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Yeah, that's one of the traditional ways of looking at it. For some people, it sure feels like a barrier. But, just like today where we get stuck in some meme and that filters our world view, people w…
I'm building a Figma UI Kit generator that match your brand — I'm building a tool that will generate a custom UI kit for Figma file (along a couple of components to start), which will allow you to build apps that don't look like the other apps Thoughts?
Shame has dictated my entire life for 41 years — And I didn't know it until now. It was the silent background noise, the "I'm not good enough," "Don't do that or you'll fail!" "Look how stupid you are, you can't do anything right," "Don't notice m…
When I finally understood the law — I started praticing the law last year, maybe 6 months ago, but I was really struggling, because I was using to cure a health issue and the 3d would always overpower me. I kept repeating sentences of…
Out of body experience, just met, Jesus? Question mark — **Perface:** I have never identified as religious. I've been listening to binaural beats (4hz) lately, almost every night before bed. The intent is to meet higher vibrational beings. Tonight, I took…
We are just 3d Printers — I get it now Our subconscious or minds or whatever it is that we are, are in the 4d. Potentially higher but let's just say the 4d. Time is not a constraint there, you can have many things in an insta…
I am so tired of sabotaging myself. I am so tired of making me hate myself. — I am 23f, and not a day goes when I am procrastinating and ignoring things in my life. When I say ignore, I have internalized everything. So, the sayings "a doer always outdo a thinker" is alarming i…
All Day Awareness.. — Today, I figured, I am going to use ADA. (for helping with Lucid Dreaming) What I take from actually using it, is kinda like looking at it as meditating throughout the day. If i notice my mind wander…
If you don't believe and look for something, you won't find it — I usually ask questions about manifestation but today I wanted to put together a list of things I manifested in my life. It's easier to think you haven't achieved anything if you don't look for it. Th…
Weird Beings Wandering Around — I have had some experiences where I encountered people that did not seem to belong. Two experiences come to mind one dark and scary, the other more joyous and postive. They both looked human but som…
I'm just tied and fed-up of my narcissistic and emotionally immature mom — *Hi, I'm 35F who likes to stay with my parents sometimes to help out with their chores and other day-to-day stuff as they're old, and technologically-handicapped. But I don't look forward to staying w…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
Just tired of my mom's bullshit — Hi, I'm 35F who likes to stay with my parents sometimes to help out with their chores and other day-to-day stuff as they're old, and technologically-handicapped. But I don't look forward to staying wi…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
How do I (29m) Gently Convince my Girlfriend (29f) to stop Self Deprecating all the time? — So here goes. My girlfriend is great. We've been together 5 years now and shes my absolute best friend in the whole wide world. But I have an ick, and here goes. Every time we shower together, c…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…
Astral/Predictive Experience — Posting this in the wee hours before I forget what happened. Had an astral experience that was incredibly intense and was prompted to share with the community. Take what you will. If this doesn't reso…
We broke up December 2025 — We started dating in my (17M) 8th grade year and his (M17) freshman year. we lasted for 3 years and 3 months, and it ended December 2025 he broke up with me. I'm finally letting him go with one las…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…
There is only one focus, just 'working' — There always this emphasis on working hard, which is then paired with idea that is literally the only way of life and the only thing you do. And if you think of anything else or mention someone else, …
Is texting and checking up on the girl too annoying for her or a turn off — so to start with I met a girl on a game kr started if normal it's been like what 4 days I wasn't even intrested she gave sort like mixed signals once she sounds like she wants to know me more once she…
The person called my "Step-dad" having a narcissistic collapse, slight advice wanted? — So, I have schizophrenia and am 30M and currently live with my parents, I won't mention the country. My "step-dad", who also has bipolar, really started his narcissistic collapse maybe in December - …
Missing someone who is already with someone — It's been almost two years, he's in an eatable relationship and I still dream of it, I accept that we won't be together, I don't look for him, we don't see each other, but it hurt me to find out.
Your story is amazing and with time it will create a pathway for you and open doors you never expected. But don't look to others to understand success Your success is what you call it ❤
The thing is the more I have aged and worked on myself getting higher self esteem and confidence, the more I have self reflected and become more aware of myself, the more I have slowly recognised the …
Yeah, but there's the problem - how do i understand that the person won't start distancing after the several months? They don't look avoidant at all when i just start dating them
I'd be curious what's going on with the guys you date that pull away after a few months. The knee-jerk reaction you describe is useful information but it would be more useful to see if you're somehow …
I wouldn't say I'm secure yet, but I've switched to being closer to secure behavior with my wife and children, and it's caused a lot of improvement for me. What I've been doing is make a deliberate ef…
Gonna chime in with everyone else to add to the fact that this man is controlling you and will eventually abuse you. These are not boundaries. These are completely fucking unreasonable. You shouldn't …
I'm not seeing that, no. There are definitely people in their 20s that also don't look good, but when you compare the ages, the ones in their 30s look worst. It's not about healthy lifestyle; I'm talk…
I don't know that there is any making sense of it. People are just... people. Time does help. I'm in a really happy relationship now, but I'd be lying if I said I don't look back on those years wit…
>A shirtless photo will deter women with intentions of finding a long term mate. When I was on the apps it was a dealbreaker for me because you quickly learn what men with topless photos are looking f…
Fucking run. Don't look back. You are not prepared for the crazy involved here.
Completely at a loss now. My last long-term relationship ended around October 2024 and ever since, I haven't had any luck in findging a new relationship. This is the longest time I have been single in…
There will always be inappropriate comments about looks or overtly sexual comments. Just gotta have boundaries in place and a tactic to deal (generally I ignore or make them eat their words if I'm fee…
It could be that the distance was a barrier to keep you at arm's-length, and once you mentioned moving closer, she freaked out. I don't know just speculating, so don't look too hard into that.
I don't have *any* issue with adults choosing to date other adults with a large age gap, but your conversation with your daughter... good grief😆 >*"You don't look like them, you don't act like them,…
I talked to my wife. I explained my insights and apologized, specifically mentioning I now understand why she felt the way she did about them. From then onwards: * I now communicate about issues rath…
Don't feel ridiculous, there is a reason people get addicted to slot machines and smartphones - intermittent reinforcement. Sounds like that is what you have gotten from him in the past. It will be to…
Thanks for sharing! At the moment, I only have space for one "pursuit" so I feel like in-the-wild search through friends or just going up to strangers is what I have available - and the idea with as…
Canadian citizen here. My provincial ID at the bar wasn't accepted (In Kaua'i of all places, ofc the bartender was also Haole), so I presented my Canadian passport. Mind you, I'm mixed but mostly Asia…
Step one... take care of yourself. Sleep. Talk to a professional. Surround yourself with people who love you and who you trust... family. You talk about re-building trust while this shit is still goi…
First of all.. lemme just say this. This isn't something men do along. Both males and females do this, once they're doing the dumping. In the dumper mind, they think they're free but time would revea…
>it doesn't really make a difference, even if you are half white/half asian, your are still perceived as a minority in white majority america. Only if you don't look white. If you look white, they wi…
I'm a 50M and don't look to date anyone under 45. You're not invisible in my world.
It's fallen out of fashion because of the unreliability of meeting someone decent from apps. If they turn up and they don't look like their pics, are rude, bad at conversation or make you feel uncomfo…
If you can't do it as a whole, try accepting one particular aspect such as "I accept that I feel inferior to others." "I accept that I have social anxiety." "I accept that I don't look like a model." …
I have been saying "No, I am (DR name)" in every situation, multiple times daily, for over a year. I have never identified with my CR body or identity, even before shifting. Ever since I was a small k…
You know the answer. She is having a sexual affair and refuses to stop. She will move in with him for sure. When you asked for space where do you think she ran too? That was her free pass to be wit…
Funfact about kitkats: theyre essentially always made out of other rejected kitkats. When they come out broken or don't look like theyre supposed to but are stil edible then they are grinded up for th…
Miprocin or 4-HO-MiPT for me! (Or plain ole' shrooms!) I know 4-HO-MET gets all the love on reddit, but I find Miprocin similar and superior. If it is visuals that you want, go for Metocin though. B…
I am not here to cater to people's feelings, I am here to give practical advice, of course you can't make such a jump in mindset in a day but maybe some people can. If I said take your time with this …
Sometimes I'm not avoiding feelings, I just don't have them. If I say I feel nothing related to my grandfather's passing, it's because I had no attachment to him. He was an absent and irrelevant figur…
She will only minimize, trickle truth, blame you, tell you that it meant nothing, make empty promises, and blah blah blah etc...don't look it as wasted the last 10 year. Look at it like a gift you don…
OP, this man hates you and will instill your child with this toxic, disgusting mindset as well, be it as an aggressor or victim. You don't mention a gender for your child, but I would challenge you to…
People literally do, and they also more times than not think it's appropriate to ask how you afford things/pay rent/don't look like crap. When people know I don't work, they judge and comment on the t…
I want to date people I actually want to spend time with. If you're smart and funny and confident, that ticks a hell of a lot of boxes for me. I don't look like Brad Pitt either...
It is unfortunately... For one we die earlier and have joint problems etc. And unless is a comedic role you don't see many heavy actors, singers, definitely not well known porn stars etc... because p…
You change them by starting to tell a different story about yourself in your mind. Start viewing yourself as the person you want to be, and don't take the 3D as the final verdict. Don't look for evide…
Op people who lack empathy or compassion for animals also lack the capacity to feel those emotions when it comes to humans. He's already told you this when he warned you it might not work out even if …
I watched the video and I don't think those guys are good examples of asian men bc they don't look attractive. I always thought 2 things work against asian men in the western dating market: First is …
Don't let these assholes bring you down! Leave and don't look back!
For me, I have difficulty taking care of (shaving, deodorant, skincare, gyno care...) and looking at my own body. It's like a block. When I shower I don't look down at myself and just try to get it ov…
You didn't do anything to deserve it, you were just a little naive, and if you learn the right lesson from this you'll be less naive. A lot of people cheat, probably more these days but either way, it…
Get out & don't look back. He is incredibly irresponsible, which is esp bad when you have a child to care for.
the "Girl bye" is golden from another gay man going through something similar: Keep choosing you and don't look back - look forward <3
I affirmed as if it's a part of my life. In neutral way, you can call it robotic if you want. Like if you get new mobile you might be excited for few days but after an year you are like " meh , I have…
I was cheated on via an online game as well. There is no excuse for cheating and calling it role playing and saying it doesn't mean anything doesn't suddenly make it better. My ex wife sexted using di…
Can people be saved? NO Can people save themselves? Yes. Does you husband want to? NO You need to get therapy for yourself and your kids and walk away from the lying cheater. Have some pride wo…
Seems like you're handling it fine. Have people mentioned you talk about your ex too much? I have a lot of my own experiences on this and how people talk about their exes. I had an ex-fiancee that wa…
Stop putting money into the joint account. Pay the bills out of your own account. She can't waste 14 grand she doesn't have. I loath this trend for fillers and botox and all the stupid stuff women ha…
This hits on something really important that gets lost in a lot of attachment discussions. Human beings literally evolved to be interdependent, and somehow we've created a culture where normal attachm…
I love what you wrote here. I love this. I love this. I wish we were talking more about this and less about CBT and IF fucking S and all the myriad ways we can heal our trauma and fix our thinking and…