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I had a dream a week or so ago that an ex gf really wanted to talk to me but was afraid to reach out. When I woke up I just knew it was real. So I texted her and said I knew she wanted to talk to me,…
Manifesting New Skills and Knowledge with the Law of Belief– Is It Possible? — Hi everyone! I’m reaching out to this amazing community because I’m diving deep into the Law of Belief and want to explore how powerful it can truly be.🙏❤️ I keep wondering—can this law actually he…
Can Manifestation Really Help You Get Full Marks in an Exam If You Only Wrote Part of the Answer? — Hey everyone, I have a question that might sound a bit out there, but I’m curious to hear if anyone has had a similar experience. I recently took an exam where I only managed to write answers for ab…
Addressing Community Concerns: No Porn/Masturbation Addiction Posts and Self-Hate Posts + Revamped Subreddit Rules — Hello everyone. Over the past few months, I have noticed a significant number of you expressing dissatisfaction with the increasing frequency of posts related to NSFW/porn/masturbation addiction and …
How Can I Manifest Someone I Don’t Even Know? — Hey everyone, I need some advice. I recently saw a really handsome guy at my university fest, but he was an outsider. We didn’t talk, didn’t exchange contacts, and I have no idea where he came from o…
Webflow or Framer? — Which one do you personally prefer? And which one objectively has more potential in the long run/in which one can you do more than in the other right now? And how much steeper is the learning curve fo…
Feeling stuck between a promo and burnout - advice? — I'm approaching 5 years at my current company (2 years as junior, 3 as mid-level) and am submitting a promotion case for Senior. I won't hear back for a couple months - my director feels optimistic, b…
Need an advise for my website — Hi there, I need your help because I’m struggling to get a higher ranking on Google for my website. I’m a Psychologist and Psychotherapist, and I have been working in a small city near Milan, Italy.si…
Is it ok to use my main keyword in every headline of a blog post? — I know there is such a thing as keyword stuffing that can affect your SEO ranking, but why haven't I heard any accusatory harangue on every headline of a blog post as bad SEO practice? Does it make o…
From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…
Ranking with podcasts and YouTube embed? — I recently heard that although backlinks are important to rank your webpages on Google but you can escalate this process by embedding content assets to your webpage like a relevant YouTube video, or a…
Any suggestions on the most worth-it UX AI certifications or programs? — After years of holding off on this, I’m finally in a decent place to look into the AI side of UX and am looking for deeply insightful, and valuable AI certifications or other tools that is more practi…
Does cold email still works in 2025 ? — Hi there, I'm a beginner to freelancing, and I make landing page designs, currently I haven't landed any clients yet, I've tried cold DM for a while but got no results, that's why I thought to start m…
Ever felt like running a startup is just quantum chaos? “I will not promote” — I came across this weird little book that links quantum physics to startup life like, superposition being when your idea feels both genius and terrible until you actually launch it. Or entanglement be…
Devops not using Docker (or Podman), what does your stack look like? — Edit: I have nothing against containers, I'm looking for another containerization solution / ecosystem. I hate docker with all my soul. While writing it, I'm 100% aware that "hate" is a feeling and n…
I created this cool game in react. It's called MystiCrafter — I created this cool game using React. If you know alchemistry or ever heard of the term, then you would love it. It's essential a puzzle game about combining base elements to create new ones. The ga…
Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …
Spent 1 year solving a problem users “loved” but wouldn’t pay for: my learnings [I will not promote] — We are 2 years into building our SaaS, but spent 1 year building something people “loved”, “were excited about”... yet did not pay for. Since then, we have slightly pivoted and gained traction, but I …
Looking for Shopify Apps to Sell Products from Other Shopify Stores — Hi everyone! I'm looking to expand my Shopify store's product offerings by selling products from other Shopify stores. Ideally, I'd like to integrate their products into my store seamlessly, handle …
How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…
Anxious attachment spiraling? — Hi everyone :) (26F and 25M) I’m in a healthy relationship, we have our disagreements but overall we work things out. We’ve been together for about a year and 3 months. Lately, I’m feeling overwhel…
"I want you to make yourself welcome in my life and in my heart" — These were the words that had me crying like a baby. I realized I had never heard or felt it in my life from anyone before, not even my own family and especially not my own mom despite the love I know…
New relationship insecurities that mimic AP — The first 6 months or so in a relationship I feel like I'm an AP, sensitive to people not texting consistently or following through with planning meetups, primarily. Then I settle down, feel like I ca…
I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…
For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…
Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…
Avoidance seeking help: what if he’s not avoidant like me, but he actually just has a girlfriend he didn’t tell me about? — Been in contact with a guy for about 6 months now who has been pursuing me the entire time, subtly. When we first met, I had just broken up with my ex a couple of months prior to that (6-month long…
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…
contemplating root of avoidance — I have been considering why some of my relationships work while others make me disconnect. I think the root is a desire to feel deeply understood and seen. I recently had a connection with someone I…
A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…
Should I meet up with my ex? — Back in November 2024, I went on a couple of dates with a guy from my friend group, “Frank” (41M now). Looking back, it’s obvious to me that he was a rebound, but I genuinely didn’t realize it at the …
DA’s - Do You Know When You’re Deactivating? — When you’re deactivating, do you know that’s what’s happening? If you were unaware of your attachment style or attachment theory, would you still have a sense of what’s going on? Had some intimacy …
Saw the same man I've been seeing as a kid — I'm sorry about the use of A.I but my drawing skills are bad and I don't know how to explain this but I've seen this man in my dreams ever since I was a child. I remember seeing shows like Tom and Jer…
Feeling alone because my partner lives in his own Fantasy World — Recently I discovered I am a Codependent. I've been with my boyfriend for about six years, and he has this habit of always engaging and interacting by talking a lot about marvel or superpower fantas…
3 years in. Bro, it gets wild. — Okay, so a large part of this community seems to use SATS as a high-preparation, ritual method and yes it’s very powerful in that way. But you’re literally God. Why keep yourself so limited? Nevill…
It does get better (dumped by an avoidant) (personal advice that helped me) — Too anyone who deems themselves as a hopeless romantic, anxiously attached, etc, this may relate to you. After three months of what I thought was the worst time of my life, it truly gets better. T…
I’m 20 and my mom still asks for my phone and laptop every night or there's consequences — I'm 20 (F) and turning 21 in a few months. My mom recently started asking me to surrender my laptop and phone again. "Again" because she did this to me as well when I was 13-18 years old. Before, she…
I astral projected last night.. — I astral projected last night... What was your first experience? Here's mine: We arrived in Tunisia yesterday, had some sleep, woke up, yawned, and my nose started bleeding, only mentioning this bec…
My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …
Did your Narcissist gift you a " Trash " gift? — My Nmom would gift me the most ugliest things to wear just to make me look bad in front of other people, to the point where I wore something she gave me and I would find out I was being laughed at by …
What is even going on? — I (45f) have been single and dating for a a little over a year now, and there have been some frustrating patterns emerge that I just can’t make sense of. So I’m curious if anyone else out there has. A…
My (28f) boyfriend (37m) drinks to excess nearly every weekend, am I selfish for wanting it to stop? — Throwaway account. Please tell me if I am crazy for feeling this way. My boyfriend (37m) and I (28f) have what I consider to be a generally good relationship. We’ve had some issues in the past that we…
42M. Do these things basically disqualify me entirely? — I'm 42, Male, home owner almost half way paying off the mortgage, university post-graduate education, full time job in retail middle management that I actually enjoy doing, a bunch of mostly solitary …
“You must respect your mom, she’s your mom.” — How many times have I heard this lecture? People who have normal families have absolutely zero clue what they are talking about. When people see a situation or even read a situation they can’t tolera…
Am I meditating improperly? — So I've heard from Dr. K of HealthyGamerGG that when your attention wanders from your meditation and you bring it back, that's like doing a pushup for your mind/brain. But only very few times have I d…
How to Meditate (or at least one way to get started) — Intro: There are endless amount of intentions or, in other words, ways to focus your meditation practice. At the end of the day, your meditation practice is \*yours\*, so make it your own. This post …
Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…
Just let go — Hey long time lurker here, just wanted to contribute my own success story that I’d previously shared in a Neville community. This happened some time ago and whenever I doubt my power (which sadly ha…
I was able to communicate with someone….. — I don’t know if this the correct sub… let me know I’ll explain my situation hoping some one can orient me : A few days ago, I had a weird dream/astral projection experience—I don’t even know how to …
Top 1% Sleep Paralysis Sufferer – Just had a wild 'Inception' loop — I get sleep paralysis a lot, but I just had my first "dream-within-a-dream" (False Awakening) loop. I was falling asleep while masturbating and a 'demon' attacked, forcing me back to sleep. Then whil…
Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…
Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…
I smoke cannabis frequently and have heard about a rem sleep rebound when people stop smoking .I was wondering if I stop for about a month and have this rem rebound where I have more dreams then usual…
>“A good start”, LOL. ​ Ah. A chortle. Clearly, not much money in your bank. Must be because you know the law. lol ​ >I’m not reading POSM anytime soon. I already have a formula that…
Physically present but (often) emotionally unavailable describes my parents pretty accurately along with, I'm sure, most if not all of the parents of people reading this sub. I once heard Gabor Mate m…
I’ve been practicing crystal medication and spiritual healing before I go to bed and last night while I was sleeping, I felt an intense vibrating feeling/ringing in my head and throughout my body. The…
I've not heard of anything like that before! But if the pain is actually phantom than physical, then perhaps read this article: http://obeoutlook.blogspot.com/2017/10/the-guardian-on-threshold.html?m=…
The most interesting thing I’ve ever heard is that the only people who ever get demon possessed are Christians. I think that tells you everything you need to know about demon possession
Anytime I've been lucid dreaming or maybe even unconsciously astral projecting I've had a recurring dream that I'm being chased by someone who I think wants to hurt me. I just heard an AP podcast talk…
I have got to that level many times and I have heard myself snore whilst I am wide awake this is not astral projection but a projection of the immortal spirit and it is this part of us that survives …
I want to Ap but as a kid I watched a lot of sci fi demonic movies and my mom would study Wiccan culture so I’m like ehhhhh what’s going to happen to me will I get stuck there will something else tak…
U heard it here first folks.
In my experience, No Contact is for you first and foremost as a human being to heal and be a better version of you. If (and I mean IF) your ex contacts you, consider it icing on the cake. And hearing …
So I heard a voice say "hi" when I tried APing...
I've asked two different entities, and they gave me partly conflicting answers. The self-proclaimed deity said most humans and all animals go to an enormous astral...warehouse waiting room thingy. Th…
Thanks! never heard of etheric projection I will look it up.
Quick qustion last night i was kinda in the weird state of hallucnation not sleep parlyisis but after that i somwhat woke and i thing it was sleep parlyisis but then i heard somthing say you were alwa…
if you can AP iv heard of a few thing you can do to verify if parts of your experiences are real. like leaving a card in your window seal without looking at it and verify it in AP. Mostly you need to …
well the origine of our body parts , or people who look exactly like we do originate elsewhere in the lyra constellation , not earth , the lyra constellation is our true home and has planets with …
There is victim blaming and then there's some attention whore showing up to make sure actual victims voices are never heard. You can easily tell the difference and most subs are filled with them pushi…
It’s 1 month to a year since we broke up and I’ve never heard a word from her except 4 months into the no contact where she asked me to take her off the lease… I’m still struggling everyday and miss h…
Ever heard of Lourdes ,the famous shrine in France? They have recorded miracle healings which are unexplainable by modern science and should be for all intents and purposes impossible . Every tim…
I can lucid dream and I do sleep paralysis which can be very scary. Being thrown against walls etc. always a dark swirling cloud and a deep vibrational mode.. I just took it as ptsd as stated. Until…
I read this post as I was at lunch, I was sitting and thinking about a new scene for a mission I will do - and it involves a big airballoon. Out of nowhere this college walks in and says ”have u guys …
1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…
You’re telling me you haven’t heard “what you focus on expands” word for word? Because I have… I clearly know how to read. Do you?
You’re the only one I ever see mentioning coffee 😂I get you’re trying to be cute but I haven’t heard it once. I’m asking about *you*. Not anything thing in any sub. There are dozens of success storie…
I am in a similar position to you OP. I've been seeing my fiancée for over 2 years. We live separately due to circumstances at her end, and we see each other roughly once a week, usually at weekends…
Are you saying that’s what people tell DAs? I don’t think I’ve heard that at them, but I’ve heard that from them.
I cried when I first time heard Cognitive Dissonance by Sophie Holohan, I am FA but lean avoidant "Get too close, build a wall Miss a friend, never call".
Worst thing I heard my FA say was their excuses for the silent treatment and stonewalling. "Can't you just enjoy the silence for once?!" Trying to make toxic behaviors a positive is a red flag for me …
I know this is difficult to do, but my advice, as an anxious who's moving towards secure, would be to stop texting and calling. It's only been a few days and you know that he was having phone problems…
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to [psychotherapy](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy) that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each pers…
I think the attachment styles in place work well. I know it was studied exhaustively on thousands of children in the 70s/80s/90s and had there been more definitive styles we would have caught them bac…
Everything. They are some of the most sensitive people on the planet. I heard a psychologist say that when you feel numb it's not actually a lack of feeling, it's too many feelings at once that you ca…
My ex was/is exactly like this. Had mutual friends telling me he either didn’t talk about it or would say “I don’t give a F about her.” But during this time he was also drinking very heavily. I heard…
The crushes you have with people in your everyday life sounds like limerence to me. Have you heard of this before?
No. Never heard of it. Accelerate is the devops handbook, or the fictional the Phoenix project
This is a new one I haven’t heard. Probably hurts knowing most apps are just CRUD apps and most of the stuff people work on are non-critical too? Why does ownership even matter if it isn’t your com…
When the price moves from a published and reasonable price to "Contact us" followed by "Let's setup a meeting"... That's when I know it'll be a waste of time... I need to gather all my people, to a …
I haven’t heard a single word about automating SSL replacement, so whatever you think it is, add another 35% of tech debt to your list. Honestly you are getting into territory where operations may ove…
Hey, [OpsLevel](https://www.opslevel.com) CTO here. We have a ton of respect for what the Backstage community has accomplished. It's impressive how they've expanded the IDP space and created a vibra…
Great observation. Ever since I've had a situationship with an avoidant, I came to notice this a lot in songs. I've heard them written seemingly from the perspective of each side... more commonly anx…
There's one song that the first time I heard it I thought it was written by a DA: Born with a broken heart by Damiano David
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to [psychotherapy](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy) that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each pers…
The best insecure attachment-based advice I've ever read was: do the exact opposite of what your scared inner child is telling you. If you feel like AH I have to break up - don't. Thinking I can't…
Thanks...yes it's not easy. It's a shame that nobody has even heard of attachment styles until they are in a mess...
I hear you and I can see that your comment is grounded in past experiences. Fair enough. The only reason I chose to pursue this was because I had new found knowledge. This was the first time I've date…
This is best description that I've heard, just amazing. My partner (now probably ex, as he decided we'll "take a pause" - of course without saying for how long or what does it mean) accused me of "not…
I'm a dismissive avoidant. I've never broken off a long-term relationship. And being alone is not challenging in the slightest. This isn't a universal DA thing I don't think. APs and FAs rebound faste…
Look up descriptions of secure behaviour and secure relationships. Do you have examples of secure dynamics in your life at all, even with friends or family? Use those instances as reference points for…