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Anyone else vividly remember what it was like to be a child and get sad about how people casually treat children as less than? — I'm going to try to word this in a way that makes the most sense: I have never forgotten what it felt like to be a child, though I feel like everyone around me *has* forgotten. Some examples include: …
I’m 20 and my mom still asks for my phone and laptop every night or there's consequences — I'm 20 (F) and turning 21 in a few months. My mom recently started asking me to surrender my laptop and phone again. "Again" because she did this to me as well when I was 13-18 years old. Before, she…
I feel it is very hard to make "permanent" progress, like this is a mind virus that keeps coming back — I'm 39M. I met my partner when I was 36. Dated for 2 years, now we have lived together for 1 year. I've made progress over these 3 years but I feel like it's very easy to "reset" and get back down int…
I think I have to leave this sub — Sigh I love seeing all the posts the questions and the answers. However lol I am over 40 I am 53 I think my experience is different. I married my wife in 1995 she passed away from cancer in 2023. Even…
Is it ok to seek validation/support here...? — I am a mid 40s woman that historically had always wanted to have a biological child. In recent years I did a lot of work/therapy to let go of that as I was single for years and getting older, and I be…
My parents are shaming for not having a career at 25. And want me to get married instead. — F 2000 born. I completed my Master’s in 2024, and since then I have been at home unemployed. I will be honest, I was not serious during this time. I was very laid back, did not prepare well for jobs, …
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M. — The guy I’ve been dating just broke things off saying that he doesn’t see me being the one for him long term. One of the big reasons being because I have nipple piercings. I’m 31 years old and he told…
Can't i just be immortal — like I am a frequent lucid dreamer and never shifted, but randomly this thought came to my mind for eg if shift to a reality then i life like till 80 years and then when I feel like I am too old i jus…
HELP ME UNDERSTAND — Hi everyone, I've been reading a lot about the subject and i'm also in therapy since 3 months. I'm already non in the relationship with this woman but i sort of need to make clarity and hear other…
I have really horrible vindictive thoughts which I sometimes act on, and I don't know how to stop — I'm diagnosed with BPD but I strongly suspect covert narcissism or a combination of the two, possibly ASPD traits. I'm 36F but I feel way too old for this shit and I don't understand why I'm repeatin…
This doesn’t make sense to me — I posted a few months ago about how a man at my gym asked me for my number, and I couldn’t give it to him then because my divorce wasn’t final. Well, come to find out that the man who asked me for my …
I got yelled at for yelling in pain — Long story short; my step dad sat a chair on the top of my foot near my big toe joint and sat in it (happened v fast) and I yelled out “ah ah ah!!” And tried to jerk my foot back. Somehow this caused …
They don't really want you to 'think' for yourself — 'You were never like this before, someone has made you think, influence you in another direction away from our ideas.' Meanwhile I never ended up going out or doing things other people get to do when …
Relationship anxiety — one of the hardest things in life is, dealing with heartbreaks. I had few painful heartbreaks before my marriage. so when I got married, I literally winged it to marriage during honeymoon phase of ge…
I'm scared of doing Masters abroad. — Hi, I'm 24 and graduating with my bachelor's this June. I received an offer for an MSc in Computer Science at a Canadian university starting this September and I have until April 17th to accept or dec…
Mum got me a blank card for my birthday (and left the price on) — To start, I don’t care about my birthday on a deep level. I don’t expect presents or surprise parties. I don’t feel the need to celebrate by any means. My birthday fell on a nation wide holiday so eve…
they told me being a 30yo single mom would be my "end," but I’m realizing it’s actually my beginning. — After months of checking out mentally (like I mentioned in my last post), i’ve finally stopped asking who will choose me and started asking "Who is worthy of me it’s terrifying starting over with two …
He (35m) wants to delay us (36f) — He (35m) is delaying us (me 36 f) TLDR; how would you feel if someone talked you into a relationship then put it on pause because they were overwhelmed at work but told you when you were in a vulnera…
Having a misogynist father — Title says it all. Classic unavailable, unequipped to become a parent father who was the breadwinner and was allowed to emotionally act out towards me, my mum and sister growing up. Probably gave me s…
I’m spiralling and things are only getting worse — I am turning 25 in about a month and I genuinely cannot cope with this, I can’t cope with no longer being young and even technically though I am “young” I am not valuable in the same way other young p…
Do narc parents head into retirement in a disastrous way? — This post is extremely spontaneous. Basically, my personal life and that of my parents are completely messed up. My dad is going to retire in less than a year, and my mom is more of a homemaker than s…
Is it just me or I started to not find anyone attractive anymore — I was married for 15 years, have been single for 2 years. I finally met someone I consider dating for the first time but it didn’t work out. I see same guys over and over on the dating apps, they are …
I am living in a fantasy and I want outs — I realise now that our whole relationship was kind of based off a fantasy. The whole time we were together, I would fantasise about him showing up randomly with flowers, surprising me when I least exp…
DARVO — it’s a long(ish) read but the last ever emails before i went NC officially with my Ndad and family Email 1 – You Hi dad I reached out on PayPal, I figured you’d call after almost a year of silence…
My fiance (34f) was so toxic this weekend at my friend's destination wedding , I'm (37f) and feel too old for this — A friend I haven't seen in a few years got married in Mexico this past weekend; a huge group of my my friends were all there, we haven't been together in a very very long time. my friend invited my fi…
Small Self Concept Success Story — So i recently decided to focus more on my self concept (i was mainly focused on my SP) and today i began affirming “everyone wants me” and when i tell you it worked so fast, i have never seen such qui…
i screamed back at my dad tonight — i screamed back tonight. (warning tl;dr) (i’m 22, i live at home. i’m chronically ill and on SSI while i rehabilitate my physical health. my mom and dad live with me. my parents are divorced but frie…
i screamed back at my dad tonight — i screamed back tonight. (warning tl;dr) (i’m 22, i live at home. i’m chronically ill and on SSI while i rehabilitate my physical health. my mom and dad live with me. my parents are divorced but frie…
My folks won’t support me anymore — I went through college, working two jobs, now I’m old. I’m 32. Someone will tell me I’m too old - and they’re right. But I’m trying to go farther with my educations and my parents can’t help I don’t …
In need of cheer — Not been in the best of headspaces recently (work-life crisis-ey) and additional commentary from a family member didn't quite "hit" me until this morning's commute to work. TLDR : A property with a l…
Does anybody ever feel like you're too old and too young at the same time? — With my peers I am always too childish, too straightforward, too deep or a grandparent. Everyone keeps saying I'm weird or autistic, and even though they don't mind, I feel disconnected regardless of …
I [20F] and my Bf [19M] are struggling to get over something that happened, what can we do? (Slight TW) — So, I (20F) and my boyfriend (19M) (Who im gonna call J) have been together 3½ years. We started dating when we were 16, and honestly, the relationship itself has been great. There have been ups and d…
One month into dating I (30M) learned she (33F) occasionally does cocaine — Personally I’ve never been into drugs, and my career makes them completely off limits. She mentioned after a month that she had done cocaine and moly in the past, and still does on rare occasions. Mos…
My mother died and I'm finally free, I'm just scared I'm too old — I'm kind of nervous to say this because I can't help feel like an imposter here, my mother wasn't all that abusive after all, but now she's dead I can't help but feel like she caused me a lot of harm.…
Has anyone's parents been too ambitious when it comes to careers or earning money? — For context, I live in Southern California, so the cost of living is high, and there are all sorts of bills, payments, and subscriptions to pay. My parents, despite their flaws, bizarre worldview, and…
Your ex is 30 yrs older than you?! And you got together when you were a little older than the new guy he brought in….and then he brings in someone 40yrs younger than him???? Sorry your ex sounds creep…
> Well there is no existing relationship lol. that's what I mean. I was wondering if using an online dating app felt like an admission of that. I certainly have a level of anxiety about people as…
I appreciate your kind words. I’ve opened up about some of my struggles before. Only like two people. The first guy minimized my problems and would often change the topic to sex. He was never a good p…
I also saw that and experimented. Had gone on a Hinge Binge on Wed night, after not bothering with the app much for the past while. Sorted through all my incoming likes (didn't keep count, but had mor…
Hinge fuckery at it again. They're pushing that 60 year old on me. At around 10 am local time this morning made a [comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/1qxljhc/daily_sticky_thr…
I don't have much to say other than I really love and appreciate my girlfriend. It's almost 6 months and she's just pretty great overall. A couple months ago I started to feel like things got way too …
30+ years old is too old to be playing games like schoolchildren. I’d say stop engaging with anyone above that who behaves in such a way. Some things can be taught about you as a person but values sho…
I want to date again so bad but I can’t bring myself to do it. Honestly I’m a little afraid of men in terms of I’m afraid they won’t be accepting of me - I’m also afraid of all the work it takes to ge…
lol to be fair to that guy, it is kind of hilarious, I'd take that instance to mean that you were a good one and your boyfriend should hold onto you! But with "Frank", have you spoken to your boyfrie…
this doesn't even sound like avoidant behaviour, it sounds like you're just dating a grumpy teenager we're too old for that now
I know the expectation is different for men from women who want to be pursued but I truly think we're getting too old to be dealing with this shit. Totally normal for women to expect the man to sugges…
Also Libra rising, Saturn at 21* Scorpio in the 2nd, ruling 4th and 5th houses. Day chart, Saturn ruled by 29* mars in cancer in the 10th and/or Pluto in Scorpio at 2* in the 2nd. Saturn is conjunct …
Third date with 38M tomorrow. Had a great 8 hours second date last Saturday. I'm so excited, and nervous. I am always nervous. But he texted that he's looking forward to seeing me again ☺️ i don't wan…
Enjoy the excitement! You're never too old to be giddy
I was amazed by the number of men who lack understanding of women’s health. I had to explain multiple times to different men that even though I had a ton of frozen eggs, I was 41 and might be too old …
Doesn’t he have his own friends, hobbies or something else that he can do? It’s odd that he’s trying to insinuate himself. He’s too old for this behavior.
i will definitely talk about this again! i just wondered if i am too old for this :( just kinda feel deflated after the way he talked to me you know?
There isn’t some arbitrary age where humans stop wanting to have fun, your boyfriend just sounds like he has a stick up his butt. You are never too old for joy and whimsy. Besides, it’s a *bridal sh…
You are definitely not too old to get dressed up and have fun! Please point out to him that costume parties and masquerade balls have always been a thing, even in high society, so nothing to be embarr…
You’re never too old for dress up! My friend (40)and I (57) are going to Les Miserables this afternoon. We’re dressing up in evening gowns. Why? Cause we can and we want to. Will we be overdressed? Pr…
That sounds like a lot of fun. It’s really odd he’s fixating on being too old for something that doesn’t effect him at all. Just make sure you’re not going so over the top that you’re standing out at …
No for me - the odds that they're lying to you are too high and also I'm too old for this bullshit. Plenty of other fish in the sea.
He didn’t offer you the info before you brought it up. That doesn’t bode well for trust, in my opinion. Aside from that, I wouldn’t take the chance without condoms. I contracted a high risk strain …
I really don't get these new age relationships/marriages where 'you go do your own thing and I'll do my own thing and maybe we'll pass each other in the hallway occasionally. Oh, and you have your fri…
That doesn't mean anything. You both should have been tested and using condoms. You're both way too old to be this irresponsible.
In his defense I asked on the first date. And he was honest right off the bat. I understand feeling too old to have to deal with stuff but I also really want a relationship with a good person. I don't…
Never have. I never brought it up mostly because of distance and I recently learned he feels too old for kids so even if he were here it wouldn’t work
Why are you having unprotected sex with random people and not even bothering to test in between partners? You and your boyfriend are almost 30, you are entirely too old to be acting like uneducated, h…
ah yes the good old sociopathic response, mine told me I was too old to be enrolled in a master that's why I got harassed by other students and that it's so weird he can't even believe it's happening.…
My ex was only ten years older than me,he's mid sixties now and honestly if I met him today I wouldn't even give him a second glance. Yours was thirty one years older! Can you honestly imagine yoursel…
Going through a similar nightmare. I moved back home to care for my emother because nfather won't do it and instead harasses and abuses her. Two weeks ago he declared he was selling the house, that th…
No. If they don't put effort, I'm not dating them. I'm too old to fix people.
Oh! Does it count if it wasn't dating per se but lost attraction for a Seinfeld reason? She couldn't stir ground beef. Admittedly she was pretty young (19-20) and this was like 8 years ago. I was to…
Just be upfront after the first date if you're not feeling it. We are all too old for games and prefer not to waste time.
"Judge not, that ye may not be judged." I first-grade terms: You started it, with that "you're too old" comment.
Ok lacking cooking skills is one thing, but why was her mom trying to pawn her off to a guy too old for her, and why were you entertaining that in the first place? Red flags all around.
She knows divorce is the answer but is convinced that the current situation will continue, after all it is 10 years already. It suits her just to continue. Divorce her and find someone to love you, y…
thank you too! i get that sentiment too, like why should i be hung up and upset still when he’s most likely not? but who knows, i can’t do stuff to just be prideful anymore i’m too old lol. good lu…
My elderly cousins live in a condo that was two units combined as one. They each have their own wing and retire off to their separate spaces every evening. I think honestly that is what would make me …
Thanks for the reminder - I just paid for my first session with a new therapist and balked at the bill, was unexpectedly high and considered bailing. But it would be so worth the money if it helped ev…
he broke up with me 1 week before valentines day.. he told me im too old for him he may not enjoy his life later.. but he said the relationship was perfect and he loved me do much but he cant take th…
Yeah it took me a bit to realize "Oh, she's being so calm because she's too old to freak out and fly off the handle with rage the way she used to. She doesn't have the ability to go full scorched eart…
Yikes. Oh man. I'm so, so sorry OP. That is not OK. She is subjecting you to an abusive situation while keeping you away from your literal newborn baby. She is far too old to not realize what she is d…
>we decided to get pets, he thought birds would be cool This guy is a moron and you won't be losing anything by letting him go. He made these decisions. He did not invest in them with his heart, time…
I'm apparently too old for this new slang but what is referred by "Hoover"?
One of my biggest pet peeves is someone not believing something about me and deciding that my mind will be changed with time. I’m very upfront about things too. This is will be a hard relationship i…
Uh oh somebody’s getting too old to control. He better go find someone 21 again 😆
My mom will post on Facebook to wish me a happy birthday. I do not have Facebook. She does not call me or otherwise contact me to wish me a happy birthday. She uses very old photos of me because obvio…
We are too old to not communicate exactly what you want and need. I’ve never had a guy leave or stop when I said what I needed right then and there and if he did then good riddance. Don’t be afraid to…
You don’t have to do it. You’re taking it on yourself to fix this guys issue and he won’t even put in the effort for you to orgasm. We are way too old to accept this and it seeps into every part of a …