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Apparently, this was really not normal

Apparently, this was really not normal — Honestly, I didn't know. Getting knowledge about this makes me feel more disgusted about myself. I read somewhere that apparently, touching your kids genitals unnecessarily like tickle play on privat…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/12/2026
My (at the time 18F, now 20genderless) ex(at the time 19M) used me for sex and broke up with me years ago. I can’t seem to forget about it.

My (at the time 18F, now 20genderless) ex(at the time 19M) used me for sex and broke up with me years ago. I can’t seem to forget about it. — This was my first ever relationship, and far from his first. At the time I felt that the relationship was good and normal. He admitted he was using me for my body in the relationship and broke up with…

r/BreakUpspost4/1/2026
Date night clothes in your 40’s

Date night clothes in your 40’s — For the past 10 years I haven’t really been dressing especially sexy for anything - I was wearing a lot of business casual (Ann Taylor) and had a couple of casual dresses that were comfortable and ok …

r/datingoverfortypost4/12/2026
Here's to an emotionally secure 2026! 🥳🎈🎉😎 (open thread)

I’m new to Reddit but find it of good use to try and find answers to my problems. I’ve been in a LTR with a man but we’ve always had issues where he has said I’m narcissistic - I couldn’t understand w…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/12/2026
Weekly Post - ✨Wins and Successes ✨

Was a bit vulnerable again with my boyfriend, this time over text-- a bit risky because I know texting can be tricky for any insecure style-- and it went well (he was warm and concise, neither cold no…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment2/3/2026
42M. Do these things basically disqualify me entirely?

If the D good a lot of us women will look past more than a few of those easily. Good D? I'll gladly pick you up in my car. Good D hell yeah let's stay in a watch a movie. Good D? Doesn't get rejecte…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/8/2026
Be honest ladies, how much does being bald impact your interest in a man?

Zero. Bald men can be sexier than men with hair. Especially when men with hair do weird things with their hair. Beards and goatees really look good with bald too.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
Be honest ladies, how much does being bald impact your interest in a man?

There's almost nothing sexier than a freshly shaved, smooth head.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
Be honest ladies, how much does being bald impact your interest in a man?

My boyfriend has a beautiful bald head. We sometimes volunteer for medical trials in our community, so for example this month I am helping trial a vaccine for rhinovirus. He was just offered a trial…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
Sober dating question: does anyone else feel weird making a move if the other person has been drinking?

I think it’s probably a bad choice to put the moves on anyone who’s had more than a drink. I don’t know that I’ve always been strictly this mindful but I find it far more satisfying and hotter to pump…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
“Asian Men Only Like White Women” Is So Baffling to Me

I place black women pretty highly in terms of romantic and sexual partners. Those who know know. Also nothing is sexier than contrast.

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/14/2026
New Partner Has Never Used Condoms

Every girlfriend I have had was self conscious about oral for them. I told them there is nothing sexier than watching them writhe while I’m… I’d go into more detail but probably the wrong subreddit f…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/14/2026
why are they able to put in more effort with the affair partner than in their own relationship?

Yeah mine did things in the car in public and tried a bunch of different position and wore new sexier bras. Basically came to him when he snapped his fingers and gave it up multiple nights in a row wh…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/14/2026
Wife (26F) scheduled cosmetic procedures we agreed we wouldn’t do before marriage, using money from our joint account. I’m (28M) struggling with the trust breach.

It's a breach, yeah. Maybe instead of joint accounts you have yours and she has hers. If she's not making any because she's at home with baby then you give her x amount per month. Then you don't get a…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
my boyfriend always talks about my body as if he’s settling for it :( (20M 20F)

it's so incredibly depressing to see my small framed sisters being negged by their loser boyfriends :( as a diva on the smaller side myself, i've had boyfriends do the same thing. either very discre…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/18/2026
40M feeling stuck between self-improvement and loneliness — how do you actually find a partner at this stage?

Self-improvement should always come first. A woman can tell quickly if you are secure within yourself. It's ok to not be perfect but there's very little room for error in dating. Show up prepared, p…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/29/2026
Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing

Can you try a compromise? What about wearing slips/sexy night dresses to bed? Get ready for bed a bit earlier so that you spend your evenings around him wearing something sexier. Add a robe if you’re …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing

You keep asking for advice BUT not taking any of it and EVEN arguing about it. What’s the point? You’re 33 not 90. I’m 33 with a 19 month old and I’m almost 34 weeks pregnant. I AM A TIRED MOM, but …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing

What about sexier PJs and nighties? You call yourself a bigger woman in your comments, but clearly your husband loves your body as he wants to see more of it. I get wanting to be comfy while toddler …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing

You guys need to learn to compromise. Sure, you shot down literally every idea he's had, but could you not have found some clothes that fit more in line with what you wear? Shorts are out, but what ab…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Haven't been on a date in 15 years and I don't know what women my age wear on dates now

I wear my normal clothes. For a more casual date it might be thick leggings, a blouse and a jean jacket in the spring. Same kind of outfit moms wear or you could wear to a casual workplace. For a cute…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/30/2026
Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing

Are you sure they’re working? You honestly sound super dismissive and even disrespectful. The whole “now he has a Madonna complex” part is just so incredibly rude. Your husband loves you and wan…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 01, 2026

Something changed after 30, where investment became so much sexier than physical pursuit or love bombing or gifts. I met this amazing human last night, and she made me laugh and flattered me without…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/1/2026
My(20F) boyfriend(19M) says our sex is bad and has made me insecure beyond repair

I’m a trauma therapist with extensive training in abuse dynamics, and I’m going to be very direct: this is abuse. What you’re describing is sexual degradation and coercive control. He is targeting one…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
My (M33) wife (F28) cannot accept that I dated a, on what she calls a "low class" woman (F30).

Your wife is a snob who thinks your ex is prettier than her, sexier, or better than her in some way and feels insecure about that so she’s tearing her down in the cattiest way possible. Or she’s che…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
How do I (29m) Gently Convince my Girlfriend (29f) to stop Self Deprecating all the time?

Yea..none of these behaviors are healthy and it sounds like she’s okay with that. She’s not interested in addressing her problems. I get it, I think a majority of women have been insecure and self lo…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
28 F 38 M - Husband has asked me to stop taking my antidepressants. How do I do this safely?

It’s not the meds, it’s your life. Full time work, full time infant, I bet you do all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, and laundry alone. This is not a life that leaves room for sexual intimacy. The m…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/7/2026
Am I chopped?

You're not ugly and apparently I'm too nice so I guess what folks are saying and you could lose weight. Or....looks like you work in medical so I assume you don't have much free time but have you trie…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/8/2026
r/DecidingToBeBettercomment4/9/2026
Date night clothes in your 40’s

Original copy of post by u/No_Aioli_7515: For the past 10 years I haven’t really been dressing especially sexy for anything - I was wearing a lot of business casual (Ann Taylor) and had a couple of c…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/12/2026
Date night clothes in your 40’s

Sometimes I see the outfits people are wearing for dates in the fashion subreddits (usually younger people) and they are all WAY sexier than I feel comfortable wearing at all let alone for a first dat…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/12/2026