https://preview.redd.it/z0zqo2sqq8ze1.png?width=2148&format=png&auto=webp&s=93373216fb9f7e07f32e1d3c4224c444450fc427 Something like this where you click the feature on the left sidebar and a short gi…
Duolingo leader throws shade at r/UXDesign — You all might remember this thread a few months ago, [debating Duolingo renaming UX to “Product Experience.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/UXDesign/comments/1j3hvkw/duolingo_renames_ux/) The VP Mig announ…
Anyone else noticing small businesses drowning in SaaS subscription costs these days? — Been consulting with a few local businesses recently and I'm shocked at how many are spending $500-1000+ monthly on various software subscriptions. One client is paying for Salesforce, Asana, Notion, …
Death by a Thousand Subscriptions: Is anyone's SaaS bills higher than their Ad spend? — I've been watching several eCommerce businesses in my network, and it's fascinating how many are drowning in subscription costs for essential software. One store owner I know is paying nearly **$500/m…
Any experience running and managing many locations on POS? Switching from Square and I’ve got questions — Shopify POS as a refreshing breath of fresh air over Square on many points. However, they seem to fall short on some really obvious things. That make me think maybe I’m the crazy one and just don’…
Head of Digital - Feeling burnt out. — Hey everyone, I’m in a “Head of Digital” role at a mid-sized company — but in practice, I’m the only technical person in a team full of editors and project managers from a traditional print publishin…
WooCommerce PayPal Payments Plugin issue — Hey I have a webshop with the Zephyr theme (version 8.35.2) and have installed WooCommerce (version 9.8.3) including some plugins. Now I would like to process my payments via PayPal (also with credi…
A shiny experiment in 3D Web graphics — I had some fun building an interactive diamond configurator to show off the power of material properties with the help of WebGPU. It’s a cool way to learn how things like thickness and IOR are used t…
Shop app shadow banning? — Has anyone else had an issue with the shop app? I've ensured all of my listings are correctly set up, I can see that all the settings are active. I can even search for my shop name in the shop app and…
What should i do to be proactive while my product is in the prototype/ manufacturing stage — Recently i have found a manufacturer and am in contact with them planning things. While i wait for their response, what else can i do to stay on top of launching?
Starting over — Heya, I don’t want this to be a negative thread— looking for some positivity and hope maybe? I (34F) am recently out of a one year relationship. It was my first secure relationship in my entire adult…
DAE feel like they want to be in a relationship but don’t really know how to? Intimacy problems? — I mean in terms of intimacy. When I think about being in a relationship, the concept of having someone in my corner that I can cuddle with, do things with, nurture and support and generally love—that …
Feeling bad after dates? — I asked my friends for some advice regarding how to attempt to move my attachment style in a more secure direction, and one of them said that for them, going out on dates really helped them, especiall…
Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…
I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …
Working on becoming secure has made me more susceptible to toxic relationships — I think. Here's the thing, I'm fearful avoidant, and before I was aware of attachment styles at all the moment a person I was interested in made me feel at all rejected in the slightest (took too lo…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup. — I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known about the anxious-avoidant trap for some time…
Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…
Any podcasts and/or books on toxic workplace from avoidant perspective? — Most things people keep recommending include gray rocking, which I'm already prone to. I'm cordial and actually fairly social, but there to work. The person that I'm having issues with expects me to…
Did this a bit back in high school a few years ago, but just sort of fell out of it. This popped up on my front page and I'm gonna give it another try. I just hope lucid dreaming doesn't affect sleep …
Glad it helped you in some way. I’ve felt like a whiny little wimp for getting PTSD from something that I saw as not a true threat to life. Babies and children absolutely register lack of affection…
More pseudoscience from you (the first being that gravity is attractive- gravity is a warp in the space time continuum as it responds to mass, and only appears to be attractive to the uneducated). No…
Hi there - you may want to post this as a new thread (a toplevel post) or as a comment in the weekly check-in thread since not many people are going to see it here. I think basically all parents who …
I made this post on my original account which is now inactive. Here's a link to other useful posts I made on that account! [https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/p4arii/my\_original\_pro…
I think it depends. Sometimes with meds still active it's easier for me to lucid dream. Other times there's no way I'm going anywhere other than watching my thoughts stream by. I've never APd, but I'…
are there people still active in this group ? i see most post from years/months ago ! i need answers and advice
Wanted to ask smthng. I realised i was dreaming for a first time in maybe my whole life and even better i could control it to some degree. But the dream kinda lost its depth when i became lucid and th…
You're welcome...wish I could be more active on here like I was back in the day. No idea why you got downvoted for a thank you. Glad we have other Mods doing their thing!
u/seanlee50 are you coming back to being an active mod? I'm asking because as the only really active mod in the last few years, I have been careful to give people space to express their opinions no ma…
Like you I'm a very busy person, and have priorities outside being an active mod. https://youtu.be/sXQkXXBqj_U Cheers!
But your brain behaves differently when lucid dreaming. If I remember right, your prefrontal cortex (so you're aware of yourself and your personality) is active during a lucid dream, what normally don…
Well, you said there are 2 ways- there are more than that. I didn’t mention the ladder experiment either. I *like* Joseph and Neville, but I don’t see their words or teachings as end all be all. I don…
Hm, no. Nice try. The NGCritics sub has dozens of archived stories of people who lost everything due to these teachings that would be otherwise censored and banned in the JM/NG subreddits. This subred…
“If it’s isolating me, that would be my own doing” lol. You are brainwashed and in a cult. You sound exactly like the people in Jonestown did before they drank the kool aid. Cults have nothing to do w…
Sounds more like a premonition. Because you can't actively manifest from dreams unless you are lucid dreaming. And even in that case lucid dreaming isn't seen as a manifestation tool according to this…
Thanks for the reply and guidance, which is welcomed. Yes, I'm actively working on my anxious behaviours as I'm fairly self-regulating. I'm just concerned that my DA partner isn't even self-aware 🫣
Well, you’re posting here and clearly don’t like the dynamic or you wouldn’t be asking us if we think it’s normal. I’m just saying that it’s not a dynamic that most people enjoy or find tolerable and …
So pardon the length (I haven't told anyone yet) and thank you for reading. I might have a crush on a good friend ("Steve") who I've reconnected with after a few years of not hanging out. We didn't …
I say stop having crushes. I can't think of anything more unattractive in a partner than someone who isn't excited about me.
I feel you. I’ll give you my experience as a FA then suggestions. - I also transitioned from anxious to avoidant our the years. I was never full on AA but more anxious leaning FA as a child. Now I l…
Just chiming in here to say the question in the post is spot on. After running into the same pattern I had to look inward to what patterns I was replicating to draw the same people into my circle and …
I had to go through that phase to find them unattractive
Usually most people are a little bit chill and collected in the first few weeks of meeting each other. There are no global standards or benchmarks, but if you’re looking for general guidance maybe som…
Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…
Here's what I found helpful to figure out my own feelings. I look at three angles: 1. If they suddenly told you they were done and didn't tell you why, would it hurt you? If it wouldn't hurt at all, …
Take time to actually get to know someone, go slow, keep things light at first, don't jump into a relationship. Instead think about true compatibility in things like communication, lifestyle, values, …
I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …
Interesting that you have this experience and your therapist is suggesting that you’re now leaning anxious. I wonder how often this happens with DAs that are becoming secure, such as yourself. In m…
Your feelings are valid, AND they are not facts. The above commenter is trying to offer you some wisdom; you can choose not to be reactive and take it personally and look again and ask “what can I lea…
You can ruin potential connections and negatively impact your social life this way, if that's any important to you. As kindly as I can, this is is a common misconception people can have about avoida…
I understand. Glad you are working through those feelings. I hope I did not come off judgemental. I definitely don't think that your feelings are irrational (I might agree with the inappropriate part …
Thank you so much for this. I am really hurting. Yes, he messaged me On Sunday evening my time saying “Hey baby!! I’m back, I’m so sorry for not being able to communicate.. I know it’s been a little…
Yeah and it's not that avoidants are lying, they actually like the love bombing stage. They actively choose to instigate that. U never see AA lovebombing avoidants in the beginning. Avoidants are l…
I’m FA and my current relationship has me feeling like I’m losing my mind half the time. I’m really into him, but when conflict hits, I shut down, even though he actually tries to talk things through.…
Pretty sure I was an FA (schizophrenic dad, sadistic mom who wanted to abort me—I took care of the family’s emotional needs, disregarded my own). I was still confused/hurting 2+ years post no contact…
My lil cousin(20F) was having relationship issues- she is an avoidant and he is an anxious. I pointed this pattern out and she said, "My therapist said the same, does having this attachment mean I'll …
Is he actively in therapy and taking concrete steps to address his issues? Because you're here asking how you can fix him, but it's not your job, it's not your place, and it's not within your abiliti…
I’m also an FA working towards secure, and I think I’m largely there, but part of how I know that I’m getting better is that I don’t tolerate this kind of shit in my relationships anymore. You’re not …
i met my now husband on a dating app. “the wild” is a really hard place to meet people these days. most people who are looking for love are on dating apps, including people you meet in “the wild” that…
True, but it really depends on why they're reacting that way. There's a term, 'reactive abuse', which can happen when you continually push someone else and react in what you're calling 'emotionally ma…
Have you costed up the Grafana Cloud? We're a small organisation right now, but we're using Grafana Cloud and it's very cost effective for us. Our plan will be to eventually selfhost once we're at the…
I know it's not quite what you're asking, but I'd happily advocate for spending the big money again on DataDog and Auth0. Both get very costly at scale, but both solve their respective problems very…
Have you seen the DHH working group of the CNCF? They have great tips and an active community in Slack. There is a dictionary and several guidelines for this kind of events. [https://contribute.cncf…
If it works it works. Half of dora metrics are about velocity, but what if you don’t need velocity? Not every product is actively developed, and the cost of automation/ change should be taken into …
Hey thanks for posting this. I started my entrepreneurship journey around an year back and the struggle to focus and manage distractions is so real. I have not been diagnosed officially but have read …
>am I dealing with a DA/FA or this man is just making a fool out me? Por qué no los dos? He is textbook FA and he is absolutely bsing you. You are well off not participating in those hot and cold ga…
Matchmaking platforms are tough early on since they rely so much on user activity. One thing that helps is starting with a small niche where you can really deliver value. Also AI can make the platform…
You can engage a sales rep who specializes in this retailer if you're not comfortable dealing with the buyers yourself. The customer will provide onboarding documents, including the Vendor Buying Agre…
Hey. Interesting write up, it has some good references and shows some good understanding on modern software security. Though there are some parts I would critique for feedback: >Another layer that …