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So, a lot to unpack here. I guess to start, people have different opinions about porn. Some (like your boyfriend) don't consider it cheating and some (like you) do. Neither is wrong/right, it's what…

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

Do things you want always have to be created in the mind first, or can you manifest things you want in a more generic way? — For example, I don't have an idealized vision of the car or house I want, but would be very pleased with several different brands of cars, and several different types of homes that are already on the …

Monthly Getting Started / Web Dev Career Thread — Due to a growing influx of questions on this topic, it has been decided to commit a monthly thread dedicated to this topic to reduce the number of repeat posts on this topic. These types of posts will…

Am I Overcomplicating This Workshop? (Personas or Empathy first? — Hey everyone! I need some advice on structuring a workshop for a client’s new product. They’re unclear on the direction (app/web/game?), target audience, or features, so I suggested a workshop to alig…

How do you generate qualified leads for a cohort-based course? — Hey everyone! 👋 I run a live, cohort-based masterclass on advanced Midjourney prompt engineering and am in the process of ramping up my lead-gen funnel for the next cohort. So far, I’ve Explored: *…

I work with meat snacks and my supplier is one of the leading companies. Looking for a partner. — I’ve developed two types of meat snacks products - beef jerky and dried beef slices. My supplier is one of the leaders in the space and is EU-certified organic. Marketing isn’t my strong point, so wo…

Are you still using GBP posts as part of your local strategy? Curious how you approach content & competitor insights — I’ve been working on a side project around automating GBP content and understanding local competitor activity. I'm not here to promote anything, just to validate if the idea has legs. Curious how oth…

Anyone else think the new figma UI is terrible? — I've been trying to like it for a couple weeks but man... this UI is terrible for so many reasons. Like.. this floating thing in front of my work is so dumb. Why does it take more clicks to find my as…

Where does one look for startup vacancies? (I will not promote) — Do startups looking for staff post on LinkedIn? I’ve always been interested in joining a startup on the ground floor in a senior position or perhaps even co founder, but haven’t ever come across such …

Need Guidance for Amazon Systems/DevOps Engineer Interview (Cloud Support Background) — Hope you're all doing well. I'm currently working as a Cloud Support Engineer and have managed to land an interview with Amazon for a Systems/DevOps Engineer role. While I’m excited, I’m also feelin…

I’m looking for recommendations on a good Front-End course/certificate. Ideally for UX designers — I’m looking for an easy to follow, front end coding course that will teach me the basics on building a single page prototype. I’ve seen some job postings for UX designers asking them to use code to …

Google getting tricked by trash sites — There are two sites I've been seeing all over google news recently motorcyclesports .net and motociclismo .pt. both are owned by the same company and they are clearly using tools to steal other websit…

Bank Account? - Ed Tech Startup (i will not promote) — Hi all! Question- we are in the early stages as an educational tech start up. We are in the process of incorporating, etc. We want to get a bank account. Any recommendations for what type of bank to …

Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …

How do you ensure type safety between frontend and backend? — In this case, backend is in Flask+Peewee (Python) and frontend is Svelte (TypeScript).

I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…

I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs! — Hey everyone! I’ve been working on a VSCode extension called **Array Size Extension**, and I wanted to share it with you all to get some feedback or maybe help out others who run into the same proble…

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

pros/cons of different vc programs for deep tech (i will not promote) — I know there are many specialized accelerators and venture programs tailored to different types of startups. For AI startups — especially those with a strong research orientation — what are the top pr…

Unique Field Guard For ACF — https://preview.redd.it/a99i8tsrl5ze1.png?width=2632&format=png&auto=webp&s=837f17d2a06d91e3e0a14803dbefe7e1c4f897aa Hey WP family! I recently built a plugin I’ve been working on that solves a headac…

Considering a move from big tech to a small company. Worth the risk? — I know this sub leans junior, but hoping to get some advice from senior folks. Especially people in Bay Area, NYC, or Seattle-type tech scenes. Tagging this as Job Search and not Senior Only because I…

Best Practices for Syncing PHP and TypeScript Types — I’m working on a monorepo app using Laravel (with Blade) and Vue components, and I’m wondering—have you ever come across a good way to share types between PHP and TypeScript? Or is it usually better t…

I created this cool game in react. It's called MystiCrafter — I created this cool game using React. If you know alchemistry or ever heard of the term, then you would love it. It's essential a puzzle game about combining base elements to create new ones. The ga…

What made you hate component libraries? — Component libraries make life a lot easier, cause I don't need to spend 6 hours trying to figure out why my dropdown menu won't align to the middle by 3 and half pixels. However, as time goes on you …

How do I properly embed Webpack-bundled JS/CSS into a WordPress site? — Hey everyone, I built a JavaScript app for a client using Webpack. The final dist folder includes: A JS file (bundle) Two CSS files A PNG and SVG The client wants to embed this into their WordPr…

Are there any free themes or plugins that facilitate creating layouts and styles for custom post types? — I am trying to build a website that is very simple in terms of content and styling. The only catch is that it has a custom post type. I created the custom post type and fields using the free version o…

Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …

[Product Survey] Help us understand your auth/DB platform choices (Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, and more) — Hi everyone! 👋 I’m a Product Manager working with a developer friend on a new backend-as-a-service solution, and we’d love your feedback. Whether you’ve used Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, Authn …

Some guidance would be appreciated. Should I focus on a Linux certification first like RHCSA/LFCS first or the Kubernetes CKA. More details below. — Hi everyone. So recently i finished my a devops certification from a bootcamp and have since been spending time working on my own portfolio project. my project consists of: \- a frontend and backend…

How to fully be present in my dating break (build momentum at the start)? — You'd think taking a break would be straight forward, but I feel like it's more challenge for us anxious attachment/pure-O OCD types who struggle with rumination or feelings of inadequacy about their …

The New Agora: Daily WWYD and light discussion thread — Welcome to the New Agora, a place for you and others to have casual conversations, seek advice and [first aid](https://modernstoicism.com/two-types-of-stoic-therapy-by-john-sellars/), and hang out tog…

Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup. — I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known about the anxious-avoidant trap for some time…

I’m still a magnet to guys who need help. (I stopped rescuing). — I used to be more anxious-ambivalent/codependent and enmeshed from family + an ex-friend. I’ve learned in CBT to separate someone else’s problems/emotions and my own to not become codependent again. (…

Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…

Avoidant conversation patterns are confusing me - should I address them? — I’m (secure leaning anxious) getting some confusing conversations patterns from an avoidant friend. And I don’t know if I should address it or just let things continue to play out. Context; we disco…

Took the stock advice and joined social activities to meet people. Here are my results. — I (37M) decided to conduct an experiment and went out to the types of boilerplate events/gatherings/functions people suggest. Book clubs, sports, volunteering, etc. I joined a public book club throug…

“You must respect your mom, she’s your mom.” — How many times have I heard this lecture? People who have normal families have absolutely zero clue what they are talking about. When people see a situation or even read a situation they can’t tolera…

Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

Feeling kind of stuck with the tapes — I’ve been doing the tapes since last summer. I’m not having strong experiences at this point. When I first started them I had some interesting increased ESP. Then I went through a phase where they rea…

This is a lifestyle — At some point you have to ask yourself one question: Do you really believe in your own bullshit? Not Neville’s philosophy. Not a guru’s interpretation. Yours. Because sooner or later you realize s…

Female stand up comedian that support asian man. — Anisa Nandaula Honestly refreshing to see a comedian actually say something positive about Asian men for once. She even talk about asian women don't like it when she says good thing about asian man.…

I hate it when Asians take advantage of other Asians to make sales — As Asians, we want to support “Asian-owned” businesses right? I rather buy in auntie’s more expensive mom and pop grocery store than a chain grocery store, if there’s a choice. Then there’s Asians wh…

Men having rigid body type preferences — I'm (45f) 5'8", thin. Not underweight, but a thin person with largish tatas of Scandinavian descent. I matched with a man on an app and went on a date, where he told me that his ideal type is a pet…

We’re in a computer simulation — I’ve lived my entire life experiencing all sorts of inexplicable illnesses, and I always thought that they were just coincidences or due to bad genetics. However, after I started reading into **religi…

Why can’t I have long term friendships? — I have zero childhood friends. Zero long term friends. Growing up, my dad didn’t let me have a social life. So every time I tried to be social, I just felt like I was pretending to be normal. Then, I …

First post here, don't normally do this but I need help. 27M — Gday all, firstly just want to say hi to all who come across this post, and also forgive me if my grammar is bad. I was never really good at it... What is mentioned in here could be quite triggering …

Were things better for Asian men 20 years ago or now? — Curious to hear what this sub thinks. I remember there being way more negative Ken Jeong tier stereotypes about AM in not only the 80s/90s but even in the 2000s and early-mid 2010s. It's less common n…

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

I finally figured out how to manifest — For context I’ve been manifesting for a really long time. I’ve taken this lifestyle up for over 5 years. But it used to be tough to know exactly what I’ll get and when I’ll get it in the past. I usual…

So.. id classify myself as a relatively spiritual person.. over the last few months ive tried meditating 5 or so times.. ive had sleep paralysis about 5 times as well in my life.. more so in the last …

This explains how I let things get so out of control with avoidant types as I’m an introvert and quite secure independent and confident but after a year I started feeling like the relationship wasn’t …

I feel you. I’ll give you my experience as a FA then suggestions. - I also transitioned from anxious to avoidant our the years. I was never full on AA but more anxious leaning FA as a child. Now I l…

Yes I agree it’s an important topic. My issue with how you’re addressing it is that you’re creating some sort of behavior hierarchy that simply doesn’t exist. I’m not AP, for the record. I am in the…

Irritating the ones you love, polysecure (because it deals with a lot of attachment education), women who love too much, polyvagal theory and exercises, legit anything to do with different therapies— …

But why is it then relevant for non anxious folks to tell anxious folks stuff? That happens here all the time. I mean genuinely it’s really fascinating to see the dynamics of these types play out in…

To me, the book doesn’t so much denigrate avoidants as it highlight their challenges in relationships, to help anxious types recognize patterns and seek stability—often with secure partners as an idea…

Thanks for your opinion on my 10% figure. Besides that, I did not say partners should be at my convenience. I said other aspects of life can throw a relationship’s typical patterns out of balance. Ha…

I recently went on a first date with someone who brought me a bouquet of flowers after meeting me for only 6 minutes at an event, and then after this first coffee date, texted me to say they brought …

Yeah - I'm not so much interested in learning about the different 'types' of attachment, and I've gotten a lot better about not feeling shame about my feelings towards my therapist. I think in these c…

You’re speaking about avoidant *women* as a whole. “The more you try to communicate about the relationship the more they hate you.” You’re not venting about a specific ex, you’re not-so-subtly bashing…

The thing is, with certain types of people you cannot afford to feel empathy because it will just be used against you. The same person begging on their knees for you not to leave them can be the same …

You are correct. Your perception of love is warped. And thus it can be really hard finding it without accidentally finding yourself in shit relationships. As many have commented, avoidants typically …

What a wise comment, thank you for this! This is reframing things for me. I’ve been hard on myself for falling for these types after thinking I should have spotted them better, but you’re right. They …

I think this is running the course of over pathologizing. Attachment styles are not personality types. They are trauma responses that are triggered by relationships of many kinds. Not wanting a relati…

I think the attachment styles in place work well. I know it was studied exhaustively on thousands of children in the 70s/80s/90s and had there been more definitive styles we would have caught them bac…

https://github.com/glacion/cdktf-typescript-crd I could do with some crds especially aws stuff

No straight simple answer to this. It depends on your data volume, schema, usage patterns (IE: read Vs write ratios, types of select queries), whether it's ok to serve stale data in some cases etc etc…

This is the first I'm seeing about the Backstage platform, it seems like it can do a lot, and is pretty extensible. Considering the tool belt seems to revolve around Typescript, it's giving me the imp…

Man, this post hits SO hard. Running a business is absolutely brutal, and I think we need more honesty about the real toll it takes on founders. I've gone through some of these exact same experiences…

Hey. Interesting write up, it has some good references and shows some good understanding on modern software security. Though there are some parts I would critique for feedback: >Another layer that …

Why not capitalize on the app you’ve built? Theres a lot of controversy in this comment section but it seems like there is an interest/need for something like this when it comes to attachment types

Thanks for sharing your story. What types of prompts did you give the AI to soften your communication to you DA? Also, will you make your app available to the public?

The depth of their reflections if you ask them about previous relationships, how they healed, what they want from a partner, relationship with parents… etc How they feel around children: if they’re …

I see your point, but another watchout is my recent ex did go to therapy (which I took as a green flag) but he ended up having a fling with the therapist afterward (huge red flag) and the only takeawa…

The above post was initially removed by the mod team, as it is of the usual crap that populates the ngsub even till today, but has been reinstated to make a simple point that was touched on here : […

According to Ken Reid, the playful energy can be a sign of arrested development, which can happen with insecure attachment styles. He mentioned avoidant types can sometimes develop the class clown arc…

Before I say anything else, I want to say that there's no excuse for abuse, including emotional abuse. Ever. I'm sorry to hear you've experienced that. I also don't think an anxious person should sac…

Would you be able to advise on helpful types of prompts? I have also heard that ChatGPT can help but was not sure where to start. Just like, describe a situation where I shut down, tell ChatGPT I have…

Childhood trauma doesn't always look like yelling or hitting; people mistake this a lot. You can have a lovely attentive parent who still didn't teach you emotional regulation, sent you in time out in…

Attachment issues only appear because of a relational issue at some point in life. It's not innate, you're not born with it (even if people can have certain tendencies) and it only exists in the act o…

I understand the thought patterns here, and I definitely see how expectations are triggering for avoidant types. But I've also found many of them project what they assume my expectations are onto me? …

>Why can't they stop experiencing love like they say they do and start experiencing it like I think they should??? Because they clearly know best for all avoidants of course! They read a psychology t…

Seems like a person who got spooked and having escaped unscathed has calmed down, reflected, and realized that perhaps their anxiety was irrational. And that is a good indicator that when times get to…

Woah. This guy. He’s one of those hot and cold types. That reels people back in all for the sake of spitting them out. Ghost him. Disappear.

From what I heard, that's the types of relationships Avoidants like. There's no pressure for vulnerability or emotional closeness. It's also why they can be fine with sexual encounters but pull away f…

You assume wrong, I’m a woman and friend is. It’s a platonic relationship. Close friendships also involve attachment, it’s not strictly a romantic thing. I’m not unattached from my friend, I just am …

I do a DBT Skills practice called Wise Mind where I write about the triggering event. Then I write out all my feelings about it. Then I write out all my thoughts about it. Then I look for places where…

Just want to add that the ONLY thing that will work with a person with these types of issues is constant accountability from within and without, not coddling or enabling. That’s bad even for the pers…

I think it depends on what you want. If your boyfriend is FA and he doesn't know how to regulate his feelings then the exact thing that he would do is breakup/ghost you when he started to become emot…

I personally have always offered at least some simple explanation. I’ve felt that much need for social acceptance in terms of my “honor”, and respect for others. I’m in my forties, and whether it’s ge…

Eh. The DA runs deep. I also have plans and thinking around leaving at a certain date in the future. Everything is always in the moment. I could drop the ball and fall back into my ways at any time. R…

Your description reads like a 26 yo who leans securely attached with the ability to flex to meet their partner where they’re at. The symbiosis part was most ppl I knew at 26 rather than unique. But I …

Hey, thanks for the reply. I'll do my best to answer as precisely as possible > 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in th…

We anxious types tend to loose our self in relationships. We give up our self worth and self regulation and let the relationship do that for us. Then when the relationship feels the least bit threaten…

I'd be curious what's going on with the guys you date that pull away after a few months. The knee-jerk reaction you describe is useful information but it would be more useful to see if you're somehow …

Just my two cents on some points here: Alpha is basically a state where you are so relaxed that when you imagine your scene you are completely immersed in it that you forget your body, its just full r…

>Just my two cents on some points here: Alpha is basically a state where you are so relaxed that when you imagine your scene you are completely immersed in it that you forget your body, its just full …

I (F37) started casually flirting and texting a colleague (M29) a while ago. In the beginning, we wrote often and a lot, especially right before we met in person for the first time. Then, overnight, t…

I don't think there's a "circle jerk" in the avoidant attachment sub. I've read and genuinely benefitted from seeing how the group helps each other comprehend their reactions and attempt from a place …