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It is certainly a phenomenon out there were "conservative" guys lie and say they're moderate because of all the "I don't fuck fascists" statements on women's profiles (which I love, btw -- send a stro…
Seeking a low-maintenance frontend/CMS stack for modernizing 10+ year old sites — Hi all, I’m looking for advice on a conservative, low-maintenance frontend and CMS stack for modernizing a couple of old but still functional client sites. **Background:** I’ve got two long-lived s…
I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…
Tips for attracting left-leaning men? — The men who engage with me online the most and who don’t ghost and aren’t flaky end up revealing themselves as conservative eventually. I am ok with someone who’s middle of the road maybe but I’ve com…
I (29F) have cancer and my estranged father (60M) is funding my treatment but forcing me to leave my boyfriend (24M) or marry him immediately. Do I have any way out? — Please be kind. I was unable to type so used audio to text converter and ai to fix the spelling mistakes. I m already in a terrible mental state so hope this sub can be a little gentle on me. Haven't …
Feeling genuine disgust when my parents seem proud of me/brag about my accomplishments — Is it just me that experiences this weird psychological twist of sorts? My parents only seem proud of me when I conform to their “ideal” image of me. Mind you, when that was the case my depression wa…
Trans in a religious and conservative Viet household — Truthfully, it’s just awful. I (23FtM, pre-everything) am bisexual and trans. And I just happen to unfortunately be born in a Vietnamese Catholic household that loves our good ol’ president. Not to me…
My Boyfriend (28M) thinks the reason why he can't finish is because I'm (20F) too big from the inside. — (English isn't my first language) This is a bit personal, but I'm from a very conservative locality so I have no one to talk to. My boyfriend of 2 years has been great in the bed during the early sta…
Stop Asian Hate's iconic victim Grandpa Vicha's murderer Antoine Watson is going to walk free now without punishment — [article 1](https://www.nbcbayarea.com/news/local/grandpa-vicha-sentencing-murder-case/4058429/) [article 2](https://www.cbsnews.com/sanfrancisco/news/granpa-vicha-killing-san-francisco-suspect-relea…
The western treatment of Korea's feminism in hindsight. — A Korean feminist's post that I encountered on twitter made a good analogy. If a group labels itself a disability rights or working class organization, it doesn't tell you about their full political l…
where do i go from here? — hi friends, i’m not sure where to go to heal. i posted in a different thread about the situation leading up to my breakup with my now ex: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/s/UQCEcqeyRU today is the…
Anxious (me) + Avoidant (her) breakup — still stuck after 1 year, need honest perspectives — Hey everyone, I really need some honest advice. I’ll try to explain this clearly. I was in a 2-year relationship where I now see a strong anxious (me) + avoidant (her) dynamic. Looking back, I also …
Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing — I posted a little while ago about this dilemma. My husband wants me to start showing cleavage and leg while we're around the house. I have always dressed conservative and now that I have a toddler, th…
I (18M) caught my Mom (44F) Cheating on my Dad (46M) and I don't know what to do — General Idea of our Family - My dad goes to work 5 days a week and comes back to visit us on wednesday evening and weekends. My mom is a teacher and goes to school in evening shift from 1 to 6 pm ever…
The Tragedy of the Chinese Music Industry (and Society) — If anyone's been following the recent controversy in China concerning singers Li Ronghao and Shan Yichun, you've probably seen the actually vile environment that is the Chinese internet (and Chinese s…
Can I get a profile review please. It’s just the text I need feedback on - see link. — So I’m struggling a bit with my profile. I haven’t done much in the way of online dating so haven’t verified my account yet. I feel a bit uncertain about my responses to the prompts. I’m also a bit in…
What do you think about ethnic churches and temples of Asian Americans? — I think there are great places to gather with people with the same ethnic background and to practice your native language. However, the gossip, the conservative values, the hierarchy and the proselyti…
It hurts thinking that my own parent chooses the US president over her own children — It hurts its just another reminder that she will listen to everyone but me and that includes the devil himself and all his evil followers. Im not even asking for much, maybe to not be told im wrong an…
How to call out white liberal racism — I had a racist encounter with a white liberal yesterday (hooray for living in Boston), and I’m hoping this will help some here in dealing with them. While conservative whites are much more direct wit…
Am I deactivating? — I'm still new to attachment theory and romantic relationships in general, so I'd like to hear other people's thoughts. I (20F) was dating one of my college friends (22F) "Clara" up until last month, …
Does anyone else's nmom lack physical boundaries as well? (TW) — TW- molestation My nmom has no boundaries and is very enmeshed with me, she thankfully isn't very touchy-feely but has had some moments and tendencies which make me feel (kind of) afraid of her in a …
Do you think this is a valid reason for AFs to avoid dating AMs? — As an AM who mainly dates WFs, I have to admit that one of the reasons I go for non-Asian women besides physical attraction is that I don't want to have another set of Asian parents to deal with. I do…
My girl 26F gives multiple answers in almost all of the arguments we have. I am 26M — Each argument we have and i ask her what she thinks about something, she very usually gives two or more answers. Sometimes she says or does things that are very confusing for me and i don't quite unde…
Me (F21) and my friend (F21) spent nine hours together, cuddled, and held hands, and I don't know if it's a date or not. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend (F21) a few weeks ago and we're staying friends. Can I talk to her about it? — **TLDR:** *My ex told me to date around when we broke up, but has been really clingy and possessive since then, and one of my friends want me to go no contact. But she's the person I want advice from …
How do I feel less guilty after hurting a kind person in a relationship — Hi, I, 22F, met a guy 32M last year May and we started talking. I never had relationships before and I usually don’t talk to men so it was new. He made it very clear from the beginning that he’s in l…
Rebelling — As a child/teen, has anyone "rebelled" against the structure that was laid out for you? Like you did things you know your parents wouldn't have approved of, as a way of saying that you were your own p…
I Finally Did It. — I think now I can finally say that I am proud of who I am. Just a few years ago I was pretty racist, homophobic, and VERY Narcissistic. My family was always very conservative and passed that right …
40, single, and have never been married. I feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me? — I’m 40, female, live in San Jose, CA. Never been married, no kids. Net worth around $5M. I own my own business, have a house I live in, a couple rental properties, and drive a Mercedes E300 nothing to…
How to move forward after a traumatic relationship? — TW: SA, emotional abuse I know this might be a long post, but this has been weighing on my mind for the past year and a half and I just found this community and thought someone may have some advice. …
my parents hate me for having sex — I want to preface this by saying two things. 1. I’ve never posted on Reddit before, so sorry if I use it wrong or get confused with the layout or replying. 2. This is just one story about my parents.…
I think my mum is a narcissist? — I was fostered by my foster mum at age of 9. She was incredibly controlling and strict all my life and I always accepted it as she's trying to protect/look after me. Now at 24 I've come to realise th…
This girl is ruining my self appreciation — I've known this girl for almost 3 years now, I'm 19, I was 16 when I first knew her, I got attached very fast to her, and she too did, we believed we were soulmates, we talked for a while before she s…
How do I separate myself from an ex who is super entangled with my life? — Sorry this is so long, I just genuinely don’t know who to talk to about this. My ex (21M) and I (23F) dated for about 3 months after becoming really close friends through work, and things moved way to…
I (25M) broke my girlfriend’s (26F) trust in multiple ways is leaving more responsible than staying? — I’m a 25M and my girlfriend is 26F. We’ve been together for about 7 months, and I’ve basically destroyed the trust in our relationship. A couple of nights ago, we were together and she went through m…
I (25M) broke my girlfriend’s (26F) trust in multiple ways is leaving more responsible than staying? — I’m a 25M and my girlfriend is 26F. We’ve been together for about 7 months, and I’ve basically destroyed the trust in our relationship. A couple of nights ago, we were together and she went through m…
Minor rant: has anyone noticed hypocrisy in their parents' words, actions, and behaviors? — As I keep dwelling more on my crazy past, more and more dramatic events keep resurfacing. I notice that my parents are not consistent with their dramatic statements and actions. For instance, I have m…
Self image ,conservative family ,what people think about me matters most — hey everyone I am 23F I was raised in almost like a box never allowed to make friends, even female,, school trips were far then my imagination, I wasn't allowed to even talk like normally like human,a…
I (25F) lost my girlfriend (23F) because of her religous family and now feel lost about my future — I’ve known I wasn’t straight since I was about 6 years old. I grew up in a very conservative, religious small town in Canada. While I don’t remember being directly preached to about same-sex relations…
Confused about divorce timeline + mixed signals after traumatic relationship — I’ll try to keep this as concise as possible. • Married Oct 2023 after a ~3 years of dating (both from conservative families who weren’t privy to the history) • Lived together ~2.5 months after m…
parents forcing me to break up with bf — i’m 21 (f) and my boyfriend is 20 (m). we have been dating for 3 years. he is a white man and i’m indian. i come from a strict conservative family. when i moved abroad 4 years ago my parents made me p…
First Gen Asian-Americans that moved back in with your parents— how did you make sure it wasn’t forever? — Title. I’m a 23 year old Filipino American woman, soon to graduate college. Job market/grad apps kicked my ass and I can’t afford to be unemployed and living in a high COL area, so I’m moving back hom…
No contact is the only way to heal — Hi everyone, I hope you are doing well. I've posted a couple of times on this subreddit about my break up (worst break up ever). To cut a long story short: Two best friends (both females) unexpected…
How to save my(21M) relationship with my mom(56F)? — TL;DR : My emotionally unsupportive mom makes excuse to spend time with me and giving me silent treatment for 3+ weeks. I think this fight has potential to end our relationship. So, me and my mom ar…
Having Far-Right neglect trauma as genz sucks ass. People acknowledge the problems and others bad behavior, but dismiss your experience and symptoms. They can acknowledge online spaces are toxic, but it's your fault that online spaces were the only spaces you had. "Just stop caring and go outside." — Walking to the park, watching the ducks, listening to music only gets you so far. No one in my real life can understand me. Even my therapists have struggled. I’ve lived such a fucky niche life in the…
Two year split. — Two years ago, I was in a relationship with a woman for about three months, prior we would speak to each other frequently whether it would be through banter or true conversations. Once we became offic…
I had zero privacy or control of my bedroom growing up and that has left me with deep fear of my pirvacy being invaded — My parents are very old school, conservative Christians. Growing up, I wasn’t allowed to have social media accounts like MySpace or Facebook unless they had full access to them, including my passwords…
26M 25F - In a healthy relation 4yrs, but then came back to back incidents which haven't kept me in peace — **My fiancée (25F) had a boundary crossing/coercion incident with a coworker.** **The Background:** My fiancée and I have a long-distance relationship and are set to marry in July. We’ve fought incre…
2 Months after I broke up with my abusive Ex. — I'll give a bit of context before I get into how my recovery has gone so far. I (19M) met my now ex (21F) at university through a club that I am an exec in and that she was at the time a member of. w…
Date night clothes in your 40’s — For the past 10 years I haven’t really been dressing especially sexy for anything - I was wearing a lot of business casual (Ann Taylor) and had a couple of casual dresses that were comfortable and ok …
19 years. 11 years no contact. 1 year of healing — f (42) & f(39) TL;DR: 19 years ago I met a girl (Cassandra) in a chatroom. We had an intense on-and-off situationship for \~7 years — romantic and flirty when it was on, sweetly charged even when pl…
(M30) Fell hard for someone (F31) in a month — deep connection but worried I’m getting pulled in too fast — TL;DR: Met a woman and developed a very intense connection quickly. We’ve been seeing each other often and talking daily. It feels real to me, but my parents are strongly against it due to cultural/re…
So $800 is ten days of revenue. I don't know your financial situation, but I'd go for that as long as it wasn't my last $800. I'm not a gamer but my son is and it seems like (to my uneducated self) th…
she probably liked me cuz I wasn't only her partner at that time. I was her emotional support as well. someone she confided in, fully trusted, and used to share everything with me, and I was also her …
I know my relationship of 15 years is over. She's mentally unwell and has very drastic mood swings, but she refuses to actually get help or to work on herself at all. When she's in a good mood, she …
One tip: apolitical, moderate, or no politics section filled out = conservative and hoping you don’t care
I think it might be helpful because sometimes it weeds out people that don't have certain info filled out on their profile? But I never liked that because then you waste time asking them about their m…
10 years in a relationship, 4 years back in the game. Now 32, I’m navigating the dating scene ( currently in India and moving to Europe soon) as a Pansexual, Heteroromantic, and Childfree (CF) guy. Wh…
need a sanity check here. I've largely sworn off apps but I jumped back on one because its below freezing where I'm at and the thought of being cooped up in the house for the next 3 months a l o n e …
thanks, I guess I mean it more specifically in a political context - over the years I've connected with people who are like "yeah! fuck these fascists!" and that's great, I agree, but they're not much…
Haha. I posted about this recently. I'm a childfree, agnostic, and liberal woman. My most compatible guy was Christian, Conservative, and wanted kids. 😑
Leftist women claim it is for men who are conservative. In practice, it’s a mix of anarchists, libertarians, people who don’t like politics, and a few others.
I guess it’s probably true it’ll be harder to find a woman like that as you get older. For myself, I’ve been supporting myself and independent for a long time now. I have a nice house, and a nice life…
Interesting. What do you think they mean by "people like you"? Like people in general or is it some characteristic about you? I have no idea why people match just to argue. For me I just skip over t…
These days, a lot of people assume moderate = closet conservative and apolitical = apathetic to the problems of the world. So I think many de facto moderates have started labeling themselves as liber…
I personally don't want to have kids. He's unsure but fine not having kids if "\[his\] partner doesn't want that". I actually mentioned marriage recently and he said he'll have to "research the timeli…
Should have left when you found out he leans right. Leans right on apps and at the beginning of a relationship = fully conservative but doesn't want it to limit his matches.
I don’t think they’re seeking out liberal women - this is basically a statistics question. I only date conservative leaning men and they’ve generally preferred to date conservative women (especially t…
Why not ask before the first date and save yourself some time if he ends up being conservative?
How do you split expenses when dating and in a relationship? When I was dating, I was so turned off by a guy asking to split or accepting me paying that I would end things. I'm now in a relationship a…
I guess it's just a cultural thing, in my country this kind of dynamic is expected but I don't like it, because the expectations that come with that, the men that adhere to those dynamics tend to lean…
>Are my expectations unrealistic - Especially when considering that I do not want a man who leans conservatively or even moderately? I mean the folks who would do that are gonna have their own other …
> Are my expectations unrealistic - Especially when considering that I do not want a man who leans conservatively or even moderately? For me as a left leaning man with a good job, they are unrealisti…
A woman preferring that the guy pays to the point of complaining that he pays for everything but not extra things or nice enough things is a bit of an outlier for those that aren't conservative
We split paying for things. I make more than my bf so I'll often cover the slightly more expensive meals, or cover them more often, as an example. We tend to split expenses pretty evenly but we like t…
My latest ex is fearlessly independent, so we used to fight over "who pays the bill" and eventually settled down on a simple logic whoever invites, covers all the expenses excluding the international …
I think being politically moderate is going to make things tough for you. I’m not saying you should change it if that’s where you sit, but temper your expectations. Your profile seems pretty hippie/…
Definitely agree on the “moderate”, I often assume they’re conservative but don’t want to put it that bluntly
This seems to come up every time. Maybe I should just put down liberal than to open up my horizons more. I am more of a hippie or "eclectic" really for better words as you can tell correctly lol. Main…
Dang, I had no idea! The description I read seemed right in the middle, and really far off from conservative.
No, not at all I really dont care. I know I would align better with a liberal or moderate than a conservative, but it really does not matter to me. I was told last time when I had nothing up that I w…
Looks are subjective. Don’t worry about whether or not you’re “hot”. Focus instead on being well groomed, clean, and wearing clothes you feel confident in. I know this has been said a million times, b…
I think a big part is just living in texas where while yes cities are blue, theres still a majority of conservative Christian women who i wouldnt be compatible with and slogging through 40 of them to …
Beauty being objective or subjective is an awesome debate. I personally believe it is more objective, but I also agree with you that anyone can like ANYTHING. I have actually found women's understandi…
If I recall on the dealbreakers, you're allowed to choose more than one option if you click into the menu. Edit: Actually I just checked the Politics screen on Hinge which only allows you Liberal, Mo…
They are conservative, liberal, moderate, apolitical on all dating apps sadly as a fellow leftist And its a deal breaker for them not to be the left most option for me I only want to date folks who a…
i’m in a really deep and dark hole right now. i am a gay man (26) and grew up in one of the most conservative cities (statistically) in the entire USA. that being said, it’s rough out here in the dati…
Thanks! Something of note though, that might be getting you pinged as conservative but not wanting to say it out loud from what ive seen women say friends or otherwise
Self proclaimed progressive women aren’t actually necessarily progressive women, fwiw. They tend to be Taylor Swift-esque women who try to virtue signal and get “points” for being feminist but not *to…
Uranus entering Gemini will eventually trine Pluto and sextile Neptune and maybe widely Saturn. That's a lot of dynamic outer planet energy in the early degrees of Aries, Gemini and Aquarius. Uranus i…
Omg you're an art teacher?! I'm sorry but unless he was home-schooled his entire fucking life and has never seen or read a single piece of media involving schools and had not paid attention to **an…
Idk if this counts but it seems conservatives/maga really want to latch onto her and claim her. I saw posts about how she took her pronouns out of her ig bio and that was to show she was one of them …
Thanks for the kind words. I don’t understand it either, but it didn’t help that his family was a lot more conservative than I initially realized and I think some of his views were pretty ableist as w…
I love that we both like to write text walls! I find that's a very common thing among us autistic-kind :D It really sucks to find out that he's conservative 3 years in.... I can't stand the "pull…
As a 42M also having trouble dealing with aging, a liberal/progressive/social dem, living in a very small, conservative, evangelical town, in a conservative state, who would gladly date 30’s, 40’s, po…
It sounds like your husband is asexual. It sounds like you are not. You enjoy sex. Your husband does not appear to understand his own sexuality (that he has no libido or sex drive, that most couple…
I can relate to this. I live in a more rural conservative area, and I’m definitely left leaning. I do enjoy the things like shooting and hunting and the outdoors, which is why I moved up here. Most of…
I’m 20 years past D-Day, 35 years of marriage. My WW was and is my first and only partner I’ve been with. The same was for her before the affair. So this was absolutely devastating to find out that sh…
My parents are both very childlike, as if their emotional development was arrested sometime in middle school. I do not believe that they met the benchmarks in development that provide the foundation a…
The NY Jewish community has a history of behaving like conservative US white folks. *They will not share something they believe they are entitled to* with any other ethnic or outside group (ie goyim…
Original copy of post by u/Frequently_Abroad_00: The men who engage with me online the most and who don’t ghost and aren’t flaky end up revealing themselves as conservative eventually. I am ok with s…
The other part is (just from my personal statistics as I’ve counted) in my area there are only about 3 men that will select Liberal for their profile for every 100 that select Conservative, Moderate, …