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my girlfriend lied about being SA'D? — look i have no confirmed answer as too if she has or if shes hasnt but ive done some digging and found out a couple of things. she lies about a lot of things and i mean alot like just the other day i…
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …
Posting anonymously is now possible! — Considering the topic of this subreddit, we acknowledge that in some cases users may feel posting through their own accounts may be possibly problematic and obstructs safety to an extent. For those wh…
Can Manifestation Really Help You Get Full Marks in an Exam If You Only Wrote Part of the Answer? — Hey everyone, I have a question that might sound a bit out there, but I’m curious to hear if anyone has had a similar experience. I recently took an exam where I only managed to write answers for ab…
I just proved that a crappy industry is literally pissing away money — I constantly preach about template fraud and those "pretty but useless" websites that don't deliver actual business results. This week, I decided to prove my point. I spotted a security product in th…
Why do so many retail & shopping sites hide the item details/description? — I’ve noticed this on a number of sites, and I’m fairly certain it hasn’t always been this way. "Hide" is probably a strong word, but basically retailers making the details/description of a product a c…
Suggestions are like Forex signals - doing the exact opposite is where the real money is — I was in a Discord channel with 90K+ designers and every time someone dropped their landing page or website, it felt like getting advice from someone selling Forex signals. Doing the opposite would a…
Immersive Architects website concept — Check out this Architects concept site that brings their latest album to life in a different way. The design plays with the album artwork through cool hover interactions and showcases upcoming tour …
How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…
I cannot figure out why Google Search Console keeps indicating "Couldn't fetch" — I'm looking over a client's website and one of the things I found was their sitemap doesn't report being crawled since last September. I resubmitted the exact map that was crawled (happens to be plura…
Rating my website + getting help with ad setup — Hello! Ive started a small workshop where i produce and sell lamps. A lot of my designs are based on already existing popular ones but most of them ive come up with myself. I never expected to becom…
Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything) — I've built a directory listing website and I'm using WP All Import plugin to pull in data from a spreadsheet (which consists of scraped business info from their Google Maps / GBP listings). Being tha…
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…
Why do most tech billionaires avoid flashy lifestyles—are there any who embrace extravagance? I will not promote — I’ve always noticed the contrast between how different the tech entrepreneurs are compared to the others who are in finance, fashion, entertainment, or property. It is almost the expectation in the ot…
I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…
Is anyone else feeling the pressure from new import tariffs? How is it impacting your business or ways you source stuff? — With all the recent shifts in trade policy, I’m curious how others are handling the growing pressure from import tariffs. Especially those sourcing from China, which I suspect is most of us here. For…
I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs! — Hey everyone! I’ve been working on a VSCode extension called **Array Size Extension**, and I wanted to share it with you all to get some feedback or maybe help out others who run into the same proble…
Looking for theme suggestions for an online bookstore — I’m looking for themes that can help support the expansion of my store. At the moment, I’m using Dawn which has worked over the past 2 years. For context, I run an online bookstore. At the moment, I h…
APPLYING FOR MERCHANT ID — Hey guys, just thought i’d drop in here to quickly as a question for the experienced folks here. I am looking to apply for MIDs but i am kind of stuck on what banks/ Mid providers will look at on my…
Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure. I have been involved in th…
Which tool gives the exact search volume of a keyword? — I'm checking keyword volume of few keywords using online tools. Each tool is showing different volume data. Which tool shows reliable search volume? Any suggestions are welcome. Thanks for your valua…
Shopify POS exchanges on discounted items — Hello shopify community, I've been scouring the internet for a solution but no good solution exists. I am wondering how other brick and mortar merchants are dealing with this. This needs to be addres…
Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences? — I haven’t been to many design-related conferences throughout my career, but I decided to give a CoCreate Conference a shot. I won’t go into the event organization here – just the speakers. From what I…
Is this site using a bootstrap or plug-in? — This bookstore has a section where, if you you click on one of the books in a slider, it expands a panel about that book below. These sliders under "New and Featured" and "Trending" (the entire div is…
Marketing Digest: Google tests new AI mode outside Labs along with more features, ChatGPT introduces shopping features with personalized product recommendations, Google confirms search signals used to train Gemini AI — Hey guys! A new week means a fresh batch of marketing insights. Google’s keeping us on our toes as usual, and AI is busy finding new ways to take over the digital space. Let’s read: **SERP features /…
ssGTM / GA4 vs Ringside Data - Customer Journey Analytics & Attribution — Hey everyone, Hope you're all well! Just trying to get an idea of what other people think about using tools like Ringside Data and perhaps the likes of Claritas, Resonate, etc. vs using ssGTM and GA4…
Designing for AI feels like UX without control. — With AI interfaces, especially ones powered by LLMs, the experience changes every time. There’s no fixed flow, no guaranteed output, just probabilities. It made me realize most UX principles assume…
We all have this problem, what's your solution? (i will not promote) — I'll cut straight to the chase, do you **focus your marketing on**: 1. **The benefits of your product** (which other solutions similarly provide) 2. **The novel way those benefits are delivered** (wh…
How to prepare for this final step interview — this was included in the email "The exercise will include a walkthrough of report formatting and analysis using a simple Programmatic campaign example, along with a brief performance review of a Goog…
Quick help with CORS error — Hello, This is a stupid question I think I know the answer to, but I'd like confirmation. All the research I've done indicates my gut is right, but I like to check. I'm getting a CORS error when tr…
How do I add tariff costs? — Hi, I'm a very new U.S. Shopify seller, selling POD products (book, t-shirts mugs hats posters, mouspads) internationally....or at least trying to. Currently, if a customer places an order, the POD pr…
Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…
Know any upcoming design hackathons (no coding required)? — Hey everyone! 👋 I’ve been looking for **design-focused hackathons**, but most of the ones I’ve come across are primarily for developers and require coding skills—which I don’t have. I’m a designer…
What concerns, besides price, would you have as a home owner if offered window cleaning services? — I'm just starting out and the only experience I have getting new customers for thos kind of bussiness is by neighbour's walking up and asking for a quote. I'd give a quote and 90% of the time they'd …
Scaling a Faceless YouTube Channel into a small business. — Around a Month ago, I started mentoring a few people on how to start a YouTube automation channel/business with no real launch, just looking to help a handful who was serious about building something …
I made a Chrome extension to fix my broken sleep schedule — I’ve been working on my Chrome extension called [LateControl](https://chromewebstore.google.com/detail/latecontrol-bedtime-block/pmbngcejicfbdbofhbkpknpkhmanemml?utm_source=item-share-cb) that basical…
I made an awesome ChatGPT prompt for internal linking — I just made this prompt for ChatGPT that finds internal link opportunities on your website. It works surprisingly well. 1. Enable “Deep research” mode on ChatGPT (you’ll need a paid plan). 2. Paste t…
I DID IT! Put in my notice today, focusing on my agency full time. — I've been working 70+ hour weeks for the last 16 months, working a full-time job as VP of Marketing for a Fortune 500 company while also getting my side hustle marketing agency off the ground. My agen…
antidepressants and avoidant attachment — i (22f, FA) came off venlafaxine (SNRI) about two months ago after being on it for 5+ years for depression and anxiety. predictably a lot of stuff is coming up, OCD and BDD symptoms, anxiety is a bit …
DAE feel like they want to be in a relationship but don’t really know how to? Intimacy problems? — I mean in terms of intimacy. When I think about being in a relationship, the concept of having someone in my corner that I can cuddle with, do things with, nurture and support and generally love—that …
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…
I don't want to cry all day and feel lonely anymore. I don't want to fear abandonment anymore. I want to improve myself. — In 12th grade I became very close to a classmate of mine. Both of us bonded over shared trauma and basically became inseparable. We texted each other 24/7 and became very VERY affectionate which then …
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
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how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …
Physically Reacting to Jealousy — My first post was about my deep attachment to a former friend who cut things off because she is now my employee. I'm actually making a lot of progress with that. Well my stress level is very manageabl…
Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…
Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…
AnxAtt healing group: Meeting #1! — **Thank you to everyone who joined our first Anxious Attachment Healing Group meeting just now.** I really appreciate it. It was a great conversation with a thoughtful group of people from around th…
Next Anx Attachment healing group in 6 hours — The next Anxious Attachment healing group zoom meeting is in 6 hours: Sunday January 11 at 8:00 PM / 20:00 U.S. / Eastern Time (New York City) **To join the next meeting:** [RSVP here](https://form…
There aren't many but as far as I can tell there are a couple which could qualify. 1. Escapism. Just like anything fun, let alone of the "reality substitute" type, there is the potential to use it e…
Everyone coming here from the other subs is blessed to have finally sought a break from the emotional self-harm that seems to be at the core of the methodology in these other groups... which I took pa…
So you do SH until you obtain the thing you want? What if it’s just a feeling, for example what if I just want the experience of feeling like everything works out for me. When my reality starts to re…
Thank you for this. Because it seems like people put Neville and Joseph Murphy in the exact same category of teaching. I’ve read Power of The Subconscious Mind and going back for a 2nd read. Edit:…
>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…
I'll take a deeper look into revision as that could be more effective for what I'm trying to accomplish (physical healing). I definitely get what you mean about the subconscious belief over conscious …
Well i was actually thinking about the exact same thing for quite some time. I dont know if you have reached a conclusion about this particular question but if you have then please let me know.
Yes, so you will find many experienced Astral Projectors will agree that we all leave the body every night. In one sense, you could called both dreams and the Astral, the experience of Internal Worlds…
>you said that lucid dreaming is an internal experience while AP is a real and tangible one I said this, however that is not the total truth - the opposite can also be true, check out the video under…
The experience of feeling vibrations is constant if we are projecting from the lower chakra point however if you project through your third eye directly to the astral plane there is no vibrations. The…
a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…
I feel that. Torn away from the ex after two years? Fine. Not having the kids as constants in my life? JFC shoot me. Blessedly they still want to stay close and their dad fully supports that. I canno…
Super curious now. Why'd the ex of yours from 10 years ago contact you? I've always known the ones who wait years & years before contacting, to be completely pathetic. Its usually because no one els…
I once tried the exercise of keeping the mind awake and the body asleep. But at some point I just thought I fall asleep and get up from my bed and my body felt super heavy. I went to the kitchen of my…
sharing recent experience and soliciting feedback from the experienced people here... I live in Phoenix, AZ but have close friends in Richmond, VA. On this particular journey, I had a vivid experien…
I'm curious reading through your last link. It says that the 5th dimension is likely a micro dimension that we cannot perceive or interact with, and even then its existence is not even proven. So how …
I would remove it too because their silence may be exactly what the ex has been hoping for. It's a complete emotional setup.
Try focusing less and be centered in the experience, even if it is awesome.
I think a better phrasing would be assigning responsibility, not blame. Our parents neglected their responsibilities to us when they neglected us. It's less about pointing a finger at a person and mor…
If you know the experience when using this method..Kaloom Quantum leaping is the most intense astro body experience and anyone can do it. [www.lovelifewellnesscoaching.com](https://www.lovelifewellnes…
No contact is NOT about getting the ex back! It’s about truly moving on, breaking free mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It’s about freeing yourself and truly letting go. It’s not meant to be a …
I broke up but she didn't want to get back. It's my fault but she wasn't a Saint either. Immaturity on both ends. I have paid for my mistakes in heartache and tears. I hope you get the person who ch…
Exactly, I'm having the exact same struggle. The kind of personal growth that I need to make now is exactly the kind that I need my best friend/partner/cheerleader to help me through, but he's the one…
Anyone else have random lucid dreams about the exact way to start a flying sequence. Some kind of 3 step jump and then a somersault and then you take off and fly for ages if you control your arms prop…
Hey, Joseph Murphy wrote in his book 'The power of your subconscious mind.' Translated from slovak language (so maybe I don't use the exact same words but the main idea is the same) "Our subconsc…
Trying to download a skill or belief is wasting the experience of learning it. If you think you know what you need… then you’d already have had it… a lot of amazing insights and development of charact…
Let me tell you about the first experience I had with the LOB. Back then I only knew about Neville and read a few lectures here and there. In my 2nd year of University, in one of my exams, I did not …
1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…
You’re not being rude. You just don’t understand. I won’t explain it either because I want to gatekeep it. Why does my sp come only when I want them to or work on myself? and leave exactly when I ha…
Thank you. I will ask the op to insert these links into her other post. They are a good addenda and are a beneficial part of the record. We may make her post a part of our index as well. It is a very…
Agreed, they are not. That's a key point of the experiment !
I have many, many personal anecdotes that prove our beliefs create reality. Some goals/desires achieved are beyond the realm of mere coincidence and far exceed a free cup of coffee. My response to th…
I've been in therapy for over a year for various reasons, and for me the first thing I needed to work on was my self image. Understanding and accepting myself, building confidence and a stronger sense…
This is not a competition who is far less irritating or who is more evil than the other. Its about both parties should be taking accountability. I am more than agree with you that AP’s biggest challen…
I had my first experience 2 nights ago. During the experience I first saw the color red and then felt a pulsating sensation all over my body. Similar to a heartbeat. I initially felt fear then immedia…
If you're talking stalking, that 'anxious' person has more problems than just being anxious. On the extreme end, some anxious people are more prone to have BPD. But that doesn't mean anxious people ar…
I never said they tried, but who wants to find out that someone else emotional regulation depends on your constant presence. Again I’m talking about anxious attachment because secure people are secu…
You might want to look into relationship attachment styles, love bombing, and whether you're mistaking the slow burn as boring because it's stable and consistent. The excitement ppl often feel is actu…
I shared a little different perspective based on the experience. This is just me and how I would feel. She engaged, asked a question. I responded and asked a question and she read it immediately. I kn…
Sure! Some happen in conversation Let's take the example of a simple question to which you can answer with a yes or a no Example 1: Question : - " Do you want to go to the movies tonight? " ( You…
Reading over the threads it’s apparent that lack of communication is a key component in the avoidant flip and leave confusion…If they actually communicated how they felt and what they needed and wante…
I actually tried but couldn't find a guide to these acronyms on this sub, da fa etc it's all so confusing. Wish there was a pinned post or something. Thanks for the explanation !
Thanks for such valuable advice. It meant a lot. I'm in sp situation. And when other person is envolved things get tricky... I'm doing my best to visualize. Sometimes it felt like it can happen. Wh…
As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise. I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…
Yep, it's probably not a good time...and I may have impulsively downloaded it out of loneliness. I have friends and a sister I can talk to, I have hobbies and a new career. I put a lot of energy into …
Work on an observability team. I stood up grafana with influx, ran that for a few years, then we moved to a vendor. Grafana itself is pretty simple to run, it’s the backend data sources that are not…
Fair play, I’m so happy for you. I’m also a sysadmin with decade of experience with Win, Mac and Linux, and have been helping out my company with devops stuff every opportunity I get (pipelines, ter…
GitOps presents an idea of reconciliation from the single source of truth: Git to paint the definition in Git repositoryto the external entity. Tool for implenting GitOps pattern for Kubernetes is Arg…
I had the exact same thing happen to me last year. For third round had to containerize an app and then write some pipelines for it as well as some k8s manifests I think. I presented everything (and th…
There's a million different opportunities. Most are viable. At 18 you basically have no experience. There's nothing wrong with that, and even a few advantages. But you also don't know what you don't …