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Part of it is dating culture. I know asian women, at least many I encountered, want the guy to be proactive. That is, reaching out, schedule dates, saying "how are you" etc. If guy is not doing it the…

A complicated (online) friendship [vent?] — Hey everyone; I don't know if this fits here or relates too much to codependency, but I can try posting it and see what people's thoughts are. People usually talk about proper IRL relationships so per…

Ex-Wife Still Difficult Post Divorce — Hello Reddit! I divorced my ex-wife in 2024 after I caught her cheating. The divorce process with her was very difficult and she wanted to litigate everything in the courts, acted like a victim hersel…

How do I F21 fix my relationship with my F21 twin sister after her M22 fiancée SA’d me? — I don’t really know how to do this I apologize in advance. A bit of back ground. I am a F21. My twin sister obviously the same age. We both live with our parents. She has been seeing this guy M22 for …

it still feels like dying. — i didn't want to post here out of fear he'd see it. but what do i really have to lose at this point? he was my first love. my first boyfriend, my first time. the first person who showed me i was wort…

I'm a crappy friend, I'm not someone good to be in a relationship with. I want help — Hello, everyone. So, I realized basically that I'm a very bad friend and was a bad partner in my past relationship. I'll list my bad actions both in my relationship and friendship, cuz many of these s…

I still feel like I'm not allowed to have fun — Title. Usually I write long texts but I'm feeling so awful right now I can barely write.. I tried to play some video games for the past few days, but I only lasted 10 minutes before quitting. I tried…

Am I (20F) controlling for wanting my husband (21M) to cut out his only friend in town? — For some context, my husband and I got unexpectantly pregnant very young, and had our baby at 18. By the time our son was born, all of our friends had moved away for college or other ventures. The onl…

My bf (30M) lost everything and I (20F) is thinking about leaving him — It all started when he lost his job. He decided he wanted to live off of unemployment checks and not find another job for a year. Why? Because he believes in numerology and Chinese astrology. My Bf li…

My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…

Experienced a lot of stress, paranoia and anxiety in a brief period and now my head feels fuzzy — I'm sorry the title is so long. I had an episode the other day where I wasn't sure of something's safety and I was terrified that my negligence might have hurt someone. I needed a ton of reassurance f…

does anyone have dreams about their ex? — I just got broken up a few days ago, it's actually my first ever breakup, but I think I'm doing better than I thought I would be. I've been trying to distract myself with college, work, and playing ga…

My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…

I wish I hadn’t looked on his phone — I 30F have been with my 31M husband for 14 years, married 8yrs and have children. I want to preface I never go through his phone, or his socials/texts until today. My phone had died and because he was…

Cried after 5 questions tape? — i did the 5 questions tapes the day before, i had to abort in between multiple times throughout the day due to other causes. finally i was able to do it at night. but i was really tired and half aslee…

I don't know how I (18M) want to proceed with my relationship with my best friend (20F) — ​ **TL;DR: Over the course of this year, I have built the best friendship of my life. Now, I'm not sure whether to try to take it further or not.** First off, sorry for the wording of the tit…

Hi, this is my first time posting on Reddit. I’m 16F and I really need advice about my friendship. My best friend is 17F, and she recently got her first boyfriend, 17M… — Hi, this is my first time posting on Reddit, so I hope I can explain this clearly. I really need advice. Also, please keep in mind that English isn't my mother language, so please excuse any grammar m…

I (19F) hate playing games with my bf (21M) — We recently started playing it takes two which i heard tests many relationships and i feel as if mine is being tested too lol… we play a few chapters each day and every time we play it, it ends up wit…

Walked away from the girl I wanted to marry because of her sister’s interference and her playing games. Did I do the right thing? — It's late and my mind is just racing, so I could really use some outside perspective from people who have been through something similar. I'm in my early 20s, finishing up a tough STEM degree, and ju…

Day 8 of NC. I walked away from the girl I wanted to marry because of family interference and her playing games. The urge to break NC is killing me tonight. — I’m a little over a week into strict No Contact, and it's hitting me incredibly hard tonight. I’m posting this here because I'm genuinely struggling not to unblock her just to hear her voice, and I ne…

23M 21F does he like me or is he just using me for attention? — I have always had a crush on this guy I know, I’ve met basically all his family and am a close family friend. I’ve known him for just under 2 years and we would occasionally flirt on and off and I wou…

How do you know if someone is for you? — I (18F) have been in a relationship for almost a year with my first even bf (18M). He is pretty much my first everything but I don't know if he is my forever person. But I also have no idea how I'm su…

I (40f) am wondering if I cut off the guy (44m) I met too early. — I met this guy at the karaoke place I frequent. We have some stuff in common, for example kids, or the love for singing. He’s also quite attractive and successful. The third time we met I asked him b…

What to do now that I have reached a breaking point with my mom — I hope this isn’t super long but I made a prior post and was directed to this board and after reading a few posts I wanted to see what some of you did or what you would suggest doing.. idk where to st…

My dad is, something else — so quickly, my dad \[40\] is tall and big as me. he is an alcoholic and he Loves to be angry and cuss at us for no reason. i leave my closet open and suddenly im the biggest cunt and worst decision he…

ive become obsessed with my "ex" boyfriend — my ex (20m) and i (20f) were together for almost 2 years (and living together for about a year and a half), and broke up about a month ago. it was a mutual agreement due to both of us feeling like the…

Parent wants to kick me out for my disabilities — throwaway for anonymity, I’m 21F, i live with my mom and brother, we lived in this bought house for about 3 years now. I grew up in an abusive household, which i helped my mother escape the abuse of …

Who else feels like they constantly have to do something productive — I dont think im bored I think im under stimulated (I do have a psychologist and support workers this something ive only just realised till now im definitely bringing it up to my psychologist next app…

I ended a 9 year long friendship and now my friend group is gone. — Ending an almost lifelong friendship is undoubtedly worse than an intimate relationship. While I have never experienced true love, I have experienced for what I thought was true friendship. I don’t wa…

17, uncertain, confused, and feeling lonely — I'll start with this, i dont even know what my life will look like in a year from now. im about to graduate high school, and I have nothing planned. for my dream career, I'm waiting on a medical exam …

First lucid dream after years… Why did my dream control completely fail? My new method backfired — # Notice \----- This post might contain some sentence blobs that may be large for those people who just want to skim through, so I wrote a summarizing “**TL;DR**:” after every few sentences! Additi…

Drawing triggered a severe flashback — why? — Hi, I think I might have CPTSD, and I’m trying to understand something that recently happened to me. I’ve been relatively stable lately, so for the first time in years I tried drawing again. Suddenly…

I [26F] am struggling with my boyfriend [33M] lack of ambition. How do I handle this? — I \[26F\] am reaching my breaking point with my boyfriend \[33M\]. We’ve been together for over five years; we met at the same university during the pandemic and have been together ever since. For th…

My mom astral projected for the first time last night — She told me around 2 AM she went to go toilet, and was feeling very heavy, at first she thought she was ill. She heard my brother playing games talking loudly on call and told him to quiet it down as …

The Universe Is Playing GAMES With Me, has this happened to anyone else? — I'm actually still shaking a little bit since this literally just happened LMAO. For background, for the last two days I've been trying to live in the end regarding my SP that we're in a happy, health…

Need some advices — I’m a seafarer and i had a girlfriend for a year, we live in different provinces and it’s really far that i need to go on a ship and ride a bus just to get there. We met in tinder and honestly i was …

I want to know about my little brother studies and career , 11M — my little brother is 11 right now, but he doesn't study at all. he just focuses on playing games and is very addicted to phone. We are thinking of sending him to some academy for some sports. We are …

My (22M) wife (21F) asked for a divorce, then "apologized" once I went silent. I'm starting to realize the whole marriage was abusive — I’m struggling to process the last few days and could really use some perspective. My wife (21F) and I (22M) have been together for 3 years. She is currently in China and I am in New Zealand. A few da…

Pls help I am lost 23F 27M — I’ve been seeing this guy for a minute, and I genuinely thought things were going well, but now I’m really confused about what just happened, and I need an outside perspective. At first, everything f…

I don't think it's hate, it's just a 'ok that's done now' door close moved on. Heidi Priebe on YT (video: avoidant blindspot) talks about the idea in her videos about avoidant behavior of having the …

Tbh I look for someone who is able to understand my POV when I tell a story, means show empathy not dismissing/judging, someone who is able to reassure me when I have my doubts, someone who doesnt tre…

she seems like she’s playing games.

On our date I was getting the vibe she was nervous around me and our goals seemed to line up. Also not really threatened by the friend. It seemed like he has poor Soical skill I was more worried abou…

I’m giving her the benefit of doubt because I’ve jump to conclusions in the past, and the guy was some socially awkward tech nerd. I was more concerned about her playing games than the possibility she…

I definitely suffer from the two questions you asked. And yeah, I think I tend to ignore all the other obvious ways that points to a person caring about me and cherishing me in their life just becau…

I totally get what you mean, like when we’re anxiously attached, it often feels like our whole sense of self depends on the other person’s attention. Being aware of it is already a huge first step, …

I know deep down. Not talking for 6 days when we used to talk for hours every other day is wrong. I know her enought to say, she was doing to create more energy in the relationship. Playing games, pus…

am i strict? went on one date with a guy, enjoyed myself. some days later he mentioned going to dinner with "a friend". after that he made a joke about looking good for his date. i double checked by a…

Having a fourth date with someone tomorrow who is not playing games. He is consistent and eager to reserve the next date on the current date, which is rare honestly and makes me feel very secure. I di…

Is it okay if he doesn’t plan a Valentine’s date with me next week? We’ve been seeing each other for over a month now. We are not playing games but at the same time we are not rushing things. Maybe …

As an iPhone user, it sucks that certain features I’m used to, I can’t use with android users (and I’m sure there are features in android you can’t use with iPhones) which does hurt the flow of conver…

30+ years old is too old to be playing games like schoolchildren. I’d say stop engaging with anyone above that who behaves in such a way. Some things can be taught about you as a person but values sho…

I feel like in this context he lost his right to that preference by not asking you out or ending things. I highly dislike limbo. Personally, I’d go after a clear answer at this point because I hate pl…

Somebody pulled this on me many moons ago when I was about 20. I forgot my ring on his counter after washing my hands. He kept playing games when I tried coordinating to pick it up. So… I just showe…

To anyone who saw / commented on my last post on rants & raves re: mr star sign guy, I had to leave an event early last night because I was essentially third wheeling him and a mutual friend of ours h…

Sigh... I'm stupid. Delusional even. I guess with my 33rd birthday fast approaching, I'm naturally in a morose state thinking about my utter lack of success with romance. And somehow mulling about mis…

The reality is doing all of those things while they help, doesn't mean the women you meet will be into you. Basically where the same action you do is either sweet or creepy depending on how a woman p…

I can add some of my experience to this topic. I was love bombed and my narc ex took me to the shops to purchase my engagement ring. He paid for it $7000 and did a lot of research on diamonds. He was …

I guess I’m trying to understand how this is toxic or playing games? I am very new to dating so not entirely sure what I am doing but I thought dinner was a standard first date, even outside of apps?

I think it’s playing games when you engage in behaviour that’s meant to elicit a certain response in the other person, instead of simply communicating with them. Doing something just to gauge their re…

I lived that for 12 months. OMG fell for his fake charm, acting like a nice person until he wasn’t. He could only keep the mask on for so long and then was becoming irritated every time I could see so…

He could have had an adult conversation with her instead of playing games and testing her. He’s an adult.

3 months no contact I broke it yesterday and she called me asking me to go see her so I did. I pulled up to her pad and she got so mad because I was near her pad she wanted me to park far from her hou…

If he doesn't know by now that he wants to be with you he never will. He's just playing games and holding you hostage. Im an animal lover, I would never be with someone who wasn't. It just doesn't wor…

My husband and I each have our own office space. He spends most of his free time playing games and I spend most of mine crafting. We occasionally come by and say hi. But we don't spend huge amounts o…

My boyfriend tells me he loves it when I burst into silly songs that then get stuck in his head. He loves singing with me. He talks about how cute it is when I get hyperfixated building bases in sur…

Red flags need to be instant no’s. Lack of information on their profile shows they are low effort individuals. Generic countless travel photos show they have no real hobbies or interests and live the…

Show some actual interest. Flirt with me. Text with me. Call me. If you're silent you're either distracted or you're playing games / not interested in meeting me. I don't waste time on anyone who …

Honestly this feels like playing games, and that's exhausting after a breakup. If she's testing the waters, maybe just ask her directly what she wants instead of overanalyzing every text.

What’s your thought process while you wait for AP to start? I tried yesterday…For me it was like - Okay..I haven’t moved a muscle, oh I can’t twitch - let it be..it’s just my mind playing games to che…

I'm not gonna lie, and this is coming from someone who plays a lot of video games, I would never date a guy that plays online games that fall under the e-sport umbrella. Certainly not if its the only …

I get your point – but I think you’re missing something important. I was the one who got left. I didn’t want the breakup. And everything in me wanted to reach out, fix it, talk it through, not lose h…

Female dumper here. We were together for a little under a year, long distance. We were extremely close friends before we made things official. He was my person. I never had to worry about him cheati…

Guess we're in different circles, never met adults playing games and drinking. We just drink.

shes 28 playing truth or dare and "cant back out" ? theres this thing called boundaries thats an amazing thing to tell people when playing games like that. plus honestly a weird thing for her to get d…

Why do you keep blocking? That seems like a weird thing to do since you want to talk to them. I would take that as someone playing games with me

First up, I feel for your situation. It’s really hard to be on the receiving end of what he’s said to you. I’ve been in a similar situation and it SUCKS. I’m not an advocate of playing games, but I a…

>Now, she is playing games with delaying kid transfers, etc. Can you move exchange days to a school day? I.e. she drops, you pick up?

...I understand this feeling so well. Hate.Death.Reality.Worry. Welp,only thing that comforts me is when I'm playing games. That is the only thing that kept me from reporting my parents to the polic…

Yeah I was so surprised and happy when I went to friends houses and they were just like enjoying each others company. They wanted to include me in things. They did things just because it was fun like …

Thank you for the kind words and it’s so funny.. he’s talking about our tenth date and planning it and I’m nodding and smiling and thinking to myself we haven’t even reached our seventh date yet. But …

I liked him and I wanted to do it. It wasn’t part of a playbook. I wasn’t playing games. I wanted to see if we were sexually compatible and I was attracted to him.

If you consider that entities at higher forms of existence were playing games against each other, and reading the information in a human's mind that has become a game piece is trivial, it would seem l…

Early 30s. Far too old to be playing games in my opinion. She had actually been incredibly supportive and seemingly devoted up until this point so it was very much out of nowhere from my point of view…

Parenting is not a chore, its an act of love. He's acting like a teenager, who has been asked to stop playing games to look after a baby sibling. Counting hours is unfair to you, you shouldn't eve…

You expect the mistress to be honest when your own husband isn’t? She owes you nothing you are no-one to her and she has already shown she doesn’t care if your husband is married. Your husband never s…

Sorry for your suffering, sometimes things doesn't work because I feel we are trying to control, so the thing that got my attention was my thoughts is should start from small manifesting, like playing…

Exactly this. If he can stay engaged on a computer playing games all day, he can stay engaged on a computer working from home. Call center, data entry, fuck even going back to school for coding or s…