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It's nice to read how that you recognized and respected your friend's "type." I have read so many posts, articles about how it's shallow not considering shorter men. But if shorter/average height wome…
I’m looking for recommendations on a good Front-End course/certificate. Ideally for UX designers — I’m looking for an easy to follow, front end coding course that will teach me the basics on building a single page prototype. I’ve seen some job postings for UX designers asking them to use code to …
Are there any free themes or plugins that facilitate creating layouts and styles for custom post types? — I am trying to build a website that is very simple in terms of content and styling. The only catch is that it has a custom post type. I created the custom post type and fields using the free version o…
Update — Saw her again at the Social Club — not much to report. She came over, sat next to me, and we had a nice chat the whole time. We’re actually planning a spa date since we share the same birthday. Befo…
I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…
Men having rigid body type preferences — I'm (45f) 5'8", thin. Not underweight, but a thin person with largish tatas of Scandinavian descent. I matched with a man on an app and went on a date, where he told me that his ideal type is a pet…
As an artist, I now can see the reason I loved art, nature, and music so much growing up was a form of escapism from my emotionally neglectful parents — Can anyone else relate? I think when I was younger, getting lost in a painting or paying attention very closely to the natural world around me would help me find joy in a world where I felt extremely …
Chiron as an aspect, and as a Jungian archetype. — I’ve been really interested in trying to understand Chiron’s full role in a tropical chart, as the ‘wounded healer’ and subsequent traits. I’m also interested in correlating that to Jung’s theory’s o…
Spent money on clothes, grooming, and a Miami photoshoot for dating apps. Still getting weak matches. What am I missing? — I’m frustrated because I actually put real effort into this. I didn’t just throw up random selfies and then complain. I bought better clothes, changed my hair, spent money on grooming, flew to Miami,…
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
As an ardent follower of Astrology - I now find it very dehumanising. — People are people - they are actual people with families, friends and personalities they've developed over time. They have redeeming traits and they will have areas of improvement to work on. To box a…
Unknown cinnamon scent — Everytime I am with this person he says I have a unique scent. Even if I am wearing a different perfume or if I haven't met them for a long time then too. Everytime I am around them, they notice this …
Covert narcissists are emotional sadists! — I hate the term “vulnerable narcissism” so much and I will never use it. I have had many moments where I saw the “duper’s delight” when they see you suffering or in distress. In my opinion, it is the …
I attracted someone but he’s loveboming and not my type — I found someone after years of trying. But I have 2 issues, 1. He is loveboming,2. He’s not my type. I listed everything but seems like somethings are missing. Should I accept this or try again? He’s …
huge huge rant (infantilization rant) — i'm a 20f in college (in america) rn, living 35 minutes away from home. i want to preface this by saying i know my parents love me very much (in their very own twisted ways), and i love my parents too…
My theory on why Chinese restaurants have a bad/low end rep with most Americans (I’m not talking about Panda Express style takeout places) — So I saw a thread about why Chinese food has a bad rep in America. Here’s my theory… There seems to be some very high end Chinese restaurants like Hakkasan or more mass appeal Din Tai Fung like place…
The fact that someone as terrible and disgusting as me has been allowed to live this long is the world's worst joke. — **(This is a repost of a post I made a while ago, which I am reposting because I'm back in a slump again. There aren't any major changes other than the ending bit.)** 20M. This might be the longest p…
Missing the touch of a women. Is hiring an escort a bad idea? — Hi all I know this will probably sound pathetic because it is, but please be nice I'm already having a hard time with myself and at an all time low. To put a very long story short, my last relationshi…
Do they talk down about your appearance? — Curious your stories of your narc talking down on your appearance. Maybe what you wear or what you do to keep yourself looking good? Mine literally told me that he doesn’t know why I want to work out …
Looking for people with long-term lucid dreaming / awareness control (not beginner stuff) — ​ I’ve been lucid dreaming for as long as I can remember (since I was a kid), and I’m trying to find anyone else who experiences it at a deeper level—not just the occasional “I realized I was …
I responded to an ex of mines no contact breach, with a link to Good Luck Babe — So i 18(M) had a 2 year long weird homoerotic friendship with a guy (20M) who had a boyfriend (22M) (i know stupid ofc) but in my defense, he pretty much introduced himself to me as "tortured guy stuc…
34M and the future seems bleak — I'm 34 now and feel like an absolute failure at everything especially given the potential I had. I was always considered "gifted" growing up and I am a member of Mensa. I also graduated from an Ivy Le…
Online dating experience in Quebec/Montreal — I’ve been experimenting with Hinge (including Hinge X) and noticed a pretty consistent pattern that I can’t fully explain. In Montreal/Quebec, I match very consistently with women who are exactly my …
Ex is with a different girl every week — My ex is with a different girl every week last one lasted for 4 days… and most of them aren’t even his type. He’s normally very independent but, now it looks to me like he’s both really emotionally un…
I built a soul mirror. It only works if you're honest with it. — try it here: [soulmirror.ai](http://soulmirror.ai) The idea is simple: you answer 4 open-ended questions honestly, and it mirrors back your wound, your mask, your gift, and an archetype. No multiple …
Am I overreacting or is it time to call it quits? — My partner of 10+ years and I are on a “let’s try again” phase after a they had broken up with me a few days ago and I begged to give it another go. When things are good, they are pretty amazing, and…
The guy I’m recently seeing (23M) made a sexist joke about me (23F) to his friends — So I’ve been talking to this guy for around 2 months. We met through a mutual friend while he was in the city I live in (just visiting, he lives about a 5 hour drive away). Things are amazing for the …
My gf (F19) and I (M23) have cheated on each other. Would I be blinded by love if I stay with her? — Before I start, everytime I tell someone close of mine my current situation they get stunned so my story right now could either intrigue you to reading more or bore you. But if you put yourself in my …
I 20F ended the relationship with my 20M Ex for good and I’m having second thoughts. — It would have been My \[20F\] and My Ex’s \[20M\] 2 year anniversary yesterday. And I’ve been regretting ending things for good. We had broken up with the intention of eventually getting back together…
What do I M19 do when I still love someone F21 who I can't trust anymore? — I 19M dated a Chinese exchange student 21F that I met on Hinge for 8 months. told each other we loved each other. let her meet my family. I've never been I'm love before. I caught her in a lie (not th…
Am I the crazy one? — First Reddit post like, ever. My mom and I just got into a blow out fight. We live on opposite coasts and don’t see each other one on one very often anymore. Parents are divorced and although we’re o…
How do I walk away from someone who loves me but not in love with me — Some context ; met this girl when I was 17/M , she was 16/F. The moment I saw her I knew I would marry her. Most beautiful women I ever seen. Grated we were young but still. We dated for two years whi…
How do I (21F) tell my partner (21M) that I'm feeling slightly unfulfilled/unprotected in our relationship? — (Throwaway acct). The title sounds incredibly harsh, but I didn't know how else to say it. My fiancé and I have been dating for 6 years and I love him more than genuinely anything. We started dating o…
I need anyone to tell me I exist. — Please hear me out. I have no one. I'm 20. My only friend is my boyfriend and he's pulling away because I'm "too sad all the time." I live with my parents (absent dad, morbidly obese (it’s relevant l…
I am a genuine disgusting, horrible piece of shit, and I don't know what to do about it. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD (I'm not officially diagnosed) and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years…
My boyfriend said he wouldn’t pick me out of a line of women — My Boyfriend (22M) and I (22F) were in the kitchen just reminiscing on the early start of our relationship. We often joke about how I steered the conversation on our first meeting; I asked questions t…
Does EMDR therapy work? Specially for this? If not what’s something that will. — TRIGGER WARNING: mentions SA This is like hard for me to type. I just don’t know where to start with it. I have gone to therapy for other things like anxiety, depression, and my trauma I went through…
Will EMDR help? — TRIGGER WARNING: mentions SA This is like hard for me to type. I just don’t know where to start with it. I have gone to therapy for other things like anxiety, depression, and my trauma I went through…
I thought I was so pretty before meeting him — I really like this guy. We agreed to be exclusive, but wait until we are in better spots financially to officially date (tell our families, post about each other, get "serious"). I caught him texting,…
I don't even know what I would call this? Medical issues + CPTSD w/ parents — I recently had something come up medically a couple months ago where I had a cyst in my breast tissue, my family (including mom) has history of cancer and breast cancer so naturally I got pretty freak…
F22 confused about situationship with M25 — Hi, so for the first time I think I’m in what people would call a “situationship,” and I’m honestly not used to it at all. All my previous talking stages turned into long-ish relationships (over a yea…
I miss being a kid. Today I think I connected with my inner child and I feel better. — Actually, the last time where I truly felt "alive" and that everything was okay, was when I was 5 to 10. It's probably ironic to say this, as I was completely mistreated in my childhood... But aside f…
Am I (30f) missing something? (31m) long post and tw! Conflict styles making conflict bigger — Hi all. This month will make my current relationship 5 years. We have been in couples therapy for less than 2 years working on communication and handling conflict better, navigating the avoidant and a…
I [20F] have long developed feeling for my Ex’s friend[20M] how do I go about it? — I dated that last person on and off for a year and a half but consistently only for 6 months. But when i met his friend i realized that I had a crush on him he was exactly my type. Because i would nev…
I think when I see AAs post, they’re told not to try to understand why a DA did something or what something means, but rather to just let it go. Good luck with that advice. As someone who’s a mix, so…
okay maybe i’m going against the grain here and take it with a grain of salt but when i was in a similar situation with my ex (now bf as we rekindled) , i sat wit him after a text like this and outlin…
Making a longer comment to OP in your reply because I want to dive deeper into this: >Not being into someone =/= avoidance. Youre correct in this, however avoidance does make it harder to judge if y…
I’d advise being in active therapy while working through this. I went to CBT for ROCD and my fearful avoidant tendencies while dating a good friend of mine and the progress I made was life changing. I…
Oh stop it we all have a type.
The fact that she brought it up so early, to me, is a green flag. Those who have been repeatedly hurt by FAs would say it’s a green flag in a sea of red, but IMO to be able to openly have discussions …
I would like to share my story too. An FA myself, I got into a relationship 4 years ago, and that too with an anxious type. I got highly triggered by her needy behaviour and fear of abanoment. She wou…
Hi!! My apologies for commenting late in the game to your post. As an AuDHD myself, I can't confirm that moving slowly in a relationship is correlated to AuDHD. There are AuDHD / autistic people who a…
Sorry this is long. I’m 27, I have only been on dates with like 10 guys in my life (I don’t understand why getting a date, let alone a relationship is so incredibly hard, but that’s a different topic)…
I had a lot of trouble with that one when my old therapist tried it. She’s like “imagine someone like a superhero or Harry Potter there to protect you” and I was like “nah he wasn’t there.” 😂 I just…
Since this book gets recommended a lot, even in this thread, I am also making my own comment. This is about *Atttached* by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. This goodreads review by a user named Melody d…
All the time, I read about how we are demons, how we are the worst people ever and are hurting so many people. But I never forced anyone to be with me. I never played hot and cold. If there's one thin…
It sounds like it is just your style of insecure attachment. I would remain in the relationship and then go get support from a therapist who specializes in relationships and attachment. That way you c…
I feel the same way about the guy that I’ve been dating off and on for the last year. There’s a physical connection and we have similar interests. But he’s a bit overly emotional, and he calls himself…
If he has seen what your body looks like even with clothes on, I think that means he likes your body type.
> Travel, drink and do sports Yeah, I know the type. Which app(s) are you using? I find that Hinge has the highest proportion of more chill, introverted people here where I am, so that's what I use t…
Random telenovela shower thoughts: Over the past couple of weeks I have been catching up on my fave telenovela, La Reina del Flow. And what I have been noodling on is the male characters and how they…
I don't really understand this line of reasoning regarding relationship type. As far as I know via my poly/ENM friends, wouldn't the ethical part of ethical non-monogamy mean OP would've been informed…
Did your physical type evolve as you got more dating experience? I'm talking to two guys. I went on a date with the first guy and it was okay. He checked all my boxes on paper. Looks wise, I wasn't N…
I never had a single defined physical type. I find people of very different shapes, colours and sizes attractive. It's a case-by-case thing, I know it when I see them.
This. I think there's a difference between *attractiveness* and *attraction*. I think someone can be attractive without you experiencing attraction. I think attractiveness is a component of physical c…
I have a type but its more based on build/body type. All sorts of women are attractive, but the ones i look at that im interested in dating are all like 5'2. Race doesn't really matter but i do hav…
Is this love or just the comfort of being chosen? I'm 23M working in Bangalore and have always been the type who never dated or had much experience with girls. To change that, I started attending soc…
Think of it this way...you more than likely have a quality, whether physical or emotional, that a guy with hair doesn't have, and a woman will see that in you and light up. You can also grow out some …
First, I think it’s really cool that you pushed yourself to actually get out there and do those things. Second, I think you might benefit from adjusting your expectations a bit. I don’t think it’s r…
You don’t have anything to lose. If these NY finance guys want a woman, they go after her. It’s the personality type.
It sounds like you didn't like a guy and put a whole lot of expectations onto him and then proceeded to frustrate yourself for no reason. Not all men are the shining knight in armor type. I don't see …
What a racket. Not helping the poly stereotype.
Mostly venting. Deep down I already know the answers. How is a 40‑year‑old supposed to meet compatible women? I’m fit, social, decent‑looking, have a good sense of humor, and an active life. I smile…
i am turning 30 this year, i’m a taurus sun and a scorpio rising. i’ve always felt deeply connected to my ascendant sign and i think it has a lot to with being raised by a single mother who is a scorp…
I vastly preferred Bumble but I think it depends on your type. I found people were more similar to me on Bumble.
> Speaking of calling people out, sounds like you’re just as chronically on Reddit as I am considering you’ve apparently been following my story for so many years I'm not denying this. I have no qual…
Im trying my best to be positive and put myself out there, put in effort and everything but its getting frustrating and depressing. The only men who approach me or seem really interested in me I'm not…
I've come to realize I have no physical type. The only thing in common is that they are smart and kind.
I’m a woman but for me I most definitely do and that’s the biggest downfall for me right now because like you, I find it almost impossible to be attracted to someone outside that type. Unfortunately i…
I posted this in the other thread from yesterday but it got locked before I could respond to comments so I'm reposting here with my original post and follow up response: Im trying my best to be posit…
The same way that black men aren't your type, a lot of men don't consider us black women their type. It is what it is, and since you aren't really attracted to black men, you're going to have a narrow…
I think twins might be expressions of two different positions on the spectrum of their zodiac sign or the different polarities of their zodiac sign. I know twins born a few minutes apart and they hav…
People would never guess that this is a part of my life. I'm a little weird, but respected and I keep it very secret. That was quite a hindering in my dating life. I took very long to open up about t…
Went to a queer creatives Meetup yesterday, it’s basically a pub meet with some performances and chances to mingle with other queer creative people. Got chatting with this one guy who told me he lov…
Well, I can tell the type of reality others are in by the pronouns they use - which tends to overly emphasize collective thinking and prioritize pronouns like 'we', 'our', 'us' over singular form like…
My ex was perfect and exactly my type. Tattoos, nipple piercings, wide hips. Her body and the sex were amazing, yes, but I just miss her presence and connection most of all.
Depends on your personality type. Some people cannot recover from infidelity and the expectation that YOU should change. If this is you, move on respectfully.
I would say overall, leaning towards a disadvantage, but that margin is becoming smaller and smaller everyday. I love Asian men, and definitely consider them my type. I find it really daunting and sca…
The only way to fall out of love is by force. Like he/she is abusive , or cheating , or a criminal, or didnt support the other person. But you don't just wake up roll over one morning and think ya kno…
Probably wasn’t the only reason. Good chance he branded you as crazy and she believed him over you. He may have proposed to her during an idealization phase but those never last with his personality t…
I went on a third date with a guy I’d been getting to know for a month yesterday. He’s very sweet, very respectful, cute but by no means my usual type. Things kind of felt like they might become a slo…
He sucks, I know that type. Run girl run.
That's a beautiful reply, thank you. It's one of my struggles also. I'm right now on a trip with my 75 year old father and I'm seeing his health struggles first hand. Probably my absolute biggest fear…
Bald, beard and sad eyes are my preferred type.