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>And yet I've been thinking about following up on what I said to him on Sunday, "I'm not looking for a phone friend". What is the outcome you're expecting if you have that follow up? ETA: I'm read…
I built a lightweight tool to automate Google review requests for small businesses – looking for feedback — Hey folks, I recently launched a micro-SaaS called **ReviewReminder**, designed to help small businesses (dentists, salons, auto shops, etc.) get more Google reviews *without manually following up wi…
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What habit hacks have been most successful for you? — I set up an AI that calls me on the phone to keep me accountable for my habits, and it’s been working weirdly well lol. Something about having to actually pick up the phone and talk to it makes me fe…
broke no contact — dumpee here whose ex broke up with him in october (started nc in november) after a rough first 6 weeks of nc i’ve been able to really build myself back up. feels like things are just as good, if not …
(25M) I feel extremely anxious about taking newly prescribed medication (ESCITALOPRAM OXALATE10MG) — Please don’t mind my grammar. I have never taken medication like this before and i feel really anxious about what will happen next. I’m worried it will negatively affect me. I have been experiencing …
I’ve put down my thoughts as to the reasons why I (m53) want to ask my wife (f52) for a divorce. — We’ve been married for 23 years. We’ve got 3 kids: 22, 19 and 12. We own our home, halfway through a 30 yr mortgage, with a low apr. Wife was majority earner, but recently lost her job. I’m inte…
I AP for the past 4 nights unintentionally… — Hello everybody, I’m new to this subreddit however I’ve been aware about AP for the past 7 years. Recently (at the time of this post) I’ve projected the past 4 nights unintentionally and I have some…
I AP for the past 4 nights unintentionally… — Hello everybody, I’m new to this subreddit however I’ve been aware about AP for the past 7 years. Recently (at the time of this post) I’ve projected the past 4 nights unintentionally and I have some…
29F Need guidance on getting over someone 28M or if I mishandled things here. — 29F here. Met a guy (29M) on hinge and we went on 5 dates - we haven’t had sex / slept together yet - but we’ve gone as far as oral. During the 1st two dates, he was ready being extremely physical (to…
the way "trusted adults" just brush off anything traumatic youve experienced — "And for some things you say, don't even sound believable to me. I will assume exuses is what you make up." My teacher told me out loud infront of the whole class, pure silence, everyone listening, I …
She needs space... — Dear Reddit, i need your honest advice. At the end of January 2026 i (M, 31) have met up with a very lovely person (F, 27). I have known her sister and she connected us with eachother. And i can say…
You can only control your own behaviour, you cannot control the outcome of a situation where another person has free will. It's a hard pill to swallow because anxious attachers feel uncomfortable with…
Damn. I would date the living shit out of you just because of this post alone. Self-awareness and holding your boundaries this firmly is beyond attractive. Good for you. I have the utmost confidence t…
Edit: I accidentally posted before I was done 😂 First, congratulations on even getting this far! That's something to celebrate in itself. >* How would I start? I started with a lot of introspectiv…
Over time, it does seem that the guy I am seeing is operating very differently from how I am used to. He is not really talkative but seems more to be about solution orientation. If there is something …
Just following up here. I nuked the situationship I felt like we were in. I hope he can grow but I’m not going to put a lot of stock in it or put my own life on hold for him. I think it’s the healthie…
I deleted bc I didn’t think my comment was helpful, all your points stand regardless haha—thank you for following up still
I just saw a tweet about someone getting stood up on a date but they’re pretending they never left the place the date was supposed to happen. It’s a screenshot of texts, showing the date confirm pla…
I haven't had anyone actually unmatch but so many people ask me out, start planning a date, and then just disappear before we finalize anything. It feels like it's so much more common lately and it's…
(34F) met this guy (37M) at the end of December when I was out to dinner with a close friend (who’s gay). As we were being seated, someone called out my friend’s name—it turned out to be a longtime fa…
> I just wish it wasn't *that* slow. Oof yeah I get that. My current partner can be like a lot, but I find if I want to try to engage without feeling "rejected" if I dont' get a response right way i…
💯💯💯 Your post is something that I wish every single person could read. This is my exact experience after years in the court system trying to get away from a malignant narcissist psychopath. The c…
met a guy for drinks and we chatted about a casual arrangement— something between ONS and FWB. I made it clear that I would be happy to host next time. anyway. we had a lovely convo and at the end he …
If you have to wonder if it's worth following up, you’re already giving him too much of your mental space. Most people kill the vibe by trying to force a reaction when things go quiet. The best move i…
He did follow up with a text, and she did not: >He followed up to make sure I got home and said it was fun. it’s been a week and no text from him, not sure if it’s worth following up? This is someth…
I think what frustrates me most is the constant gaslighting. Work, dating, family. Everywhere. Like why do we have to sit back and confirm facts?! He broke up with me. I assume it was after the conv…
From your edit it’s clear you’re not an emotional or relationship mooch and dearly love her as a human. It sounds like an equal partnership. Others have already touched on how your response may have m…
Let me guess: this started AFTER the baby was born, right? Did both of you really and truly want a baby or did you really and truly want a baby and he just went along? Your husband is checked out of…
Just want to vent and say I (30sM) fucked up and regret it. Was chatting with a great gal (30sF) I met online and we had a 3 hour call full of banter after texting for like a week. After that we set u…
Not to mention that same study notes that perpetrators of anti-Asian hate crimes are far more likely to be non-white than perpetrators of anti-Black or anti-Hispanic hate crimes. At the same time, th…
Does crush know he's the crush? Do friends 1 & 2 know? Either way, give it another day or so and you could hit him with a "hey following up, just trying to figure out my ride situation"
What is with people apologizing for perfectly normal behaviour like following up after a date with intimacy?
You have to publicly shame. Thats an attack on a women’s image, it’s the equivalent of taking all of a man’s money. Image and social status are the currency of the female world. Most other things tha…
"But it's taking away my creativity, my motivation to do things." How so? Sounds like you're dreaming of becoming an animator. What kind of stories do you want to tell? How can you tell them what the…
I've been broken up with my ex for about 8 months. We were together almost 2 years and I was very happy. I thought he was too. He blindsided me and dumped me seemingly out of nowhere. Prior to the bre…
I'm like you, homebody, live alone, my dog is my best friend, most of my friends are partnered, but hey good story for you. I've been seeing a guy for about 4 months, and I was always worried about my…
Coffee date, short discussion, therefore a kiss? The bar is truly in hell. It's only happened to me a couple of times but when they slowly do the unprompted eyes-closed lean in, I extend my hand to t…
Well these are examples from the past. I think those kinds of explicit comments would be warranted if someone maybe asked explicitly if you wanted to kiss or something. Otherwise I feel like following…
Good on you for not following up - that shows real growth from where you were in november
Following up but we really need something similar to the Blaxploitation movement. Black men were emasculated, frequently referred to as "boy" - raised in a servant role. The racism was internalized. …
I totally agree with you.. if even a short distance is a problem to him, then it obviously won't work - and his place was never an option 😅 And yet I've been thinking about following up on what I s…
Just following up, it's been about 2 weeks since I posted the hair care routine above, how is it working for you?
Hi thank you for following up, I have not read a lot about stoicism. I try to follow the very basics which is how to control our emotions and the self reflection part of it. Also I try to practice det…
i was in the exact same boat. i don’t know if my partner had adhd but i just ended a 5 year relationship in part due to these reasons. the other reason being cheating. for the entire 5 years i wanted …
Yes, anyone who has “spontaneous” in their profile is a left swipe for me. Usually means low effort but even if it doesn’t mean that, I’m not available spontaneously. 😁 As far as following up as yo…
YIKES ON BIKES! I have cPTSD (raised in a cult/ abused/tortured/neglected, ACE score 10/10) & a few of those made my jaw drop - for perspective. That's for sure a pattern of inappropriate behavior tha…
Are you following up with your doctors about your condition? Maybe you need therapy? I’m no professional…but if your sleep is having a negative effect on your waking life, you are going to need som…
My mother goes through similar phases of this, it will never fully go away and quite often she falls back into old habits whenever there is a period where I come over more often than usual (like when …
This reads to me as textbook overfunctioning especially around the sending him an “are we still on” message when plans are nebulous. In my experience, men like this are happy to coast off your abili…
Just want to share that I went to a speed dating event and hit it off with a girl, got her number during the event and chatted a bit after (yay!) Unfortunately, our schedules didn’t line up for this…
Poll: how soon is too soon for following up with someone (I’m a 30sM) about scheduling a date if you offered options & haven’t heard back?
If you are following up, it should be to directly question the non-response and ask if they are still interested. I'd say around 3 days is probably reasonable.
You might as well. No loss in following up. If she’s unsure she’ll flake or ghost. If she’s interested she’ll appreciate the follow-up.
Getting to the final round consistently means your skills are not the problem. Something is happening at the very end, and that is usually one of three things: how you are coming across in the final c…
I am going to share the story of my salary hike and would use imaginary $ to explain since I don’t want my actual salary to be revealed. So here goes: I’ve been working for a ABC client through a ven…
Jesus my first foray back into dating and liking someone new has been annoying. Following up on this https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/1sild9c/comment/oflff9n/?context=3 Was supposed…
This, or sleep apnea, which is much more common. Nodding off or nearly nodding off during driving is actually part of the diagnostic screening criteria. If his apnea is moderate or higher, the risk go…