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Why don’t I relate to my sun sign (Aries) at all?

The chart literally points at a hint. Both main generational planets in the same sign lock in the "male part" - whatever that means for you - in Taurus. Pluto and Chiron in Saggitarius look like the…

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/31/2026
Question about Negative Statements "don't, not etc" and mild contradictions in POSM

Question about Negative Statements "don't, not etc" and mild contradictions in POSM — In the book Power of the Subconscious Mind the Doctor says that the subconscious mind does not understand/register negative statements. However later in the book he mentions examples of negative auto …

r/JosephMurphypost10/31/2024
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading

Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…

r/JosephMurphypost12/31/2024
How to heal avoidant attachment?

How to heal avoidant attachment? — Uhhhh hey gang. Formerly severe fearful avoidant here. The attachment quizzes put everyone somewhere on a quadrant, with the bottom being high avoidance and the right high anxiety. So I was farrrr in …

r/attachment_theorypost3/21/2025
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided

I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…

r/attachment_theorypost4/20/2025
Helping my partner

Helping my partner — I (40f) looove my partner (36m). We've been together almost 9 months. When he isn't triggered, he presents as very secure. Loving, consistent, communicative, vulnerable, empathetic, self-reflective. …

r/attachment_theorypost4/25/2025
Re: multi-page forms (like intake, application forms, etc.). Designed to collect PII (personal identifying information) before showing later pages of the application/form. The website has no preview pdf of the entire application. Any way for site visitors to preview page 2, etc. without giving PII?

Re: multi-page forms (like intake, application forms, etc.). Designed to collect PII (personal identifying information) before showing later pages of the application/form. The website has no preview pdf of the entire application. Any way for site visitors to preview page 2, etc. without giving PII? — Any known workarounds? Any known hacks or online tools to preview the entire form without creating an account using PII ?

r/web_designpost4/25/2025
Need an advise for my website

Need an advise for my website — Hi there, I need your help because I’m struggling to get a higher ranking on Google for my website. I’m a Psychologist and Psychotherapist, and I have been working in a small city near Milan, Italy.si…

r/SEOpost5/1/2025
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying?

Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying?

Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…

r/SEOpost5/2/2025
Changing or staying? Product Designer

Changing or staying? Product Designer — Hello. I’ve barely been a junior product designer for a year before I was laid off and threatened by AI. Same telltale as everyone in design/IT industries. I’ve been unemployed for 2 months now, and …

r/UXDesignpost5/2/2025
We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms

We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms — We just published a public glossary with **500+ terms** related to incident response, on-call, alerting, SLOs, postmortems, and more. I think this is perhaps the internet's largest glossary for incide…

r/DevOpspost5/2/2025
Should I redirect the sales?

Should I redirect the sales? — This is not a rant/rave about my e-commerce journey as I expected a lot of turmoil and for e-commerce to not be all it was cracked up to be. This is actually witnessed by the shhear number of people …

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
Unsecured Capital Raise "i will not promote"

Unsecured Capital Raise "i will not promote" — Hello, first-time poster looking for creative fundraising recommendations. I’m working to open a recreation + F&B "eatertainment" facility inside a large leased space. I anticipate traditional invest…

r/startupspost5/4/2025
Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything)

Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything) — I've built a directory listing website and I'm using WP All Import plugin to pull in data from a spreadsheet (which consists of scraped business info from their Google Maps / GBP listings). Being tha…

r/SEOpost5/4/2025
Marketing for startups (I will not promote)

Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure.  I have been involved in th…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
[Terraform vs. Bicep] — Is Terraform Still a Safe Bet Post-IBM?

[Terraform vs. Bicep] — Is Terraform Still a Safe Bet Post-IBM? — **TL;DR:** We're 99% Azure and choosing between Bicep and Terraform for IaC. Bicep fits the stack, but Terraform offers flexibility (especially if we acquire orgs using AWS). With IBM buying HashiCorp…

r/DevOpspost5/5/2025
My experience winning a chargeback

My experience winning a chargeback — Sharing my experience winning a chargeback recently. We specialize in gaming collectibles, and our store has been running online for 3ish years. We have had 2 chargebacks in that timeframe, and won bo…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
Duplicate Websites: One Ranks, One Tanks

Duplicate Websites: One Ranks, One Tanks — I own two small‑town dental practices and spun up two nearly identical websites for them. Same structure, images, and copy, just different color schemes and logos. The site for Practice A ranks nicely…

r/SEOpost5/5/2025
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

r/ecommercepost5/5/2025
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences?

Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences? — I haven’t been to many design-related conferences throughout my career, but I decided to give a CoCreate Conference a shot. I won’t go into the event organization here – just the speakers. From what I…

r/UXDesignpost5/5/2025
What questions to ask web developers before signing the contract with them.

What questions to ask web developers before signing the contract with them. — I’m talking to few developers to create a non-ecommerce website for me. I need some basic features like live chat, calendar for appts, contact forms, WhatsApp integration. Most of them are including 1…

r/webdevpost5/5/2025
POYLANG FREETitle: – Any Downsides I Should Be Aware Of?

POYLANG FREETitle: – Any Downsides I Should Be Aware Of? — Hi everyone, I'm new to WordPress and have just launched a website that I’d like to make bilingual. Here’s what I need: * Only **some** of the pages/services need to be translated; * A **blog** with…

r/Wordpresspost5/6/2025
What to do with LLMs taking over? I'm LOST.

What to do with LLMs taking over? I'm LOST. — So we are in the era of AI and LLM, I got it. I've invested 20 years of my life into coding and information technology. (I've got a degree and such, I even have a personal blog with programming stuff…

r/webdevpost5/6/2025
Freemium from day one, free trial, or free for first N users?

Freemium from day one, free trial, or free for first N users? — Hi all, I am building a productivity app where you can track anything from habits (e.g. Meditate on frequency basis) to events (e.g. Social Dance/Clubbing) to build routines and track what matters to…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
Tech Startup advice required - Hire or equity offer (I will not promote)

Tech Startup advice required - Hire or equity offer (I will not promote) — I’m a serial entrepreneur—what some might call "very successful,” though success is relative and I just did okay. Over the past 25 years, I’ve had some brilliant tech ideas and a brain wired for archi…

r/startupspost5/6/2025
Anyone here navigating entrepreneurship with ADHD? How do you manage focus, procrastination, and distractions?

Anyone here navigating entrepreneurship with ADHD? How do you manage focus, procrastination, and distractions? — Hey everyone, I wanted to reach out to the community to see how many of you might relate. I've been wondering lately if I might have ADHD — I haven’t been officially diagnosed, but I know a lot of pe…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
Considering a move from big tech to a small company. Worth the risk?

Considering a move from big tech to a small company. Worth the risk? — I know this sub leans junior, but hoping to get some advice from senior folks. Especially people in Bay Area, NYC, or Seattle-type tech scenes. Tagging this as Job Search and not Senior Only because I…

r/UXDesignpost5/6/2025
Aspiring Dance Studio Owner - First Steps?

Aspiring Dance Studio Owner - First Steps? — ~ TL;DR: Aspiring dance studio owner (currently in school). Active in the dance community and planning ahead. Looking for first-step advice, financial tips, and mindset guidance from other small busi…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
Seeking WordPress Booking Plugin with Stripe Integration for Card Authorization Without Immediate Charge (no-show fee)

Seeking WordPress Booking Plugin with Stripe Integration for Card Authorization Without Immediate Charge (no-show fee) — **TL;DR:** *Need a WordPress booking plugin that works with Stripe to: require credit card at booking, do €0 authorization, allow in-person payment, and charge 10% no-show fee later.* I'm currently…

r/Wordpresspost5/6/2025
What made you hate component libraries?

What made you hate component libraries? — Component libraries make life a lot easier, cause I don't need to spend 6 hours trying to figure out why my dropdown menu won't align to the middle by 3 and half pixels. However, as time goes on you …

r/webdevpost5/6/2025
A Modest Proposal — A Manifesto for Metrics-First Everything

A Modest Proposal — A Manifesto for Metrics-First Everything — Picture it: Q1 FY 2025. A Medicaid patient opens an app to request mental health services. The screen is sleek—gradient buttons, playful microinteractions, and conversion-optimized flows. A calm anima…

r/UXDesignpost5/7/2025
Rate limit when trying to log in to WP Engine

Rate limit when trying to log in to WP Engine — Hello everyone. I need to access to WP Engine to restart the plugins installed in a project. The administrators of the page gave me a link to create a password for my user and i loged in using my mobi…

r/Wordpresspost5/7/2025
Time Tracking App for Productivity Freaks (web app, mobile / desktop)

Time Tracking App for Productivity Freaks (web app, mobile / desktop) — Hi guys, first time posting in this sub! and first time finally getting a project to a point where I think other people can use it. (Usually I'll build, then half way through just stop) .. I'm callin…

r/webdevpost5/7/2025
Bouncing around a new business idea

Bouncing around a new business idea — Hello everyone. I have an idea to purchase a commercial property in my town (old government building) and outfit it to be mainly a golf simulator business with multiple bays including small kitchen an…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!)

Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
[Product Survey] Help us understand your auth/DB platform choices (Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, and more)

[Product Survey] Help us understand your auth/DB platform choices (Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, and more) — Hi everyone! 👋 I’m a Product Manager working with a developer friend on a new backend-as-a-service solution, and we’d love your feedback. Whether you’ve used Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, Authn …

r/webdevpost5/7/2025
I have the safety net, I need the ladder

I have the safety net, I need the ladder — I have a full time job and make $160k a year, but I want some time freedom back and I’m ready to build and grow something. I have a safety net and I want to jump into something as profitable and pa…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
CKA? Or EKS project?

CKA? Or EKS project? — Here's a bit of context as to why I feel like I need to get out of dodge ASAP... IT Management: "We need **more automation**! Nobody should be using User Data scripts." Me: \*Writes several Ansible…

r/DevOpspost5/7/2025
My impressions of Lovable 2.0

My impressions of Lovable 2.0 — # My impressions of Lovable 2.0 with key features and upgrades I always had mixed feelings about Lovable. But given the amount of attention Lovable 2.0 has received over the past few weeks, I decided…

r/UXDesignpost5/7/2025
Should I starting selling products? I'm working at a temp job soon to be over or wait till I find a ft job?

Should I starting selling products? I'm working at a temp job soon to be over or wait till I find a ft job? — Hi everyone. I have an llc for my small online business. I want to sell digital products on etsy. However, I'm currently working at a temp job which work is becoming much slower. Although, my end dat…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation?

How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…

r/JosephMurphypost5/12/2025
Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over

Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over — Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I’m writing because I’ve exhausted every other option. And I am FUCKING DONE WITH IT. I hope some of you will see this and help me to hold that person accou…

r/JosephMurphypost6/22/2025
Think I found a secure woman, and almost immediately self-sabotaged.

Think I found a secure woman, and almost immediately self-sabotaged. — In my social club, there’s a woman who had consistently shown signs that she was into me. I was direct and asked her out. She said she was interested but couldn’t date for a few months because her j…

r/attachment_theorypost7/1/2025
FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later

FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later — I had posted in this group at the time when things between me and this guy who I really really care about sort of deteriorated. After that post he did come back and tried for about a week to reconnect…

r/attachment_theorypost7/1/2025
Would this mistake keep me from manifesting

Would this mistake keep me from manifesting — I am on a task towards manifesting my sp. I am successfully able to go in the alpha state by sh. But during my scene I have a am able to focus on a part of actions like holding hand with it being ver…

r/JosephMurphypost7/25/2025
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back

This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…

r/attachment_theorypost8/9/2025
Struggling after “healing” is challenged

Struggling after “healing” is challenged — I’m a late 20s AA, I have put a ton of work into myself over the years to become secure (as secure as I can be at least). Recently I was seeing a guy, likely DA, who needed some space and we agreed …

r/attachment_theorypost8/24/2025
Seeking self-closure

Seeking self-closure — To give a brief overview. Had a multi year situationship with someone I had fallen for, a fearful avoidant. Much pulling and pushing until it ended by her pushing everything away. A year later she st…

r/attachment_theorypost8/25/2025
The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment.

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

r/attachment_theorypost9/6/2025
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

This will definitely help. I'd recommend the FILD method, it's pretty much the first (relatively) consistent method I've tried. Just remember that you can only do this after either waking up at a cert…

r/LucidDreamingcomment10/1/2017
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

My big problem with WILD 1- i do WBTB 2-i stay up for 30 minuites 3-i lay on my side and relax saying my head "i am lucid dreaming " 4-i get the visuals , soon they evolve into visual , tactile and a…

r/LucidDreamingcomment1/21/2018
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…

r/LucidDreamingcomment1/23/2018
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Useful categories are: People, Places, Objects, Feelings, Colors. Haven't used it in a while but dream journal apps like [Dreamboard](https://dreamboard.com/) let you input those separately so you ca…

r/LucidDreamingcomment2/24/2018
If you are new here..

Agreed. I just checked out this sub because I was interested, but the putting down of Neville has turned me off. Studying and implementing Nevilles teachings for the past few years has made me a new w…

r/JosephMurphycomment5/22/2020
If you are new here..

>Who do you think you are? Neville's method are the best! Joseph murphy's techniques were also good but required lot of work , but neville just said you to imagine and later in his lectures he did sai…

r/JosephMurphycomment8/6/2020
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…

r/LucidDreamingcomment11/4/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I’m new to this forum. I want to ask you guys something. I’m embarrassed plus I don’t know who else to ask. I started seeing a reiki therapist/psychic about 2 years ago. When I first met her I felt I …

r/AstralProjectioncomment11/19/2021
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

"Your silence will eat them up." I hope that's true. I know her crazy family talked her into leaving. She came over, we went to dinner, said she wanted to break up. Go to my place and hook up twice …

r/ExNoContactcomment3/31/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Oh dude last year I split up with a man and I was DEVASTATED. Like, thought I’d never meet anyone like him again, tried everything I could to get him back, and then finally went no contact with the in…

r/ExNoContactcomment5/18/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

I agree. After she left, I worked on myself and when I did go back to her 6 months later, it was like meeting a new person. We're getting married soon. But I did have to work on myself. I can't lie, I…

r/ExNoContactcomment5/21/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Firstly congrats dude, that's awesome news. And secondly, sounds like both of you realized you had to do that deep work, and both were open AND available 6 months later... All these things have to ali…

r/ExNoContactcomment7/27/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

I'm beginning to realize this is the only healthy option, at least the only one I can see. I still love her 3 months later and I believe we could have worked it out. I broke down and sent her pages o…

r/ExNoContactcomment8/7/2022
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Hey is there a better way to journal? I’m in 8th grade and on schooldays I get up and IMMEDIATEly turn the shower on. So maybe keep a journal in my bed so I wake up and write a short jist, so later I …

r/LucidDreamingcomment10/17/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Another update: My ex did want me back, but I rejected it since I know she doesn't want to work yet on her issues, which meant that we're only going to go back to the same situation as we were before.…

r/ExNoContactcomment10/23/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Yeah it's not great. I did get an apology a few months later. I still don't accept it. I think the worst part is about a year ago we were still chatting and said how we still missed each other.

r/ExNoContactcomment1/6/2023
r/LucidDreamingcomment1/12/2023
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

It depends what you mean. Some people try to wake up intentionally and have a hard time, which isn’t related to how real a dream seems. But you are going to wake up sooner or later, you can’t get st…

r/LucidDreamingcomment1/19/2023
r/LucidDreamingcomment1/25/2023
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Happened to me yesterday that’s why I’m here . First it felt like my feet were levitating off the bed a bit then 20 seconds or so later it felt like I was being pulled quickly off the bed . Didn’t fe…

r/AstralProjectioncomment2/3/2023
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Same. I hung in there , at first thinking no matter what she does. Im more wise , I see her flaws, i will help her change. Me the man she “use” to say i was. She=“never give up on me”. Me-“never”. 4 w…

r/ExNoContactcomment3/19/2023
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

After she left you, did you at any point of time try to contact her?? You said that you went back 6 months later. How is that different from "hoovering"?? How did she know that you were being sincere?

r/ExNoContactcomment9/18/2023
r/LucidDreamingcomment3/25/2024
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Try therapy. Just remember that therapy can take a long time and be expensive.  If you haven't already in the meantime, try looking for parenting classes.  Or try parenting forums, if a specific p…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/8/2024
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means)

I've seen the opposite. I've seen people encourage illegal acts. It was a recent post about a PS5. The girlfriend bought their boyfriend a PS5 for his birthday and like a week later he said he wants …

r/relationship_advicecomment9/3/2024
Do things you want always have to be created in the mind first, or can you manifest things you want in a more generic way?

You need to be specific to what you want we all want lots of money but nobody knows how much ‘lots’ is, write it down what type of car you want what color, leather interior or cloth? What make and mod…

r/JosephMurphycomment10/9/2024
Question about Negative Statements "don't, not etc" and mild contradictions in POSM

It's because it's not about those details but about immersion into the scenario. Someone can have a mental argument in there without seeing other people. They followed the argument because of the imme…

r/JosephMurphycomment11/11/2024
Can Manifestation Really Help You Get Full Marks in an Exam If You Only Wrote Part of the Answer?

Let me tell you about the first experience I had with the LOB. Back then I only knew about Neville and read a few lectures here and there. In my 2nd year of University, in one of my exams, I did not …

r/JosephMurphycomment11/14/2024
Type 1 Diabetes

To see noticeable changes, it took about 3 weeks. Mind you I was 13 at the time and not particularly motivated. I used a self hypnosis YouTube video (not necessary as I now know), which I only realize…

r/JosephMurphycomment11/19/2024
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

36 days later from my last comment: I still think about her but the feelings aren’t as intense. This marks month 3. 3 months now and it gets better. You just need to keep yourself busy with POSITIVITY…

r/ExNoContactcomment1/19/2025
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

People have many many proofs for themselves. If I’m gonna share my proofs to you, would you believe? Try to properly reprogram your subconscious, and see what happens. It literally does not know how n…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/22/2025
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

Anecdotally, I am good at getting admitted to all-funded conferences, I used to say it’s just because I believe in it. Later on, I realized it turned into a pattern as I was lucky for getting into the…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
My arguments against manifestation

I had a quick glance at this on my break and will chip in more later, just by point 1 alone I see you haven’t grasped it, feeling is the secret indeed. But the feeling isn’t emotions. 2 That knowing…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
My arguments against manifestation

Love these arguments. Point 1: There is a difference between hypnosis (true authentic feelings of experience of here and now of the desired outcome) and daydreaming. When you give your mind and your…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
My arguments against manifestation

1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
My arguments against manifestation

1. That doesnt disprove anything. It just means it may be more difficult. That's like saying mindfulness doesn't work because some people have ADHD.  2. Decent point but keep in mind some scientist …

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
A reminder to think about what you’re posting.

I say just get used to it. This is a breakup subreddit and in the early stages of grief it’s pretty much impossible to not ask those questions. I do believe no contact is a boundary that cannot be era…

r/ExNoContactcomment1/24/2025
My arguments against manifestation

This has happened on two occasions now, where I would get premonitions of locations and I was in the setting. I remember in this quick premonition I saw red and green. Months later I realise the locat…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/26/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

FA leaning more towards DA here, when I’m dating and we spend a lot of time together or talk/text a bunch I typically take time to myself after. It can be pretty overwhelming “dealing” w my partners i…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/19/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

This explains how I let things get so out of control with avoidant types as I’m an introvert and quite secure independent and confident but after a year I started feeling like the relationship wasn’t …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/19/2025
How to heal avoidant attachment?

Therapist will navigate with you your core wounds which will help you to identify your fears and patterns, learn healthy boundaries, learn about attachment in deeper and learn more about yourself, wor…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/22/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

Sounds pretty avoidant. That sucks - I’m sorry. Does she actually understand how important this is to you? If so, I might try having the conversation one more time, being clear that it’s a dealbreaker…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/22/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

No, the people in relationships with DAs. People with a DA don't realise they are with one until later on in the honeymoon period. It's not always about value.

r/attachment_theorycomment3/24/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

This is the one. I'd also add that attachment doesn't just stop at partners — it's also at play at work, friendships, family relationships/siblings, and even children. It's really fucking hard to be …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/24/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

It's not. It's actually preventing them from reaching a point they can tolerate intimacy. The more they run, the more their brain rewires (via Hebbian learning) and becomes more efficient at switchi…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/30/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

'Anxious attachment people can and often do cross boundaries to soothe their anxiety, disregarding their partners very real very understandable need for personal space (regardless of if they are avoid…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/31/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

I never said they tried, but who wants to find out that someone else emotional regulation depends on your constant presence. Again I’m talking about anxious attachment because secure people are secu…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/31/2025
The "and" theory...

One of the most powerful things the "and" theory / method does, it stop you from suppressing negative emotions. Feel them. Say them. Write them down. Your brain is programmed to remember the good tim…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise.  I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/23/2025
Haha being an FA is fucking weird

honestly, it's pretty situational and depends on the person and the relationship, but in general with interpersonal stuff that i have dobuts over, i try to not take any action immediately and instead …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/24/2025