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Part of it is dating culture. I know asian women, at least many I encountered, want the guy to be proactive. That is, reaching out, schedule dates, saying "how are you" etc. If guy is not doing it the…
How to get cold leads for your agency. — Agency owner How are you guys getting cold leads throughout and outside the country?
Thoughts on an image sharing tool with link permissions? (i will not promote) — **Looking for feedback: Tool for sharing images securely with permissioned domains (like DocSend, but mainly for images)** Hey r/startups, I’m working on validating an idea and would love your thoug…
Thoughts on a platform that can give AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation (i will not promote) — **AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation** Hey r/startups, I’m exploring a product idea and would love to hear your thoughts. **The problem:** Many users land in product documenta…
Canary like deployments for Custom Resources? — Why is there no Canary-like deployment orchestrator for Custom Resources with quality gateway analysis? AFAIK, Flagger, Keptn ( have some maintenance problems ), Argo Rollouts, these are tightly boun…
How Are You All Handling Customer Inquiries? — Do you all already have a system when handling customer inquiries or noticed you need a more efficient system? Curious what others are using to keep engagement high without constantly having to manu…
What really makes an Internal Developer Platform succeed? — Hey, I work at Pulumi as a community engineer and as we are doubling down on [IDP features](https://www.reddit.com/r/pulumi/comments/1kg3o0l/introducing_pulumi_idp/) I’ve been looking around at variou…
Best low-effort analytics tools for Shopify optimization? I'm drowning in data... — I'm struggling to make sense of all the analytics data from my store. The native Shopify reports give me tons of information, but I'm finding it difficult to determine what metrics I should actually f…
Digital marketing lead generation and sales tips — If you are part of a marketing agency or a freelance marketer, this is for you. 1. What are the effective channels for lead generation & sales? 2. How are you converting it? 3. What are the commo…
Biggest entrepreneurial Challenge - Lead generation and sales — If you are founder/co-founder/owner of a marketing agency or marketing freelancer, this is for you. 1. What are the effective channels for lead generation & sales? 2. How are you converting it? 3…
Looking for advice when it comes to hosting client websites — Currently have around 50 client websites. All PHP/MySql based, using various versions of PHP. At the moment all sites are hosted on a managed dedicated server running WHM/cPanel. As the number of web…
How are you managing/identifying multiple AWS accounts? — Which tool or extension are you guys using to manage and identify multiple AWS accounts in your browser? Personally i have to deal with 30+ AWS accounts. An old devops team over engineered our AWS la…
Struggling after “healing” is challenged — I’m a late 20s AA, I have put a ton of work into myself over the years to become secure (as secure as I can be at least). Recently I was seeing a guy, likely DA, who needed some space and we agreed …
How to soothe myself when they say they aren't upset. — I am very fortunate to have consistent, attentive, loving people in my adulthood. I haven't conquered my unhealthy habits that come from my attachment system, however. My husband is wonderful. He st…
How am I supposed to deal with the "ick" without leading a person on? — I don't get emotionally attached easily, so the early stage of dating is often a long game for me where the other person is trying their best to win me over, and I'm trying to be a good sport and go t…
Codependency and an ex that keeps coming back — Hey guys! So, I've run out of ideas on this. I got together with a single mum in summer 2024 and we parted ways around last October. Since then, we agreed to stay friends but she wouldn't even give m…
Perimenopause and dating — For the ladies. I'm 40F. I'm oh so very lucky that I'm going through perimenopause early. 😑 TBH, I feel ugly these days. My face has changed in the last year and I'm gaining a little bit of weight,…
How are you guys actually spending your weekends to feel recharged? — I've realized that my weekend mostly consists of scrolling my phone, and I don’t want to face to screen anymore … And near my live area have lot of parks, so I’ve started trying to go birdwatching on…
Those of you who were blindsided, discarded, or abandoned- how are you doing now? — I see a lot of people on here saying that they were unhappy for years and what a relief it is to be divorced now. But what about those of us who thought we were in a happy marriage only to be left wit…
Only child (30F, Indian, US). Parents financially exploited me and my husband for years. Set boundaries. Now they’re trying to destroy my marriage. — **The financial fraud:** My father retired with 1 crore and started building a house. Behind my back, he took a loan using my husband’s documents — claimed 45 lakhs, was actually 80 lakhs (POA fraud)…
Checkpoint: how are you doing? — I had a moment of pain/feeling alone today and thought maybe some of you might too, so I thought I would post a checkpoint. Use this space to scream into the void, list a win you had, or if you have t…
I broke up with my college girlfriend when she lied about having cancer — I dated this girl from sophomore to junior year of college. Things started off seemingly great, but by the third month in (I know - it gets juicy FAST) she started accusing me of sleeping with other …
My ex lied about having cancer — I dated this girl from sophomore to junior year of college. Things started off seemingly great, but by the third month in (I know - it gets juicy FAST) she started accusing me of sleeping with other …
Thinking of breaking up with my therapist — Hi! I am 24 and relatively new to therapy. I started about 4 months ago working with my current therapist after years of contemplation and a few failed attempts with other therapists. My main reasons …
As a man I failed, I guess I just wasn’t ready or understood what a “committed relationship” actually meant — I understand now I shouldn’t interact with people I used to be acquaintances with before the relationship I get into, people I once talked to in a none romantic intent. 8 months ago I (24M now 25) got…
Struggling — I’m going through it all. Been almost a month now since the breakup and I’ve had great days and horrible days. Some advice i seem to hear constantly is “You should be happy that you were able to love …
How do you see without eyes? — When astral projection, how are you able to see the world if you dont have physical eyes or brain to process light and images?Does anyone know?
Been struggling with the question of her being a narc or me coming on too strong and chasing her away? — \*\*I am sorry if this the wrong place to post this but I could use some perspective.\*\* First time dealing with a girl who may have been a narc. We met about 2 years ago during a visit to her home …
Manipulative ex might get everything he wants — Been married 10 years, was together for 15. About 5 years ago I finally realized how controlling and manipulative he was. He was emotionally abusive to me and his kids, talking down to us, constantly …
Child’s perspective — I do not intend to offend anyone with these words. But i think most of us can relate to this. The upbringing of a child involves many sacrifices. Sleepless nights, financial burdens, and much more. N…
Still nothing — It’s been like seven months and still nothing tomorrow’s gonna be my birthday and I haven’t even received a how are you text? Today I cried a lot. I just kept on crying and crying just because I feel …
Remember this! — Hey folks, happy easter! I sincerely hope you all have an amazing day and wanted to drop a little reminder: It's not what you see that matters, it's about who you are being! Who you are being changes …
I'm about to lose everything and having panic attack all day — I (24M) really need some advice. I am having the worst day of my life today. So, basically, I'm in college studying engineering. It's my fifth year. It is normally a four-year program, but I basically…
can i get some help — can someone help me. i know everyone hates sp posts im sorry lol. i’ve been no contact with my sp for awhile, i texted him 2 weeks ago casually a how are you and he responded twice and then stopped an…
"Growing up emotionally neglected is like nearly dying of thirst just outside the fenced off fountain of a parent's kindness and interest." — The dichotomy of existing in a home where my mother said, "I love you," and even kisses and hugs before bed or on the way out the door while simultaneously never asking "how are you?" or have any curi…
Same sex infidelity and stated? — Has any woman here, gotten cheated on with a man and stayed? I know there’s huge shame in staying with a cheater period but even more if your husband/ bf has cheated with a Man? What were your reaso…
Getting help at 18 — TW: mentions of abuse(physical, emotional), self harm sorry if I overshare but Ive recently gotten help at 18, ive recently turned 18 and I havent even gotten my highschool diploma yet but i graduat…
I need some advice and I need a good one, I don't want to say that I'm a special case but based on every person I have ever met, I don't think what I'm going through is normal. I can vent about so many things but i'm probably gonna go nowhere with what I'll say. — I have come to the conclusion that I can't change, and that I keep getting reminded of that, that I can't get long-term friends, that I'm probably will be laughed at by 95% of everyone behind my back,…
I know the next step is separation or divorce, but I’m terrified. — I found out a few days ago that my husband has been unfaithful, and over the course of the weekend, new details emerged. I have been struggling with what to think and what to do next. Last night, thou…
Working is rigged — How are you supposed to ever make a comeback? Get yourself back on your feet? When employers wanna know where you’ve been your entire life????? You cant ever fuck up i guess. You cant ever be ill and…
For those of you that quickly got over a break up — For those of you that were able to get over a bad break up, please tell me how you did it? Did they come back? How are you now? I'm struggling so much. Please help me
[Success Story] Canceled an unwanted visit even after tickets were bought! (Proof included) — Hi, my family in Neville! I wanted to share a recent win because it taught me so much about the importance of making firm decisions and remaining faithful, even when you do not feel "perfect" or the 3…
"Mom wants to visit you with baked goods, do you mind?" — This morning I woke up and first thing I've seen was a message from my grandma. She sent me a fb link, I thought it would be some Happy Easter card, that's what elders do. But it was some sugary sweet…
Baby dad's best mate — Tl. Dr Ive ended in falling in love with my baby dad's best mate... Me and my baby dad haven't been together for 6 years. A year ago his best mate ended up at mine quite upset and we did the deed and…
My nightly vent session 26/F & 30/M — Last night I reached my breaking point. I hadn’t cried in months. My boyfriend ordered pizza told me he ordered pizza he asked me to get it from the door while he was in the bathroom. I grab the pizza…
Navigating the 3D — I've heard a lot of about going to the end and dwelling there. But how am I suppose to do that throughout the day? All the things I would do, feel, and say completely contradict what I am able/would d…
She’s older, help — JUST HELP ME, STOP DOWNVOTING ME FOR TRYING TO GET HELP AND DONT ANSWER IF UR NOT GOING TO HELP. I (15M) kinda fell in love with a girl (19F) and I know some of you might think it’s weird, I do so to…
Living with your ex post fresh breakup is pure torture. — Especially if you’re the dumpee. The warmth, the affection, the routines we used to have…. Seems like it was all taken away overnight. The way he acts now - so cold and distant. I’ve been crying for …
Parents have been icing me out since I told them I found out I have adhd — I'm in my late 20s so this information has had me rethinking my life and my relationship with my parents and I guess they had the same experience. they can tell that im agitated but I haven't confront…
Completely mindfucked and heartbroken after a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist — This is going to be a very long post, but if you want to know how a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist looks like, you might be interested to read this. I've seen so much shit i…
Going through it M (23) please give feedback!! — I (23M) got dumped after 3 years by my girlfriend even though everything looked perfect on paper. Still struggling and trying to make sense of it. We were together for almost 3 years. We came from ve…
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>She found someone else at the 3rd month mark. And women say they don't have easy. lmao How are you doing now?
No Contact does not mean literally no communication. How unmannered and uncivil it would sound if a person asked you "How are you ?" as you were exiting your office, one evening after work. You should…
You’re the only one I ever see mentioning coffee 😂I get you’re trying to be cute but I haven’t heard it once. I’m asking about *you*. Not anything thing in any sub. There are dozens of success storie…
Then why does MC recommend NC during SP missions? Not trying to argue but if you’re constantly in a state of lack you are indeed impressing your subconscious mind with a state of lack. I’m not saying …
Then why does MC recommend NC during SP missions? Because, many times, that is the appropriate conventional action, at that moment. Either because they are increasingly fearful of you, or unfairly ho…
Thank you so much for this. I am really hurting. Yes, he messaged me On Sunday evening my time saying “Hey baby!! I’m back, I’m so sorry for not being able to communicate.. I know it’s been a little…
How does that show up for you? What kind of thought patterns do you notice yourself having? How are you behaving? Are you communicating your needs? I find the FA a really interesting type so I'd lov…
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That makes sense! Honestly the more I read you reply and thought about some of my past experience I actually take back some of what I said, cause I definitely wasn’t always as clear at the beginning a…
Thanks for that insight! >he would ask me “how are you doing?” In the morning. I didn’t know why at the time, but that question used to really annoy me. I can resonate with this. While usually I app…
This is interesting because I am an anxious girly and one of my best friends in more avoidant. It works ok because I’m much more anxious in romantic interests and I would say almost secure in friendsh…
I m really sorry to hear about your sister. How are you doing with that? I hope you have someone other than your ex to support you. I think it is quite common for people with trauma that lean avoidan…
Text of original post by u/DrawStringBag: I am very fortunate to have consistent, attentive, loving people in my adulthood. I haven't conquered my unhealthy habits that come from my attachment system,…
This is all valid, thank you! We've been together for 17 years, this Halloween 😁 He is extremely familiar with my trauma, and could probably tell you exactly what is going on in my head during these…
I've got an ex situationship who's very avoidant in all facets, we split around 9 months ago yet she periodically messages me some low effort "how are you:)". I have learned to give very bland generic…
How about just, 'Hey, how are you?'
Okay so what I am seeing is that your work culture has become toxic. And her changing the status of the friendship was a breaking point or maybe just when it all came to a head and was brought more pa…
I think two things are true: what she did initially was something most people would not be okay with in a relationship. So that was bad and it was a big deal. However, two, It sounds like she handled…
We are social animals. So even when we are not dating we still need to have connection in our lives. So how are you meeting that need outside of dating? Your romantic partner should not be your only f…
In anxious attachment (well any insecure attachment styles) we have limiting beliefs about ourselves and relationships that may float beneath the surface and they cause us to gravitate toward situatio…
This is an over generalization about anxious attachment style. Often AA people over-focus on their partner to the point of self abandonment. Which is obviously not good. That doesn't mean AA people ar…
Oh my God, imagine being with someone who won't goof off with you! If you can't laugh then how are you going to communicate?
Thank you! How are you feeling about it now looking back?
of course you're going to get more likes if you uncheck distance and age deal breakers. is that not just simple math? But how are you going to go on dates and realistically make a relationship work ov…
Anyone in their mid thirties who wants kids feel like sharing their perspective or venting? I came back to dating recently when I realized I had too much grief to pull the trigger on artificial …
How are you wasting HIS time when you've said no thank you lol
>Doesn't help that I live in a city where the assumption is that girls don't really want to date and are in it for the free dinners. This just made me audibly groan. This mindset, even dismissive j…
After being promoted by someone on here last week, I asked a guy I was talking to on tinder if he wanted to go for a coffee, he asked me what I was looking for, and I said a relationship but potential…
How are you doing with panic attacks if you have them? I'm trying to stick to my gym routine too. I'm crying constantly but I'm still going.
How do you start conversations? I get a match or two on the apps and I send a message saying "hey, how are you?" And I never get a reply. Am I suppose to be exciting or drop pick up lines, cause I am …
Depends, but yeah if you're a guy. Some women can get tens of matches per day if they want, so something more original than "hey how are you?", like reacting to something on their profile, a funny p…
How are you now? I'm about 10-12 months out from my breakup now. I don't 100% feel like dating so i'm not going to, I think I have a better understanding of that now. At about 6 months I really wanted…
What's the first thing you're asking each match (besides "how are you")?
How are you feeling about how the games night went? I think it's a little chicken and egg, they need time to get to know him, you need time to get through the nerves of introducing him etc...
I'm trying to get to that point faster and ask a girl out, but people take 24-36 hrs to reply to messages that leaves very little room to gauge anything about them. As a guy, I don't wanna be like: \*…
Exactly this, how are your married friends who know and care about you going to give you worse advice than strangers on the internet. Alot of people just want their problems to exist in an echo chamb…
Omg. This was a first. I was totally awestruck by someone that I couldn’t make good small talk. 😭😭😭 I stopped at the grocery after going to the gym. I was in the errand zone and not paying attenti…
first, 2 relationships in 3 years after a long marriage isnt low. second, how many women have you had dates with? are we talking about dozens? third, how are you meeting these women? all through OLD? …
The pattern lately has been more and more people cancel last minute, but the excuses are getting creative? It’s like how many times in your life do you genuinely have car trouble and can’t get somewhe…
How are you feeling? My friend had a concussion and it was a long road, but she recovered completely! End of my third trimester - I could only wear things that went over my head. Thank goodness it wa…
Well it would be based on location on you set in most apps, how are you getting to those locations?
I am so sorry to hear that your life fell apart last summer. How are you now? Have you managed to recover from it a little bit? Thank you for your support. In my case, due to health issues, I had t…
Since it goes both ways with you sometimes wanting a second date and them sometimes wanting a second date, it could be bad luck. How are you deciding who to ask out and who to say no to? Are you goin…
How are you meeting these people? If it's on the dating apps, just straight up tell them what they're up to the rest of the week and if they're free to grab a drink sometime.
How are you single if you’re not divorced?
How are you meeting people?