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4+ Months of LOB Practice

This is an interesting question, and if I understood you correctly you are asking if my subconcious belief/faith has risen? Well I have to preface this reply with one nuance. I discovered manifestin…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/3/2025
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2

How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …

r/DevOpspost6/30/2023
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided

I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…

r/attachment_theorypost4/20/2025
I struggled with posting consistently as a creator — so I built a tool to make it easier

I struggled with posting consistently as a creator — so I built a tool to make it easier — Between content planning, editing, and just staying active online, keeping up with social media as a brand or creator can feel like a full-time job. I built a small tool that helps schedule AI-powere…

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
The best way to differentiate yourself?

The best way to differentiate yourself? — What I have found works is this: Step no.1: Research yourself and your competitors If you're the founder or in a C-level position, you might say: "I already know everything about my business." WRONG…

r/ecommercepost5/2/2025
How to use tools like createfy or vidnoz in other languages ​​without causing problems

How to use tools like createfy or vidnoz in other languages ​​without causing problems — Hello! I was trying to leverage AI tools that allow for mass content creation, such as Creatify or Vidnoz, but the problem is that I want to do it in Spanish, and the default Spanish voices are very r…

r/digital_marketingpost5/3/2025
From AI Creative Studio to AI Influencer Platform – Would You Follow One?

From AI Creative Studio to AI Influencer Platform – Would You Follow One? — Hey everyone, After 6 weeks of feedback and testing, we’ve officially pivoted from an all-in-one AI creative studio to a focused AI Influencer Studio. We realized most users weren’t just generating …

r/digital_marketingpost5/4/2025
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

r/ecommercepost5/5/2025
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
Voice-to-text recs for sales professionals

Voice-to-text recs for sales professionals — Happy Monday killers! Hope everyone's crushing their quota this quarter. So, I've been in sales for about 5 years now, mostly SDR roles, and I'm starting to feel it. My wrists are *screaming*. All th…

r/DevOpspost5/5/2025
Anyone feel like managing money as a solopreneur is just… a constant headache?

Anyone feel like managing money as a solopreneur is just… a constant headache? — Between juggling invoices, taxes, and never-ending paperwork, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. What’s the one financial task you wish you could make disappear? Or is there a trick you’ve found that actu…

r/smallbusinesspost5/6/2025
Invoice app that includes COO?

Invoice app that includes COO? — Hey y'all, I'm looking for an order invoice generator app that has the option to actually include the COO (country of origin) of the product on the invoice. Shopify's Order Printer app doesn't include…

r/Shopifypost5/6/2025
PSA. Free awesome software for service based businesses

PSA. Free awesome software for service based businesses — Found this new software for businesses doing work in the field. Open beta right now but ive been using it to invoice my customers and it's awesome. Save yourself some money!

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Alternate for 'Please share bank details' to transfer money

Alternate for 'Please share bank details' to transfer money — Hey folks, I’m working on a simple tool aimed at helping small service businesses — like tradies, pet groomers, caterers, mobile cleaners, etc. — get paid faster. Instead of sending invoices or shari…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Anyone know of an alternate for 'please share your bank details' (I will not promote)

Anyone know of an alternate for 'please share your bank details' (I will not promote) — Hey folks, I’m working on a simple tool aimed at helping small service businesses — like tradies, pet groomers, caterers, mobile cleaners, etc. — get paid faster. Instead of sending invoices or shari…

r/startupspost5/7/2025
What Software to use to get started on a home servicing business

What Software to use to get started on a home servicing business — Just getting started on my own niche service business, will be one service with one price starting out so will not need to make quotes. I would like a way for clients to book a time slot on my website…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Second fake client this month – classic invoice scam disguised as a website project

Second fake client this month – classic invoice scam disguised as a website project — Just wanted to share this as a heads-up to other freelancers and small agencies. I recently had a potential client who reached out for a WordPress website. We even had a short phone call, everything s…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Am I insane for wanting to open a brick and mortar comic/collectibles shop in this climate?

Am I insane for wanting to open a brick and mortar comic/collectibles shop in this climate? — I've been reading this sub for a while now as I mentally hype myself up to take the plunge and quick my 9-5 to open my own comic and collectibles shop. I've been in the gaming industry for over a dec…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation?

How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…

r/JosephMurphypost5/12/2025
Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over

Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over — Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I’m writing because I’ve exhausted every other option. And I am FUCKING DONE WITH IT. I hope some of you will see this and help me to hold that person accou…

r/JosephMurphypost6/22/2025
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been.

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost8/14/2025
Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone

Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost9/11/2025
Ignoring after an argument. Deactivating or disinterest?

Ignoring after an argument. Deactivating or disinterest? — I’m not really sure if this belongs here or in my Taurus subreddit, because he’s a Taurus, as am I, and we can be stubborn. But he also leans very avoidant, and has started ignoring me after arguing.…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost9/14/2025
For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure?

For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost9/16/2025
The New Agora: Daily WWYD and light discussion thread

The New Agora: Daily WWYD and light discussion thread — Welcome to the New Agora, a place for you and others to have casual conversations, seek advice and [first aid](https://modernstoicism.com/two-types-of-stoic-therapy-by-john-sellars/), and hang out tog…

r/Stoicismpost10/20/2025
For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now?

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

r/AnxiousAttachmentpost11/26/2025
The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment.

The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…

r/AvoidantAttachmentpost12/20/2025
contemplating root of avoidance

contemplating root of avoidance — I have been considering why some of my relationships work while others make me disconnect. I think the root is a desire to feel deeply understood and seen. I recently had a connection with someone I…

r/AvoidantAttachmentpost1/8/2026
I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!!

I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost2/17/2026
Are pre-birthday discards the norm?

Are pre-birthday discards the norm? — I’m trying to understand this through attachment theory because I genuinely don’t know what just happened. We’re both women. I was 23 with a grad degree, she was 38 and just got her culinary degree w…

r/attachment_theorypost2/20/2026
Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this?

Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this? — Yesterday I first tried shrooms. I did 15g fresh, which you can expect to be about 1.5g dry ± I've tried acid 2 times before, which were very amazing, intense and long experiences. They theached me a…

r/Psychonautpost3/7/2026
Mom is being kicked out

Mom is being kicked out — Parentified eldest daughter here. haven’t spoken to my recovering alcoholic mother in years. Doing so always sends me into a spiral. She puts herself in awful, high-risk situations, never chooses her …

r/raisedbynarcissistspost3/7/2026
Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves”

Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves” — I wanted to share a recent experience because the contrast between my trip and my friend’s bad trip was extremely interesting, and I’m curious if others have seen similar dynamics in group trips. We …

r/Psychonautpost3/7/2026
“My father always wanted to be the corpse at every funeral, the bride at every wedding and the baby at every christening.” - Alice Roosevelt Longworth

“My father always wanted to be the corpse at every funeral, the bride at every wedding and the baby at every christening.” - Alice Roosevelt Longworth — Written by Alice Roosevelt about her father, Teddy. I feel like this quote perfectly captures the dynamics of having an nParent. Whenever sympathy, positive attention or adoration is being doled out …

r/raisedbynarcissistspost3/7/2026
How to unlearn?

How to unlearn? — Hello all, I have been practicing meditation and breathing exercises regularly for the past nine months and it has been having immense effects on my life.. I coupled this with yoga, shadow work and s…

r/Meditationpost3/8/2026
I was able to communicate with someone…..

I was able to communicate with someone….. — I don’t know if this the correct sub… let me know I’ll explain my situation hoping some one can orient me : A few days ago, I had a weird dream/astral projection experience—I don’t even know how to …

r/AstralProjectionpost3/9/2026
Top 1% Sleep Paralysis Sufferer – Just had a wild 'Inception' loop

Top 1% Sleep Paralysis Sufferer – Just had a wild 'Inception' loop — I get sleep paralysis a lot, but I just had my first "dream-within-a-dream" (False Awakening) loop. I was falling asleep while masturbating and a 'demon' attacked, forcing me back to sleep. Then whil…

r/LucidDreamingpost3/9/2026
Has this happened to anyone in a lucid dream before

Has this happened to anyone in a lucid dream before — So to make this short, I don't ever lucid dream becausei don't know how to trigger it. In my dream I just became aware I was in a dream randomly I was in an unknown city in an unknown shopping mall wi…

r/LucidDreamingpost3/9/2026
DO NOT GIVE UP

DO NOT GIVE UP — DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I have so much to say. But ima try to keep it short ish. I just wanted to make a quick post about my journey. I’ve been “manifesting” for five years. I actually have not. Those f…

r/Manifestationpost3/10/2026
"What does it mean to heal?" channeled message from my guides

"What does it mean to heal?" channeled message from my guides — I thought to share with you all this excerpt from a channeled conversation between myself and my guides. I love this text a lot and return to it often. Perhaps those of you on a healing journey and t…

r/energy_workpost3/10/2026
The day has come!

The day has come! — For more than 50 years, the Monroe Institute has been quietly pioneering a systematic way to explore human consciousness — beyond meditation, beyond belief, and beyond theory. I’m excited to share tha…

r/gatewaytapespost3/10/2026
is this common

is this common — i get a random gusp of tiredness like say i was on the train then feels like i close my eyes for a few secends and have a really realistic dream for a few secends with like voices and things

r/LucidDreamingpost3/10/2026
First Acid Trip (2 tabs)

First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…

r/Psychonautpost3/10/2026
Pretty privilege success manifestation

Pretty privilege success manifestation — I’m like one month into manifesting and I have multiple success stories already but the one that I love the most is about my self concept. JUST KEEP IN MIND, you absolutely DONT need to be like 100% …

r/Manifestationpost3/10/2026
This is a lifestyle

This is a lifestyle — At some point you have to ask yourself one question: Do you really believe in your own bullshit? Not Neville’s philosophy. Not a guru’s interpretation. Yours. Because sooner or later you realize s…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/11/2026
Been using a !PERMANENT! shifting guide for over a week and it’s done wonders!

Been using a !PERMANENT! shifting guide for over a week and it’s done wonders! — REMINDER! Just because it’s worked for me DOES NOT MEAN it will work for you! So I usually hop from shifting guide to shifting guide, hoping something would stick and land. Recently, over a week ago…

r/realityshiftingpost3/11/2026
Update: I received 3 opportunities in one day after months of nothing! (self-concept shift around money)

Update: I received 3 opportunities in one day after months of nothing! (self-concept shift around money) — A few days ago I made this post about feeling stuck with money even though I had success manifesting other things: [https://www.reddit.com/r/NevilleGoddard/comments/1rm8jfl/success\_with\_loa\_in\_man…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/11/2026
Anyone else's parents never encouraged their hobbies?

Anyone else's parents never encouraged their hobbies? — I love to sing. I haven't used my voice in over a decade and thinking about it makes me want to cry. For years I've been waiting for permission to use it. My body still fights me to sing above a whi…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost3/11/2026
I hate it when Asians take advantage of other Asians to make sales

I hate it when Asians take advantage of other Asians to make sales — As Asians, we want to support “Asian-owned” businesses right? I rather buy in auntie’s more expensive mom and pop grocery store than a chain grocery store, if there’s a choice. Then there’s Asians wh…

r/AsianAmericanpost3/11/2026
I've been shown how our inner narrative creates and shapes our worlds

I've been shown how our inner narrative creates and shapes our worlds — So I've been asking for more knowledge and guidance from my guides about how can i feel like myself again after period of suffering. (i was also asking my human guide-my therapist and got answers from…

r/experiencerspost3/11/2026
17 months post being discarded by my husband for the other woman.

17 months post being discarded by my husband for the other woman. — On 03/20/2026, I will be 17 months out from the night that my husband left me forever and went to his affair partner of a few weeks. I was shattered. On the verge of losing my excellent job because …

r/survivinginfidelitypost3/11/2026
If you are new here..

>Who do you think you are? Neville's method are the best! Joseph murphy's techniques were also good but required lot of work , but neville just said you to imagine and later in his lectures he did sai…

r/JosephMurphycomment8/6/2020
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I’ve been practicing crystal medication and spiritual healing before I go to bed and last night while I was sleeping, I felt an intense vibrating feeling/ringing in my head and throughout my body. The…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/30/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Those Michael Raduga you tube videos... The 3 parts. I really want to watch/listen, however I am really struggling to concentrate on listening because the original sound of Michael Raduga's voice spea…

r/AstralProjectioncomment8/8/2021
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Instead of writing them I use the notes app on my phone and voice dictate my dreams. Keeps them organized by date and I do it right when I wake up. Don’t wait because for forget small details. Like…

r/LucidDreamingcomment2/1/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

So I heard a voice say "hi" when I tried APing...

r/AstralProjectioncomment6/10/2022
Victim Blaming will not be tolerated

There is victim blaming and then there's some attention whore showing up to make sure actual victims voices are never heard. You can easily tell the difference and most subs are filled with them pushi…

r/Codependencycomment11/20/2023
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

r/AstralProjectioncomment2/25/2024
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

You obviously didn't understand my comments. I didn't say I am building up, I never said 10 years and I didn't mention all the other shit I got for myself. If you want to live like you do and not have…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/22/2025
Quran and LOB

Salam, I am a Muslim too. Here are the references: *“Allah does not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.” (Quran 13:11) ☪️* *“Allah would never change a blessin…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/10/2025
Handling another crush as a FA

So pardon the length (I haven't told anyone yet) and thank you for reading. I might have a crush on a good friend ("Steve") who I've reconnected with after a few years of not hanging out. We didn't …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/19/2025
How to heal avoidant attachment?

First regulate your nervous system, and find a nice relaxing moment- this will help you. Don’t dump the trauma on him, find some key things you are struggling with. Persist if you start getting disreg…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/22/2025
The "and" theory...

THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. Nuanced, critical, free thinking. Microlabelling and micromanaging to me are always signs of absence of precisely this skill. They are tools of oppression of inner conflict, wh…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
Reading interest in text

I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
Does attachment style start to shift after cutting out toxic family members?

Yes. I was with a dismissive avoidant and I divorced him, and then my older sister is a DA as well and I have been regaining my voice after I left my ex. So I have set very limited time to talk to my …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/10/2025
Long road to dream job and instant healing.

If you have trouble visualizing, try listening to a friend's voice on your phone.  Remember what it feels like to touch something. You can practice by closing your eyes and touching different object…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/10/2025
Has anyone else gone from being dismissive avoidant to anxious preoccupied towards their therapist?

That happens when you feel really safe. Which is good but learn how to balance that. You can talk to your therapist about it, also use her as your inner voice - imagine what would she say about this…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/12/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

Maybe (as an FA) I can offer some insight… I was raised by a narcissist. In spite of my best efforts (15 years in therapy), I still have a high risk of ending up in a relationship with one. The mom…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
Long road to dream job and instant healing.

Oh, this is a cool topic, there is nothing cooler than the fucking time that is chasing us.  I was just in the middle of my first mission related to a new job. At that time I was already quite burnt…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/19/2025
Helping my partner

I've been reading people's experiences with partners who have borderline personality disorder, and I keep wondering... Is it possible for someone to not have a meltdown for a whole year before it happ…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/25/2025
What would you be willing to pay for at your company?

My company is ready to pay reasonable price for the software we use and that provides value over FOSS ones. Unfortunately many companies go for crazy unrealistic pricing models and then complain that …

r/DevOpscomment5/4/2025
Marketplace Tuesday! - May 06, 2025

Hey there! I'm Josh, and I'm a **freelance copy and content writer** specializing in writing web copy for US-based SMBs and content such as articles and blog posts. Let me do what I do best--which is …

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/6/2025
The successful are not here

The biggest issue for me is that people who share genuinely useful insights about anything often go unnoticed because they don't understand how to optimize their content for visibility. meanwhile, the…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Should I find a business partner? Sell Or just give up? My business has potential but I don't have to energy to make it happen.

Welcome to /r/Entrepreneur and thank you for the post, /u/voiceofreason4166! Please make sure you read our [community rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/Entrepreneur/about/rules/) before participating he…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
How to fix my own FA attachment (ideally without therapy)?

I figured anyone mentioning it would get downvoted, but I second the use of ChatGPT and other AI tools. I did a couple years of weekly therapy but it was getting too expensive. Now I use a combination…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/30/2025
Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over

Either charge more for the songs starting now or continue to sell them to other people the way she does. Clearly your music is popular so use that affirmation to sell more music. Sounds like this per…

r/JosephMurphycomment6/23/2025
Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over

This answer seems to be strongly aligned with the purpose of this sub. How does this get down voted like that!? I've been "out", too for a while. But, I mean more reading. I find myself from time to …

r/JosephMurphycomment6/27/2025
FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later

If it will help for closure, you can absolutely ask him to tell you what went on. But please be so damn wary about this again. What could have possibly changed in the last two months, that would make …

r/attachment_theorycomment7/1/2025
How much space do DA avoidants need when deactivating?

Yeah… I had a rough time with my DA ex but he never suggested sleeping with anyone while we took some time apart. As for how long, it depends on the person. He usually didn’t need more than a week b…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/7/2025
How to manifest for beginners

No ita not stupid. I have done with and the people have shown up as soon as the next day. I have seen people I wanted to meet come into my house and I had never met them prior. I have seen some crazy …

r/Manifestationcomment8/10/2025
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back

The avoidant(not sure which type of avoidant) I was dating of 3 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago through text. We had our flaws of course and there were times where she felt unwanted or unseen (I ta…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/11/2025
Women I’m dating is afraid I’ll lose interest when I learn who she really is. Seeking FA perspective.

Research for the knowledge first off, then be consistent with how you show up for her and showing interest over a longer period of time. Many of us with this fear weren’t allow to be ourselves growing…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/14/2025
Anxious attachment spiraling?

Hi! I haven't gone specifically through it but I know the feeling. Have you mentioned that you want to feel heard rather than him giving you solutions? If you are in a healthy relationship he should a…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment8/19/2025
Seeking self-closure

I had a pretty similar experience and landed in a similar spot that you did, even down to the same number of dates and spiraling when I would run into her afterwards (we work in the same building so i…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/25/2025
Law of Belief - Relationships

Most likely fear of losing something is a trauma response. The fear is in our subconscious mind “we don’t deserve it” it’s there before, during and after manifesting. A lot of teachers recommend to l…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/13/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

So I (37F) apparently still have anxious attachment. I thought I had managed to get past it 😅 so I started talking to a younger colleague (29M) at work. A couple weeks ago we admitted we liked each o…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/23/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

TL;DR: when an avoidant asks for a break, is it real? Ive been dating an avoidant guy for like four months. He had ended a 9 year relationship a year ago and I ended an 8 year relationship recently.…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/27/2025
Seeking self-closure

I am not sure this will help much but I am anxiously attached and your story is relatable. If I find myself coming across something that I really need to get off my chest but don't have access to the …

r/attachment_theorycomment10/1/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

Hi everyone! I 28F am anxious attacher, my boyfriend is 31F the most avoidant person I know. So we know each other for half a year now and made it official 3 months ago. The thing is that he is really…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/5/2025
Can a FA-DA relationship work?

Hm, not really no. An FA will be able to feel the wall that is up with a DA and a DA probably won't be able to feel the wall that is up for the FA. So, the FA won't be able to 'feel' any love from a D…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment10/7/2025
How to soothe myself when they say they aren't upset.

What I'm going to say is not going to sound intuitive at all and is going to be scary, but it's honestly one of the practices and shifts I made that has led me to being secure. It took a lot of therap…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/14/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

In other words you are putting others above yourself. You don’t listen to the inner voice that tries to protect you. You put yourself down. Think others are better than you. This is all self abandonme…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/15/2025
How to soothe myself when they say they aren't upset.

For me, I found using the butterfly hug has helped a lot and breathing techniques when am emotionally disregulated, that and visualization. Seeing all these voices of concerns and loud noises as leave…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/15/2025
how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times?

I sympathize with your pain and health anxiety, but why did you, once you were able to gain composure, drive yourself on a literal motorcycle with back pain and take yourself to the hospital yet still…

r/attachment_theorycomment10/27/2025
APs what would you want to hear in response if someone doesn’t feel the same as you?

a lot of posts and comments that are similar to what (i think) you're discussing, OP, seem to me that they would be non-issues if people were less inclined to be texting about stuff like this.. it re…

r/attachment_theorycomment10/28/2025
Does this have to do with my attachment style or is it normal?

I literally have been having these same conversations with my bf the past month. There was a week or two where he wasn’t initiating— i told him that this made me feel not desired which was emptying my…

r/attachment_theorycomment10/29/2025
I broke no contact

I have these random moments where all my feelings come to surface almost all at once which push me to want to break no contact. I feel the same regret and anxiety when there’s silence even after tryin…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/12/2025
Do fearful avoidants "split" or "idealise" and then "devalue" when triggered? Or is it more likely to be a sign of something else? (Eg BPD/NPD?)

So… I have dated someone with DID before. Dissociative Identity Disorder. In these individuals, when anything even remotely stressful happens; they will quite literally turn into a different person. L…

r/attachment_theorycomment11/13/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

About a year ago, we got new seasonal hires at my job. One of them ended up being this woman. I usually chitchat with new hires if they have questions regarding the job and that’s about it. I would ch…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/14/2025
Do fearful avoidants "split" or "idealise" and then "devalue" when triggered? Or is it more likely to be a sign of something else? (Eg BPD/NPD?)

I’ll second what the other person has commented- that you gotta stick to your boundaries. Though I’m picking up on things that may be concerning here. I am not accusing anyone of anything, but are y…

r/attachment_theorycomment11/14/2025