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"If you want to contact them, reach out and if it happens, it happens. If not, it doesn't." -> all of my astral contact so far have been based on: 1. My higher self guided me to others 2. I ran into …

Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …

My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…

Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…

How does one go about creating these sorts of animations? — Sorry in advanced if this is a stupid question. I am such a noob when it comes to this sort of stuff. I came across this website ([https://animejs.com/](https://animejs.com/)) which has a really cool…

I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…

Update on Our Journey to Export Pistachio Butter – Small Wins & Hard Lessons — Hey everyone, A few weeks ago I posted here about our family business in Gaziantep, Turkey — we produce high-quality pistachio butter and are looking to expand internationally. Just wanted to give a…

How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…

From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…

Thoughts on a platform that can give AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation (i will not promote) — **AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation** Hey r/startups, I’m exploring a product idea and would love to hear your thoughts. **The problem:** Many users land in product documenta…

Do I really need to fully design and engineer my own product to succeed in e-commerce? — Hey everyone, I’m planning to start my own e-commerce brand, but I don’t have a big budget or deep technical knowledge. Right now, I can only afford to take an existing product, put my brands logo on …

Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…

Jobsites to lookout for as a Product Designer. Need help. — I'm currently in the lookout for a job change and I would like to know if there are any specific sites/channels/spaces/groups to get a job alerts. I'm aware of fee and actively on top of it, but I cou…

I’ve been acquired!!! — Call it selling it out or whatever but when another company came calling with that deal and that check, all my hard work, all my team’s hard work, all the long nights finally paid off. Knowing that …

Common sense from an actual founder [fully boostrap 10M$ company] about startup studios' playbooks [i will not promote] — I don't post on reddit but I've recently seen an increased influx of post or people talking about X or Y playbook about how you should startup. i will not promote Let me get this straight, I won't cr…

New Tool For Creators? — *This isn’t a promotion or a sales post — I’m just looking for honest feedback on my idea* Hey everyone! I’m offering a first-of-its-kind privacy service for influencers and content creators. I creat…

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

Question on initial release of product/service (I will not promote) — I’ve been working on a web app for a while now as a solo developer, and I was wondering how any other founders here have gone about releasing their own apps for the first time. So far I’ve only shared…

Rejected in the final interview after a month long process — This is honestly just a rant post, because I feel completely deflated at this point. I’ve been actively looking for a job for over a year now, moved to Spain three months ago to start a new life, and…

Manager vs. IC when recruiting soon? — Hi all! I have the opportunity and flexibility at my job right now to move up into a managerial role, and I get a lot of freedom in deciding what it looks like. E.g. I could oversee and manage designe…

Was pushed into a Devops role. Never got the chance to learn properly — I was pushed into a devops role. And since then there was always a deadline on head and was never able to learn things properly. I am still good at my job and can do what is required but somewhere fee…

Duolingo leader throws shade at r/UXDesign — You all might remember this thread a few months ago, [debating Duolingo renaming UX to “Product Experience.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/UXDesign/comments/1j3hvkw/duolingo_renames_ux/) The VP Mig announ…

After raising for 7 startups, my pitch decks have fallen into three categories (I will not promote) — Over the years, I've raised funding for 7 startups. I've also raised for startup funds and stare at a hundred pitch decks a month. Based on the patterns, I've realized my pitch decks have fallen into …

Hey small businesses why do you make it so hard for me to buy your stuff? — So I'm making a fairly large purchase about 15 units (well trying to ) at a local tree / garden store. I picked one with a very large garden and confirmed they have lots of stock on the phone. I sent …

How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…

Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over — Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I’m writing because I’ve exhausted every other option. And I am FUCKING DONE WITH IT. I hope some of you will see this and help me to hold that person accou…

In an avoidant-anxious friendship, how much space should I be giving before I reach out? — The last 2 posts on the sub are about friendship and that encouraged me to post here as well. This is my friend of 5 years. We’ve gone from talking almost everyday to me being given the silent treat…

Anyone Else Feel Relationships just Aren't for them? — Hello all, I'm basically pretty severely A.P. , & so far I've been unable to get close to anyone (romantically) in my life without just exploding with terror that I'll be abandoned (or feeling a stro…

Feeling bad after dates? — I asked my friends for some advice regarding how to attempt to move my attachment style in a more secure direction, and one of them said that for them, going out on dates really helped them, especiall…

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…

I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …

I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …

Self-help group for anxious attachment? — Hi folks, are there regular anxious attachment self-help group meetings out there? If not, I'd like to start one. I'm looking for something that's very specifically focused on anxious attachment. I…

Looking for DA perspectives — I'm with my DA partner for 4 years. Two weeks ago we had a conflict. Since then, communication has slowly faded. He told me he wanted to give us “another chance” and that he was open to talking, but…

How does the process look transitioning from dismissive avoidant to secure? — I'm 44 and have slowly worked out there's something up with me, to finding out about this term and seeing a lot of myself in fellow sufferer's description of it. My life is full of unrealistic expe…

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

We live in a culture that glorifies self-sufficiency and punishes inter-dependence and needs. That impacts what we start labelling as anxious attachment, and how we are encouraged to heal. — Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we cannot ignore that cultural norms have *always* di…

The fear of intimacy — I have started to realise that anxious attachment is also a fear of intimacy rather than only avoidantly attached people. I think many of us (when triggered) can prefer to live in the fantasy of a per…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Everything we know about shifting is probably false — So much of our communities take the knowledge we spread to be fact, when in reality shifting isn’t a science. At all. This has been said before but I NEED you guys to actually read and internalize thi…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

Energy healing. How it works and what does the “patient” have to do so it is successful!! — My main technique when performing energy healing is that I don’t “put” some other energy or mine into patients body. I work with their energy since I believe they have all energy they might need for a…

Covert narcissists are drawn to people with a strong instinct to help and care. — I grew up early. Owning Responsibilities that weren't mine. I learned that love was earned through being useful, stable, and selfless. I became the person people brought their chaos to. The one who a…

What are your social lives like? — Recently I saw a few comments here like “I have weekly activities scheduled every day of the week” and “this guy could only meet me one a month because of social obligations” and… I know I’m more of a…

‘Bing’s Cherries’ rewrites the American tall tale through Oregon grower’s life — “Bing’s Cherries,” written and illustrated by Taiwanese American authors Livia Blackburne and Julia Kuo, is set for publication on March 10. **If you grew up in the United States, chances are the fol…

Where to go from here — Just to warn you, this is a long one... For context, my partner (F39) and I (M40) have been together for 17 years, have two kids together. This all started in early January but seems to have been goi…

No contact year 6 update: — Hello everyone! I’ve made some update posts in the past and figured I would make one for year 6 as that anniversary is coming up soon, and with context it will make sense why I still specifically reme…

First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…

Yea I found out years ago about how caffeine would give me nightmares burn never knew carbs did as well. Thanks I'll try to cut carbs before I sleep to reduce the chance of a restless sleep.

I used to find myself lucid dreaming back when I wasn’t aware what lucid dreaming was. however on the rare off chance I do lucid dream the sheer acknowledgment off this always wakes me out of it. Any …

He mentioned in the opening of this lecture, I think, that he has a background in the corporate world, providing team-building programs for companies, or vanilla psychology as you call it, so, yeah, I…

>Hi everyone, > >I am new here.. i got the link of this group through the NG sub.. i am glad i found it.. i have been reading the posts and the content in the index.. i have started reading the P…

I won’t lie, I’m working on improving myself strictly for myself, but there are those “what if” moments where I think that somehow me improving myself will win my ex back when that obviously isn’t the…

Firstly congrats dude, that's awesome news. And secondly, sounds like both of you realized you had to do that deep work, and both were open AND available 6 months later... All these things have to ali…

I'm into 24 hrs of no contact. 3.5 yrs and I kept giving him chance after chance, just for him to do more effed up crap to destroy my heart. I broke up with him for good this time. I can see my bl…

What if I ruined the chance of possibly not getting back together due to me being an emotional abuser??For example, she broke up with me because of unhappiness, goal of finishing her college degree, a…

Yes!!!! You said it! I agree. I believe that too much Disney and dumb Hollywood films has gotten people thinking that relationships work after they have been broken… answer is no. Also people who play…

This is so hard to do for me. It’s only been a week or so now but I would end my life if not for my 3 little kids. I can’t believe the woman I’m still in love with thinks so poorly of me she wanted to…

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and going through this. It sucks she wouldn’t give therapy a chance. You can’t control others actions and feelings. I hope you can find meaning and joy in your kids …

Was away this week, happy to put it in the rules when I get a chance!

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

what has happened to me, is not that, but it was test delayed or cancelled or something, so my improper studies was ok, and got another chance. so in my opinion, I would not focus on outcome you desc…

You're welcome to ask. A lucky strike - that sounds just like an LOB effect to me, haha. Also, to answer "a gambler high off a win", I didn't specify my wins in the above pouncemonial, though have a …

No what I meant was that it usually takes years to build up solid faith for lob itself, to see your mind as cause and effect towards your reality and to manifest with a snap. And that happens with alo…

1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…

If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…

Ex back missions are very tough missions due to high preexisting attachment and subconscious unbelief. Add to that someone green doing the lob for the very first time - and the chances of success are …

Work - it was my first mission. Daily routine as in the index, in three months I missed maybe 3-4 days due to travel. The result - work in a profession for which I had no qualifications.  On the oth…

If he makes you this dysfunctional, I would not pursue this at all. High chance he is emitting energy that feeds a - unconscious - known and chaotic dynamic/pattern to you. Expectations of this sort c…

Fearful avoidant is much harder to fix than dismissive avoidant, because you have the problems of the anxious and the avoidant. To fix the anxious - I only know about this in theory/hypothetically si…

Avoidants might seem less irritating, but they have far less chance of ever being happy. They don’t want to change. They think their partner having basic needs is “needy.” They blame the anxious partn…

Please look into the health issues that come along with being dismissive or fearful avoidant. You can't just shut off your emotions and experience no repercussions. That's not how our biology works, …

I feel like if it’s only been a week and you haven’t gotten physical and you’re not feeling it, it’s best to just leave. Running from a strong connection is different from running from someone you don…

No it doesn’t. That’s why we use different words for different things. I’m very happy this platform gives hurt people the chance to talk and figure out their feelings. Similarly- my comment you respon…

Happy for you. Nobody asks to have an attachment style that’s dysfunctional. I’m working through mine and try so so hard to have compassion for others. But a big part of self love is learning how to h…

There are exceptions for every situation. So you take a hard thing like relationships, and then you make it harder with distance and all the drawbacks. It’s just going to be harder. Nobody says it’s i…

As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise.  I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…

DAs are already very self-critical. Most criticism we receive from others, we’re already aware of and have gone to great lengths to conceal and/or correct said issue. Even if said criticism is somethi…

>Note: It's at that point when most secure people will leave a relationship with an insecure attacher, when their reasonable requests start getting shot down. That's what I was going to say too. If y…

I would say run away, but you said you want the job. In that case I would tell you to prepare like other people did, but also remember, this is your chance to be interviewing them too. Make sure you a…

Use your money as a down payment to buy an existing business that’s had stable revenue and net profit for the last three years. There’s way more to it, but this way you get what you’re looking for wit…

Great observation. Ever since I've had a situationship with an avoidant, I came to notice this a lot in songs. I've heard them written seemingly from the perspective of each side... more commonly anx…

I think the challenge with achieving that kind of multiple is identifying products that have a low cost to manufacture, but have a high value perception by consumers. I know, “Duh!”, but it happens. I…

>wanted to stay casual  Idk what that means, exactly. Dating someone... but not really ? The specific rules or the framework of this concept are unclear because "casual" can mean anything, including:…

Commenting for the outside chance that someone has discovered a magic cure-all for the second point. I'd love to know that too.

Well, like I said, if she didn't improve, I would walk away. But things have been on the up trend. We no longer have periods of no contact. I interact with her every day like we used to at the start. …

This is incredibly sweet, Im wishing the best for both of you :) What comments are missing is that love and safety is often the best medicine, for everyone. Im not a DA (avoidant leaning FA) but I sta…

Got it. Was not expecting her to share something vulnerable, I draw a line in shallow connection & up until 6 months it was casual banter. I need serious invested friends, not those who are there just…

I totally felt the same, like he loved me but had contempt anytime I had a need or comment that somehow threatened him. Like “yeah, so” turns completely cold::: and just sooo many easy ways out, shots…

Well, if you're into them, that's the first sign. It'll be tricky to differentiate between DA and secure for you because they'll both feel like they're moving at a reasonable pace at first, but a DA i…

I'm definitely not a philosopher by any means, but here are my thoughts. The article references previous research by Monroe & Malle (2009), where it's said that people's concept of free will consists …

Agree! But what I’m not proud of is holding him to that standard, while also admitting that I failed to communicate as well. You’re absolutely right, I have no idea what prompted him to just cease c…

So many examples I can think of lol. In general, after our honeymoon phase was over, she deactivated and started pulling away. I assumed this was caused by anxiety, so instead of calling out her dism…

Here’s the thing though — I do agree with the other comments about a therapist. Because she can totally be avoidant and have those tendencies and it’s up to you to make a decision. Do you want to give…

Some avoidants bring up marriage and children on the first date and if they don't receive 100% positive feedback it is a great reason to assume that there is no chance to build something and sabotage.

if you have time to spare, talk to them and take your chances. if you dont have time for trial and errors, let them know and dont start talking again. i think people who say don't reply are wrong, no …

Okay,just by that message- i would hear him out. I would be okay to just meet and hang out and see where it goes. But going forward, his actions need to indicate their differences this time. I'm assum…

I believe "closure" is something we give ourselves - not "get" from a serial abuser. With respect, what good is "needing to know". Whatever the reasons, it most likely won't make sense to us and it op…