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Hi OP, I'm so sorry to read this :( I can't say I completely understand your situation, but I've certainly experienced some of the same things and I hope I can help, if even just a bit. Don't let oth…
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…
Any experience running and managing many locations on POS? Switching from Square and I’ve got questions — Shopify POS as a refreshing breath of fresh air over Square on many points. However, they seem to fall short on some really obvious things. That make me think maybe I’m the crazy one and just don’…
Hey small businesses why do you make it so hard for me to buy your stuff? — So I'm making a fairly large purchase about 15 units (well trying to ) at a local tree / garden store. I picked one with a very large garden and confirmed they have lots of stock on the phone. I sent …
Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…
Detachment or deactivation? — Me (23M) and my ex (22F) broke up one month ago because she was feeling overwhelmed by some arguments we had due to changes in our lives (new place to live, new work). She's FA. I was secure for almos…
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…
Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…
Is this an emotional affair? — I (36F, single), have a good guy friend (40M) who has been dating a new woman for 2 ish months now. Full disclosure I don’t like her very much and I think they’re moving super fast (already saying I …
does anyone feel a little pain when they see how other parents treat their kids? — i was with my mates at about 8 or 9pm catching up in a cafe. we’re all south asian in the uk (all our parents immigrated and we were born here) and they all go uni and i’m working a corporate job so w…
I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…
Broke up with DA after a year. — Met her a year ago, almost to the day. Things started well, relatively slowly which was nice for a change compared to other situations I have been in around that time. After two months, we became offi…
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…
First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…
Manifested work and a promotion — I've been a silent lurker here for a while, and for some reason I couldn't manifest small things like idk, seeing a pink elephant. I felt like I was trying so hard, forcing myself to see that pink ele…
When the therapist is speechless… — I had my therapy session this week and she asked what I did differently with my kids than my own mother (who had Dxd Borderline). I told her my children were allowed childhoods, kids were not parenti…
Quick bit of sadness I need to get out... — My cell phone needed a good cleaning. It's been a while. Definitely longer than six months ago when my wife left me after three years of marriage. I took the phone case off and realized I still had …
No one tells you that you have to KEEP deciding on the divorce — Arriving to this decision was so hard. Once I did, I felt lighter and confident and had Bad Bitch Energy about it. But that's faded a bit as I'm living in the same house with my STBXH, and I feel lik…
32 years of marriage, but I'm still unsettled by an affair from 2006. Is it too late to ask for the truth? — I’ve been married for 32 years now, but there is a something from 2006 that I’ve never been able to move past. Back then, my daughters were 11 and 10. We were leaving my parents' house after a weekend…
Manifested a $32K scholarship with accidental SATS!!! — Hi all :) I have a pretty amazing success story that I’d love to share, and I hope it may motivate some of you in your manifestation journeys 😊 Basically, I accidentally manifested a $32,000 scholar…
First “bad” trip taught me a lot - sharing my experience to help others — I’m 28m, good job, good relationships, physically fit, happy overall. Experienced tripper with several high-dose mushroom trips under my belt. Always had positive experiences. Took 4g mushrooms today…
My parents raised me to just serve people — I'm 22(F) and have moved away from my parents place but might have to go back because it has become too expensive to live alone and my parents bought a bigger house so it would all work out for me if …
I made my husband confess to OBS and here’s what happened — For your education and entertainment purposes, this is the story of what happened when I forced my husband to confess to OBS. Quick backstory: (you can read the full post on my profile) my husband h…
What habit hacks have been most successful for you? — I set up an AI that calls me on the phone to keep me accountable for my habits, and it’s been working weirdly well lol. Something about having to actually pick up the phone and talk to it makes me fe…
My (21F) girlfriend had a complete meltdown when I (23M) tried to use her phone — Last night my girlfriend of two years and I were just chilling after about 4 days of not seeing each other while I had a close friend visiting. Initially, I asked to use her iPad (which I bought for C…
ENM Popular Now? — I'm a 49F and just started dating recently in DC. Found a very cool guy (just chatted on the phone, started to plan a date) who announced he is "Ethically Non-Monogamous" - He already has one partner …
Is it a thing that when you find something out that they did, they become almost fake normal with you? — But it feels off. It feels different. I have discovered my partner has been sleeping with massage girls and was on tinder at some point. Since discovery, he says all the same things, but in person, …
My girlfriend drove 10 hours to see me and my mom showed up at 3 am and ruined everything — Someone told me I should come over here and check this community out. I’m not sure if my mother is a narcissist or not. I just need some similar stories, advice, or ways to handle this going further. …
I need to let go — Me bf (32M) and I (31F) have been off and on for the past 2 years. We were engaged at one point but I called the engagement off. During our relationship he was angry about alot of things...money, his …
Stoicism and advice regarding isolation? — Because of life situations outside of my control, I have dealt with a lot of grief and pain regarding all relationships. I am essentially alone and after the grief and pain of betrayal and abandonment…
She cheated after 14 years — This is my first ever post on Reddit and it’s a long one so apologies in advance for any formatting errors. I have been with my fiancé for 14 years, we have been engaged for the last 4. Our relations…
Saw my ex after 4 months — Hello, just thought I’d vent here really quick. My ex (24F) and I (25M) broke up 11/15/25. We broke up over the phone and haven’t seen each other or spoke since. Today (3/20) I decided to go out with …
Am I expecting too much after the worst time of my life? — Asking for advice in a situation that is a bit of a shitshow. I’ll try to make it succinct. I live in the UK but am from a different European country. I, F42, started seeing M44, “S”, just over t…
Processing my NDE and the paranormal experiences that followed — I can’t sleep and i’m feeling the need to document a sequence of experiences I had from February 2019 through 2020 that forever changed my life. I’ll try my best to keep each section somewhat brief, b…
I think my friendship with my best friend might be ending after her wedding and I don’t know how to handle it — I (29F) recently attended my best friend’s (29F) 10-day wedding, and what should’ve been a happy time has turned into something really confusing and honestly hurtful. We’ve been close for years (aro…
Mom threatening suicide if I don't come back — That's it. I ran across the country, they followed and after a bunch of police interference they went home. I keep getting texts on my old burner from them and this morning my dad said my mom would k…
My Orb experience as a kid and what it did to me — Hello everyone, ive been lurking here for a while and i thought id finally share my first and only ever orb experience. i remember this day very vividly and i have pretty much 0 recollection of any m…
I 20M broke up with my 21F girlfriend after she proposed to open up our relationship and now everyone is telling me to get back with her basically — I need to explain our history cause that may explain why everyone is telling me to get back with her. Our parents were college friends and so decided to move close to each other. So i have known her…
My friend died, my mom made it about herself. — My friend (M24) died in a car accident. The driver fell asleep and 4 out of the 6 people died on impact. It was sudden and tragic. On one particularly bad night, I was feeling really vulnerable and s…
IT GETS BETTER! — Yall I just want to say it. Gets. Better. My ex broke up with me over the phone after a 3 year relationship, haven’t seen him since and hope to god I never have to cross his gross path again. I was …
Do Narcs abruptly hang up on you over the phone? — My girlfriend has snapped over the phone 3 times this week and hung up on me without ever giving a reason afterwards or apologizing, usually the conversations are very confusing and I don't know why s…
How Neville Manifested His Marriage - Do Not Meddle In The Middle. — **For Those Who Need...** From Neville's Audio Lecture. The verbatim from Neville's Lecture (*Updated*) : *“When I decided to marry the lady who now bears my name I applied this principle. At the t…
I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. — \*\*\*UPDATE\*\*\* After a long 3 days my results came back and they were all negative. I, of course, told my boyfriend and he was relived much like I was. He was supportive of me and he apologized …
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone — Pretty much what the title says. We live separately but visit each other every weekend alternating (about 1.5 hours apart). We've been together 2.5 years. His bag was on the couch with all his clothe…
17F, my parents read my private chats out loud and still don’t trust me 2 years later — I’m 17F, and something happened 2 years ago that my parents still haven’t let go of. Back when I was in 10th grade, I started talking to a guy online. It was just casual at first, and within a few da…
My full story 2 weeks since DDay 4 days NC — (Cheater fiancée 26f) (me 26m) (AP 46m) So it all started about 4 to 6 months ago I noticed that her drinking had become a concern she was showing up drunk after work very frequently and it was both…
I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? — Dating a new guy for a month, he was a gentleman and very kind towards me. He very recently just told me how much he liked me and that I’m “pretty but most of all I’m a kind person with a good heart, …
Mourning the Friendship That Was Lost as Well — How do you deal with the loss not only the relationship you had, but the loss of the friendship and friend you found with it? We have established no contact after trying to be friends, but it was too…
Why does my relationship turn into a breakup every time we fight? — So I (24F) have been dating my boyfriend (26M) for about 4 months now. We met on Bumble, and honestly… I really do love him. He’s kind, thoughtful, and overall a really good person. But there’s this …
Why does my ex have no sense of urgency with the practical stuff? — We broke up last week, and when he first initiated it he was happy to meet up to exchange our things and have a conversation then. We ended up having a conversation on the phone and he didn’t want to …
yes , it took me like 2 months to master it , all i did was lay on the back look up and close my eyes , i would invision seeing myself fly around my neighborhood while doing this practice , , this ga…
Astral projection was always a part of me even in my youngest of days. Falling asleep trying to wake myself up. With time and I must confess it Keeps perfecting in me..Decades ago I died and was defi…
Thank you. This resonates so deeply. The consequences listed are so painfully familiar. An early memory is my mom getting out the phone book, picking up the phone and saying she's calling the orpha…
There is victim blaming and then there's some attention whore showing up to make sure actual victims voices are never heard. You can easily tell the difference and most subs are filled with them pushi…
Hello, I'm Kale, and Im 34. I was just married 3 months ago after being in a loving 8+ year relationship with the kindest person I've ever met. Three days ago she told me she had developed a relation…
This is the way. My ex broke up with me last week on the phone before my dentist appointment. I had to cut the call short because I needed to make my appointment. I lied about watching a sad show on m…
I was with my partner for 2 years and he ended things over the phone. I did nothing to make him feel unsafe, ever. He simply took the easy way out. He didn’t want to see the hurt on my face and feel…
Haha didn’t work with mine, he would have been sooooo happy if I just didn’t text… he was such a little scamp. He had an excuse for everything… when it came to missing my call or not texting, the list…
Oh, this is a cool topic, there is nothing cooler than the fucking time that is chasing us. I was just in the middle of my first mission related to a new job. At that time I was already quite burnt…
I've been in this exact situation when I was an FA in a LDR with another FA in another country. And our f2f time was very little like yours but we spoke daily, intensely and talked and had plans. I kn…
He’s going to leave you. I’m sorry. I can guarantee this. He’s extremely immature, and you are trying to be his mother and his therapist. It will backfire on you spectacularly. He needs professional h…
I've been reading people's experiences with partners who have borderline personality disorder, and I keep wondering... Is it possible for someone to not have a meltdown for a whole year before it happ…
Wow, that’s… I mean, that’s seriously sociopathic behaviour. I can’t even imagine how you felt. It’s such a mindfuck. I hope you kicked him out and never looked back. What a toxic piece of bovine excr…
Sophia NLU (natural language understanding) Enging released, with full specs and online demo at: https://cicero.sh/sophia/ For anyone deploying conversational chat bots at all, and is alternativ…
Same thing happened to me. To me, its a respect thing. I knew going into the relationship that she had a tendency to isolate. I was ok with with it because I myself do that on occasion (with family I …
I’m going through the same thing right now. He went from telling me how much he loved me to being rude and broke up with me over the phone with no explanation. I moved to be closer to this guy. We’ve …
Hiding behind the phone. That’s one thing that pissed me off with my DA Ex who discarded me. Do what I plan to do if she ever texts me- Simply reply - “If you want to talk, you know where I live” …
Don't text just talk on the phone at the end of the day or something....see if that helps. Now if they don't want to do that....then they are just being an asshole so walk away
Looking for advice Haven’t seen my GF since Wednesday ( I stopped in to say hi before work 10 mins maybe ) today when I said I want to see her she said ok. And then when I asked when since we both h…
The overarching question is, how do you know when you are doing something unhealthy as an anxiously attached person versus you're justified in having your needs met and the person you are dating is be…
Hey everyone, I’d really appreciate some advice or perspective. Yesterday I had an argument with my girlfriend, and it left me feeling pretty low. We hadn’t talked all day, so in the evening I…
I'm struggling with what is realistic to ask/expect regarding texting. I spent the entire weekend with my boyfriend, he left for work this morning and we texted throughout the day while he was at work…
What action did you expect? To help you to move around - sure, to help you to get you into emergency room if it's already kinda 10 out of 10 pain - sure, but you have to take care of yourself... yours…
Yes, it helps me to take a step back, notice how I feel, close the app, put away the phone and focus on regulating my emotions and then come back. This time it happened so fast with tiny things (edit…
I used to be more anxious but I’m getting better. I did spiral a bit recently, which was a mix of anxious/avoidant: taking more than a week to trust a new person (in text) and then feeling scared of b…
What’s actually happening (in plain language) Roughly, your system is doing this: 1. Distance = danger. When you don’t see him (or replies slow down), your body reads it as “I’m about to be abando…
So wait.....you talk to him daily on the phone and text...and you are still feeling disconnected? Are you saying that his only way to connect with you right now while he has his kids is not good enoug…
Hi, (18M) sorry for the long story: For context, my girlfriend and I have been dating for around 7 months now. Her and I both have avoidant tendencies but she talked to me about my avoidant tendencies…
Yes. I absolutely loathe phone calls. I do not check voicemail and have not checked it in about 15 years. It plays the voice mail is not set up yet message and does not exist to me.
Some of these comments, seem like you might have ADHD. Which causes people to be disorganized and procrastinators. Never wanting to talk on the phone, checking emails, and messages can overwhelm them …
A couple months back I used my boyfriend's phone to locate mine. When I opened the phone I discovered that he typed in Google that he was dealing with "managing his attraction to his ex". I confr…
An incredible poem — thank you for sharing. Here's a contribution. Vibe is a little more optimistic, perhaps speaking of the moment before beginning healing. Everything is Waiting for You David Why…
I am kind of freaking out. I’ve recently begun to talk to someone I met on a dating app with whom I have so much in common. We are both of the same religion, have the same values, similar humor and in…
Well, so I'm pretty new to dating, was with my x-wife for nearly 20 years with kids and decided to try dating after some time alone. Never dated before her either, so eventhough im almost 40 I've got …
32 nb Update! 5th(?) no, 6th(?) date w 39m last night, we watched a movie together at mine and kept pausing the movie to talk. I like him more and more…and so the Switch has Flipped in my brain where…
M30 Hooked up with my ex f28 this last weekend after having not seen each other for 1 year. We only dated for 1 year to that prior but it was a fantastic relationship and neither of us has really done…
So as kindly as I can say this: your mental health isn’t your fault but it IS your responsibility. You might be autistic, but is it possible to learn better communication patterns that work for you? I…
So I broke up with Mr. Called Me His Ex's Name after a year. The same one who seemed to not care when I was navigating a busted pipe situation last weekend. We talked for awhile on the phone, and I th…
Yeah, it’s what I didn’t know I needed! It really matters that he and I express our love in a similar way. I’m watching the Super Bowl, and he’s on the phone with his best friend nearby. I’m looking …
Interesting timing,I have gotten in conflict with my partner about this. We have been seeing each other for a year now. On most weekdays, because we live half an hour apart ,we chat on the phone al…
Chance in the future? Did I mess this up? Is there a chance in the future? How to stop thinking of someone you never dated? I (f in my 30s) connected with a m in his 30s on hinge. We both seemed v…
yes I agree. no i basically had some important deadlines along with us living a bit of a distance away… and so i feel he was respecting that deadline since he had been through something similar for hi…
I often compare dating to job searching and, in my opinion, job sesrching was easier. I’m not saying job searching wasn’t brutal and agonizing, it definitely was. However, at least with job searching…
Me and my bf just hit the 3 month mark. We have not said “I love you” to each other yet. Although, at 2 months into dating, it was interesting, we were on the phone and he was complaining about life …
Honestly, of all things you could match on regarding values, interests, life goals and you choose a non-issue which can be bypassed with some other app. Android users have issues with texting iPhone u…
Had three good dates with a guy I felt a very strong intellectual click with: from the first minute we seemed to fire off and kept on jumping through topics together, for hours on end, despite only me…
I’m feeling super unregulated and sad about the ex-situationship-giving-it-a-last-fair-shot-dating-2-years-later being done because he feels there’s no “consistent spark” and has a “gut feeling”, desp…
That was said beautifully. My bf and I didn’t say it until after 2 years. The actions and trust and everything else was there but not those 3 words. It started eating me up so I brought it up and …
don’t take it personally, it’s usually just a happenstance thing. it sounds like he was online swiping when you replied and decided to reply when he saw it, and it was a quick back and forth. also so…
Not really dating related, but having spent over a decade dealing with health issues and not working, then 2 years ago finding and getting a degree in a career that's basically made for me, and then a…