just let things go

How do you "just let things go?" — I know this is a me-problem and that not everyone holds onto stuff to the extent that I do. And it may be stress, nervous system dysregulation, hormones, a lot of stuff, I don't know. But, I let thing…

I actually feel that I'm only slightly anxious leaning and relatively secure but I got triggered more when he was avoidant and I think a secure person would have a very hard time staying secure. I thi…