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Thank you for sharing. I get this too, and until I read your comment I didn't understand why I was so upset over the "secretive" accusations...they don't even ask about the small things, so of course …

I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…

first shifting story i encountered — When i was a little little kid like 6 or 7 yo(yeah 67 whatever). I vividly remember that between us kid we told ourselves a story. We never repeated it to adults because they wouldn't understand. We …

She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…

34 M, marraige collapse, business collapse & false cases..Will this improve? — I got married in Dec 2024 after months of red flags that I ignored. Even before marriage, her behavior felt distant and inconsistent, but I trusted the process. Within a month of marriage, things sta…

what should i do? — i found out some things last night about my ex i wish i didn’t. i have made a few posts on this subreddit in regards to the breakup but i wont go into much detail. before we broke up, my ex planned a…

Thinking about my ex constantly — ​ I haven't stopped thinking about my ex since we've broken up. I've been with my ex from the end of February to half of August last year. Since then, she's been on my mind almost non-stop. I …

34 M, marriage collapse, career collapse, false cases, ongoing divorce. Will I ever get relief? — I got married in Dec 2024 after months of red flags that I ignored. Even before marriage, her behavior felt distant and inconsistent, but I trusted the process. Within a month of marriage, things sta…

I wish I hadn’t looked on his phone — I 30F have been with my 31M husband for 14 years, married 8yrs and have children. I want to preface I never go through his phone, or his socials/texts until today. My phone had died and because he was…

Predator or Stupidity? — \* trigger warning \* \*for adults \* sensitive topic I feel conflicted about something...and I wonder what others think... I went on a date with someone. it was pre-disclosed we were looking for…

Should I just leave my father and move back to my home country with my mom? — Tl.dr Should I(17f) just leave my dad(40sM) and and move back to my home country with my mom(40sF) (who isn’t in this country btw) bcz things are really messed up. My mom is thinking of getting a divo…

I think my girlfriend of almost three years is cheating or has cheated on me. — Hi im anonymous(30m), so i have been dating my girlfriend(31F) from november 2024. We met on Tinder. On our first meet up i took her for an ice cream date to one the fast food restaurant near where sh…

Update: Be Blunt: Am I (29F) a bad partner to my wife (32F)? — Original post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/s/gYsr3GR6N2](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/gYsr3GR6N2) Thank you all for you support last week! Many of you have commen…

Abuser of mine pretended to have gone through the same trauma I did to manipulate me. — I'll keep this brief. Right when I first started remembering things I reached out to my only "friend" at the time. (There were a thousand red flags I won't get into that I should've seen much earlier)…

My Cousin (37F) believes her unborn baby is the reincarnation of MY (26f) father — I (26F) lost my dad (58M) a few months back. It has been hard. My dad and I had a rocky relationship. He was never appreciative of us, always complaining and comparing us with others. Always angry and…

parents always making you feel dumb about your interests — i remember being as young as 7-8 years old and feeling awkward about shows i was watching on tv. always playing in secret. or hiding and muting whatever i was watching on a tablet just as my mom would…

Anxiety about starting therapy — I have been considering finding a therpist for a really long time now (mostly for my anxiety, amongst other things), but I am very anxious about opening up. I have been an intensely secretive person m…

I actually need physical proof or an admittance of guilt? — Pretty sure I already know. My profession involves data analysis and pattern recognition. Unfortunately, I also have residual trauma that provides a substantial foundation for self doubt, projection,…

My parents want me to be more open with them — I am 32F and this has been a topic of discussion since my teens. They think I don’t share enough and don’t tell them what’s going on in my life. I ask them what they want to know and they say anything…

Grieving — TW: Depression, emotional abuse, pet loss, and grief mentioned. \*Edited for clarification and to add paragraphs, because major wall of text. I have been completely no contact with my mother since M…

Went to a comic book store today and... I'm seeing a stark contrast between my family and strangers I happen to share something with — I (23M) went to a comic book store earlier today and actually had a great time. Even though I got there over 3 hours before it opened because I thought the bus ride was going to take longer than it di…

Girlfriend already dating only 4-6 weeks after we broke up. — My girlfriend of 18 months and I broke up mutually 6 weeks ago. It was logistical and because it wasn't working practically rather than emotionally and it was, and is, incredibly difficult. We both im…

I (35M) feel like I’m only getting half of my wife (34F) lately and I can’t tell if I’m overthinking it? — I don’t think my wife is cheating, but I also don’t feel crazy for thinking something is off. For context, I’m Jake, my wife is Aline, and the coworker I’ll mention is John. Not their real names obvio…

Going through divorce and prepping for a breast reduction surgery, feeling frustrated. — My husband and I filed for divorce this week. It started out with him being very unsupportive of my reduction surgery that was deemed medically necessary. I am a size G almost H and have back, neck, s…

Seeking a reality check and validation on a “Trauma bond” and how I was treated — This is my first Reddit post so bare with me. Also pre-warning, some notes of DV And Emotional Abuse. I’m posting this because I need an unbiased reality check. I asked an AI to help me organize myse…

My wife has had a couple of group chat invites spread out over a few months — The person sending the invite is using a name like c3vbb4 or something. The other numbers in the group are mostly of the same area code. Neither time has anyone said anything. is this something to be …

Should I get a divorce ? — Should I get a divorce? Need honest advice I’m trying to figure out if I’m overthinking or if these are real red flags. I’ve wanted to join the Air Force as an officer for a long time. I already hav…

Marriage decision - spouse maybe cheating — 29M, 27F Arranged marriage - we didn’t know each other much before wedding. We chatted few months before wedding. Before engagement (earliest events): She met her ex 10 days before engagement. I k…

i (21f) kept self harm from my partner (19f) and now she doesn't trust me, how can i make things okay? — trigger warning for self harm. about a week ago (or longer, i don't remember) i relapsed with self harm (something both my partner and i have struggled with) and told her about it right after it happ…

Reading this now and all I can say is same, and you’re not alone. All I’ve ever wanted is for my parents to show some level of engagement and curiosity in my life. How am I doing? What interests me ri…

Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…

These are my personal experiences from FAs: bad texter, late replies, hard time describing themselves and their emotions, past history of relationships (or none), problems with parents, retreat in soc…

My boyfriend and I had a pause moment last night on the phone because we have a difference in worldviews - now that's a legitimate concern, and in response I made sure we just got off the phone. But o…

I think if the moon is debilitated, and opposite or square to a stronger planet, it could be overpowered by that planet. For example, mars in Aries square moon in Capricorn could mean your actions ove…

i am turning 30 this year, i’m a taurus sun and a scorpio rising. i’ve always felt deeply connected to my ascendant sign and i think it has a lot to with being raised by a single mother who is a scorp…

definitely your scorpio placements, scorpios have that very polarizing effect on people. with them being in the 12th house I could see people thinking you are secretive or hiding something. People hav…

When a man is not being transparent, when he’s being secretive, that’s not a “personality”, he’s specifically hiding things from you.

If you ask me how I'm feeling and I say I don't know, I'm not trying to be secretive or manipulative. I GENUINELY DO NOT KNOW.

And months or years later, you find out they think you're closed off, even secretive. Like parents to whom we couldn't disclose *anything* (because no matter what we said it was received poorly) the…

I love the message but you do realize that's a fairytale right? I mean what young couple (or any couple for that matter) hasn't said to their partner, "if you're going to cheat please tell me so we ca…

I do have kids. It's the secretive nature of it all that was the worst. If I had know.... Well I would have speed the process up a lot and since she was unemployed at the time, I think she feared th…

Saturn in any house isn’t inherently ‘bad’ or ‘unlucky’. People have been taught (likely due to how things were phrased in the past) that Saturn is a horrible, negative planet and it only brings terri…

I’d just talk to her if you want to try to work on things. But for future reference- taking your phone to the bathroom is never a good look for anyone- it makes it seem like you’re being secretive o…

Other people are saying cheating. I don't know, but that sounds like a LOT of potential other options. If there's cheating it's a symptom not a cause. Mental health is the big one on my mind. So thi…

So true. I remember one time trying to talk to my mom about why I was feeling depressed and she said “is this something you could talk to (my best friend) about instead”? And sure, and I had, but like…

(Disclaimer - I am not a professional astrologer by any means) I do notice your 11th house (which deals with friendship and community) is ruled by Sagittarius. Sagittarius is expansive, freedom-lovin…

Wow these commentors are absolutely insane. So, you invested 4 years. Bought a house together, planned a life together, and still managed to have your own lives as well (her being able to travel). …

I think your Saturn in Leo in the 1st house (I always use whole sign system) may counteract your 5th house placements. Yes, Sagittarius is expansive and it's connected to optimism, but Saturn in the 1…

If they were ever physically together and alone, feeling as they do for one another, it was a physical affair. She’s clearly trickle truthing and only recanted when she realized her paramour wouldn’t …

For that full chart needs to be seen... single combination alone doesn't helps...but yeah overall it's a sign where u gain interest in astrology occult and secretive things

Wow. The “[secrets] that don’t need to be secrets” resonated so deeply. My therapists have all at some point commented on how weirdly secretive everyone was in my family.

“Just get over it” - my dad, about anything I struggle with. And he wonders why I’m “so secretive” and don’t share any details about my life. Hmmm, it’s a mystery 🤷‍♀️

Man, I’m so glad to know it isn’t just my family that is weirdly secretive. Like, I would always go back and forth a bit on if all families are this secretive or if there was something wrong… when I …

Yes there's promise of marriage indeed without a doubt Such a woman has a very intense, mysterious and secretive personality..an air of mystery surrounds such a person which people find intriguing a…

I never really dated... it's always been all or nothing lol so I tended to always know a partner's history. If they were secretive about it I felt like that was a red flag. Like, what are you hiding? …

The first one I witnessed from her was when she found out I had a twitter account she wasn't aware of. She was fuming about it and kept ranting. She also didn't like that I was laughing. She accused m…

I mainly know folks in the bubble of tech indians whose parents immigrated in the 80s and 90s and so its very biased by that perspective, and obviously it's hard to make too broad generalizations, so …

1. Underlying feeling of inadequacy and stress which he couldn’t open up about (communication issue) 2. Opportunity came along, someone willing and who flattered him (attractive enough to produce a st…

Gosh I thought this was just me. Any time I'd tell my friends or family about my dates, they would crash and burn. But for me, I personally found it unhealthy to think I was cursed and to be so secr…

Yes This woman is someone’s daughter and as a dad I would love for you to tell her. I wouldn’t even be anonymous or secretive about it, id message her or walk right up to her door when he’s gone. He…

Yooo I just got the email and I was reading on my break at work and I'm sitting there thinking that this is just a more secretive way for RFK to get his stupid 'autistic tracking system' that he wants…

Trying to come to terms with the fact that I spent so long dating someone who didn’t really respect or care about me, and who I didn’t trust (and who was pretty secretive with his phone, not upfront a…

The thing about hobbies, yes omg I get you. I'm very secretive and protective of the things I like regarding music, movies, series, books, and arts. Because 1. My Nfamily are jealous assholes who woul…

They worked in marketing. She was little secretive and not very transparent and open in communication. Yes it felt the separation happened without any big enough reason

It was very traumatic. I'm old now but I'll never be over it. It's also sad how children don't tell. My parents were divorced so maybe that's where we got the inclination to be so secretive when it co…

My dad was this way. Chased me with a kitchen knife begging me to kill him but really he wanted to report anything I did to my mother and the police to the police. I was in the 7th grade. This is af…

I don't mind at all. Here are some examples: She promised to cut contact with the ap on two different occasions. We agreed that she is not having drunk night outs with colleagues (The ap did work at t…

Not me but my sibling (and later dropped the charges so to speak, to this day I’m not actually sure how it all went down) but I had that grossed out “ick” from them from a very young age, like 3-4. I …

All the time… they give me passive aggressive and invalidating remarks when I’m already in the worst of my life and I’m so used to it by now that as part of the survival mode I’m always running on, th…

That Gemini stellium on the Ascendant def points to your issues with anxiety, especially with Mercury in domicile conjunct the Sun and Mars. We normally think of Gemini as a very socially adept, easy …

I also have sleepovers with male friends sometimes (I'm a woman), because they live relatively far away, but also I just think it's fun and don't like to travel back late. But unless they don't have t…

Wait. So you installed a second camera, but told her about it? And she is still presumably deleting footage, but now from both cameras? What did that accomplish? She is obviously into something secr…

Meaning of elopement is secretive. Replan this event.

I always tried to communicate how I felt, and yeah was always met with "you're attacking me" "feelings don't matter" and just dismissive of the impact it had on me. Mine deleted me off facebook, alway…

It does'nt add up the way he treats you . The first chart shows how a father might be to them and how their personality is based on 4th house placement. And 2nd pic shows how a person might be harsh t…

My mom was similar, except anything SHE liked, she supported my interest in. Luckily for me, we had a lot of overlapping interests. But as I grew into an adult, it became an issue where if I had inter…

Yep. Among other things, in junior high I had a favorite show that I loved and deeply related to. I hid it from my parents because I was afraid that if they saw how much I loved it, they would see it …

Yes, you have a high chance of securing a position in the banking sector. If you are currently preparing for your exams and maintaining a disciplined, hardworking approach, you are very likely to land…