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So you "did psychedelics right" and he's "doing psychedelics wrong"? And you are certain enough of this to write an entire essay about it because you deem yourself more "enlightened" than he is? Isn't…

Detailed Car Crash Simulation as a Service - I will not promote — Hello everyone! I am a mechanical engineer specializing in simulation (with a PhD in biomechanics) and I'm currently working on software that simulates car accidents in detail, also taking biomechanic…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

You’re thinking “if only they would do/say X” — Year 1 / wife / 20 years / 2 teens / coworker / 4 months Thus far, I’ve encountered so many people in various support groups who really wish their betraying partner would say/do X… show empathy, own…

THE OYSTER IS NOT YOUR WORLD! (IT'S THIS SIMPLE) — LONGGG POST! DISCLAIMER: for any of ya'll havin a problem with "long posts" , "english", "structure", "accent" etc etc. i got 2 tips for ya 1. chat gpt (or any other ai platform) - command c+v (summ…

WHAT DO YOU WANT?! — OK IMMA ASK A QUESTION - **QUES-** how many of ya'll had worse "3D" after learning about manifestation? reading neville? reading secret? law of attraction? law of assumption? anything at all youtube?…

25F, Is this a very challenging Mahadasha — 25F, I am going through a difficult time since 2021. I used to genuinely be academically brilliant, always scoring the top rank no matter the competition but things deteriorated back in 2021 and it se…

\> "anxious individuals have a lack of self control, don't respect boundaries, and and don't realize how much damage they do because they just don't care" That would be basically correct, that's why …

You're on the right path, now you just have to select for the social activities which have the people you're looking for. Try latin social dancing, language exchanges, run groups, yoga classes, volun…

yes thats very true. he deep down hates himself and that’s the problem. he superficially cared, because when a person is abusive, such as gaslighting, manipulating, blame shifting and making you hate …

>*you* are the one deciding you are not "good" and *you* are the one deciding that your partner doesn't deserve what you are offering. I did not decide this. After 5 years of saying "I love you" to e…

After an unexpected break-up, regardless of how long it lasted, how do you combat the feeling that you'll not find anyone at that level ever again? The woman that broke up with me a few days ago was …

As superficially funny as this is, Phuc Dat Bich is completely nonsensical as a functioning name. Phuc is a male given name. Dat is a male given name. Bich is a female given name. It's like if so…

So invalidating my god. He took up the space in the conversation but refused to give you the space to hear you out. Sounds alot like my partner too. Like a toddler throwing tantrums, and I have to reg…

I spent years trying to figure out my narcissistic ex wife and putting myself in her shoes and I, at one point, became so obsessed with figuring out her, quite frankly, incomprehensible, often insane,…

The point is to invite stillness. Many of us live only in our thoughts, superficially, as the character our ego created to live here. Your brain must learn to be still. It can take a long time for som…

As much as they want to think that they're "special" while the rest of the world is wrong, they seem to create a common reality for their victims. I lived in what might be considered the "perfekt fa…

My elder sister has a beautiful house. She had a career at a Director level. She appears ro have friends since childhood. They have some kind of a bond Indeed some peoole often those who are assig…

oof, i meant to say isochronic tones, either way, isochronic tones and monaural beats, and binaural beats are kind of the same thing, & mostly sound the same superficially; just a hz switching on and …

Friends for a reason then I suppose. You may be the problem, but if they were decent people maybe they would've told you? It's not always as cut and dry as I'd like. But yea, there is a general se…

You’re absolutely right, and honestly, I will probably have to rely on help sooner or later. But here’s the struggle: Two years ago, I lost my mother to cancer. During that time, I was incredibly vuln…

I found it after 2 divorces. The first marriage was one that my parents made me do when I was a pregnant teenager. The second marriage was because I had 3 kids by that point (2 with him), was pregna…

He is also aware that you're 2 hours away. This guy is being rude and not wanting or offering to meet halfway. Lots of people do this. Just unmatch and move on. Conservative does not equal gentlemanl…

I just want to share that if you feel any off vibes when you first meet, don't continue: that includes if you feel judged in any way or uncomfortable about anything they say during your first meeting.…

There's a term for this. [Social Assymmetry](https://nautil.us/the-costs-of-feeling-lonely-in-a-crowd-1279612). It's when your subjective feeling of loneliness doesn't match the objective reality of …

I'm posting the meme again: you're the meme: https://preview.redd.it/zoiyh2yecuug1.png?width=1200&format=png&auto=webp&s=5541e4b430e5c01fee99b697d44f0af90520f214 >And you’ve agreed with me tha…

Damn this is really insightful. Thank you for sharing about this. I agree there’s some internalised white guilt there and might spawn such reactions. IMO it may superficially help, but also harms Bl…